Acum dou\u0103 zile, am scris un articol despre un fenomen real \u015fi obiectiv. Cum s-a modificat comportamentul feminin \u015fi care sunt motivele: nevoia de un statut, de independen\u0163\u0103, de a-\u015fi servi \u00een primul r\u00e2nd propriile vise \u015fi apoi condi\u0163ia de remorc\u0103 a altcuiva \u015fi a\u015fa mai departe.
\nPe scurt, ce spuneam, \u015fi poate tonul era prea agresiv, era c\u0103 fetele au \u00eenceput s\u0103 se prind\u0103 c\u0103, dac\u0103 vrei s\u0103 faci lucruri \u00een via\u0163\u0103, e cazul s\u0103 devii mai asertiv, mai proactiv \u015fi mai ferm, \u015fi nu mai au timp s\u0103 mimeze polite\u0163ea ore \u00een \u015fir \u00een situa\u0163ii de miz\u0103 mic\u0103 sau zero. <\/p>\n
Ce m-a amuzat \u00eens\u0103 a fost \u0163\u0103ranul sinistru care a \u00eenceput s\u0103 rag\u0103 la mine: “Nici un b\u0103rbat bun n-o s\u0103 suporte s\u0103 fii tu eroul principal \u00een via\u0163a ta.” <\/p>\n
* <\/p>\n
Aten\u0163ie. N-am zis s\u0103 fiu erou principal \u00een via\u0163a lui. Am zis \u00een via\u0163a mea. Cu buletin de identitate propriu, vaccinuri proprii, datorii proprii \u015fi agend\u0103 proprie.
\nDar limbricul \u0103sta, care nu m\u0103 cuno\u015ftea, deja avea o criz\u0103 feroce de nervi la g\u00e2ndul c\u0103 o femeie poate fi erou principal \u00een via\u0163a EI.
\n“Cum, adic\u0103 voi ave\u0163i \u015fi aspira\u0163ii? Altele dec\u00e2t s\u0103 ne g\u0103ti\u0163i \u00een timp ce noi st\u0103m cu d\u00e2nsa-n sus la televizor, dup\u0103 care, s\u0103 sta\u0163i cr\u0103cite cinci minute \u015fi s\u0103 face\u0163i bine s\u0103 t\u0103ce\u0163i naibii?”
\nSinistru, nu-i a\u015fa? <\/p>\n
Cel mai trist e c\u0103 genul \u0103sta de limbric, care vede \u00een femeie o simpl\u0103 unealt\u0103, sau m\u0103 rog, un cumul de unelte, se autodefine\u015fte drept b\u0103rbat bun. Nu, coaie, nu e\u015fti un b\u0103rbat bun. B\u0103rba\u0163ii buni \u00een\u0163eleg c\u0103 interac\u0163ioneaz\u0103 cu o individualitate, nu cu un robot cu func\u0163iuni incluse. B\u0103rba\u0163ii buni sus\u0163in, ajut\u0103, \u00eembr\u0103\u0163i\u015feaz\u0103 poten\u0163ial, \u015fi recunosc c\u0103 da, tu e\u015fti erou principal \u00een via\u0163a ta, a\u015fa cum sunt ei \u00een a lor. B\u0103rba\u0163ii buni ofer\u0103 un um\u0103r pe post de trambulin\u0103 \u015fi ador\u0103 s\u0103 te vad\u0103 \u00een\u0103l\u0163\u00e2ndu-te. C\u0103 peisajul e frumos \u015fi de dedesubt. B\u0103rba\u0163ilor buni nu le cad coaiele \u015fi testosteronul din at\u00e2ta lucru. <\/p>\n
Eu, pe c\u00e2nd \u00eemi mai p\u0103sa, aveam mereu grij\u0103 s\u0103 construiesc psihicul b\u0103rba\u0163ilor de l\u00e2ng\u0103 mine. S\u0103-i fac s\u0103-\u015fi descopere calit\u0103\u0163ile, s\u0103 viseze la lucruri mari, s\u0103 lupte pentru ele, s\u0103 devin\u0103 alfa. Alfa \u00een adev\u0103ratul sens al cuv\u00e2ntului, om puternic \u015fi sigur de sine, nu alfa \u00een sensul penibil, de \u0163op\u00e2rlan plin de ifose care nu poate interac\u0163iona cu femeile dec\u00e2t reduc\u00e2ndu-le la func\u0163ii de baz\u0103.
\nSigur, \u00eei ambi\u0163ionam \u015fi nu-i l\u0103sam p\u00e2n\u0103 nu d\u0103deau ce aveau mai bun, pentru ei \u00een\u015fi\u015fi. C\u00e2nd se termina povestea, erau de trei ori mai siguri de ei, de zece ori mai ambi\u0163io\u015fi \u015fi de o sut\u0103 de ori mai b\u0103rba\u0163i dec\u00e2t la \u00eenceputuri. <\/p>\n
\u015ei asta pentru c\u0103 eu, spre deosebire de limbricul cu “cum s\u0103 fii erou \u00een povestea ta” chiar iubesc b\u0103rba\u0163ii. \u00cen sensul c\u0103 le vreau binele. \u015ei gloria. \u015ei succesul.
\nSingura condi\u0163ie e reciprocitatea. S\u0103 mi-l doreasc\u0103 \u015fi ei mie pe al meu. C\u0103 dac\u0103 \u00eemi iau sprijinul drept serviabilitate, \u015fi nu drept schimb egal de energii, undeva se va da o muie. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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