{"id":12789,"date":"2017-06-17T09:33:18","date_gmt":"2017-06-17T06:33:18","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=12789"},"modified":"2017-06-17T09:33:18","modified_gmt":"2017-06-17T06:33:18","slug":"mesaj-de-la-un-tata-de-fata","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/mesaj-de-la-un-tata-de-fata\/","title":{"rendered":"Mesaj de la un tat\u0103 de fat\u0103"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><em>Drag\u0103 Lorena, <\/p>\n<p>Te citesc de mult timp \u0219i \u00eemi placi, pentru c\u0103 o v\u0103d \u00een tine pe fata mea. E de\u0219teapt\u0103, hot\u0103r\u00e2t\u0103, a fost mereu elev\u0103 bun\u0103, a ales s\u0103 studieze medicina, noi o sus\u021binem \u0219i suntem foarte m\u00e2ndri de ea.<br \/>\nCe m\u0103 sperie este c\u0103 nu prea \u00eei plac b\u0103ie\u021bii. A ie\u0219it cu c\u00e2\u021biva, dar de fiecare dat\u0103 \u00eemi spune acela\u0219i lucru: o plictisesc, c\u0103 n-au nimic \u00een cap. M\u0103 tem c\u0103 va r\u0103m\u00e2ne singur\u0103 toat\u0103 via\u021ba.<br \/>\nCe s\u0103 fac?<\/em> <\/p>\n<p>++++<\/p>\n<p>Drag\u0103 tat\u0103 de fat\u0103, <\/p>\n<p>\u00cen primul r\u00e2nd, du-te la col\u021b, ia-\u021bi o bere sau un vin, cinste\u0219te-te \u0219i felicit\u0103-te c\u0103 ai f\u0103cut o treab\u0103 incredibil\u0103 ca p\u0103rinte. Ai crescut o fat\u0103 de\u0219teapt\u0103, care vrea s\u0103 r\u0103zbat\u0103 cu creierul, nu cu alte p\u0103r\u021bi anatomice, care munce\u0219te din greu pentru asta, \u0219i care nu e at\u00e2t de disperat\u0103 \u00eenc\u00e2t s\u0103 se cramponeze de masculi de m\u00e2na a opta.<br \/>\nRealitatea e c\u0103 sunt foarte mul\u021bi care n-au nimic \u00een cap, iar faptul c\u0103 ea, la o v\u00e2rst\u0103 la care altele se las\u0103 orbite de pectorali sau de un cont gras, e lucid\u0103 \u0219i cu min\u021bile acas\u0103, ar trebui s\u0103 te fac\u0103 m\u00e2ndru.<br \/>\nM\u00e2ndru.<br \/>\nCele mai nefericite singur\u0103t\u0103\u021bi nu sunt cele asumate. Cele mai nefericite singur\u0103t\u0103\u021bi sunt ale femeilor blocate \u00eentr-un cuplu dezastruos, dar care \u00eendur\u0103 orice, din lips\u0103 de stim\u0103 de sine. <\/p>\n<p>Hai s\u0103 presupunem c\u0103 \u00een loc de fat\u0103 ai fi avut un b\u0103iat. Ai fi vrut ca acest b\u0103iat s\u0103-\u0219i piard\u0103 min\u021bile dup\u0103 toate pi\u021bipoancele vide de la g\u00e2t \u00een sus, sau ai fi preferat s\u0103-\u021bi prezinte o domni\u0219oar\u0103 de\u0219teapt\u0103 \u0219i bun\u0103, pe care s\u0103 nu-\u021bi fie jen\u0103 s-o declari public &#8220;prietena fiului meu&#8221;? <\/p>\n<p>Ai fi preferat ca acest b\u0103iat ipotetic s\u0103-\u0219i investeasc\u0103 resursele min\u021bii \u0219i ale sufletului \u00een a fug\u0103ri toate fustele, sau \u00een a-\u0219i construi un rost pe lume? <\/p>\n<p>Cumva intuiesc r\u0103spunsul t\u0103u la ambele \u00eentreb\u0103ri. \u0218i atunci te \u00eentreb: de ce fata ta ar fi mai prejos de acest ipotetic b\u0103iat \u0219i de ce te \u00eengrijoreaz\u0103 un comportament pe care, \u00een cazul lui, l-ai \u00eent\u00e2mpina cu entuziasm nebun \u0219i rug\u0103ciuni nesf\u00e2r\u0219ite de mul\u021bumire \u0219i slav\u0103 lui Dumnezeu? <\/p>\n<p>Ai un copil bun. Un copil de\u0219tept. Al\u021bi p\u0103rin\u021bi bag\u0103 mun\u021bi de bani \u00een medita\u021bii, pentru c\u0103 refuz\u0103 s\u0103 accepte absen\u021ba dot\u0103rii intelectuale. Nu-i insufla complexe de inferioritate f\u0103r\u0103 rost, s\u0103 cread\u0103 c\u0103 ceva e \u00een neregul\u0103 cu ea doar pentru c\u0103 nu-i plac b\u0103ie\u021ba\u0219ii cu figuri. E un instinct foarte s\u0103n\u0103tos s\u0103 nu-\u021bi plac\u0103 \u0103\u0219tia. <\/p>\n<p>Dac\u0103 o s\u0103 cunoasc\u0103 un b\u0103iat care are ceva \u00een cap, o s\u0103 fie ok. Laud-o c\u0103 are standarde \u0219i spune-i c\u0103 e exact ce te a\u0219tep\u021bi de la un copil de\u0219tept \u0219i bun ca ea. <\/p>\n<p>Orice copil (mai ales fat\u0103), are nevoie de un tat\u0103 care s\u0103 \u00een\u021beleag\u0103 \u0219i s\u0103 sus\u021bin\u0103, nu de unul care s\u0103 demoleze \u0219i s\u0103 induc\u0103 vinov\u0103\u021bii inutile. Fii fericit c\u0103 o ai \u0219i c\u0103 e a\u0219a. Al\u021bi p\u0103rin\u021bi caut\u0103 s\u0103 rezolve avorturi la 15 ani sau s\u0103-\u0219i bage copiii la dezintoxicare la 17. E\u0219ti un tat\u0103 norocos \u0219i te felicit pentru asta. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Drag\u0103 Lorena, Te citesc de mult timp \u0219i \u00eemi placi, pentru c\u0103 o v\u0103d \u00een tine pe fata mea. E de\u0219teapt\u0103, hot\u0103r\u00e2t\u0103, a fost&#46;&#46;&#46;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":10651,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_feature_clip_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2},"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-12789","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-spicy"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/pana.jpg?fit=2800%2C2463&ssl=1","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/12789","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=12789"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/12789\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":12791,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/12789\/revisions\/12791"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/10651"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=12789"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=12789"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=12789"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}