V\u0103d din c\u00e2nd \u00een c\u00e2nd \u00eentrebarea asta pus\u0103 tragico-melodramatic \u00eentr-un articola\u015f scrijelit de c\u00e2te o duduie, probabil din confortul unui birou, unde ia un salariu care s\u0103-i acopere cele necesare traiului, plus nevoile eventualilor copii pe care-i va avea apel\u00e2nd la banca de sperm\u0103, \u00een timp ce singurele persoane cu care interac\u0163ioneaz\u0103 \u00een afara programului de lucru sunt toate femei, iar b\u0103rba\u0163ii care ar concura la inima ei ar trebui s\u0103 dea un casting mai crunt dec\u00e2t s-o fi dat la Game of Thrones.
\nUnde s\u0103 fie, stimat\u0103 doamn\u0103?
\nAcolo unde sunt \u015fi femeile de alt\u0103dat\u0103, a c\u0103ror via\u0163\u0103 social\u0103 \u00eenceta la 16 ani, la m\u0103riti\u015f. Din clipa aceea deveneau sclavele familiei, ale bisericii, \u015fi \u00een calitate de femeie era anormal s\u0103 c\u0103l\u0103tore\u015fti ne\u00eenso\u0163it\u0103, s\u0103 mergi la c\u00e2rcium\u0103 ne\u00eenso\u0163it\u0103, iar dac\u0103 aveai un serviciu era ru\u015fine mare, c\u0103 \u00eensemna c\u0103 b\u0103rbatul nu e suficient de b\u0103rbat s\u0103 te \u00eentre\u0163in\u0103.
\nPoate vreuna dintre noi s\u0103 renun\u0163e \u00een halul \u0103sta la ambi\u0163ii personale, la realiz\u0103ri \u015fi vise, \u015fi s\u0103 devin\u0103 sclava complet\u0103 a unui b\u0103rbat, azi \u00een 2016?
\nR\u0103spunsul e evident. NU.
\nPuterea de alt\u0103dat\u0103 a unui b\u0103rbat nu era dat\u0103 doar de propria lui persoan\u0103. Era dat\u0103 de con\u015ftiin\u0163a de tat\u0103 de familie \u015fi de g\u00e2ndul c\u0103 so\u0163ia \u015fi copiii lui depind de el. Era un raport de deservire. Erau regele \u015fi curtea lui.
\nA\u015fa era educat b\u0103rbatul din fa\u015f\u0103. Cu g\u00e2ndul c\u0103 va \u00eentre\u0163ine o familie.
\nEvident c\u0103 era puternic \u015fi ocrotitor. \u015ei evident c\u0103 femeia era educat\u0103 s\u0103 pozeze \u00een neajutorat\u0103 \u015fi prostu\u0163\u0103, ca s\u0103-i alimenteze latura puternic\u0103 \u015fi ocrotitoare.
\nCu c\u00e2t ea \u00eei sufla \u00een ego, cu at\u00e2t el avea ambi\u0163ii \u015fi for\u0163\u0103 mai mari. <\/p>\n
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Azi, b\u0103ie\u0163ii sunt educa\u0163i s\u0103 fac\u0103 ce vor ei, \u015fi cam at\u00e2t. Dac\u0103 nu-\u0163i insufl\u0103 nimeni ideea puterii \u015fi pe aceea a responsabilit\u0103\u0163ii, nu ai de unde s\u0103 le ai. Iar noi, femeile, care am descoperit c\u00e2t de bine ne descurc\u0103m singure, nu avem ce s\u0103 le cerem. Nu avem ce s\u0103 le cerem la modul cel mai concret. \u00cenainte, pl\u00e2ngeai o s\u0103pt\u0103m\u00e2n\u0103 s\u0103-\u0163i comande o rochie nou\u0103. Acum, dac\u0103 vrei o rochie nou\u0103, te duci la magazin \u015fi o cumperi din banii t\u0103i. Corect? Imagina\u0163i-v\u0103 diferen\u0163a con\u015ftiin\u0163ei de putere \u00eentre un b\u0103rbat care \u015ftie c\u0103 tot ce ai tu \u00een garderob\u0103 depinde de deciziile lui \u015fi \u00eentre un b\u0103rbat (cel de azi) care \u015ftie c\u0103 nu-\u015fi va permite niciodat\u0103 hainele pe care le ai tu.
\nCum Dumnezeu s\u0103 mai fii puternic \u00een condi\u0163iile astea? <\/p>\n
Imagineaz\u0103-\u0163i c\u0103 ar veni acas\u0103 un fl\u0103c\u0103u din perioada lui bunicu-tu, transportat cu ma\u015fina timpului.
\n-Ce avem la mas\u0103?
\nTu:
\n-Stai s\u0103 comand repede ceva pe net.
\n-Adic\u0103 ai avut o zi la dispozi\u0163ie \u015fi n-ai g\u0103tit nimic? Vreau m\u00e2ncare!
\nN-ar merge contemporanul “Frigiderul e acolo, f\u0103-\u0163i!”
\n-Unde te duci?
\n-La sal\u0103, s\u0103 bag ni\u015fte gantere.
\n-Ce? Femeia mea singur\u0103 pe strad\u0103? \u015ei singur\u0103 printre al\u0163i b\u0103rba\u0163i care se uit\u0103 b\u0103lind la ea? Stai acas\u0103!
\nTe asigur c\u0103 \u00eentr-o s\u0103pt\u0103m\u00e2n\u0103, b\u0103rbatul de alt\u0103dat\u0103 te-ar face s\u0103 te sp\u00e2nzuri de lustr\u0103. <\/p>\n
*<\/p>\n
Eu nu am o problem\u0103 cu faptul c\u0103 b\u0103rbatul din ziua de azi nu e ca \u0103la de ieri. Dimpotriv\u0103. Nu am preten\u0163ii, deci nu am drame. M\u0103 enerveaz\u0103 doar c\u00e2nd \u00eencearc\u0103 s\u0103 copieze atitudinea b\u0103rbatului de ieri, f\u0103r\u0103 a avea instrumentarul lui.
\nCa de exemplu, c\u00e2nd \u00ee\u0163i d\u0103 instruc\u0163iuni.
\nC\u00e2nd \u00eentre\u0163ii o femeie, \u00ee\u0163i permi\u0163i s\u0103 \u00eei dai instruc\u0163iuni. C\u00e2nd nu, taci \u00een g\u00e2tlejul m\u0103-tii.
\nSau c\u00e2nd \u00ee\u0163i spune c\u00e2t de gras\u0103 sau slab\u0103 s\u0103 fii.
\nC\u00e2nd \u00eentre\u0163ii o femeie, \u00ee\u0163i permi\u0163i s\u0103-i spui c\u00e2te kilograme s\u0103 aib\u0103. C\u00e2nd nu, vezi-\u0163i \u00een ciocu’ m\u0103-tii de problemele tale.
\nSau c\u00e2nd se erijeaz\u0103 \u00een verdictolog, care-\u0163i spune care-i treaba cu tine.
\nC\u00e2nd \u00eentre\u0163ii o femeie, \u00ee\u0163i permi\u0163i s\u0103 fii verdictologul ei. C\u00e2nd nu, mar\u015f direct \u00een mor\u0163ii m\u0103-tii.
\nE perfect \u00een regul\u0103 ca b\u0103rbatul din zilele noastre s\u0103 nu aib\u0103 autoritatea \u015fi responsabilitatea celui de alt\u0103dat\u0103. Rolurile sociale se schimb\u0103. <\/p>\n
Dar dac\u0103 n-o are, s\u0103 nici n-o mimeze. \u015ei mai ales nu cu femei care nu-i datoreaz\u0103 nimic.
\nC\u00e2nd tot ce ai \u015fi ai avut \u00een via\u0163\u0103 \u0163i-a venit prin munc\u0103, \u0163i-e oarecum greu s\u0103 tolerezi coco\u015feal\u0103 f\u0103r\u0103 acoperire. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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