A\u015f vrea s\u0103 \u00eencep prin a v\u0103 spune c\u0103 v\u0103 simpatizez. Chiar alalt\u0103ieri am ajutat o tanti \u00een v\u00e2rst\u0103 s\u0103-\u015fi aleag\u0103 ni\u015fte fic\u0103\u0163ei de pui – dar s\u0103 fie proaspe\u0163i, m\u0103mic\u0103, nu congela\u0163i – dintr-un frigider din magazinul vecin. \u00cemi era mil\u0103 de faptul c\u0103 se mi\u015fca \u00eencet \u015fi st\u00e2ngaci, de faptul c\u0103 punea m\u00e2na pe un articol \u015fi d\u0103r\u00e2ma zece, de faptul c\u0103 avea pensia mic\u0103 \u015fi insuficient\u0103: “C\u00e2t, 11 lei? \u00cengrozitor de scumpe toate”. Dup\u0103 ce s-a v\u0103zut cu ficatul \u00een co\u015f, s-a \u00eentors cu curu’ c\u0103tre mine \u015fi a disp\u0103rut vioi, f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 \u00eengaime m\u0103car un mul\u0163umesc. <\/p>\n
\u0102\u0103\u0103, a fost o pl\u0103cere s\u0103 v\u0103 servesc, Maiestatea – Voastr\u0103. \u0102?<\/p>\n
Ideea asta cu respectul care vi se cuvine \u015fi care nu trebuie recompensat m\u0103car cu un z\u00e2mbet sau o vorb\u0103 de apreciere e cea care-i face pe oamenii tineri s\u0103 v\u0103 deteste, s\u0103 v\u0103 evite, s\u0103 nu comunice cu voi, s\u0103 v\u0103 considere o alt\u0103 specie, ar\u0163\u0103goas\u0103 \u015fi autosuficient\u0103. <\/p>\n
“Pe vremea mea, noi f\u0103ceam asta \u015fi altele f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 a\u015ftept\u0103m mul\u0163umiri”. <\/p>\n
Nu e vina nim\u0103nui c\u0103 a\u0163i avut parte de o educa\u0163ie de sclavi, de furnicu\u0163e supuse. Nu e vina nim\u0103nui c\u0103 a\u0163i acceptat aceast\u0103 educa\u0163ie, c\u0103 nu a\u0163i trecut-o nici o secund\u0103 prin filtrul \u00eendoielii. Mie de c\u00e2te ori \u00eemi spune cineva s\u0103 fac ceva \u015fi nu am \u00een m\u00e2n\u0103 o h\u00e2rtie care s\u0103-mi arate c\u0103 persoana respectiv\u0103 are dreptul s\u0103-mi spun\u0103 s\u0103 fac lucrul \u0103la, \u00eentreb natural, firesc: “De ce?” Nu e vina nim\u0103nui c\u0103 voi a\u0163i ales ca vie\u0163ile voastre s\u0103 fie pre\u015furi pentru al\u0163ii. Voi a\u0163i ales. Noi nu. <\/p>\n
Unul dintre cele mai ridicole ra\u0163ionamente e acela de sclav: “Dac\u0103 eu am ales s\u0103 ling t\u0103lpi, e \u015fi obliga\u0163ia ta s\u0103 lingi t\u0103lpi la r\u00e2ndu-\u0163i.” <\/p>\n
M\u0103 ierta\u0163i. Feti\u015furile dumneavoastr\u0103, problema dumneavoastr\u0103. Eu cel mult ofer t\u0103lpi la lins, dac\u0103 \u0163ine cineva neap\u0103rat \u015fi are o pl\u0103cere. <\/p>\n
Drept care, iubite persoane de v\u00e2rsta a treia, v\u0103 implor, \u00eenceta\u0163i a mai pretinde pe un ton imperativ respect (\u00een\u0163eles ca infinit\u0103 supunere, necondi\u0163ionat\u0103 ca iubirea adev\u0103rat\u0103) de la to\u0163i tinerii care v\u0103 ies \u00een cale. Legal, nu v\u0103 datoreaz\u0103 nimic. Iar uman, trebuie s\u0103 dovedi\u0163i c\u0103 merita\u0163i acest respect. Nu, nu prin \u0163ipete, urlete \u015fi alte tehnici pe care le toleram greu \u015fi de la propriii p\u0103rin\u0163i. Printr-o atitudine demn\u0103. Prin generozitate \u015fi un ton cump\u0103tat. \u015ei nu \u00een ultimul r\u00e2nd, spun\u00e2nd “mul\u0163umesc” atunci c\u00e2nd e cazul. <\/p>\n
Iar lucrul care garantat nu v\u0103 va aduce respect e distribuirea iar \u015fi iar a textelor despre cum tineretul n-are respect. Astea nu fac dec\u00e2t s\u0103 cimenteze pr\u0103pastia dintre genera\u0163ii. \u00cen mod sigur, nici un t\u00e2n\u0103r care va citi a\u015fa ceva n-o s\u0103 zic\u0103: Uite, b\u0103i, ce b\u0103tr\u00e2n simpatic, ia s\u0103 m\u0103 apuc eu s\u0103-l respect. Ci mai degrab\u0103: Opa, \u00eenc\u0103 o otreap\u0103 comunist\u0103 care are impresia c\u0103 i se cuvin toate pe baz\u0103 de riduri \u015fi re\u0163ete compensate la medicamente. <\/p>\n
Pentru a ob\u0163ine respect, \u00eencepe\u0163i prin a ar\u0103ta \u00een\u0163elegere. \u00cen\u0163elegerea e din familia lexical\u0103 a \u00een\u0163elepciunii. Un t\u00e2n\u0103r c\u0103ruia-i \u00eentorci curul dup\u0103 ce \u00ee\u0163i face un serviciu m\u0103runt nu va sim\u0163i fa\u0163\u0103 de tine dec\u00e2t dezgust. Unul pe care-l vezi venind obosit de la munc\u0103 \u015fi-i oferi, din bun\u0103tatea inimii tale, un ceai, o s\u0103 \u00eenceap\u0103 s\u0103 g\u00e2ndeasc\u0103 diferit despre tine. <\/p>\n
\u00cenainte de a pretinde respect, \u00eentreba\u0163i-v\u0103: c\u00e2nd a\u0163i f\u0103cut ultima oar\u0103 un gest binevoitor fa\u0163\u0103 de o persoan\u0103 t\u00e2n\u0103r\u0103? <\/p>\n
S-ar putea s\u0103 ave\u0163i \u015fi r\u0103spunsul pentru lipsa de respect de care v\u0103 pl\u00e2nge\u0163i. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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