Dac\u0103-i \u00eentrebi, to\u0163i oamenii vor respect. Nimeni nu o s\u0103-\u0163i spun\u0103 c\u0103 vrea umilire, cel mult masochi\u015ftii, dar nici \u0103ia n-o s\u0103 \u0163i-o spun\u0103 \u00een fa\u0163\u0103, ci o s\u0103 se comporte \u00een a\u015fa fel, \u00eenc\u00e2t s\u0103 te determine s\u0103-i pedepse\u015fti. <\/p>\n
Dar dac\u0103-i \u00eentrebi mai exact ce \u00eenseamn\u0103 respectul din punctul lor de vedere, lucrurile se bifurc\u0103. Iar asta explic\u0103 toate tensiunile pe care le tr\u0103im azi. <\/p>\n
Pentru unii oameni, respectul \u00eenseamn\u0103, pur \u015fi simplu, s\u0103 le accep\u0163i persoana \u015fi op\u0163iunile. S\u0103 nu te urci \u00een capul lor, s\u0103 nu le spui ce s\u0103 fac\u0103 (dac\u0103 nu \u015ftiu, \u00eentreab\u0103 ei) \u015fi, \u00een linii mari, s\u0103-i la\u015fi s\u0103 respire. Adic\u0103 reguli de minim\u0103 convie\u0163uire pa\u015fnic\u0103. <\/p>\n
Respectul pe care-l vor al\u0163i oameni este intruziv \u015fi invaziv. Presupune ca ei s\u0103-\u0163i poat\u0103 spune sau face orice f\u0103r\u0103 consecin\u0163e. S\u0103 se urce \u00een capul t\u0103u \u015fi s\u0103 te struneasc\u0103 exact ca pe un cal cump\u0103rat la t\u00e2rg, \u015fi tu s\u0103 te execu\u0163i, pentru c\u0103, nu-i a\u015fa, a respecta pe al\u0163ii \u00eenseamn\u0103 s\u0103 fii prostul lor. <\/p>\n
Cei din prima categorie cer \u015fi ofer\u0103 exact aceea\u015fi form\u0103 de respect. Eu nu-\u0163i spun cum s\u0103 tr\u0103ie\u015fti, tu nu-mi spui cum s\u0103 tr\u0103iesc. Eu nu-\u0163i spun cum s\u0103-\u0163i faci meseria, tu nu-mi spui cum s\u0103-mi fac meseria. Eu nu-\u0163i spun cum ar trebui s\u0103-\u0163i tr\u0103ie\u015fti via\u0163a, tu nu-mi spui cum ar trebui s\u0103-mi tr\u0103iesc via\u0163a. Eu te iau a\u015fa cum e\u015fti, tu m\u0103 iei a\u015fa cum sunt. <\/p>\n
Cei din a doua categorie de\u0163in monopolul pe respect. Respectul t\u0103u fa\u0163\u0103 de ei ar trebui s\u0103 fie supunerea oarb\u0103 \u015fi necondi\u0163ionat\u0103, chiar \u00een dauna intereselor tale proprii, dac\u0103 se poate, iar respectul lor fa\u0163\u0103 de tine e nul \u015fi inexistent. Nu au de ce s\u0103 coopereze sau s\u0103 negocieze, ei ordon\u0103 \u015fi pretind. O tentativ\u0103 de a comunica omene\u015fte e recep\u0163ionat\u0103 drept un atentat la statut. <\/p>\n
De aceea, dragi cititori, data viitoare c\u00e2nd cineva v\u0103 spune c\u0103 \u00ee\u015fi dore\u015fte s\u0103 fie respectat, \u00eentreba\u0163i-l \u00een ce exact const\u0103 respectul pe care \u015fi-l dore\u015fte. S-ar putea s\u0103 fi\u0163i suprin\u015fi de r\u0103spuns. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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