{"id":12522,"date":"2017-04-27T11:16:44","date_gmt":"2017-04-27T08:16:44","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=12522"},"modified":"2017-04-27T16:39:47","modified_gmt":"2017-04-27T13:39:47","slug":"e-adevarat-ca-relatiile-intre-sexe-s-au-degradat","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/e-adevarat-ca-relatiile-intre-sexe-s-au-degradat\/","title":{"rendered":"E adev\u0103rat c\u0103 rela\u0163iile \u00eentre sexe s-au degradat?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Unul dintre lucrurile pe care unii b\u0103rba\u0163i (\u015fi chiar unele femei) \u00eel spun foarte des este c\u0103, \u0103\u0103\u0103vai, pentru c\u0103 voi, femeile, nu v\u0103 mai agita\u0163i s\u0103 &#8216;intra\u0163i \u00een r\u00e2ndul lumii&#8217;, s\u0103 h\u0103r\u0163ui\u0163i un fraier s\u0103 &#8216;v\u0103 ia&#8217;, chiar f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103-l iubi\u0163i, \u015fi s\u0103-i \u00eendura\u0163i b\u0103taia \u015fi lipsa de compasiune pe tot restul vie\u0163ii, eventual s\u0103 face\u0163i copii pe care s\u0103-i ur\u00e2\u0163i din inim\u0103, pentru c\u0103 nu era\u0163i preg\u0103tit\u0103 s\u0103 v\u0103 asuma\u0163i responsabilitatea&#8230; ok, am lungit-o: pe scurt, faptul c\u0103 nu mai pune\u0163i botul la tradi\u0163ie a dus la degradarea rela\u0163iilor dintre sexe. <\/p>\n<p>\u015ei aici mi se citeaz\u0103 divor\u0163urile \u015fi altele asemenea. <\/p>\n<p>Din c\u00e2te \u00eemi amintesc eu din copil\u0103rie, rela\u0163iile &#8220;nedegradate&#8221; de alt\u0103 dat\u0103 se datorau unui singur lucru: t\u0103cerii mult prea multor femei. Convinse prin educa\u0163ia de tip &#8220;pe tine cine te ia&#8221; c\u0103 ele ca oameni nu valoreaz\u0103 nimic \u00een afara sf\u00e2ntului leg\u0103m\u00e2nt al c\u0103s\u0103toriei, \u00eenghi\u0163eau un volum uria\u015f de umilin\u0163\u0103. \u015ei nu doar fizic\u0103. De c\u00e2te ori o femeie \u00eencerca s\u0103 fac\u0103 orice altceva dec\u00e2t o ciorb\u0103, b\u0103rbatul s\u0103rea s-o descurajeze cu &#8220;ce ne trebuie \/ ce-\u0163i trebuie t\u00e2mpenia aia&#8221;. Practic, rela\u0163ia &#8220;nedegradat\u0103&#8221; \u00eensemna ca femeia s\u0103 renun\u0163e complet la sine \u015fi s\u0103 fie robotul perfect pentru satisfac\u0163ia pe toate planurile a masculului. <\/p>\n<p>Un bun exemplu de rela\u0163ie nedegradat\u0103 e dat de acest tutorial Farmec. <\/p>\n<div class=\"video-container\"><span class=\"embed-youtube\" style=\"text-align:center; display: block;\"><iframe loading=\"lazy\" class=\"youtube-player\" width=\"700\" height=\"394\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/KGOLp80KpWM?version=3&#038;rel=1&#038;showsearch=0&#038;showinfo=1&#038;iv_load_policy=1&#038;fs=1&#038;hl=en-US&#038;autohide=2&#038;wmode=transparent\" allowfullscreen=\"true\" style=\"border:0;\" sandbox=\"allow-scripts allow-same-origin allow-popups allow-presentation allow-popups-to-escape-sandbox\"><\/iframe><\/span><\/div>\n<p>Da\u0163i direct la 0:42, unde aceast\u0103 doamn\u0103 dr\u0103gu\u0163\u0103 poveste\u015fte urm\u0103toarele: &#8220;De c\u00e2te ori mergem la cump\u0103r\u0103turi, \u015fi so\u0163ul meu m\u0103 roag\u0103 s\u0103-i prepar ceva unde \u015ftiu c\u0103 folosesc sm\u00e2nt\u00e2n\u0103, eu m\u0103 bucur cel mai mult. Pe l\u00e2ng\u0103 c\u0103-i g\u0103tesc ceva ce-i place, m\u0103 r\u0103sf\u0103\u0163 \u015fi pe mine&#8221; &#8211; \u015fi poveste\u015fte procesul de preparare al m\u0103\u015ftii.<br \/>\nDar s\u0103 ne oprim \u015fi s\u0103 reascult\u0103m. Carevas\u0103zic\u0103: aceast\u0103 tanti, care are propriul ei job de cosmetician\u0103 \u015fi contribuie la bugetul familiei, nu ia cu relaxare cutia aia cu sm\u00e2nt\u00e2n\u0103 de pe raft s-o bage \u00een co\u015f, c\u0103 are nevoie de ea, pur \u015fi simplu, pentru tratamentul ei. NU! Trebuie ca pentru asta, so\u0163ul ei s\u0103 vrea de m\u00e2ncare ceva cu sm\u00e2nt\u00e2n\u0103. <\/p>\n<p>JUR\u0102-TEEE. <\/p>\n<p>Aici, o parte din comentatori o s\u0103 sar\u0103 c\u0103 bunicii lor le tratau foarte frumos pe bunicile lor. Probabil c\u0103 o f\u0103ceau. Dac\u0103 citi\u0163i &#8220;Pe aripile v\u00e2ntului&#8221; sau &#8220;Coliba unchiului Tom&#8221;, descoperim familii care tratau minunat sclavii. Asta nu \u00eensemna c\u0103 sclavia e o idee bun\u0103. <\/p>\n<p>Ce \u0163in eu minte pe c\u00e2nd aveam 15 &#8211; 22 de ani e c\u0103 6 din 10 b\u0103rba\u0163i vorbeau tare, peste mine, c\u0103utau s\u0103 m\u0103 domine verbal, m\u0103 \u00eentrerupeau c\u00e2nd aveau chef, \u00eemi spuneau ce s\u0103 fac, \u015fi nu vedeau nimic nepotrivit \u00een asta. Eram \u00een definitiv femeie, nu? Nu se c\u0103dea s\u0103-mi iau sm\u00e2nt\u00e2n\u0103 pentru mine, f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103-i trebuiasc\u0103 \u00een primul r\u00e2nd b\u0103rbatului pe sarmale. <\/p>\n<p>\u00centre timp, datorit\u0103 sc\u0103derii priorit\u0103\u0163ii \u015fi disper\u0103rii de a te m\u0103rita, comportamentul b\u0103rba\u0163ilor S-A \u00ceMBUN\u0102T\u0102\u0162IT SEMNIFICATIV. Chiar \u015fi cu ocazionalul \u0163op\u00e2rlan pe Facebook, care oricum cedeaz\u0103 dup\u0103 ce \u00eemi scot eu arsenalul de argou din teac\u0103.<br \/>\nO bun\u0103 parte dintre b\u0103rba\u0163i au \u00een\u0163eles c\u0103 trebuie s\u0103 \u015fi oferi grij\u0103, iubire, preocupare, nu doar s\u0103 pretinzi, \u015fi prin urmare, \u00eei v\u0103d pe ace\u015ftia \u00een c\u0103s\u0103torii fericite, echilibrate.<br \/>\nAcum, nu mai \u00eencearc\u0103 dec\u00e2t, hai s\u0103 zicem, 2 b\u0103rba\u0163i din zece s\u0103 vorbeasc\u0103 peste mine \u015fi s\u0103-mi spun\u0103 ce s\u0103 fac, iar ei sunt \u00een general fie de v\u00e2rsta a treia, \u00eencremeni\u0163i \u00een dinamica rela\u0163iilor din vremea lor, fie pu\u015ftani teribili\u015fti, pe care via\u0163a \u00eei va \u00eenv\u0103\u0163a \u00een timp c\u0103 nimic nu \u0163i se cuvine pe tav\u0103. <\/p>\n<p>Bine, eu am \u015fi calitatea de a intimida b\u0103rba\u0163ii, chiar \u015fi pe o parte din m\u00e2rlani. Hai s\u0103 punem 4 din 10 care \u00eenc\u0103 manifest\u0103 comportament abuziv cu cine \u0163ine figura. E o evolu\u0163ie uria\u015f\u0103.<br \/>\nRealitatea e c\u0103 rela\u0163iile dintre sexe au devenit \u00een prezent mult, mult mai armonioase \u015fi mai corecte. <\/p>\n<p>***<\/p>\n<p>Pot \u00een\u0163elege inclusiv ce anume \u00eei frustreaz\u0103 pe misecuveni\u015fti. C\u00e2nd femeile trec de la &#8220;nu pot s\u0103-mi iau sm\u00e2nt\u00e2n\u0103 f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103-i fac lui iubi ciorbic\u0103 de pui a la grec&#8221; la &#8220;OK, iubi, am \u015fi eu priorit\u0103\u0163ile mele&#8221;, poate fi nasol c\u00e2nd impresia lui Gigel e c\u0103 el e cununa crea\u0163iei.<br \/>\nC\u00e2nd femeile trec de la a se ru\u015fina \u00eengrozitor c\u00e2nd le insul\u0163i la a te insulta de la egal la egal e absolut dureros.<br \/>\nSolu\u0163ia e s\u0103 nu te mai g\u00e2nde\u015fti la tine ca la cununa crea\u0163iei \u015fi s\u0103 nu mai insul\u0163i. Respect\u0103, ascult\u0103, vorbe\u015fte normal, nu-\u0163i da importan\u0163\u0103. \u015ei vei vedea cum 90% din femei se vor ata\u015fa de tine. <\/p>\n<p>\u00cen fond, ambele sexe \u00ee\u015fi doresc un partener. Dar nu cu orice pre\u0163. C\u00e2nd un om nu face dec\u00e2t s\u0103 pretind\u0103 \u015fi nu ofer\u0103 nimic \u00een schimb, e\u015fti mai ok f\u0103r\u0103 el. Sau f\u0103r\u0103 ea. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Unul dintre lucrurile pe care unii b\u0103rba\u0163i (\u015fi chiar unele femei) \u00eel spun foarte des este c\u0103, \u0103\u0103\u0103vai, pentru c\u0103 voi, femeile, nu v\u0103&#46;&#46;&#46;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":10967,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2}},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-12522","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-spicy"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/05\/alice-through-the-looking-glass.jpg?fit=687%2C478&ssl=1","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/12522","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=12522"}],"version-history":[{"count":5,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/12522\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":12527,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/12522\/revisions\/12527"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/10967"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=12522"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=12522"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=12522"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}