{"id":10426,"date":"2016-03-03T10:18:28","date_gmt":"2016-03-03T10:18:28","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=10426"},"modified":"2016-03-03T10:28:08","modified_gmt":"2016-03-03T10:28:08","slug":"speed-dating-am-flirtat-cu-unsprezece-tipi-in-doua-ore","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/speed-dating-am-flirtat-cu-unsprezece-tipi-in-doua-ore\/","title":{"rendered":"Speed dating: am flirtat cu unsprezece tipi \u00een dou\u0103 ore"},"content":{"rendered":"<p class=\"western\">Mul\u0163i oameni se pl\u00e2ng de singur\u0103tate. Fie din cauza aten\u0163iei sporite pe care au dedicat-o carierei, fie c\u0103 le-a pl\u0103cut s\u0103 se distreze, fie c\u0103 au preferat hobby-uri care i-au \u0163inut departe de sexul opus. La asta se adaug\u0103 o oarecare form\u0103 de alienare: via\u0163a social\u0103 s-a mutat \u00een mare m\u0103sur\u0103 pe online \u015fi lipsa antrenamentului fa\u0163\u0103 \u00een fa\u0163\u0103 poate na\u015fte multe momente jenante \u00een \u00eent\u00e2lniri cu necunoscu\u0163i.<\/p>\n<p class=\"western\">O solu\u0163ie care \u00eendep\u0103rteaz\u0103 o parte dintre riscurile interac\u0163iunii cu oameni despre care nu \u015ftii nimic e speed dating-ul. Adus de \u015fase ani \u00een Rom\u00e2nia de agen\u0163ia <span style=\"color: #00b0f0;\"><a href=\"http:\/\/singlebell.net\/\">SingleBell<\/a><\/span>, acesta e un exerci\u0163iu agreabil de interac\u0163iune cu mai multe persoane de sex opus, pe un num\u0103r limitat de minute. Dup\u0103 ce toat\u0103 lumea se \u00eent\u00e2lne\u015fte cu toat\u0103 lumea, fetele \u00eei puncteaz\u0103 pe b\u0103ie\u0163i, b\u0103ie\u0163ii le puncteaz\u0103 pe fete, \u015fi cei care \u00ee\u015fi acord\u0103 reciproc punctaj de minimum trei puncte din cinci primesc numerele de telefon ale celuilalt. \u00cen cel mult dou\u0103 ore \u015fi un suc, vezi o mul\u0163ime de oameni, glume\u015fti cu ei, le pui \u00eentreb\u0103ri, r\u0103spunzi la \u00eentreb\u0103rile lor \u015fi, ce e mai important: \u015ftii c\u0103 \u015fi ei sunt acolo pentru c\u0103 \u00ee\u015fi doresc un partener de sex opus.<\/p>\n<p class=\"western\">O \u015fedin\u0163\u0103 de <span style=\"color: #00b0f0;\"><a href=\"http:\/\/singlebell.net\/\">speed dating<\/a><\/span> cost\u0103 50 de lei \u015fi include \u015fi o b\u0103utur\u0103. Astfel elimini \u00eenc\u0103 un moment cu poten\u0163ial penibil: nota de plat\u0103. \u015ei dilemele de tip: la\u015fi un b\u0103rbat pe care nu vrei s\u0103-l mai vezi \u00een via\u0163a ta s\u0103-\u0163i pl\u0103teasc\u0103 consuma\u0163ia? La\u015fi o femeie pe care mori s-o atingi s\u0103-\u015fi pl\u0103teasc\u0103 singur\u0103 consuma\u0163ia, cu riscul s\u0103 sar\u0103 \u00een taxi \u015fi s\u0103 nu-\u0163i mai r\u0103spund\u0103 la telefon?<\/p>\n<p class=\"western\">Am ajuns mai devreme. Mi-am luat un nume fictiv, pentru c\u0103 nu voiam s\u0103 risc momente de genul: \u201eaaa, tu e\u015fti aici la trolat\u201d. M-am \u00eembr\u0103cat dr\u0103gu\u0163, dar nu periculos, m-am machiat corect, dar nu spectaculos, s\u0103 nu ies \u00een eviden\u0163\u0103 prin nimic.<\/p>\n<p class=\"western\">\u015eedin\u0163a la care participam eu era pentru grupa de v\u00e2rst\u0103 28 \u2013 35 de ani \u015fi se \u0163inea la The Bankers. C\u00e2nd am ajuns, la parter, o organizatoare \u0163inea de vorb\u0103 un num\u0103r de domni. La etaj, la mese numerotate, ca s\u0103 asigure rota\u0163ia, domni\u015foarele \u00ee\u015fi verificau ultimele detalii ale machiajului, \u00ee\u015fi d\u0103deau mesaje pe telefon sau \u00ee\u015fi mascau \u00een diverse alte mici gesturi m\u0103runte emo\u0163ia. Dou\u0103 dintre ele s-au salutat cordial. Se \u00eemprieteniser\u0103 la alt\u0103 rund\u0103 de speed dating. \u201eCum a fost cu&#8230;?\u201d \u201eMm, n-a prea mers treaba\u201d. Alt\u0103 domni\u015foar\u0103 \u00ee\u015fi celebra ziua de na\u015ftere. Drept care, ne-a omenit pe noi, o sal\u0103 plin\u0103 de necunoscu\u0163i, cu \u015fampanie \u015fi tort.<\/p>\n<p class=\"western\">La ora \u015fase fix, condu\u015fi cu discre\u0163ie de organizatoare, au venit domnii.<\/p>\n<p class=\"western\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-10428\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/03\/speed2.jpg?resize=480%2C320\" alt=\"speed2\" width=\"480\" height=\"320\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/03\/speed2.jpg?w=960&amp;ssl=1 960w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/03\/speed2.jpg?resize=150%2C100&amp;ssl=1 150w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/03\/speed2.jpg?resize=300%2C200&amp;ssl=1 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 480px) 100vw, 480px\" \/><\/p>\n<p class=\"western\">Primul m-a luat pu\u0163in prin surprindere, pentru c\u0103 era foarte hot\u0103r\u00e2t \u2013 ca emoticonul cu \u201efeeling determined\u201d &#8211; \u015fi setat pe o rela\u0163ie. \u201eCaut s\u0103-mi refac via\u0163a, c\u00e2t mai repede. Spune-mi lucruri despre tine!\u201d. A trebuit s\u0103-l temperez \u015fi s\u0103-i m\u0103rturisesc c\u0103 eu c\u0103utam doar oameni noi, nu neap\u0103rat un mariaj \u00een weekendul urm\u0103tor.<\/p>\n<p class=\"western\">Partea bun\u0103 e c\u0103, oric\u00e2t de insistent ar fi un interlocutor, oric\u00e2t de presat te-ai sim\u0163i, \u00een exact \u015fapte minute sun\u0103 clopo\u0163elul salvator. Tot ce ai tu de f\u0103cut e s\u0103 savurezi \u015fapte minute de interac\u0163iune cu un om, dac\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i place, \u015ftiind c\u0103 oricum \u00eei vei da punctaj de trecere; respectiv s\u0103 men\u0163ii discu\u0163ia c\u00e2t mai agreabil\u0103 \u00een cele \u015fapte minute, dac\u0103 persoana nu \u0163i se potrive\u015fte.<\/p>\n<p class=\"western\">Am fost unsprezece fete \u015fi unsprezece b\u0103ie\u0163i. Unii dintre ei, frumo\u015fi de-\u0163i l\u0103sa gura ap\u0103. \u015ei nu numai gura. Al\u0163ii, amuzan\u0163i p\u00e2n\u0103 la lacrimi. Am r\u00e2s \u015fapte minute de am scuturat masa. Al\u0163ii, seduc\u0103tori prin bl\u00e2nde\u0163e, naturale\u0163e, omenie. Al\u0163ii, dispera\u0163i s\u0103 g\u0103seasc\u0103 o nevast\u0103. Al\u0163ii, mai simplu\u0163i, mai mode\u015fti.<\/p>\n<p class=\"western\">\u015ei da, \u015fapte minute sunt suficiente s\u0103-\u0163i dai seama dac\u0103 vrei s\u0103 revezi un om sau nu. Nu doar pentru ceea ce \u00ee\u0163i spune sau \u00ee\u0163i ascunde. \u00cei sim\u0163i din mi\u015fc\u0103ri, priviri, gesturi, mers, atitudine \u015fi, mai presus de toate, vibe-ul pe care \u00eel transmit.<\/p>\n<p class=\"western\">M-am m\u0103ritat de vreo trei ori \u00een cele dou\u0103 ore. Adeseori, clopo\u0163elul a \u00eentrerupt conversa\u0163ii absolut savuroase. A doua zi dimineata, biruit\u0103 de curiozitate, am sunat-o pe organizatoare: \u201eCum stau cu punctajul general?\u201d<\/p>\n<div class=\"video-container\"><span class=\"embed-youtube\" style=\"text-align:center; display: block;\"><iframe loading=\"lazy\" class=\"youtube-player\" width=\"700\" height=\"394\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/vPVv7o9-ddE?version=3&#038;rel=1&#038;showsearch=0&#038;showinfo=1&#038;iv_load_policy=1&#038;fs=1&#038;hl=en-US&#038;autohide=2&#038;wmode=transparent\" allowfullscreen=\"true\" style=\"border:0;\" sandbox=\"allow-scripts allow-same-origin allow-popups allow-presentation allow-popups-to-escape-sandbox\"><\/iframe><\/span><\/div>\n<p class=\"western\">\u201eBravo. Opt din unsprezece te-au vrut. \u015ei \u015fapte \u0163i-au dat punctaj maxim, de 5.\u201d<\/p>\n<p class=\"western\">\u201eHehe, \u015fi nici m\u0103car nu m-am str\u0103duit.\u201d<\/p>\n<p class=\"western\">*<\/p>\n<p class=\"western\">\u201eDe fapt, c\u00e2nd am \u00eenceput, nu eram o agen\u0163ie, eram doar o fat\u0103 cu un vis\u201d, \u00eemi poveste\u015fte Valeria Simona State, fondatoarea <span style=\"color: #00b0f0;\"><a href=\"http:\/\/singlebell.net\/\">SingleBell<\/a><\/span>.<\/p>\n<p class=\"western\">I-a pl\u0103cut de foarte mic\u0103 s\u0103 aranjeze \u00eent\u00e2lniri \u00eentre oameni singuri, pentru c\u0103-i pl\u0103cea s\u0103-i vad\u0103 \u201ecupla\u0163i \u015fi ferici\u0163i\u201d. O preocupa calitatea rela\u0163iilor, pentru c\u0103, spune ea, \u201evedeam c\u00e2t\u0103 suferin\u0163\u0103 se datoreaz\u0103 rela\u0163iilor nepotrivite \u015fi defectuoase\u201d.<\/p>\n<p class=\"western\">\u00cen 2009, a ap\u0103rut un prim eveniment: \u00een calitate de cursant dedicat al Centrului Na\u0163ional al Dansului din Bucure\u015fti, a fost invitat\u0103 de reprezentantul unui restaurant s\u0103 organizeze o petrecere de Valentine&#8217;s pentru oameni singuri. A trecut cu av\u00e2nt la organizare, la selectarea participan\u0163ilor \u015fi a muzicii, la realizarea manual\u0103 a decora\u0163iilor, c\u00e2nd, cu dou\u0103 ore \u00eenainte de eveniment, s-a v\u0103zut silit\u0103 s\u0103 anuleze party-ul. Cu o inadecvare tipic mitoc\u0103neasc\u0103, patronul f\u0103cuse rezerv\u0103ri din afar\u0103 \u00een sala destinat\u0103 petrecerii. I-a sunat pe to\u0163i participan\u0163ii; pe unele fete le-a prins la coafor, preg\u0103tindu-se cu entuziasm.<\/p>\n<p class=\"western\">\u015ei atunci, a \u00een\u0163eles c\u0103 a cazul s\u0103-\u015fi pun\u0103 \u00een aplicare ideea de una singur\u0103.<\/p>\n<p class=\"western\">Speed datingul l-a descoperit \u00een filmul \u201eHitch\u201d. \u201eMi s-a p\u0103rut foarte amuzant \u015fi interesant, \u015fi atunci a sunat clopo\u0163elul\u201d. A \u00eenceput prin a organiza sporadic \u00eent\u00e2lniri, rafin\u00e2nd pe parcurs conceptul, \u00eenv\u0103\u0163\u00e2nd din gre\u015feli, perfec\u0163ion\u00e2nd pe parcurs detaliile logistice \u015fi organizatorice \u015fi, \u00een plus, particip\u00e2nd la ateliere \u015fi conferin\u0163e \u00een care prezenta publicului ideea de speed dating.<\/p>\n<div class=\"video-container\"><span class=\"embed-youtube\" style=\"text-align:center; display: block;\"><iframe loading=\"lazy\" class=\"youtube-player\" width=\"700\" height=\"394\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/CcXer15_vpA?version=3&#038;rel=1&#038;showsearch=0&#038;showinfo=1&#038;iv_load_policy=1&#038;fs=1&#038;hl=en-US&#038;autohide=2&#038;wmode=transparent\" allowfullscreen=\"true\" style=\"border:0;\" sandbox=\"allow-scripts allow-same-origin allow-popups allow-presentation allow-popups-to-escape-sandbox\"><\/iframe><\/span><\/div>\n<p class=\"western\">La \u00eenceput, s-a bazat pe comunitatea Neogen, binecunoscutul site de matrimoniale. Desigur, \u00een primii doi ani a \u00eenfruntat valuri \u2013 valuri de mi\u015ftoc\u0103real\u0103 \u015fi sarcasm. B\u0103rba\u0163ii, din orgoliu, \u00eei tr\u00e2nteau \u00een nas c\u0103 se descurc\u0103 \u015fi singuri s\u0103-\u015fi g\u0103seasc\u0103 partenere, iar femeile se temeau c\u0103 se vor \u00eent\u00e2lni cu ciuda\u0163i. \u201eAm avut str\u0103ini care abia a\u015fteptau s\u0103 vin\u0103 la evenimente, lor li se pare ceva foarte natural, s\u0103 ie\u015fi \u015fi s\u0103 cuno\u015fti oameni noi. Rom\u00e2nilor le e ru\u015fine s\u0103 zic\u0103 unde se duc. Am avut chiar un cuplu care s-a c\u0103s\u0103torit, dar nici p\u00e2n\u0103 azi p\u0103rin\u0163ii lor nu \u015ftiu unde \u015fi cum s-au cunoscut\u201d.<\/p>\n<p class=\"western\">A fost nevoie de timp, comunicare, workshopuri \u015fi conferin\u0163e pentru a schimba mentalit\u0103\u0163i, dar, treptat, lucrurile au \u00eenceput s\u0103 se lege. \u00cen februarie 2010, a \u00eenceput s\u0103 organizeze evenimentele sub un PFA, iar la sf\u00e2r\u015fitul anului i s-au al\u0103turat so\u0163ul \u015fi o prieten\u0103.<\/p>\n<p class=\"western\">Au spart ghea\u0163a cu o petrecere de amploare, Super Speed Dating Party, \u00een decembrie 2011, care a num\u0103rat 170 de participan\u0163i, un concert al trupei \u0162apinarii \u015fi un veritabil program de entertainment. A venit \u015fi PRO TV-ul s\u0103 fac\u0103 reportaj. Din 2012, s-a extins \u015fi \u015fi-a f\u0103cut firm\u0103.<\/p>\n<p class=\"western\">\u00cen prezent, comunitatea <span style=\"color: #00b0f0;\"><a href=\"http:\/\/singlebell.net\/\">SingleBell<\/a><\/span> are peste 10.000 de membri. Unii sunt inactivi, pentru c\u0103 sunt \u00een rela\u0163ii fericite. Iar unele cupluri care s-au cunoscut la evenimentele lor apar neanun\u0163ate \u00een plin speed dating s\u0103 aduc\u0103 flori \u015fi bomboane, pentru c\u0103 au g\u0103sit fericirea.<\/p>\n<p class=\"western\">\u201eAsta e principala mea motiva\u0163ie\u201d, \u00eencheie Simona. \u201eFaptul c\u0103-i pot ajuta pe al\u0163ii s\u0103 fie mai ferici\u0163i.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>SingleBell sunt \u015fi pe <a href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/SingleBell\/?__mref=message_bubble\">Facebook<\/a>. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Mul\u0163i oameni se pl\u00e2ng de singur\u0103tate. Fie din cauza aten\u0163iei sporite pe care au dedicat-o carierei, fie c\u0103 le-a pl\u0103cut s\u0103 se distreze, fie&#46;&#46;&#46;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":10427,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2}},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-10426","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-spicy"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/03\/speed-dating.jpg?fit=960%2C640&ssl=1","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/10426","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=10426"}],"version-history":[{"count":4,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/10426\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":10432,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/10426\/revisions\/10432"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/10427"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=10426"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=10426"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=10426"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}