Ce faci \u00eentr-un nou an plin de speran\u0163e minunate?
\nTe treze\u015fti datorit\u0103 unui telefon de lamul\u0163an, \u00ee\u0163i faci o imens\u0103 \u015fi magistral\u0103 cafea \u015fi te \u00eenfigi direct \u00een Facebook. C\u0103 nu po\u0163i bea numita cafea holb\u00e2ndu-te la pere\u0163i. <\/p>\n
\u015ei dau eu de un status care contesta o afirma\u0163ie a Stelei Popescu. Pas\u0103mite, artista spusese c\u0103, dec\u00e2t s\u0103-i moar\u0103 b\u0103rbatul, ar fi preferat s\u0103 plece cu alta. \u015ei autorul statusului \u00ee\u015fi exprima intensa \u00eendoial\u0103 c\u0103 un om poate sim\u0163i a\u015fa. <\/p>\n
Ca de obicei, c\u00e2nd comentez afirma\u0163ii, nu dau nume, ca s\u0103 nu se simt\u0103 nimeni lezat \u00een orgoliu \u015fi atacat la persoan\u0103 – ci tratez doar con\u0163inutul materialului analizat. Desigur, de c\u00e2te ori fac asta, persoana analizat\u0103 \u00eencepe s\u0103 se certe cu mine la subsol. <\/p>\n
\u015ei \u00een acest caz, am doar at\u00e2ta de spus: Nu po\u0163i afirma c\u0103 ai iubit, \u00een via\u0163a ta, dec\u00e2t \u00een momentul \u00een care ai \u015ftiut s\u0103 la\u015fi pe cineva s\u0103 plece cu gra\u0163ie. F\u0103r\u0103 panaram\u0103, f\u0103r\u0103 muierisme ieftine sau coc\u0103l\u0103risme de doi bani, f\u0103r\u0103 rev\u0103rs\u0103ri de orgoliu \u015fi f\u0103r\u0103 insisten\u0163e t\u00e2mpite. Cu demnitate \u015fi \u00een\u0163elegere. <\/p>\n
Dac\u0103 nu \u015ftii s\u0103 iube\u015fti dec\u00e2t cu arcanul, cum se \u00eenh\u0103\u0163au fl\u0103c\u0103ii la oaste odinioar\u0103, iube\u015fti o singur\u0103 persoan\u0103 de fapt: pe tine. <\/p>\n
E nevoie de un fel de arogan\u0163\u0103 de buric al p\u0103m\u00e2ntului s\u0103 ai impresia c\u0103 alt\u0103 persoan\u0103 e proprietatea ta exclusiv\u0103 \u015fi definitiv\u0103 \u015fi c\u0103 de\u0163ii act de proprietate, eventual impozabil\u0103, pe sufletul, emo\u0163iile \u015fi g\u00e2ndurile celuilalt. <\/p>\n
E nevoie de un fel de obtuzitate t\u00e2mpit\u0103 de tanc sovietic s\u0103 ignori faptul c\u0103 emo\u0163iile \u015fi nevoile omului sunt fluide \u015fi ciclice, \u015fi c\u0103 are propriile priorit\u0103\u0163i, care pot sau nu s\u0103 coincid\u0103 cu ale tale. <\/p>\n
E nevoie de un fel de mitoc\u0103nie profund\u0103, nu a comportamentului superficial ci a spiritului, s\u0103 ai impresia c\u0103 po\u0163i impune altora ce s\u0103 simt\u0103 \u015fi ce s\u0103-\u015fi doreasc\u0103. <\/p>\n
Iubirea \u00eencepe cu spa\u0163iul pe care e\u015fti capabil s\u0103-l oferi celuilalt. Indiferent de num\u0103rul de kilometri \u015fi de persoane pe care \u00eel presupune acest spa\u0163iu. <\/p>\n
\u015ei da, Stela are dreptate. C\u00e2nd iube\u015fti un om, preferi s\u0103 fie fericit cu alta, nu mort. Logic c\u0103 preferi asta. Nici nu \u00eencape discu\u0163ie. <\/p>\n
C\u00e2nd \u00ee\u0163i trece prin cap, m\u0103car o secund\u0103, c\u0103 ai prefera contrariul, uit\u0103-te prin cas\u0103 dup\u0103 cea mai mare \u015fi plin\u0103 de \u0163inte ciubot\u0103. Spal-o, dac\u0103 are noroi pe ea. \u015ei d\u0103-\u0163i un \u015fut \u00een plin\u0103 figur\u0103. <\/p>\n
Apoi susur\u0103-\u0163i lucid: “Soarele nu r\u0103sare din anusul meu. Drept care, pot face abstrac\u0163ie de egoismul meu. Pot \u00een\u0163elege c\u0103 nu-s chintesen\u0163a fericirii altuia \u015fi \u00eemi asum limitele. Mar\u015f \u00een banca mea de prost cu ifose.” <\/p>\n
Acest mic monolog interior poate fi primul pas spre \u00een\u0163elepciune. <\/p>\n
Pe de alt\u0103 parte, Stela e s\u0103get\u0103tor \u015fi noi, s\u0103get\u0103torii, habar n-avem s\u0103 iubim stresant, cotropitor \u015fi h\u0103r\u0163uitor. Noi, ca fiin\u0163e libere, oferim ce pre\u0163uim noi mai mult. Dreptul la o identitate proprie \u015fi la o zon\u0103 de confort, pe care n-o \u00eenc\u0103lc\u0103m niciodat\u0103. \u015ei dac\u0103 sim\u0163im c\u0103 nu suntem ce-\u0163i trebuie, ne c\u0103r\u0103m singuri, n-avem nevoie de notificare oficial\u0103, cu antetul firmei. <\/p>\n
Reversul fiind c\u0103 te \u015fi futem \u00een gur\u0103 dac\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i oferim asta, tu prime\u015fti cadoul \u015fi, \u00een loc s\u0103 oferi acela\u015fi lucru, vii cu tancul peste noi. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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