Oamenii care te iubesc au o particularitate absolut enervant\u0103: periodic se apuc\u0103 s\u0103-\u0163i dicteze cum ar trebui s\u0103 sim\u0163i legat de chestii. <\/p>\n
Mi s-a \u00eent\u00e2mplat cu c\u00e2teva zile \u00een urm\u0103. Mi-am dat hidden birthday, s\u0103 nu m\u0103 frece la icre str\u0103ini cu care nu vorbesc niciodat\u0103 \u015fi cu care nu am nici o treab\u0103, s\u0103-mi vin\u0103 cu ur\u0103ri formale \u015fi lipsite de preocupare real\u0103, doar pentru c\u0103 “a\u015fa se cade”. Iubitorii reali de Lorena Lupu au respectat asta \u015fi mi-au scris to\u0163i privat, \u015fi pentru c\u0103 \u00een loc de 500 au fost \u00een jur de 50, chiar am putut comunica pe bune, ceea ce pentru mine e aur.
\nBun. \u015ei se g\u0103se\u015fte o prieten\u0103 s\u0103 m\u0103 \u015fcoleasc\u0103 c\u0103, “\u00een fond, de ce te-ar afecta g\u00e2ndurile de bine \u015fi ce mare lucru.”
\nUite c\u0103 e op\u0163iunea mea s\u0103 nu am chef de amabilit\u0103\u0163i lipsite de fundament.
\n“Dar nu e grav”.
\nCu alte cuvinte, persoana se f\u0103cuse gestionar peste timpul meu \u015fi decidea ce ar trebui s\u0103 fie grav \u015fi ce nu, din punctul meu de vedere. <\/p>\n
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Azi, \u00eemi gre\u015fe\u015fte cineva numele. Lucru care m\u0103 enerveaz\u0103 de fiecare dat\u0103. Unu la m\u00e2n\u0103, c\u0103 e lipsit de cel mai elementar respect, \u015fi dou\u0103 la m\u00e2n\u0103, c\u0103 nu scrie la mine \u00een buletin Afrosinoae – M\u0103sc\u0103r\u0103giu Eleutheria – Terpsichofora, s\u0103 fie imposibil s\u0103 re\u0163ii cum pula calului \u00eei zice nebunei.
\n\u015ei trei la m\u00e2n\u0103, e \u015fi o chestie de snobism de neam prost s\u0103 nu verifici un nume, pentru c\u0103 e\u015fti mult deasupra celui la care te referi.
\nLa naiba, eu \u015fi trollilor cu care m\u0103 \u00eenjur pe net le acord minimul respect de a-i \u00eenjura cu numele lor. Dac\u0103 un cocalar care m\u0103 \u00eenjur\u0103 are nickul Romeo B\u0103eat Frumos, \u00eel \u00eenjur “B\u0103i, Romeo B\u0103eat Frumos, mar\u015f \u00een pizda m\u0103-tii”, nu “Romeo B\u0103yat Frumos, mar\u015f \u00een pizda m\u0103-tii”. \u0162ine de eticheta minim\u0103 a unei interac\u0163iuni \u015fi de o form\u0103 oarecare de respect al entit\u0103\u0163ii din fa\u0163a ta. <\/p>\n
OK. \u015ei altcineva \u00eemi explic\u0103 faptul c\u0103 nu e nimic grav. <\/p>\n
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Aici fac apel la domniile-voastre, onorat\u0103 cititorime: pe o scar\u0103 de la 1 la 10, c\u00e2t de enervant poate s\u0103 fie s\u0103 \u0163i se ordone ce s\u0103 sim\u0163i \u00een leg\u0103tur\u0103 cu varii chestii? De parc\u0103 ai fi un robo\u0163el ale c\u0103rui emo\u0163ii sunt ajustabile prin instruc\u0163iuni. De parc\u0103 reac\u0163iile tale sunt cantitate neglijabil\u0103 \u015fi trebuie corectate de un for superior. De parc\u0103 tu ca om e\u015fti o cantitate neglijabil\u0103, \u015fi e treaba altora s\u0103 decid\u0103 ce ar trebui s\u0103 fie grav pentru tine, \u015fi ce nu. <\/p>\n
Ei bine, eroare de calcul.
\n\u00cen calitate de om liber \u015fi st\u0103p\u00e2n pe via\u0163a lui, eu sunt singurul decident pe ce anume e nasol pentru mine \u015fi ce e tolerabil. Da, pot trece cu vederea ce vreau eu – dac\u0103 vreau s\u0103 trec cu vederea – \u015fi pot lua drept un deranj \u015fi o nepl\u0103cere ce vreau eu – dac\u0103 vreau s\u0103 m\u0103 atac. \u015ei simpla presupunere c\u0103 po\u0163i s\u0103 \u00eemi dictezi ce ar trebui s\u0103 simt – c\u0103 dac\u0103 n-ai presupune, n-ai \u00eencerca, nu? – merit\u0103 un bocanc \u00een dantur\u0103. <\/p>\n
\u015ei unicul mod \u00een care poate func\u0163iona o prietenie \u00eentre mine \u015fi tine e a\u015fa: eu nu-\u0163i spun ce s\u0103 sim\u0163i despre chestii \u015fi tu nu-mi spui ce s\u0103 simt despre chestii. Dreptul t\u0103u de a dicta ia sf\u00e2r\u015fit acolo unde \u00eencep eu \u015fi reciproc. Iar dac\u0103 eu cred c\u0103 e grav c\u0103 cineva \u00eemi gre\u015fe\u015fte numele, \u00eenseamn\u0103 c\u0103 ESTE grav. \u015ei dac\u0103 \u0163ii la interac\u0163iunea cu mine, ai o singur\u0103 op\u0163iune: s\u0103-mi respec\u0163i felul de a fi, exact cum \u00eel respect eu pe al t\u0103u. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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