Iaca link<\/a>.)<\/p>\nM\u0103car dac\u0103 sharuia\u0163i ni\u015fte pornet, s\u0103 vedem \u015fi noi ceva frumos. Dar pentru numele lui Dumnezeu, de ce s\u0103 sharui\u0163i ce v-ar predica vecina voastr\u0103 pensionar\u0103 de la bloc, acrit\u0103 de b\u0103tr\u00e2ne\u0163e \u015fi de pensia mic\u0103 \u015fi suferind\u0103 de reumatism \u015fi gut\u0103, c\u00e2nd se sup\u0103r\u0103 pe voi c\u0103 nu i-a\u0163i dat bun\u0103 ziua? V\u0103 lipse\u015fte s\u0103 urle cineva la voi?<\/p>\n
“Nu hainele te fac doamn\u0103. Hainele doar te fac s\u0103 ar\u0103\u0163i mai bine, doar \u00ee\u0163i ofer\u0103 mai mult\u0103 \u00eencredere \u00een tine, dar degeaba ar\u0103\u0163i dumnezeie\u015fte dac\u0103 nu e\u015fti capabil\u0103 s\u0103 legi dou\u0103 vorbe care s\u0103 fie pe m\u0103sura aspectului t\u0103u, vei dezam\u0103gi, vei fi \u00eenc\u0103 una dintre acele prostu\u0163e frumoase care plac ochiului \u015fi numai at\u00e2t.”<\/em><\/p>\nCarevas\u0103zic\u0103, poart\u0103 un sac de rafie. Sigur o s\u0103 impresionezi universul.<\/p>\n
“Doamn\u0103 te na\u015fti, doamn\u0103 e\u015fti educat\u0103 s\u0103 fii pentru c\u0103 dac\u0103 nu ai totul \u00een s\u00e2nge, degeaba ai \u00een minte ideea.”<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\nAici, autoarea se \u00eencurc\u0103 \u00een i\u0163ele propriei idei. Sau po\u0163i s\u0103 fii educat\u0103, sau nu po\u0163i, pentru c\u0103 “dac\u0103 nu ai totul \u00een s\u00e2nge, degeaba ai \u00een minte ideea”. Hot\u0103r\u0103\u015fte-te, cucoan\u0103, dac\u0103 mergi pe “nature” sau pe “nurture”. Dac\u0103 nu, userul de fapt nu poate fi educat, nu-i mai da speran\u0163e de\u015farte, las\u0103-l s\u0103 pasc\u0103 vaca \u00een pace.
\nDar am un hint: c\u00e2nd te na\u015fti, nu po\u0163i s\u0103 legi cele dou\u0103 vorbe din paragraful precedent. \ud83d\ude09 <\/p>\n
“Nu vei reu\u015fi dec\u00e2t s\u0103 realizezi cu st\u00e2ng\u0103cie, dup\u0103 multe chinuri, ceva ce alta face \u00een mod firesc, cu naturale\u0163e.”\u00a0<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\nAsta e o referin\u0163\u0103 transparent\u0103 la deepthroat?<\/p>\n
“Nu machiajul te face frumoas\u0103. Nu are rost s\u0103 \u00eencerci s\u0103 ascunzi defecte existente sau \u00eenchipuite sub un strat gros de minciuni frumoase pentru c\u0103 b\u0103rbatul care te iube\u015fte, te iube\u015fte \u015fi imediat dup\u0103 ce ai ie\u015fit de la salon, dar \u015fi \u00een dimine\u0163ile \u00een care ai cearc\u0103ne \u015fi ochi obosi\u0163i.”<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\u00cen timp ce te \u00een\u015feal\u0103 cu una care arat\u0103 ca scoas\u0103 din cutie. Toat\u0103 chestia asta cu “nu-\u0163i ascunde defectele” pare predica unei femei at\u00e2t de ur\u00e2te \u00eenc\u00e2t a renun\u0163at s\u0103 mai \u00eencerce.<\/p>\n
Ca s\u0103 n-o punct\u0103m pe aia evident\u0103: nu b\u0103rbatul c\u0103ut\u0103m s\u0103 ni-l min\u0163im frumos, ci societatea; angajatorii \u015fi alte rela\u0163ii care ne influen\u0163eaz\u0103 direct venitul \u015fi pe ace\u015fti oameni vrem s\u0103-i convingem c\u0103 merit\u0103m bani mai mul\u0163i. \u015ei cine-mi spune c\u0103 banii mai mul\u0163i se ob\u0163in DOAR prin competen\u0163\u0103, \u00a0nu prin negociere, minte cu neru\u015finare.<\/p>\n
Sigur tanti e casnic\u0103. Nu \u015ftie cum e. O iert\u0103m.<\/p>\n
“Frumoas\u0103 te fac fericirea, iubirea, respectul celui drag, certitudinea c\u0103 nu e nevoie s\u0103 fii cumva pentru a-i fi pe plac datorit\u0103 faptului c\u0103 el te iube\u015fte oricum.”<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\nDar nici tratamentele cosmetice, coaforul \u015fi o rund\u0103 bun\u0103 de shopping nu stric\u0103. L\u0103sa\u0163i vr\u0103jeala.
\n
\n“\u00cenceta\u0163i, dragi femei, s\u0103 v\u0103 min\u0163i\u0163i. B\u0103rba\u0163ii sunt superficiali p\u00e2n\u0103 la Dumnezeu, dar \u015fti\u0163i c\u00e2nd? Numai atunci c\u00e2nd nu iubesc cu adev\u0103rat. Atunci c\u00e2nd iubesc pot s\u0103 ignore orice defecte \u015fi pot s\u0103 le \u015fi iubeasc\u0103.”<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\nE o retardare crunt\u0103 s\u0103 reduci toate nevoile unei femei la un b\u0103rbat. C\u00e2nd cumperi o rochie nou\u0103, n-o cumperi cu g\u00e2ndul c\u0103-l rupi pe Gigel \u00een gur\u0103 cu ea, ci cu g\u00e2ndul la ocazia special\u0103 la care o vei purta. Una cu multe alte femei care vor ar\u0103ta bine.<\/p>\n
Iar b\u0103rba\u0163ii – except\u00e2ndu-i pe cei criza\u0163i \u015fi isterici – ignor\u0103 \u00een general defecte pentru c\u0103 e \u00een natura lor. Dac\u0103 ar\u0103\u0163i bine, \u00ee\u0163i iart\u0103 orice. Opa, am zis DAC\u0102 AR\u0102\u0162I BINE. Da, ce s\u0103 o d\u0103m \u00eencolo \u015fi \u00eencoace. Pe femei le cred c\u0103 m\u0103 citesc din drag \u015fi complimentele lor sunt sincere. Pe 80% dintre b\u0103rba\u0163ii care \u00eemi scriu privat c\u0103 am o ton\u0103 de talent \u00eei b\u0103nuiesc c\u0103 nu mi-au dus vreodat\u0103 un text la bun sf\u00e2r\u015fit \u015fi caut\u0103 s\u0103 m\u0103 aga\u0163e pe baza FIX a cum ar\u0103t.<\/p>\n
“E vorba numai despre atitudine, despre educa\u0163ie, caracter, despre suflet. Restul conteaz\u0103 numai pentru oamenii superficiali. Restul e trec\u0103tor.”<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\nAici iar avem problema nature vs. nurture. Tanti, hot\u0103r\u0103\u015fte-ne. Sau ne na\u015ftem a\u015fa, sau putem fi educabili. N-o mai arde confuz c\u0103 ne macin\u0103 suspansul.<\/p>\n
Iar perioada fertil\u0103 a femeii e \u015fi ea trec\u0103toare. De ce ne predici tot tu de b\u0103rba\u0163i?<\/p>\n
“Ceea ce conteaz\u0103 e de fapt ceea ce r\u0103m\u00e2ne dup\u0103 ce s-au risipit iluziile \u015fi s-au aflat adev\u0103rurile.”<\/strong>
\n<\/em>
\nBonul de pensie?<\/p>\n“Atitudinea, caracterul, sufletul sunt ceva ce prime\u015fti de la natur\u0103 \u015fi nu le po\u0163i dob\u00e2ndi niciodat\u0103 prin alte metode, nu po\u0163i pretinde c\u0103 le ai dac\u0103 ele lipsesc cu des\u0103v\u00e2r\u015fire.”<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\nDac\u0103 abera\u0163ia asta ar fi adev\u0103rat\u0103, triburile de bananieri ar fi cei mai stila\u0163i \u015fi genero\u015fi oameni din lume. Din p\u0103cate, realitatea de pe teren contrazice asump\u0163iile de mai sus.<\/p>\n
“Educa\u0163ia se cap\u0103t\u0103 \u00een ani mul\u0163i \u015fi continu\u0103m toat\u0103 via\u0163a s\u0103 ne autoeduc\u0103m, dar asta pot face doar oamenii care \u015ftiu c\u0103 \u00eenc\u0103 mai au multe de \u00eenv\u0103\u0163at.”<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n\u015ei la ce ne folose\u015fte, c\u00e2nd tot tu ne ziceai c\u0103 degeaba avem \u00een minte ideea, dac\u0103 nu avem date native, canci?<\/p>\n
<\/em>Cei care consider\u0103 c\u0103 \u015ftiu destule ar trebui s\u0103 \u015ftie c\u0103 de fapt nu \u015ftiu nimic.<\/em> <\/strong><\/p>\n\u0102? Eu sunt un maestru al generaliz\u0103rilor penibile, dar acest nivel de generalizare penibil\u0103 e acel nivel de performan\u0163\u0103 la care m\u0103 uit de jos, umil\u0103, con\u015ftient\u0103 c\u0103 mai trebuie s\u0103 treac\u0103 patru vie\u0163i, s\u0103 pot egala asta. <\/p>\n
Ar trebui s\u0103 \u015ftii c\u0103 un adev\u0103rat domn se las\u0103 cucerit doar de o adev\u0103rat\u0103 doamn\u0103, pe cele care pretind c\u0103 sunt f\u0103r\u0103 a fi, doar le folose\u015fte.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\nP\u0103i cum a\u015fa? O doamn\u0103 trebuie s\u0103 aib\u0103 caracter, suflet, cutare, dar un domn, nu? Ca s\u0103 fii doamn\u0103, ai de adus un dosar mai gros dec\u00e2t dac\u0103 vrei s\u0103-\u0163i iei cas\u0103, pe c\u00e2nd domn e\u015fti by default, prin simpl\u0103 de\u0163inere de 1 \u00een buletin \u015fi aferente? Altminteri, ar trebui s\u0103 le \u0163ii \u015fi domnilor o predic\u0103 similar de antipatic\u0103 cum oportunismul te descalific\u0103 din ipostaza de domn. Sau? <\/p>\n
“Ar trebui s\u0103 \u0163ii minte c\u0103 o doamn\u0103 nu se str\u0103duie\u015fte s\u0103 fie o doamn\u0103, ea pur \u015fi simplu este a\u015fa de la natur\u0103.”<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\nStai c\u0103 iar m-ai \u00eempins \u00een negura h\u00e2d\u0103 a confuziei. Cum era mai la deal cu anii cei mul\u0163i de educa\u0163ie \u015fi cu cei care cred c\u0103 \u015ftiu \u015fi nu \u015ftiu?
\nEu \u00ee\u0163i tot spun s\u0103 alegi o singur\u0103 linie de atac \u015fi tu batman-batman. <\/p>\n
” Nu hainele te fac doamn\u0103. Nu machiajul te face frumoas\u0103. E vorba numai despre atitudine, despre educa\u0163ie, caracter, despre suflet. Restul conteaz\u0103 numai pentru oamenii superficiali.”<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\nRepeti\u0163ia n-o fi mama \u00eenv\u0103\u0163\u0103turii, dar \u00een mod sigur e mama monotoniei. <\/p>\n
De-aia toate prin\u0163esele din tablouri sunt \u00eenf\u0103\u0163i\u015fate \u00een straie simple de l\u00e2n\u0103 \u015fi cu p\u0103rul \u00een broboad\u0103. <\/p>\n
\u015ei acum m\u0103 ierta\u0163i, merg s\u0103 iau o aspirin\u0103. Nu de alta, dar am f\u0103cut febr\u0103 muscular\u0103 de la dat ochii peste cap. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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