{"id":10981,"date":"2016-06-01T10:42:48","date_gmt":"2016-06-01T10:42:48","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=10981"},"modified":"2016-06-01T12:33:39","modified_gmt":"2016-06-01T12:33:39","slug":"impulsuri-de-la-copilul-nostru-interior","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/impulsuri-de-la-copilul-nostru-interior\/","title":{"rendered":"Impulsuri de la copilul nostru interior"},"content":{"rendered":"

C\u00e2nd eram copii, aveam mereu r\u0103spunsuri surprinz\u0103toare. \u015ei bucurii nea\u015fteptate. \u015ei lumea din jurul nostru era un basm irezistibil. Era mai mult ca sigur c\u0103 nu vom ajunge ni\u015fte oarecare, ci minimum supereroi. Aveam talent, inteligen\u0163\u0103, vise, curaj.
\nApoi, undeva, ceva s-a aplatizat.
\nPentru c\u0103 e 1 iunie, ziua a ce e mai frumos \u00een fiecare dintre noi, hai s\u0103 ne aducem aminte ce-l f\u0103cea pe copilul care am fost alt\u0103dat\u0103 s\u0103 fie at\u00e2t de fericit \u015fi de special. \u015ei s\u0103 actualiz\u0103m.
\n
\n1. Nu aveai inten\u0163ii rele <\/strong><\/p>\n

C\u00e2nd erai copil, voiai s\u0103-i vezi pe to\u0163i oamenii din jurul t\u0103u ferici\u0163i. De-asta f\u0103ceai giumbu\u015flucuri, spuneai prostioare, st\u0103teai \u00een cap, \u0163ipai, \u00eenv\u0103\u0163ai cuvinte ur\u00e2te \u015fi nu \u015ftiai ce \u00eenseamn\u0103.
\nNu cuno\u015fteai conceptul de capra vecinului, \u015fi nu te sim\u0163eai amenin\u0163at de faptul c\u0103 cineva e mai bun dec\u00e2t tine. Dimpotriv\u0103, respectai \u015fi admirai lucrul \u0103sta. C\u0103utai s\u0103 te \u00eemprietene\u015fti cu omul mai bun dec\u00e2t tine, s\u0103 \u00eenve\u0163i de la el.
\nNu min\u0163eai dec\u00e2t \u00een chestii mici, \u015fi strict ca s\u0103 nu fii certat. Nu c\u0103utai s\u0103 \u0163e\u015fi intrigi, s\u0103 sabotezi, s\u0103 \u00een\u015feli alte persoane.
\nS\u0103reai din pat luminos \u015fi vesel, \u015fi cam a\u015fa \u00ee\u0163i era \u015fi ziua, dac\u0103 nu te brusca cineva pe parcurs.
\nCa adult, ai puterea s\u0103-i dai la o parte pe cei ce te bruscheaz\u0103 \u015fi s\u0103 nu cultivi dec\u00e2t rela\u0163ii armonioase, a\u015fa c\u0103 nu ai nici o scuz\u0103 s\u0103 fii o cloac\u0103 de r\u0103ut\u0103\u0163i. <\/p>\n

2. Nu g\u00e2ndeai \u00een etichete \u015fi re\u0163ete<\/strong> <\/p>\n

C\u00e2nd erai copil, nu te gr\u0103beai s\u0103 dai verdicte. Nu aveai g\u00e2ndirea setat\u0103 pe tipare care s\u0103-\u0163i diminueze creativitatea. Luai contact direct \u015fi neviciat cu realitatea \u015fi de multe ori uimeai cu c\u00e2te o observa\u0163ie de care adul\u0163ii nu erau \u00een stare. Te uitai cu adev\u0103rat la oameni \u015fi \u00eei ascultai cu adev\u0103rat ce spun. Te g\u00e2ndeai la lucrurile pe care le aflai. Da, erai \u015fi mult mai credul, dar \u015fi mult mai sincer \u00een asumarea informa\u0163iei.
\nCe te opre\u015fte acum s\u0103 faci asta? Ce te determin\u0103 s\u0103 tr\u00e2nte\u015fti direct cioc\u0103nelul de judec\u0103tor, f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103-\u0163i dai timp s\u0103 afli mai multe am\u0103nunte despre o situa\u0163ie? Ce te determin\u0103 s\u0103 cultivi prejudec\u0103\u0163i pe baz\u0103 de: ras\u0103, etnie, sex, religie sau lipsa ei, orientare sexual\u0103, preferin\u0163e muzicale, etc.?
\nCe te determin\u0103 s\u0103 decretezi c\u0103 problema A e sigur a\u015fa \u015fi nu altfel?
\nCeea ce ne duce la <\/p>\n

3. C\u0103utai mereu solu\u0163ia simpl\u0103.<\/strong><\/p>\n

C\u00e2nd erai copil, \u00ee\u0163i pl\u0103cea mult s\u0103 te joci. Aveai o activitate care te bucura din toat\u0103 inima ta \u015fi c\u0103reia doreai s\u0103-i dedici timp. Drept care, c\u0103utai s\u0103 simplifici tot ce aveai de f\u0103cut \u00een restul zilei, s\u0103 termini repede \u015fi eficient, s\u0103 fugi la joac\u0103.
\nBirocra\u0163ia, temenelile de tot felul, anticamerele de tot felul au fost inventate de oameni care au uitat, din p\u0103cate, s\u0103 fie copii. Sau care au impresia c\u0103 respectul se poate ob\u0163ine doar prin nivelul accentuat de disconfort pe care \u00eel putem inocula altora.
\nAlege s\u0103 nu fii parte din lan\u0163ul care promoveaz\u0103 disconfortul altora ca mod de domina\u0163ie. (Except\u00e2nd cazurile c\u00e2nd \u015fi-o cer. C\u00e2nd un om vine cu rele inten\u0163ii, po\u0163i s\u0103-l pl\u0103te\u015fti cu propria moned\u0103 p\u00e2n\u0103 \u00een\u0163elege ceva, sau dac\u0103 nu \u00een\u0163elege nimic, po\u0163i s\u0103-l elimini complet din cercul t\u0103u social). Alege activit\u0103\u0163ile care te bucur\u0103 \u015fi pune miz\u0103 \u00een ele. Nu persista \u00een lucruri care nu-\u0163i plac. Nu te neferici de unul singur, inutil.
\n\u00cen loc s\u0103 stai pe blog la Lorena Lupu s-o \u00eenjuri c\u0103 nu \u00eemparte vagin tuturor rata\u0163ilor, \u015fi implicit, nu \u0163ie (c\u0103 nu am cum s\u0103 te cred c-o \u00eenjuri pe scriitoarea Lorena Lupu, f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103-i fi citit c\u0103r\u0163ile), du-te pe blogul unui autor care s\u0103-\u0163i inspire respect \u015fi pe care s\u0103-l po\u0163i citi f\u0103r\u0103 inten\u0163ii de alt\u0103 natur\u0103. <\/p>\n

4. Nu aveai inten\u0163ii duplicitare.<\/strong><\/p>\n

C\u00e2nd erai copil, treaba era simpl\u0103. \u00ce\u0163i era drag Ion. Te duceai la Ion \u015fi-i spuneai: “\u00cemi e\u015fti drag, hai s\u0103 ne juc\u0103m.” \u00ce\u0163i era antipatic Gheorghe. \u00cei spuneai. “Nu \u00eemi placi, d\u0103-te mai \u00eencolo.”
\nPunct. Nu \u00eencercai s\u0103 te freci de oameni care nu-\u0163i pl\u0103ceau, din motive mincinoase \u015fi nu \u00eencercai s\u0103 faci de rahat oameni pe care i-ai fi putut pl\u0103cea, strict pentru c\u0103 a\u015fa credeai c\u0103 \u00eei tragi \u00een jos \u015fi-\u0163i devin accesibili. Nu intrai \u00een toate aceste meandre ale f\u0103\u0163\u0103rniciei ieftine care, p\u00e2n\u0103 la urm\u0103, otr\u0103vea o singur\u0103 via\u0163\u0103. Pe a ta. <\/p>\n

5. Te bucurai de o ciocolat\u0103.<\/strong><\/p>\n

C\u00e2nd erai copil, simplul fapt c\u0103 aveai un b\u0103nu\u0163 de buzunar \u015fi te duceai s\u0103-\u0163i iei o ciocolat\u0103 era un motiv de imens\u0103 bucurie.
\nNimic nu era mecanic.
\nTe duceai la magazin, te ridicai \u00een v\u00e2rfuri, c\u0103 ajungeai greu la tejghea, scoteai banii cu o importan\u0163\u0103 absolut\u0103 \u015fi cereai, aproape nevenindu-\u0163i s\u0103 crezi, o ciocolat\u0103. Unii o \u0163ineam mult \u00een m\u00e2n\u0103, p\u00e2n\u0103 se \u00eenmuia, c\u0103 nu ne \u00eenduram s-o m\u00e2nc\u0103m. Al\u0163ii desf\u0103ceau repede \u015fi emo\u0163ionat staniolul \u015fi mu\u015fcau din toat\u0103 gura, de ce f\u0103ceau maronii p\u00e2n\u0103 la urechi. Unii respectau \u00eemp\u0103r\u0163eala pe p\u0103tr\u0103\u0163ele, al\u0163ii o \u00eenc\u0103lcau deliberat.
\nDar \u015fi unii, \u015fi al\u0163ii, se bucurau de ciocolata aia din toate cotloanele sufletului lor.
\nEra bucurie. Pur\u0103, simpl\u0103, sincer\u0103 bucurie. <\/p>\n

Re\u00eenva\u0163\u0103 s\u0103 te bucuri. Chiar dac\u0103 sunt multe lucruri care nu merg cum vrei tu, bucuria e ca un vaccin. Te detensioneaz\u0103 \u015fi \u00ee\u0163i ajut\u0103 mintea s\u0103 g\u0103seasc\u0103 solu\u0163ii. <\/p>\n

Foto: Valentin Dil\u0163\u0103<\/p>\n

Un unu iunie fericit tuturor. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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