{"id":11995,"date":"2017-01-18T12:53:23","date_gmt":"2017-01-18T09:53:23","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=11995"},"modified":"2017-01-18T12:53:23","modified_gmt":"2017-01-18T09:53:23","slug":"sindromul-impostorului","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/sindromul-impostorului\/","title":{"rendered":"Sindromul impostorului"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Uneori, Dumnezeu \u00ee\u0163i d\u0103 succes. \u015ei, pentru c\u0103 Dumnezeu are umor sadic, uit\u0103 s\u0103-\u0163i dea \u015fi mecanismul corespunz\u0103tor pentru prelucrarea succesului. <\/p>\n<p>*<\/p>\n<p>Am un prieten actor. Mai exact, am mai mul\u0163i prieteni actori, b\u0103ie\u0163i \u015fi fete. Principalele criterii de priete\u015fug sunt s\u0103 fie inteligen\u0163i, agreabili, s\u0103 nu \u00eencerce s\u0103-mi fac\u0103 program \u015fi s\u0103 \u00een\u0163eleag\u0103 prietenia ca pe o prietenie, nu ca pe un &#8220;dac\u0103 eu \u00ee\u0163i fac complimente multe, la un moment dat marchez la poarta ta.&#8221; Noroc c\u0103 de obicei actorii pricep rapid de &#8220;nu&#8221; \u015fi au o list\u0103 ampl\u0103 de op\u0163iuni, ceea ce ne face s\u0103 putem fi prieteni \u00een mod natural, f\u0103r\u0103 pizme nesolu\u0163ionate.<br \/>\nBun. O s\u0103 tratez subiectul, p\u0103str\u00e2nd persoana sub un anonimat deplin, pentru c\u0103 a) mi-ar lua beregata b) numai a\u015fa a fost de acord s\u0103 scriu c) tema e interesant\u0103 \u015fi important\u0103, pentru c\u0103 am remarcat fenomenul la mul\u0163i al\u0163i oameni.<br \/>\nDe\u015fi e un actor talentat, F. (liter\u0103 pus\u0103 la nimereal\u0103, pentru c\u0103 lui Pulic\u0103 \u00eei e FOOOAMEEE \u015fi-mi sparge timpanele r\u0103gind) are mereu senza\u0163ia c\u0103 nu are \u00een mod real ce s\u0103 caute pe scen\u0103. C\u0103 la un moment dat o s\u0103 fac\u0103 un pas str\u00e2mb, o s\u0103 uite tot textul, \u015fi o s\u0103 se pr\u0103bu\u015feasc\u0103 \u00een h\u0103ul nesf\u00e2r\u015fit al unei umilin\u0163e f\u0103r\u0103 limite.<br \/>\nPe scen\u0103, nu vezi nimic din aceste temeri ale lui F. Vezi for\u0163\u0103, carism\u0103, frumuse\u0163e, energie \u015fi sensibilitate.<br \/>\n\u00centre oameni, nu vezi nimic din aceste temeri ale lui F. Vezi glume, dr\u0103g\u0103l\u0103\u015fenie, umor, r\u00e2sete, bun\u0103 dispozi\u0163ie.<br \/>\nDar c\u00e2nd e singur, sau aproape singur, F. aude o voce care-i repet\u0103 c\u0103 toat\u0103 via\u0163a lui este o fars\u0103. C\u0103 e o fiin\u0163\u0103 ur\u00e2t\u0103 \u015fi rea, care a p\u0103c\u0103lit cu farmec personal s\u0103 se afle acolo unde este, \u015fi c\u0103 la un moment dat, se va tr\u0103da \u015fi va e\u015fua.<br \/>\nAdeseori, F. se viseaz\u0103 \u00een ipostaze umilitoare pe scen\u0103, gol sau \u00eembr\u0103cat \u00een alte haine dec\u00e2t trebuia. Adeseori viseaz\u0103 c\u0103 uit\u0103 ce are de f\u0103cut, \u015fi toat\u0103 lumea din jurul lui \u00eencepe s\u0103 r\u00e2d\u0103 \u015fi s\u0103-l arate cu degetul.<br \/>\nNoroc c\u0103 problema lui F. are un nume. Se nume\u015fte sindromul impostorului. <\/p>\n<p>* <\/p>\n<p>Spre deosebire de un nemernic real, care nu se jeneaz\u0103 s\u0103 \u00eentrupeze identit\u0103\u0163i false \u015fi s\u0103 se laude cu calit\u0103\u0163i inexistente pentru c\u00e2\u015ftiguri necuvenite, persoana care sufer\u0103 de acest sindrom crede c\u0103 are parte de onoruri care nu i se cuvin cu adev\u0103rat, pentru c\u0103 \u00een realitate, calit\u0103\u0163ile lui \/ ei nu se ridic\u0103 la \u00een\u0103l\u0163imea unei situa\u0163ii.<br \/>\nChiar dac\u0103, pus \u00een fa\u0163a respectivei situa\u0163ii, se descurc\u0103 de minune.<br \/>\nA\u015fa cum impostorul autentic \u00ee\u015fi g\u0103se\u015fte mereu justific\u0103ri: c\u0103 nu a m\u00e2ncat bine de diminea\u0163\u0103, c\u0103 nu era lumina bun\u0103, c\u0103 nu era apa de la protocol destul de rece \u015fi c\u0103 iepura\u015ful nu avea \u015fapc\u0103, omul care are acest sindrom g\u0103se\u015fte justific\u0103ri pentru propriile succese: c\u0103 a m\u00e2ncat exagerat de bine de diminea\u0163\u0103, c\u0103 lumina era prea bun\u0103, c\u0103 apa de la protocol avea cocain\u0103 \u00een\u0103untru \u015fi c\u0103 iepura\u015ful avea chiar o colec\u0163ie de \u015fepci, \u015fi, desigur, aceste condi\u0163ii fiind \u00eentrunite, ele justific\u0103 momentul de glorie. <\/p>\n<p>\u015ei cea mai mare tragedie a acestei tulbur\u0103ri e faptul c\u0103 omului \u00eei este extrem de greu s\u0103 o dezv\u0103luie fa\u0163\u0103 de al\u0163ii, pentru c\u0103 &#8220;se face de r\u00e2s&#8221;. &#8220;OK, wallul meu de Facebook e plin de idio\u0163i care eman\u0103 cele mai sinistre oligofreneli \u015fi nu au nici o jen\u0103 c\u0103 se fac de r\u00e2s.&#8221; &#8220;P\u0103i da, dar \u0103ia n-au sim\u0163ul penibilului. Eu \u00eel am&#8221;. <\/p>\n<p>M\u0103 uit pe statistici \u015fi m\u0103 \u00eengrozesc: 70% dintre contemporanii mei sufer\u0103 de acest sindrom, zice <a href=\"http:\/\/thehustle.co\/why-70-percent-of-millennials-have-impostor-syndrome\">acest studiu.<\/a> 70% dintre contemporanii mei sunt \u00een perpetu\u0103 lupt\u0103 cu ei \u00een\u015fi\u015fi \u015fi \u00ee\u015fi spun zilnic c\u0103 e posibil s\u0103 nu fie \u00eendeajuns de buni pentru provoc\u0103rile zilnice care \u00eei a\u015fteapt\u0103. <\/p>\n<p>Ce vreau s\u0103 spun cu acest articol?<br \/>\nDrag\u0103 cititor singuratic, care treci prin acest zbucium \u015fi ai senza\u0163ia c\u0103 nimeni nu te poate \u00een\u0163elege, \u00eencearc\u0103 s\u0103 ceri ajutor. Vorbe\u015fte cu p\u0103rin\u0163i, prieteni sau iubitul \/ iubita. Nu ai de ce s\u0103 treci singur prin asta, iar ajutorul e de obicei al\u0103turi de tine. Du-te la terapie.<br \/>\nDar \u00eenainte s\u0103 faci toate astea: \u00eencepe s\u0103 crezi \u00een tine. Pe bune. Iube\u015fte-te, respect\u0103-te, vezi ce ai f\u0103cut bine \u015fi trateaz\u0103-te pe tine \u00eensu\u0163i \/ \u00eens\u0103\u0163i ca pe cel mai valoros lucru pe care \u00eel ai.<br \/>\nConjunctura de una singur\u0103 nu e niciodat\u0103 de ajuns.<br \/>\nDac\u0103 ai p\u0103\u015fit \u00eentr-o conjunctur\u0103 \u015fi ai plecat victorios, ai de felicitat un singur om, \u015fi acela e\u015fti tu.<br \/>\nDe obicei, eu \u00eenchei un astfel de articol cu: nu l\u0103sa pe nimeni s\u0103 te conving\u0103 c\u0103 meri\u0163i mai pu\u0163in dec\u00e2t respect \u015fi iubire. De data asta \u00eenchei cu: nu-\u0163i l\u0103sa sabotorul interior s\u0103 fac\u0103 toate astea. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Uneori, Dumnezeu \u00ee\u0163i d\u0103 succes. \u015ei, pentru c\u0103 Dumnezeu are umor sadic, uit\u0103 s\u0103-\u0163i dea \u015fi mecanismul corespunz\u0103tor pentru prelucrarea succesului. * Am un&#46;&#46;&#46;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":11553,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2},"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-11995","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-spicy"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/10\/no-photo.jpg?fit=256%2C256&ssl=1","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/11995","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=11995"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/11995\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":11997,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/11995\/revisions\/11997"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/11553"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=11995"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=11995"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=11995"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}