Am mul\u0163i prieteni b\u0103rba\u0163i, \u015fi \u00eei aleg pe baza calit\u0103\u0163ii interac\u0163iunii.
\n \u00ce\u0163i ofer\u0103 respect? \u0162in cont de lucrurile pe care i le spui? \u00ce\u0163i respect\u0103 nevoia de intimitate? Te trateaz\u0103 ca pe un prieten, ca pe un om, ca pe un partener de business \u015fi a\u015fa mai departe? Nu \u00eencearc\u0103 s\u0103 te agaseze, h\u0103r\u0163uiasc\u0103, fac\u0103 pe interesantul, bruscheze, \u015fi alte mizerii specifice jigodiilor? Cel mai important, nu \u00eencearc\u0103 s\u0103 te fut\u0103, sau dac\u0103 \u00eencearc\u0103, nu \u00eencearc\u0103 s\u0103 se r\u0103zbune pentru c\u0103 n-a mers?
\nAccept request. <\/p>\n
Apoi, unii dintre \u0103\u015ftia \u00ee\u0163i dau momente de “wtf”.
\nNu direc\u0163ionate asupra ta, direct, ci \u00een general. Unul dintre acestea este momentul \u00een care dau statusuri de tip “de unde au bani fetele s\u0103 c\u0103l\u0103toreasc\u0103 \u00een str\u0103in\u0103tate \/ de ce c\u0103l\u0103toresc singure \u00een str\u0103in\u0103tate \/ de ce blablabla \/ de ce fac asta, asta \u015fi asta?” <\/p>\n
La asta, am mereu o \u00eentrebare, din str\u0103fundul viscerelor:
\n“De ce face grija amor cu tine?” <\/p>\n
Mai ales dac\u0103 sunt fete pe care nu le cuno\u015fti, care nu s-au angajat s\u0103-\u0163i ofere raport pe ac\u0163iunile lor, care sunt cet\u0103\u0163eni liberi ai unei lumi libere \u015fi c\u0103rora, nota bene, nu ai nici o c\u0103dere s\u0103 le spui ce s\u0103 fac\u0103. <\/p>\n
Ce anume te face s\u0103 crezi c\u0103 e\u015fti \u00een m\u0103sur\u0103 s\u0103 judeci alte persoane, care nu-\u0163i datoreaz\u0103 nimic? Dac\u0103, \u00een loc s\u0103 fie fete, erau b\u0103rba\u0163i post\u00e2nd peisaje exotice cu ei \u00een mijlocul cadrului, nu-i a\u015fa c\u0103 nu aveai nimic de obiectat?
\nBine\u00een\u0163eles c\u0103 nu. B\u0103rba\u0163ii au voie s\u0103 c\u0103l\u0103toreasc\u0103 singuri, au voie s\u0103 se distreze \u00een Ibiza \u015fi au voie s\u0103 tr\u0103iasc\u0103 vie\u0163i de lux \u015fi distrac\u0163ie, doar pentru c\u0103 sunt b\u0103rba\u0163i. <\/p>\n
Dac\u0103, vreodat\u0103 \u00een via\u0163a ta, te-ai apucat s\u0103 emi\u0163i judec\u0103\u0163i legate de “fetele” (c\u0103, nu \u015ftiu cum se face, mereu sunt fetele) care fac cutare, cutare \u015fi cutare, \u00ee\u0163i propun urm\u0103torul exerci\u0163iu cu tine \u00eensu\u0163i: <\/p>\n
a) \u00centreab\u0103-te care e de fapt sentimentul care te m\u00e2n\u0103 \u00een lupt\u0103. <\/p>\n
E cumva invidia? Ai vrea \u015fi tu s\u0103 fii pe o plaj\u0103 exotic\u0103 \u015fi nu ai cu ce?
\n\u00cen ce m\u0103sur\u0103 crezi c\u0103 remarcile toxice legate de “fetele” care \u00ee\u015fi permit lucruri te aduc mai aproape de acest scop? <\/p>\n
E cumva faptul c\u0103 toate fetele care fac asta au fe\u0163e \u015fi corpuri perfecte \u015fi ai vrea \u015fi tu pe una din aceea\u015fi lig\u0103, dar realizezi c\u0103 nu ai ce s\u0103-i oferi?
\nDin nou: \u00een ce m\u0103sur\u0103 crezi c\u0103 remarcile toxice te aduc mai aproape de acest scop? <\/p>\n
E cumva asumarea ranchiunoas\u0103 a propriilor limite?
\nOK. \u015ei ce vin\u0103 au “fetele”? Te \u0163in ele cu sila \u015fomer, \u00een cas\u0103 cu p\u0103rin\u0163ii, ignorant \u015fi neputincios? <\/p>\n
b) Ce po\u0163i face \u00een privin\u0163a asta? <\/p>\n
Dec\u00e2t s\u0103 fii un lurker inutil \u015fi plin de resentimente, care de\u015fart\u0103 ur\u0103 pe Facebook pentru c\u0103 al\u0163ii o duc bine \u015fi el nu, f\u0103 tot posibilul s\u0103 o duci \u015fi tu bine.
\nF\u0103 cursuri profesionale. \u00cenva\u0163\u0103 lucruri. Munce\u015fte. Cunoa\u015fte oameni. Propune-le businessuri. Livreaz\u0103 \u00eentotdeauna ceea ce promi\u0163i. Fii un om de valoare \u00een via\u0163a altora.
\nSau, dac\u0103 nu po\u0163i, asum\u0103-\u0163i incapacitatea \u015fi \u00eenva\u0163\u0103 s\u0103 sugi pula zeie\u015fte. Se caut\u0103 \u015fi se remunereaz\u0103. <\/p>\n
\u015ei peste noapte, f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103-\u0163i dai seama cum, miraculos, vei fi \u015fi tu pe o plaj\u0103 \u00een Tenerife. Categoric n-o va arde nimeni du\u015fm\u0103nos cu “ce rahat caut\u0103 Gicu \u00een vacan\u0163\u0103 la cinci stele”, pentru c\u0103, pana ta, tu e\u015fti b\u0103rbat, \u015fi prin urmare, liber de presiunile societ\u0103\u0163ii. <\/p>\n
\u00cen ce m\u0103 prive\u015fte pe mine: eu, de c\u00e2te ori v\u0103d c\u0103 o fat\u0103 din lista mea posteaz\u0103 imagini dintr-o vacan\u0163\u0103 exotic\u0103, \u015fti\u0163i ce fac?
\nM\u0103 bucur sincer pentru ea. \u00censeamn\u0103 c\u0103 experimenteaz\u0103, se distreaz\u0103 \u015fi se simte bine. \u00censeamn\u0103 c\u0103 face lucruri pentru propria ei fericire, nu st\u0103 s\u0103 o frece grija de al\u0163ii. Ceea ce v\u0103 recomand \u015fi dumneavoastr\u0103. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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