{"id":11617,"date":"2016-11-07T10:20:35","date_gmt":"2016-11-07T07:20:35","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=11617"},"modified":"2016-11-07T10:50:30","modified_gmt":"2016-11-07T07:50:30","slug":"provocarile-clare-si-fara-echivoc","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/provocarile-clare-si-fara-echivoc\/","title":{"rendered":"“Provoc\u0103rile clare \u015fi f\u0103r\u0103 echivoc”"},"content":{"rendered":"

Ieri, \u00een lista mea de prieteni, un individ (\u0103sta<\/a>, poate vre\u0163i \u015fi voi s\u0103-i da\u0163i ni\u015fte bine\u0163e) a c\u0103cat urm\u0103toarea inep\u0163ie: <\/p>\n

\"boucersetordeatentie\"<\/p>\n

Eu sunt un om pa\u015fnic. \u00cemi iau lista de prieteni exact cum e. Am frenji figuri cheie \u00een toate partidele politice, c\u0103 nu e treaba mea de unde \u00ee\u015fi pune o p\u00e2ine pe mas\u0103 un om pe care nu-l \u00eentre\u0163in. Am frenji cu joburi la masaj erotic \u015fi videochat, c\u0103, tot a\u015fa, nu e treaba mea de unde \u00ee\u015fi pune o p\u00e2ine pe mas\u0103 un om pe care nu-l \u00eentre\u0163in. Am frenji care au adoptat 30 de c\u00e2ini s\u0103-i salveze de eutanasie \u015fi frenji care au scris articole \u00een care au explicat de ce vor ei s\u0103 fie eutanasia\u0163i c\u00e2inii. Am frenji activi\u015fti gay \u015fi frenji care neag\u0103 sus \u015fi tare dreptul lgbt de a forma familii. Am religio\u015fi \u015fi atei. \u015ei convie\u0163uiesc pa\u015fnic cu oricine nu m\u0103 fute prea agresiv la cap.<\/p>\n

Abia \u00een momentul \u00een care \u00eencepi s\u0103 \u00eemi justifici violul ai belit pula definitiv \u015fi irevocabil cu mine. Abia \u00een momentul c\u00e2nd \u00eemi explici c\u0103 totu\u015fi, uneori se justific\u0103, descoperi Lorena-diavol. <\/p>\n

Eu sunt printre extrem de pu\u0163inele femei pe care nu a \u00eencercat s\u0103 le violeze nimeni niciodat\u0103. \u015ei asta pentru c\u0103 sunt un om care \u00eei \u0163ine pe al\u0163ii la o distan\u0163\u0103 at\u00e2t de ferm\u0103 \u015fi de non-negociabil\u0103, p\u00e2n\u0103 decide c\u0103 nu reprezint\u0103 pericol \u00eenc\u00e2t, vorba bancului, “despre futut nici nu poate fi vorba.”
\nE bun\u0103 \u015fi o copil\u0103rie dificil\u0103 la ceva. Te \u0163ine prudent \u015fi distant \u015fi te fere\u015fte de cicatrici ulterioare. <\/p>\n

Dar s\u0103-mi spui c\u0103 o \u0163inut\u0103 provocatoare e o justificare pentru h\u0103r\u0163uire te descalific\u0103, \u00een ochii mei, din statutul de om. E ca \u015fi cum ai spune c\u0103 dac\u0103 panselu\u0163ele din parc sunt frumoase, e o invita\u0163ie s\u0103 le rupi \u015fi s\u0103 le iei acas\u0103. E ca \u015fi cum ai spune c\u0103 dac\u0103 vezi \u00een drumul t\u0103u o cl\u0103dire frumoas\u0103, po\u0163i s\u0103 dai un bocanc \u00een u\u015f\u0103 \u015fi s\u0103 dai o spargere.
\n\u00cen primul r\u00e2nd, cine decide c\u00e2t de provocatoare e o \u0163inut\u0103 provocatoare? Acum 70 de ani, o fust\u0103 cu vedere la glezne era judecat\u0103 drept dovada unui libertinaj absolut, azi vezi oameni f\u0103r\u0103 c\u0103ma\u015f\u0103 pe drum vara \u015fi nu \u0163i se clinte\u015fte o spr\u00e2ncean\u0103.
\nO femeie care \u00ee\u015fi alege haine mulate sau scurte vrea s\u0103 expun\u0103 rezultatele ultimelor antrenamente hardcore care i-au modelat corpul. Sau vrea s\u0103 \u00ee\u015fi inoculeze un sentiment de bine care s\u0103 o conving\u0103 s\u0103 mai t\u00e2rasc\u0103 dup\u0103 ea \u015fi ziua de azi. Sau are o \u00eent\u00e2lnire cu un gicu, \u015fi vrea s\u0103 fie provocatoare strict pentru el, nu pentru to\u0163i doreii de p\u00e2n\u0103 acolo.
\nNu, o \u0163inut\u0103 provocatoare nu e o invita\u0163ie, e strict o carte de vizit\u0103. \u015ei dac\u0103 nu ai certitudinea faptului c\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i e destinat\u0103 \u0163ie, stai \u00een banca ta. Sau dac\u0103 tipa \u00ee\u0163i z\u00e2mbe\u015fte frumos, intr\u0103 \u00een vorb\u0103 politicos \u015fi testeaz\u0103-\u0163i \u015fansele, dar nu cu atitudinea de “p\u0103pu\u015fea, pisi, gagica”, c\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i dai singur foc la valiz\u0103. <\/p>\n

Pro\u015ftii care o debiteaz\u0103 pe asta cu \u00eembr\u0103c\u0103mintea provocatoare ar merita un an sinistru de trist \u00een fashion, \u00een care \u00eembr\u0103c\u0103mintea s\u0103 fie p\u00e2n\u0103 la p\u0103m\u00e2nt \u015fi cu guler p\u00e2n\u0103 la b\u0103rbie. S\u0103 \u00eenve\u0163e s\u0103 respecte vizual \u015fi neintruziv frumuse\u0163ea corpului feminin. <\/p>\n

Iar dac\u0103 60% dintre femei nu au avut niciodat\u0103 un orgasm, e exact din cauza abord\u0103rilor lipsite de elegan\u0163\u0103 care, treptat, le extirp\u0103 orice pl\u0103cere a interac\u0163iunii cu b\u0103rba\u0163ii. <\/p>\n

Iar faza cu “b\u0103rba\u0163ii comit violuri DOAR \u00een cazuri de provoc\u0103ri clare \u015fi f\u0103r\u0103 echivoc” m-a f\u0103cut s\u0103 vomit pu\u0163in pe la col\u0163uri. <\/p>\n

Sunt nenum\u0103ra\u0163i b\u0103rba\u0163i care ignor\u0103 ce li se spune \u015fi ce li se cere. Pur \u015fi simplu, au o pl\u0103cere s\u0103-\u015fi dovedeasc\u0103 lor \u00een\u015fi\u015fi c\u0103 sunt b\u0103rba\u0163i insist\u00e2nd \u015fi pis\u0103logind. Cu acuza\u0163ii, \u015fantaj, tot restul.
\nPentru mul\u0163i idio\u0163i, “provocarea clar\u0103 \u015fi f\u0103r\u0103 echivoc” e simpla ta existen\u0163\u0103. Iar “nu m\u0103 interesezi” e o provocare \u015fi mai clar\u0103, \u015fi mai f\u0103r\u0103 echivoc. Mul\u0163i nebuni trag de tine pe drum, \u00eencearc\u0103 s\u0103 te apuce de p\u0103r\u0163i ale corpului, \u0163ip\u0103 dup\u0103 tine. Faptul c\u0103 te fere\u015fti \u015fi mergi \u00eenainte e provocare clar\u0103 \u015fi f\u0103r\u0103 echivoc.
\n\u015ei boul de pe Facebook c\u0103ruia i-ai spus clar c\u0103 nu e\u015fti ie\u015fit\u0103 la ag\u0103\u0163at, dar care insist\u0103 ca vita la poarta nou\u0103, e tot pe tripul “dar eu te vreau oricum”. <\/p>\n

To\u0163i ace\u015fti b\u0103rba\u0163i trebuie educa\u0163i c\u0103 unica form\u0103 de provocare clar\u0103 \u015fi f\u0103r\u0103 echivoc e c\u00e2nd \u00eei spui cuiva: “Honey, fute-m\u0103.” Sau “F\u0103 dragoste cu mine”, dac\u0103 e\u015fti genul romantic.
\nIar dac\u0103 li se pare c\u0103 sesizeaz\u0103 o provocare clar\u0103 \u015fi f\u0103r\u0103 echivoc, e cazul s\u0103 \u00eentrebe: “E o provocare clar\u0103 \u015fi f\u0103r\u0103 echivoc?”
\nC\u0103 poate nu e. Sau poate e, dar nu te vizeaz\u0103 pe tine. \u015ei pici de papagal. <\/p>\n

C\u00e2nd l-am luat pe ins la \u00eempul\u0103ial\u0103 – c\u0103, logic, nu st\u0103 o asemenea abera\u0163ie \u00een c\u00e2mpul meu vizual f\u0103r\u0103 s-o taxez, mi-a zis de “femeile care consimt la \u00eenceput, apoi se r\u0103zg\u00e2ndesc”. \u015ei c\u0103 dac\u0103 femeia a consim\u0163it la \u00eenceput, asta \u00eenseamn\u0103 c\u0103 violul e justificat. <\/p>\n

Pentru unii, acest “\u00eenceput” const\u0103 \u00een faptul c\u0103 o fat\u0103 \u00eei invit\u0103 la ea acas\u0103. Sau c\u0103 se las\u0103 s\u0103rutat\u0103 pe buze. Asta pentru c\u0103 boii nu \u00een\u0163eleg c\u0103 femeile func\u0163ioneaz\u0103 diferit. Ele au nevoie de o apropiere treptat\u0103 \u015fi de o acumulare \u00een timp a \u00eencrederii \u015fi a pasiunii. Da, mai e \u015fi ocazionalul caz care vrea doar sex de o noapte, dar \u015ftim c\u0103 nu aia o s\u0103 te acuze de viol. Aia \u015ftie exact ce face. M\u0103 refer la femeia obi\u015fnuit\u0103, care vrea un b\u0103rbat stabil pentru o rela\u0163ie.<\/p>\n

Ideea c\u0103, dac\u0103 te-a luat acas\u0103, o fat\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i datoreaz\u0103 \u015fi vagin e nu doar absolut ridicol\u0103, ci \u015fi periculoas\u0103.
\n\u00cen general, fetele care vor o rela\u0163ie nu vor s\u0103 fac\u0103 sex chiar de cum intri pe u\u015f\u0103. Vor s\u0103 petreac\u0103 timp cu tine, s\u0103 te cunoasc\u0103, s\u0103 dea timp rela\u0163iei umane s\u0103 se \u00eenfiripeze. Modul \u0103sta de a g\u00e2ndi, “dac\u0103 te-a chemat acas\u0103, s\u0103ri pe ea”, rade din start \u00eencrederea fetei \u00een tine ca partener, \u00een posibilitatea de a construi ceva serios cu tine, \u015fi te trece direct \u00een catastiful cu creepi dubio\u015fi care vor doar s\u0103 i-o trag\u0103 \u015fi s\u0103 economiseasc\u0103 banii de curve. <\/p>\n

Cine pierde de pe urma mentalit\u0103\u0163ii “s\u0103ri pe ea”? <\/p>\n

At\u00e2t femeile, c\u00e2t \u015fi b\u0103rba\u0163ii. Dac\u0103 femeile ajung s\u0103 fug\u0103 de b\u0103rba\u0163i ca de c\u0103pc\u0103uni, iar b\u0103rba\u0163ii s\u0103-\u015fi piard\u0103 controlul la orice interac\u0163iune cu o femeie, universul \u0103sta se va transforma \u00een planeta oamenilor singuri. <\/p>\n

\u00centre timp, nu, nu exist\u0103 cazuri de violuri justificate, nici de “provoc\u0103ri clare \u015fi f\u0103r\u0103 echivoc” care s\u0103 justifice numitele violuri, iar individului care eman\u0103 a\u015fa ceva \u00eei doresc s\u0103 se re\u00eencarneze \u00een femeie. S\u0103 vad\u0103 cum e ca o hait\u0103 de idio\u0163i s\u0103 aib\u0103 impresia c\u0103, dac\u0103 ei vor s\u0103 te fut\u0103, tu LE DATOREZI s\u0103 te supui. <\/p>\n

\u015ei nu, nici o “glumi\u0163\u0103 nevinovat\u0103 de pe Facebook” nu are justificare, at\u00e2ta timp c\u00e2t femeia nu a zis: “Caut pe cineva s\u0103 facem glumi\u0163e nevinovate”. De cele mai multe ori, “glumi\u0163ele” astea fiind pis\u0103logeli lungi, care nu se pot finaliza dec\u00e2t cu block, sau m\u0103car block messages, pentru c\u0103 “te rog s\u0103 \u00eencetezi, nu vreau s\u0103 primesc mesaje private” le trece pe l\u00e2ng\u0103 urechi.
\nDac\u0103 ignor\u0103 o cerere at\u00e2t de simpl\u0103 ca “nu-mi mai trimite mesaje”, care sunt \u015fansele s\u0103 aud\u0103 “\u00eenc\u0103 nu sunt preg\u0103tit\u0103 de asta?” <\/p>\n

\u00centre timp, iubi\u0163i cititori, poate \u00eei vizita\u0163i \u015fi voi profilul omului \u015fi \u00eei ar\u0103ta\u0163i cam cum e cu glumi\u0163ele nevinovate \u015fi cu provoc\u0103rile f\u0103r\u0103 echivoc. S\u0103 simt\u0103 cum e de cealalt\u0103 parte a penisului. \ud83d\ude42 <\/p>\n

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