Sunt oameni c\u0103rora le e foarte greu s\u0103 spun\u0103 “nu”. Oameni care renun\u0163\u0103 la priorit\u0103\u0163ile lor pentru al\u0163ii. Oameni care trateaz\u0103 dorin\u0163ele altora ca pe ni\u015fte ordine \u015fi le las\u0103 mereu pe ale lor undeva pe ultimul loc. Oameni care sper\u0103 c\u0103, dac\u0103 ofer\u0103 \u015fi ofer\u0103 \u015fi ofer\u0103 \u015fi ofer\u0103, la un moment dat vor primi. <\/p>\n
Ceea ce nu se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 niciodat\u0103. Dac\u0103 doar oferi \u015fi oferi \u015fi oferi \u015fi oferi, lumea va avea impresia c\u0103 lucrurile pe care le oferi se cuvin \u015fi c\u0103 e tributul t\u0103u firesc. Cam ca \u00een bancul cu Nelu \u015fi dolarii. Nelu pleac\u0103 \u00een America, ajunge miliardar, revine \u00een satul natal \u015fi zice: Pentru c\u0103 sunt bogat acum, v\u0103 dau fiec\u0103ruia dintre voi c\u00e2te o sut\u0103 de dolari pe lun\u0103. Osp\u0103\u0163 mare, fericire, bucurie. Treaba merge exact a\u015fa c\u00e2\u0163iva ani, apoi, la un moment dat, Nelu anun\u0163\u0103 pe Skype. “M-au prins cu droguri \u015fi am o cau\u0163iune de pl\u0103tit. V\u0103 trimit doar 50 de dolari”. “P\u0103i bine, b\u0103, nemernicule, tu te droghezi pe banii no\u015ftri?” <\/p>\n
E foarte u\u015for s\u0103 ajungi \u00een pozi\u0163ia de sclav al hachi\u0163elor cuiva, pentru c\u0103 oamenii sunt dependen\u0163i de iubire \u015fi aprobare. Dac\u0103 nu eram vaccinat\u0103 de mic\u0103 \u015fi nu aveam aceast\u0103 predilec\u0163ie nativ\u0103 pentru singur\u0103tate, poate a\u015f fi \u015fi eu omul de care se folose\u015fte toat\u0103 lumea. <\/p>\n
Am avut recent o conversa\u0163ie cu un amic divor\u0163at care tr\u0103ie\u015fte acum o via\u0163\u0103 de burlac autentic. Are o cas\u0103 frumoas\u0103, un job bun \u015fi jongleaz\u0103 mai multe femei. “Tot ce vreau de la ele e s\u0103-mi sug\u0103 pula cu implicare”. Implicare pe care, bine\u00een\u0163eles c\u0103 nu o ofer\u0103 la r\u00e2ndu-i. \u015ei se mir\u0103 de ce, dup\u0103 c\u00e2teva s\u0103pt\u0103m\u00e2ni de sex-\u015fi-at\u00e2t, tipele caut\u0103, tatonant, s\u0103 negocieze o form\u0103 oarecare de rela\u0163ie. \u015ei c\u00e2nd v\u0103d c\u0103 nu merge, \u00eencep s\u0103-i g\u0103seasc\u0103 pricini de ceart\u0103.
\nEu \u00eei explic: aceste femei nu sunt prostituate. Nu sug pula cu implicare pentru un fee. O sug \u00een urma unei emo\u0163ii. E natural s\u0103 aib\u0103 a\u015ftept\u0103ri emo\u0163ionale de la un punct \u00eencolo, sau s\u0103 renun\u0163e la implicare. \u015ei el: “Dar nu vor avea tupeul s\u0103 \u00eemi cear\u0103 s\u0103 definim rela\u0163ia, pentru c\u0103 \u015ftiu c\u0103 \u00een secunda urm\u0103toare m-am c\u0103rat.” <\/p>\n
Mult prea pu\u0163ini oameni \u015ftiu s\u0103 cear\u0103 ce vor \u015fi se complac \u00een ceea-ce-se-nimere\u015fte. \u015ei partea cea mai trist\u0103 e c\u0103 undeva \u00een forul lor interior exist\u0103 vocea aceea mic\u0103 \u015fi furioas\u0103 care le spune c\u0103 ceea-ce-se-nimere\u015fte nu este ceea ce \u00ee\u015fi doresc cu adev\u0103rat. C\u0103 ceea-ce-se-nimere\u015fte e compromisul dintre lipsa de empatie a celui \/ celei care se folose\u015fte de ei \u015fi a propriei lor la\u015fit\u0103\u0163i. Se ur\u0103sc pentru sl\u0103biciunea lor, dar nu sunt \u00een stare s-o dep\u0103\u015feasc\u0103. <\/p>\n
P\u00e2n\u0103 \u00een punctul \u00een care ace\u015fti oameni \u00eennebunesc.
\nSingura persoan\u0103 c\u0103reia nu reu\u015fesc s\u0103-i dau block de\u015fi m\u0103 agreseaz\u0103 ore \u00een \u015fir este o fost\u0103 fat\u0103 bun\u0103.
\nDe\u015fi nu i-am abuzat niciodat\u0103 bun\u0103tatea \u015fi generozitatea, a\u015fa cum au f\u0103cut-o al\u0163ii. Dar am asistat, \u015fi am v\u0103zut bune inten\u0163ii c\u0103lcate \u00een picioare \u015fi generozitate luat\u0103 la \u015ftang\u0103.
\nTot orgoliul pe care \u015fi l-a ignorat, toate dorin\u0163ele subliminale pe care \u015fi le-a negat, totul iese acum, sub forma unei agresivit\u0103\u0163i monotone, egale \u015fi f\u0103r\u0103 nuan\u0163e.
\n\u015ei mie mi se rupe inima.
\nPentru c\u0103 \u015ftiu c\u0103 dac\u0103 m\u0103 l\u0103sam \u00een voia bun\u0103t\u0103\u0163ii, poate eram eu azi acolo. <\/p>\n
Prieteni dragi, v\u0103 rog mult, iubi\u0163i-v\u0103 \u00een primul r\u00e2nd pe voi. Nu permite\u0163i nim\u0103nui s\u0103 v\u0103 \u00eemping\u0103 \u00een rela\u0163ii \u00een care nu v\u0103 sim\u0163i\u0163i \u00eemplini\u0163i \u015fi nu da\u0163i niciodat\u0103 mai mult dec\u00e2t pute\u0163i da. Men\u0163ine\u0163i-v\u0103 echilibrul. \u00cengriji\u0163i-v\u0103.
\nImpune\u0163i limite celor din jurul vostru.
\nLua\u0163i-o din start ca pe un fapt c\u0103 lumea \u00ee\u0163i d\u0103 doar c\u00e2t e\u015fti dispus s\u0103 ceri, niciodat\u0103 mai mult, \u015fi nu v\u0103 risipi\u0163i f\u0103r\u0103 rost.
\nSupraveghea\u0163i-v\u0103 voi binele, nu-l l\u0103sa\u0163i pe m\u00e2na nim\u0103nui altcuiva.
\nPentru c\u0103 echilibrul se poate pierde, \u015fi nu doar c\u0103 lucrurile bune pe care le-a\u0163i f\u0103cut nu vor exista niciodat\u0103, dar nici nu ve\u0163i fi capabili s\u0103 dirija\u0163i r\u0103ul pe care \u00eel ve\u0163i exorciza spre \u0163intele corecte. \u00cel ve\u0163i \u00eempro\u015fca la nimereal\u0103, de multe ori asupra unor inocen\u0163i. <\/p>\n
Iar asta, ca \u015fi bun\u0103tatea necondi\u0163ionat\u0103, e tot o form\u0103 de sl\u0103biciune. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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