Ai f\u0103cut m\u0103g\u0103rii, ai zis m\u0103g\u0103rii, ai comis m\u0103g\u0103rii \u015fi \u00ee\u0163i vezi prietena, iubita, colega, c\u0103 se umple de draci. Unele o fac exploziv, cu mor\u0163i de mam\u0103 \u015fi alte cele. Altele devin doar tensionate \u015fi dau replici ceva mai t\u0103ioase, sau se scufund\u0103 \u00een t\u0103cere. Dac\u0103 e\u015fti extrem de bou, nici nu te prinzi c\u0103 le-ai sup\u0103rat. Cumva pe mine asta m-a \u015fi determinat \u00een timp s\u0103 exprim violent sup\u0103rarea, pentru c\u0103 vedeam clar c\u0103 pro\u015ftii nu se prind de manifest\u0103ri subtile \u015fi e bine s\u0103 le descrii clar faptul c\u0103 au c\u0103cat b\u0103\u0163ul suprem.
\nBun, deci ai f\u0103cut o nef\u0103cut\u0103, ai zis o nezis\u0103, ai belit-o cu dou\u0103 m\u00e2ini. <\/p>\n
Iat\u0103 ce s\u0103 nu faci: <\/p>\n
1. \u00cei iei enervarea la mi\u015fto. <\/strong><\/p>\n De departe, \u0103sta e motivul a 30% din crimele violente. \u015ei vine dintr-o fals\u0103 impresie c\u0103 tu e\u015fti in charge. 2. Negi fapte \u015fi vorbe.<\/strong><\/p>\n Nimic nu insult\u0103 mai crunt inteligen\u0163a unui om dec\u00e2t minciuna de la obraz. “Dar eu nu am zis niciodat\u0103” c\u0103catul pe care l-ai zis \u015fi pentru care te ur\u0103\u015fte sau “eu nu am f\u0103cut niciodat\u0103” mizeria cu care te-a prins. 3. “Eu nu te-am insultat”<\/strong><\/p>\n C\u00e2nd o zice sau o scrie cineva care exact cu cinci minute \u00eenainte \u00ee\u0163i b\u0103gase ni\u015fte grosol\u0103nii halucinante, senza\u0163ia pe care o transmite e fie c\u0103 te ia pe tine de prost, fie c\u0103 \u00ee\u015fi arog\u0103 dreptul s\u0103 te trateze oribil c\u0103 a\u015fa s-a n\u0103scut el privilegiat. 4. Bagi ac\u0163iunea pis\u0103logeal\u0103.<\/strong><\/p>\n O tactic\u0103 \u00eengrozitor de enervant\u0103 a unor b\u0103rba\u0163i e deturnarea aten\u0163iei cu o ceart\u0103 elaborat\u0103, \u00een care aduc \u00een discu\u0163ie subpunctele B, C, D, E, F, care n-au nici o leg\u0103tur\u0103 cu tema de pe tapet, \u015fi o fac foarte repede, \u015fi e munc\u0103 de avocat la Curtea Suprem\u0103 de Justi\u0163ie s\u0103 desc\u00e2lce\u015fti mixul de abera\u0163ii pe care tocmai \u0163i l-au pus pe tapet. 5. M\u0103 ier\u0163i? Dar m\u0103 ier\u0163i? Dar m\u0103 ier\u0163i?<\/strong><\/p>\n Unii oameni au nevoie de oarecare timp s\u0103 le treac\u0103 dracii pe tine. \u015ei atunci, insisten\u0163a cu “m\u0103 ier\u0163i, dar m\u0103 ier\u0163i, dar m\u0103 ier\u0163i” pare o alt\u0103 sfidare. Nu, nu te iart\u0103 la comand\u0103. Te iart\u0103 \u00een ritmul natural \u00een care le trec dracii. Tu comunic\u0103-\u0163i regretele \u015fi TACI DRACULUI. Las\u0103 timpul \u015fi bun\u0103tatea natural\u0103 a celuilalt s\u0103-\u015fi fac\u0103 treaba. <\/p>\n Serios, exprimarea onest\u0103 a regretului \u015fi t\u0103cerea sunt singurele solu\u0163ii s\u0103 calmezi un om ofensat. Dac\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i mai trebuie omul respectiv pe viitor. Dac\u0103 nu, liber la tot repertoriul de gher\u0163oial\u0103 din univers. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Ai f\u0103cut m\u0103g\u0103rii, ai zis m\u0103g\u0103rii, ai comis m\u0103g\u0103rii \u015fi \u00ee\u0163i vezi prietena, iubita, colega, c\u0103 se umple de draci. Unele o fac exploziv,...<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":10109,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2}},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-10892","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-spicy"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/11\/KNIFE.jpg?fit=473%2C350&ssl=1","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/10892","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=10892"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/10892\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":10895,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/10892\/revisions\/10895"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/10109"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=10892"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=10892"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=10892"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}
\n\u00cen mod normal, c\u00e2nd respec\u0163i un interlocutor, \u00eei respec\u0163i \u015fi \u00een\u0163elegi furia. Faptul c\u0103 o minimalizezi \u015fi faci glume nes\u0103rate e nu doar uciga\u015f de iritant, dar \u015fi o dovad\u0103 de superioritate prost \u00een\u0163eleas\u0103.
\nTransmi\u0163i cu asta urm\u0103toarele: EU sunt buricul p\u0103m\u00e2ntului \u015fi coroana crea\u0163iei \u015fi EU \u00ee\u0163i dictez ce ar trebui s\u0103 sim\u0163i.
\nAtitudinea asta de rahat, suprapus\u0103 peste ceea ce ai f\u0103cut deja \u015fi \u0163i-a enervat prietena-colega-iubita, care deja te prive\u015fte furibund, e motivul pentru care au ap\u0103rut divor\u0163urile \u015fi asasinatele pe lume.
\nUit\u0103 de educa\u0163ia “numai tu contezi” \u015fi \u00eenva\u0163\u0103 s\u0103-i respec\u0163i pe cei din jur. ASTA e calea s\u0103 le potole\u015fti sup\u0103rarea, nu caterinca de rahat. <\/p>\n
\nUltimul lucru de care are nevoie un om deja nervos e senza\u0163ia c\u0103 e luat de prost.
\nPe bune: “Da, am zis asta, da, am f\u0103cut asta, \u00eemi pare r\u0103u” nu te cost\u0103 nimic. Nu \u00ee\u0163i mic\u015foreaz\u0103 miraculos la jum\u0103tate nimic. Dar poate \u00eemp\u0103ca o femeie sup\u0103rat\u0103 pe tine. Pentru c\u0103 te face s\u0103 pari mai pu\u0163in jigodie mincinoas\u0103 \u015fi obtuz\u0103 \u015fi mai mult o persoan\u0103 care-\u015fi asum\u0103 responsibilitatea pe propriile fapte. <\/p>\n
\nAmbele atitudini sunt b\u0103tubile cu bordura peste din\u0163i p\u00e2n\u0103 la s\u00e2nge.
\nDar hai s\u0103 zicem c\u0103 \u00een mod real \u0163i-a sc\u0103pat o gaf\u0103 nedorit\u0103. S\u0103 zicem c\u0103 realmente nu ai g\u00e2ndit \u00een secunda \u00een care ai emanat.
\nNu po\u0163i zice “nu te-am insultat” pentru c\u0103, dac\u0103 ai \u00een fa\u0163a ta o persoan\u0103 insultat\u0103, o, ba da, ai f\u0103cut-o.
\nRepeta\u0163i cu mine: “Nu am INTEN\u0162IONAT s\u0103 te insult, \u00eemi cer scuze”. <\/p>\n
\nAsta \u00een condi\u0163iile \u00een care tu deja e\u015fti furios \/ furioas\u0103.
\nTactica asta nu doar c\u0103 nu diminueaz\u0103 vinov\u0103\u0163ia ta sau furia omului, ci le cre\u015fte exponen\u0163ial pe ambele. \u015ei dac\u0103 la \u00eenceput era o femeie u\u015for iritat\u0103, dar cu care puteai discuta, la final ai uraganul Katrina. <\/p>\n