{"id":12030,"date":"2017-01-23T11:20:24","date_gmt":"2017-01-23T08:20:24","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=12030"},"modified":"2017-01-23T13:09:32","modified_gmt":"2017-01-23T10:09:32","slug":"un-punct-de-vedere-legat-de-marsul-femeilor","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/un-punct-de-vedere-legat-de-marsul-femeilor\/","title":{"rendered":"Un punct de vedere legat de Mar\u015ful Femeilor"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Ieri, milioane de femei din State, \u015fi \u00een solidaritate cu ele, din toat\u0103 lumea, au pornit \u00eentr-un mar\u015f destinat s\u0103 apere drepturile civile pe care &#8220;neo-patriarhia&#8221; pe care se zvone\u015fte c\u0103 ar aduce-o pre\u015fedin\u0163ia lui Donald Trump ar \u00eencerca s-o instaureze.<br \/>\n\u015ei, dac\u0103 acest lucru se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 \u00een State, implicit se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 peste tot, pentru c\u0103 SUA a dat mereu trendul.<br \/>\nEu nu m\u0103 definesc drept o feminist\u0103. M\u0103 uit la calit\u0103\u0163ile omului, nu la ce \u00eei at\u00e2rn\u0103 \u00eentre picioare. Exist\u0103 oameni buni \u015fi oameni r\u0103i; oameni plini de inim\u0103 \u015fi oameni nemernici; oameni competen\u0163i \u015fi loaze. Unii din ambele categorii se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 s\u0103 fie femei. Al\u0163ii b\u0103rba\u0163i.<br \/>\nPe Internet, s-au dat la mine infinit mai mul\u0163i \u0163op\u00e2rlani dec\u00e2t \u0163op\u00e2rlance; pe de alt\u0103 parte, \u00een interac\u0163iuni, au existat femei mult mai nemernice dec\u00e2t cei mai nesim\u0163i\u0163i b\u0103rba\u0163i. <a href=\"http:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/csr-ul-si-empatia\/\">\u015ei, da, iar dau link la mizeria asta de om. \u00cei doresc un job undeva la un abator, pe m\u0103sura sufletului ei<\/a>. Dar divaghez.<br \/>\nCeea ce e adev\u0103rat, \u00eens\u0103, e c\u0103 Neo-Patriarhia asta \u00eencepe s\u0103 se fac\u0103 sim\u0163it\u0103, momentan ca un nou val de tupeu \u015fi agresivitate online \u015fi ocazional offline. O prieten\u0103 care a fost \u00een vizit\u0103 \u00een State mi-a povestit c\u0103 a avut o mic\u0103 problem\u0103 de s\u0103n\u0103tate intim\u0103 \u015fi, neav\u00e2nd asigurare medical\u0103 &#8211; era acolo pentru c\u00e2teva zile &#8211; s-a dus la un Planned Parenthood. \u00cen apropiere de intrare, au \u00eent\u00e2mpinat-o o hait\u0103 de oligofreni, r\u0103gind: &#8220;Vrei s\u0103 avortezi, t\u00e2rfo! O s\u0103 ajungi \u00een iad!&#8221;<br \/>\nFata s-a sim\u0163it \u00een pericol fizic c\u00e2teva momente, p\u00e2n\u0103 au venit gardienii \u015fi au escortat-o p\u00e2n\u0103 \u00een cl\u0103dire.<br \/>\n&#8220;Presupun\u00e2nd c\u0103 erai gravid\u0103 \u015fi falit\u0103, \u0163i-ar fi dat \u015fi bani s\u0103-l cre\u015fti sau ceva?&#8221; am glumit eu.<br \/>\n&#8220;Bine\u00een\u0163eles. Dar numai pule de Botswana&#8221;.<br \/>\nDeci problemele sunt grave. Pro\u015ftii sunt mul\u0163i \u015fi din ce \u00een ce mai insisten\u0163i. \u015ei iat\u0103 un posibil plan de ap\u0103rare. <\/p>\n<p><strong>A) Concentreaz\u0103-te pe cariera ta.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>La 20 de ani, po\u0163i s\u0103-\u0163i investe\u015fti pasiunea \u00een ceea ce \u00ee\u0163i place s\u0103 faci, sau \u00een sula unui gigel. Dar, ca s\u0103 citez aproximativ din Lady Gaga, cariera nu te va privi niciodat\u0103 \u00een ochi \u015fi nu-\u0163i va spune: \u00cemi pare r\u0103u, nu te mai iubesc. De azi te las pentru Viorica, interna de 20 de ani cu s\u00e2ni mari \u015fi tari.<br \/>\nSigur, dac\u0103 pe parcurs apare un b\u0103rbat demn de p\u0103strat, jap! Dar nu face din asta o prioritate. C\u00e2nd e s\u0103 fie, o s\u0103 sim\u0163i. <\/p>\n<p><strong>B) F\u0103-\u0163i micul t\u0103u business.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Poate fi orice, de la un magazin online sau un birou de consultan\u0163\u0103 la un atelier de croitorie, patiserie, handmade jewelry. Orice. E al t\u0103u, \u00eel cre\u015fti, \u00eel dezvol\u0163i, \u015fi nu \u0163i-l poate lua nimeni. Cu c\u00e2t e\u015fti mai bun\u0103 \u00een meseria ta, cu at\u00e2t c\u00e2\u015ftigi clien\u0163i \u015fi cu at\u00e2t \u00eencepi s\u0103 te extinzi. Nimeni nu poate veni s\u0103-\u0163i bage patriarhie la tine-n firm\u0103. \u00cel sco\u0163i \u00een \u015futuri.<\/p>\n<p><strong>C) Fii rezervat\u0103 cu necunoscu\u0163ii, p\u00e2n\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i demonstreaz\u0103 c\u0103-s persoane decente.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Nu \u015ftii ce neo-patriarh retardat \u00eendoctrinat e \u00eentre partenerii t\u0103i de discu\u0163ie \u015fi cu ce judec\u0103\u0163i de valoare stupide o s\u0103 te intoxice pentru o simpl\u0103 glum\u0103. Apoi o s\u0103 povesteasc\u0103 la to\u0163i prietenii lui c\u0103 \u0163i-a tras-o \u015fi subit o s\u0103-\u0163i vin\u0103 zvonuri c\u0103 ai o via\u0163\u0103 sexual\u0103 demn\u0103 de o vedet\u0103 porno, pe c\u00e2nd tu dormeai noapte de noapte cu ursule\u0163ul. <\/p>\n<p><strong>D) Expediaz\u0103 ferm \u015fi penalizeaz\u0103 comportamentul de asshole.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Nu datorezi nimic nim\u0103nui. O repet pe asta. Nu datorezi nimic nim\u0103nui. Nu ai de ce s\u0103-i permi\u0163i unui necunoscut s\u0103 te ia de sus, s\u0103 te minimalizeze, s\u0103 te insulte, s\u0103 te umileasc\u0103, s\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i dea indica\u0163ii sau s\u0103 te libidino\u015feasc\u0103 cu sila.<br \/>\nO teorie a neomasculinit\u0103\u0163ii e c\u0103 femeile sunt natural submisive \u015fi trebuie luate cu japca. Demonstreaz\u0103-le c\u0103 gre\u015fesc. Alung\u0103 m\u00e2rlanii. <\/p>\n<p><strong>E) R\u0103spunde pe m\u0103sur\u0103 amabilit\u0103\u0163ii, polite\u0163ii \u015fi bunelor maniere.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Sunt b\u0103rba\u0163i care iubesc femeile. Care le admir\u0103, le sus\u0163in, le ajut\u0103, le sprijin\u0103 \u00een idealurile lor \u015fi muncesc cot la cot cu ele. \u0102\u015ftia merit\u0103 tratament special.<br \/>\nMul\u0163ume\u015fte, z\u00e2mbe\u015fte, arat\u0103 recuno\u015ftin\u0163\u0103, sus\u0163ine, ajut\u0103 ace\u015fti b\u0103rba\u0163i. Ei nu au de ce s\u0103 sufere pentru al\u0163ii sunt gher\u0163oi. Nu trata misecuvenist \u015fi expeditiv ajutorul lor. Mul\u0163ume\u015fte dac\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i deschid u\u015fa s\u0103 intri undeva, nu o lua \u00eenainte cu nasul pe sus, ca prin\u0163esa universului. E ur\u00e2t \u015fi lipsit de stil. Oamenii buni merit\u0103 aprecia\u0163i. <\/p>\n<p><strong>F) Preocup\u0103-te ferm de contracep\u0163ie \u015fi nu te jena s-o discu\u0163i de la obraz.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Cu toate coali\u0163iile astea pentru familie \u015fi alte organiza\u0163ii extremiste de \u0163inut femeia la crati\u0163\u0103, mai bine s\u0103 nu te bazezi pe dreptul la avort. E mai s\u0103n\u0103tos oricum s\u0103 previi. S\u0103 alegi s\u0103 ai un copil c\u00e2nd e\u015fti preg\u0103tit\u0103 material \u015fi spiritual. S\u0103 nu ai sentimentul c\u0103 ai renun\u0163at la via\u0163a ta pentru el \u015fi s\u0103-l torturezi cu asta zi de zi. Nimeni n-are chef s-o mai aud\u0103 pe aia cu &#8220;dup\u0103 tot ce am sacrificat pentru tine.&#8221;<br \/>\nNu, te rog. Tr\u0103ie\u015fte-\u0163i via\u0163a, \u00eempline\u015fte-\u0163i visele \u015fi f\u0103 copii cu con\u015ftiin\u0163a c\u0103 nu sacrifici nimic. <\/p>\n<p><strong>G) R\u0103m\u00e2i con\u015ftient\u0103 c\u0103 valoarea ta uman\u0103 nu e dat\u0103 de un detaliu anatomic.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Nu permite nim\u0103nui s\u0103-\u0163i spun\u0103 c\u0103 o femeie ar trebui s\u0103, sau c\u0103 o femeie n-ar trebui s\u0103. O femeie e un om, exact ca un b\u0103rbat. O femeie are vise, speran\u0163e, idealuri, poten\u0163ial, talent, for\u0163\u0103 interioar\u0103 \u015fi hot\u0103r\u00e2re s\u0103 fac\u0103 tot ce vrea. Munce\u015fte pentru toate acestea. Lupt\u0103 pentru ele. Nu asculta dec\u00e2t de cei care vor s\u0103 cre\u015fti \u015fi s\u0103-\u0163i deschizi c\u00e2t mai larg aripile. \u00cei sim\u0163i, \u00eei \u015ftii. De ei ai nevoie. <\/p>\n<p>\u015ei c\u00e2t timp fiecare dintre noi face toate astea, Donald Trump \u015fi alt-righti\u015ftii lui cretini pot s\u0103 ne pupe fix \u00eentre coaie. <\/p>\n<p>Foto: US Uncut. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Ieri, milioane de femei din State, \u015fi \u00een solidaritate cu ele, din toat\u0103 lumea, au pornit \u00eentr-un mar\u015f destinat s\u0103 apere drepturile civile pe&#46;&#46;&#46;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":12031,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":true,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2}},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-12030","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-spicy"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/01\/womens-march.jpg?fit=1240%2C930&ssl=1","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/12030","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=12030"}],"version-history":[{"count":4,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/12030\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":12035,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/12030\/revisions\/12035"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/12031"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=12030"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=12030"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=12030"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}