S-au scris tone de articole despre violen\u0163a de orice tip. Domestic\u0103, s\u0103lbatic\u0103, online, offline, \u015fi a\u015fa mai departe. \u00cens\u0103 nu am v\u0103zut nic\u0103ieri un articol, m\u0103car unul, care s\u0103 condamne atitudinea trigger.
\n“De ce femeia aia frumoas\u0103 st\u0103 cu boul \u0103la care o bate?”
\nNu neg, multe cazuri sunt abuz clasic. Un bou care caut\u0103 s\u0103 compenseze pentru c\u0103 natura a fost zg\u00e2rcit\u0103 cu el pe diverse planuri, abuz\u00e2nd persoana care \u00eei e cel mai aproape, \u00een ideea c\u0103, dac\u0103 e\u015fti m\u0103ritat\u0103 cu c\u00e2rpa universului, e firesc s\u0103 \u00eempar\u0163i zoaiele.
\nDar am asistat personal la urm\u0103toarele cazuri: femeia se punea cu gura pe b\u0103rbat. \u015ei \u00eencepea s\u0103 \u00eel frece la icre. Dar nu la modul: Dorel, hai s\u0103 ne pl\u0103tim facturile c\u0103 ne debran\u015feaz\u0103 \u0103\u015ftia, sau ceva problem\u0103 real\u0103, rezolvabil\u0103 cu o ac\u0163iune sau mai multe.
\n\u00cencepea s\u0103 \u00eel frece la icre cu tot soiul de acuze generalizate, nesolu\u0163ionabile, \u015fi, treptat, evolua spre a lovi exact punctele sensibile ale omului.
\nPentru c\u0103, dragi rom\u00e2ni, toat\u0103 lumea are puncte sensibile. Po\u0163i nimici oameni din cuvinte, dac\u0103 le detectezi.
\nIar genul de om care \u00ee\u015fi cere b\u0103taie incon\u015ftient e genul de om care te freac\u0103 la icre p\u00e2n\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i detecteaz\u0103 punctele sensibile, \u015fi \u00eencepe s\u0103 apese acolo, iar, iar \u015fi iar.
\nAm remarcat c\u0103 exist\u0103 oameni care deriv\u0103 pl\u0103cere din a insista \u00een zona de disconfort a altora \u015fi din a le savura chinul.
\n“De ce a omor\u00e2t-o Ionel pe Vasilica din 564 lovituri de topor?”
\n“C\u0103 se certau.”
\n“Trebuia s\u0103 se controleze.”
\n\u00centrebarea mea e: nu se poate incrimina legal comportamentul trigger, indiferent dac\u0103 e al unui b\u0103rbat, al unei femei sau al unui extraterestru?
\nLu\u0103m un exemplu. S\u0103 zicem c\u0103 avem doi fra\u0163i. \u00cei facem de acela\u015fi sex, masculin, ca s\u0103 prevenim comentariile de tip: “Misogino \/ Misandro!” P\u0103rin\u0163ii l-au preferat pe unul, l-au r\u0103sf\u0103\u0163at, l-au suflat \u00een cur \u015fi \u0103la a ajuns un \u015fomer, un nemernic egoist \u015fi incapabil de respect. Cel\u0103lalt a sim\u0163it c\u0103 are de luptat pentru lucruri, drept care \u015fi-a construit o carier\u0103 m\u0103rea\u0163\u0103.
\nIar \u015fomerul a detectat, s\u0103 zicem, c\u0103 unica fraz\u0103 care-l face pe fratele lui s\u0103 ard\u0103 pe interior e: “A\u015fa, \u015fi? Oricum p\u0103rin\u0163ii nu te-au iubit niciodat\u0103.”
\nBun.
\n\u00cen lumea ideal\u0103 din visele mele, omul ok ar putea suna la poli\u0163ie.
\n“Bun\u0103 ziua. A\u015f dori s\u0103 raportez un caz de comportament trigger.”
\n“Venim imediat, be\u0163i un pahar de ap\u0103 rece \u015fi lini\u015fti\u0163i-v\u0103.”
\nAjun\u015fi la fa\u0163a locului:
\n“Ce s-a \u00eent\u00e2mplat?”
\n“Toat\u0103 via\u0163a, jarteaua asta m-a chinuit cu afirma\u0163ia “Oricum, p\u0103rin\u0163ii nu te-au iubit niciodat\u0103”. \u015ei acum, \u00eencearc\u0103 iar, pentru c\u0103 vrea s\u0103 stoarc\u0103 de la mine 2000 de lei.”
\n“A\u015fa deci. V\u0103 rug\u0103m s\u0103-l bate\u0163i sub ochii no\u015ftri p\u00e2n\u0103 vede stele verzi. Violen\u0163\u0103 aprobat\u0103 de stat.”
\n\u015ei dup\u0103 ce se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103, jegul cu comportament trigger o mai azv\u00e2rle o dat\u0103:
\n-Po\u0163i s\u0103 m\u0103 ba\u0163i oric\u00e2t, dar \u015ftii c\u0103 p\u0103rin\u0163ii nu te-au iubit niciodat\u0103!
\nPentru c\u0103 asta fac jegurile trigger. Tortureaz\u0103 verbal s\u0103 derive satisfac\u0163ie.
\nLa care poli\u0163ia:
\n-A, da? Recidiv\u0103? 30 de zile arest preventiv! Cu b\u0103taie zi de zi, p\u00e2n\u0103 v\u0103 \u00eenv\u0103\u0163\u0103m s\u0103 \u0163ine\u0163i cont de sentimentele altui om, dac\u0103 problema pe care o enun\u0163a\u0163i nu e una de rezolvare imediat\u0103. <\/p>\n
Pe bune, c\u00e2t de denaturat\u0103 s\u0103 fie societatea zilelor noastre, \u00eenc\u00e2t s\u0103 \u0163ipe la tine c\u0103 trebuie s\u0103 te controlezi \u00een fa\u0163a comportamentului trigger \u015fi c\u0103 e\u015fti un monstru dac\u0103 nu o faci?
\nNu mai bine \u0163ip\u0103 la \u0103la s\u0103 nu mai fac\u0103? <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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