Exist\u0103 aceast\u0103 dihotomie, pe care o fac frecvent b\u0103rba\u0163ii fixi\u015fti cu cap p\u0103trat \u015fi mintea-n col\u0163uri: femeia bun\u0103, harnic\u0103 \u015fi la casa ei \u015fi femeia rea, promiscu\u0103 sexual, care trebuie agasat\u0103 \u015fi h\u0103r\u0163uit\u0103. S\u0103 \u00eempar\u0163i toate femeile universului \u00een aceste dou\u0103 sertare e ca \u015fi cum ai zice c\u0103 b\u0103rba\u0163ii pot fi doar agricultori sau ho\u0163i la drumul mare. <\/p>\n
\u00cen loc s\u0103 combat\u0103 aceast\u0103 mentalitate cu argumentul c\u0103 noi, femeile, suntem oameni ca orice al\u0163i oameni, cu pusee de generozitate \u015fi apuc\u0103turi meschine, cu momente de retragere \u00een noi \u00een\u015fine \u015fi momente de v\u00e2n\u0103toare sexual\u0103, o parte dintre feministe au \u00eembr\u0103\u0163i\u015fat oarecum mentalitatea de mai sus \u015fi au \u00eenceput s\u0103 \u0163ipe: s\u0103 pun\u0103 m\u00e2na toate femeile s\u0103 fac\u0103 facultate, s\u0103 nu mai duc\u0103 stiluri de via\u0163\u0103 care s\u0103 permit\u0103 “objectification”. <\/p>\n
“Iar romglez\u0103?” \u00eel simt deja \u00een liniile palmei pe Gigel, pui de dac, cum url\u0103 \u00een comentarii. <\/p>\n
Iar. Pentru c\u0103 termenul \u0103sta de “objectification” nici nu exist\u0103 \u00een limba rom\u00e2n\u0103. S-ar traduce a\u015fa: c\u00e2nd un prost vede o femeie frumoas\u0103 \u015fi o trateaz\u0103 strict ca pe un obiect cu gaur\u0103 \u00een care s\u0103-\u015fi introduc\u0103 o anumit\u0103 parte a corpului. <\/p>\n
Bun. Pe scurt, ar trebui s\u0103 interzicem concursurile de miss, trupele de fete, costumele de baie provocatoare, ciorapii plas\u0103, pozele sexy pe Instagram, pe scurt, toat\u0103 distrac\u0163ia din univers. Ca s\u0103 ne asigur\u0103m c\u0103 nu ne objectific\u0103 nimeni. <\/p>\n
De ce e gre\u015fit, din punctul meu de vedere, s\u0103 facem asta? <\/p>\n
\u015ei o bun\u0103 parte din objectification nici m\u0103car nu e male – to – female. C\u00e2nd Michael Jackson ducea m\u00e2na spre zona plat\u0103 unde un b\u0103rbat normal are organul sexual, iar cincizeci de adolescente picau pe jos \u00een preorgasm, era vorba EXACT de objectification. C\u00e2nd Elvis Presley mi\u015fca din \u015folduri a penetrare lent\u0103, \u015fi mamele noastre icneau ca \u015fi cum ar fi primit-o, era vorba EXACT de objectification. Am citat doar doi b\u0103rba\u0163i con\u015ftien\u0163i de impactul lor sexual, \u015fi care-\u015fi foloseau poten\u0163ialul de a fi objectifica\u0163i pentru a vinde milioane de albume. <\/p>\n 2. Objectification poate fi amuzant, c\u00e2nd e cu acordul p\u0103r\u0163ilor <\/strong><\/p>\n Sincer, pe c\u00e2nd m\u0103 mai \u00eendr\u0103gosteam de b\u0103rba\u0163i, \u00eemi pl\u0103cea CA B\u0102RBATUL RESPECTIV s\u0103 m\u0103 priveasc\u0103 cu dorin\u0163\u0103 \u015fi s\u0103-mi trimit\u0103 mesaje porcoase. \u00cemi pl\u0103cea chiar mai mult dec\u00e2t sexul \u00een sine. Nu, nu 50 de gigei cretini care s\u0103 m\u0103 frece la icre pe re\u0163elele sociale cu t\u00e2mpenii c\u00e2te trei ore fiecare. 3. Objectification e \u00een mod real unica \u015fans\u0103 la succes a oamenilor care nu \u015ftiu s\u0103 fac\u0103 altceva. <\/strong><\/p>\n F\u0103r\u0103 objectification, Marilyn Monroe ar fi r\u0103mas o fat\u0103 simpl\u0103, muncitoare la fabric\u0103. F\u0103r\u0103 objectification, Pamela Anderson ar fi r\u0103mas o chelneri\u0163\u0103 \u00eentr-un bar sau ceva de genul. C\u00e2teva dintre cele mai incitante, palpitante, dezirabile femei au construit cariere din aptitudinea lor de a inspira o fantezie erotic\u0103 privitorilor. Nu neap\u0103rat \u015fi nu doar b\u0103rba\u0163i. 4. To\u0163i objectific\u0103m \u015fi suntem objectifica\u0163i, ocazional f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 facem nimic pentru asta.<\/strong><\/p>\n C\u00e2nd lumea de pe net vine s\u0103-\u015fi ia por\u0163ia de r\u00e2s de pe blog de la Lorena, m\u0103 trateaz\u0103 ca pe un tonomat de umor. Dar mie-mi place s\u0103 fiu astfel objectificat\u0103. “\u015ei, totu\u015fi, Lorena, ce enervant e Gigel c\u00e2nd te streseaz\u0103”. Partea la care e de lucru e s\u0103-l educi pe Gigel c\u0103 timpul altora nu i se cuvine \u015fi c\u0103 dac\u0103 i se spune ferm “nu m\u0103 mai freca la icre” e cazul s\u0103 nu te mai frece la icre. <\/p>\n 5. Oricum, cei mai crun\u0163i objectificatori ai no\u015ftri suntem noi \u00een\u015fine.<\/strong> <\/p>\n C\u00e2nd ne t\u00e2r\u00e2m cu sila la sal\u0103, s\u0103 ne definim corpurile. C\u00e2nd m\u00e2nc\u0103m rucola cu ceap\u0103 verde \u015fi pizm\u0103 crea\u0163\u0103. C\u00e2nd refuz\u0103m desertul. C\u00e2nd purt\u0103m tocuri de zece centimetri. C\u00e2nd ne ruj\u0103m s\u0103 cobor\u00e2m s\u0103 ne lu\u0103m nes de la col\u0163. Deci, nu objectificarea e problema. 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\n1. Objectification va exista oricum, c\u00e2t\u0103 vreme exist\u0103 instinct sexual pe p\u0103m\u00e2nt <\/strong><\/p>\n
\nDar orice form\u0103 de iubire care include dorin\u0163\u0103 sexual\u0103 ridic\u0103 automat capacul \u015fi de pe lada de obsesii \u015fi feti\u015furi ale fiec\u0103ruia dintre parteneri, \u015fi e foarte normal s\u0103 fie a\u015fa. “Hai, Vasile, trateaz\u0103-m\u0103 ca pe o bucat\u0103 de carne. Fii patriarhal \u015fi abuziv cu mine, Vasile!” <\/p>\n
\nApropo de “nu doar b\u0103rba\u0163i”, un am\u0103nunt distractiv:
\nA\u0163i v\u0103zut c\u00e2te lesbianisme am primit c\u00e2nd am f\u0103cut concursul de trucaje pe blog? OK. E tot o form\u0103 de objectification \u015fi culmea – M-AM SIM\u0162IT ONORAT\u0102. <\/p>\n
\nDar asta m\u0103car e o activitate voit\u0103. Uneori sunt \u015fi lucruri pe care le faci f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 \u015ftii. \u015ei dau un exemplu.
\n\u015ei acum mul\u0163i ani, o fat\u0103 care m\u0103 citea, \u015fi care lucra ca dominatrix, mi-a zis c\u0103 eu am un comportament \u00eenn\u0103scut de dominatrix, f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103-mi dau seama, atunci c\u00e2nd pun obr\u0103znic\u0103turile cu botul pe labe. “Pe bune?”, m-am mirat eu. “Credeam c\u0103 a\u015fa e firesc, s\u0103-i trimi\u0163i \u00een banca lor pe \u0163op\u00e2rlani, nu mi se p\u0103rea c\u0103 fac nimic special.” “Ba da, \u015fi foarte mul\u0163i b\u0103rba\u0163i se excit\u0103 la acest tip de comportament, iar acesta e unul dintre motivele pentru care te urm\u0103resc o parte dintre ei.”
\nDup\u0103 o scurt\u0103 pauz\u0103 de \u015foc, am dat din umeri: “S\u0103 fie primit”.
\nPe scurt, sunt un fel de Antipamela Anderson. Fine with me. Nu m\u0103 deranjeaz\u0103 nici acest fel de objectification. <\/p>\n
\nExact. Partea la care e de lucru nu e acolo unde tu ne trimi\u0163i pe toate la \u015fcoal\u0103. Unele au aptitudini pentru asta, altele mai pu\u0163in. Las\u0103-le \u015fi pe ele s\u0103 valorifice lucrurile la care exceleaz\u0103. Cerere va exista \u00eentotdeauna. <\/p>\n
\nC\u00e2nd d\u0103m 50 de euro pe o trus\u0103 de farduri \u015fi 100 de euro pe un parfum.
\nDe ce facem asta?
\nO facem pentru c\u0103 vrem s\u0103 ne privim \u00een oglind\u0103 \u015fi s\u0103 ne plac\u0103 ceea ce vedem.
\nPentru c\u0103 vrem o bucat\u0103 frumoas\u0103 de carne \u00een fa\u0163a ochilor no\u015ftri.
\n\u015ei e foarte s\u0103n\u0103tos s\u0103 fie a\u015fa. Cei care nu se simt bine \u00een pielea lor \u015fi nu se plac pe ei \u00een\u015fi\u015fi sufer\u0103 to\u0163i de diverse forme de depresie. <\/p>\n
\n“Nu.”
\n“OK, SCUZE DE DERANJ”. <\/p>\n