{"id":11452,"date":"2016-10-11T15:31:02","date_gmt":"2016-10-11T12:31:02","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=11452"},"modified":"2016-10-11T15:45:59","modified_gmt":"2016-10-11T12:45:59","slug":"de-ziua-internationala-a-fetitelor","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/de-ziua-internationala-a-fetitelor\/","title":{"rendered":"De ziua interna\u0163ional\u0103 a feti\u0163elor"},"content":{"rendered":"

Pentru c\u0103 azi e Ziua Interna\u0163ional\u0103 a Feti\u0163elor, o zi destinat\u0103 con\u015ftientiz\u0103rii faptului c\u0103 educarea \u015fi \u00eencurajarea copilelor e la fel de important\u0103 ca aten\u0163ia pe care o oferim b\u0103ie\u0163eilor, m-am g\u00e2ndit s\u0103 facem o list\u0103 cu nemul\u0163umirile femeii de azi \u015fi modul \u00een care ele ar putea fi prevenite prin parenting.
\nLista e deschis\u0103 (\u015fi deschis\u0103 discu\u0163iilor). Prin discu\u0163ii \u00een\u0163eleg idei, propuneri \u015fi sugestii, nu \u00eenjur\u0103turi. <\/p>\n

A) Femeia de azi simte, deseori, c\u0103 e cet\u0103\u0163ean de rangul al doilea <\/strong><\/p>\n

Mod de prevenire: Conform educa\u0163iei de mod\u0103 veche, b\u0103iatul primea bani de buzunar, \u00eencuraj\u0103ri c\u0103 poate face orice, ca viitor b\u0103rbat \u015fi era servit de feti\u0163a familiei.
\nPo\u0163i schimba asta. \u00cenva\u0163\u0103-\u0163i feti\u0163a c\u0103 simpla posesie unui 2 \u00een viitorul ei buletin (respectiv 6, c\u0103 e n\u0103scut\u0103 dup\u0103 2000 \ud83d\ude42 ) nu o face cu nimic mai pu\u0163in \u015fi cu nimic mai prejos de cei din jur, \u015fi are tot dreptul s\u0103 lupte pentru lucrurile pe care \u015fi le dore\u015fte. <\/p>\n

B) Femeia de azi e \u00eenc\u0103 par\u0163ial condi\u0163ionat\u0103 s\u0103 se simt\u0103 incomplet\u0103 dac\u0103 e singur\u0103.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Mod de prevenire: Conform educa\u0163iei de mod\u0103 veche, tot ce f\u0103cea feti\u0163a era subordonat ideii “s\u0103 te ia \u015fi pe tine cineva”. Statut evident de remorc\u0103 fericit\u0103. \u015ei chiar dac\u0103 o femeie de azi s-a trezit la realitate, \u015fi anume, c\u0103 e bine \u015fi frumos s\u0103 ai o poveste stabil\u0103, dar nu e nimic grav dac\u0103 n-o ai, \u00eenc\u0103 o freac\u0103 la cap o sumedenie de “binevoitoare”: vai, drag\u0103, da’ cat\u0103-\u0163i \u015fi tu pe unul.
\nPo\u0163i schimba asta: Arat\u0103-i feti\u0163ei tale toate divor\u0163atele care \u015fi-au adus devotamentul, tinere\u0163ea \u015fi frumuse\u0163ea ofrand\u0103 pe altarul penisului cuiva, iar la 40 de ani, au fost p\u0103r\u0103site f\u0103r\u0103 mil\u0103 pentru c\u0103 nu mai aveau s\u00e2ni ca merele. Arat\u0103-i feti\u0163ei tale toate victimele violen\u0163ei domestice \u015fi toate v\u0103duvele \u015fi spune-i a\u015fa: “Iubita mea, important e s\u0103 fii tu bine cu tine. E minunat s\u0103 iube\u015fti, dar nu e nimic grav dac\u0103 nu o faci. O singur\u0103tate echilibrat\u0103 e oric\u00e2nd de preferat unei rela\u0163ii de abuz”. <\/p>\n

C. Femeia de azi e \u00eenc\u0103 solicitat\u0103 s\u0103 r\u0103spund\u0103 preten\u0163iilor nejustificate<\/strong><\/p>\n

Mod de prevenire: Conform educa\u0163iei de mod\u0103 veche, femeia trebuia s\u0103 dovedeasc\u0103 perpetuu c\u0103 e bun\u0103, generoas\u0103, r\u0103bd\u0103toare, \u015fi \u00een consecin\u0163\u0103, s\u0103 se poarte mereu ca o doamn\u0103, chiar dac\u0103 un bou sau altul o deranja peste limita r\u0103bd\u0103rii.
\nPo\u0163i schimba asta: \u00cenva\u0163\u0103-\u0163i feti\u0163a c\u0103 nu datoreaz\u0103 nimic nim\u0103nui. \u015ei c\u0103 unicul mod prin care se poate ob\u0163ine amabilitatea ei este prin amabilitate. Unicul mod prin care se poate ob\u0163ine devotamentul ei este prin devotament. \u015ei c\u0103 dac\u0103 nu vrea s\u0103 fac\u0103 un lucru, are tot dreptul s\u0103 comunice asta, iar “nu”-ul ei trebuie luat \u00een considerare ca atare. <\/p>\n

D. Femeia de azi se mai crispeaz\u0103 \u00een fa\u0163a insultelor<\/strong><\/p>\n

Mod de prevenire: Conform educa\u0163iei de mod\u0103 veche, femeia era \u00eendelung mustrat\u0103, umilit\u0103 verbal, pus\u0103 la punct \u015fi agasat\u0103 pentru orice ini\u0163iativ\u0103 \u015fi pentru orice \u00eendr\u0103zneal\u0103. Trebuia s\u0103 tac\u0103 \u015fi s\u0103 z\u00e2mbeasc\u0103 frumos. Asta crea femei adulte debusolate \u015fi dezechilibrate, chinuite de complexe \u015fi de senza\u0163ia propriei sl\u0103biciuni.
\nPo\u0163i schimba asta: Realitatea e c\u0103 omul e suma luptelor sale. \u00cenva\u0163\u0103-\u0163i feti\u0163a c\u0103 dac\u0103 ea nu simte cu adev\u0103rat c\u0103 a gre\u015fit unei anumite persoane, insulta e egal\u0103 cu zero. C\u0103 trebuie s\u0103 se scuture de praf \u015fi s\u0103 mearg\u0103 mai departe. C\u0103 are \u00een ea for\u0163\u0103 \u015fi energie s\u0103 fac\u0103 tot ce-\u015fi dore\u015fte \u00een via\u0163\u0103. C\u0103 dac\u0103 \u00ee\u015fi identific\u0103 just scopurile \u015fi c\u0103ile de a ajunge acolo, numai cerul e limita. <\/p>\n

\u00cenva\u0163\u0103-\u0163i feti\u0163a c\u0103 n-o \u00eempiedic\u0103 nimic s\u0103 fie fericit\u0103. <\/p>\n

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