{"id":12823,"date":"2017-06-25T12:48:23","date_gmt":"2017-06-25T09:48:23","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=12823"},"modified":"2017-06-25T12:48:23","modified_gmt":"2017-06-25T09:48:23","slug":"caut-baiat-sa-fie-neaparat-discriminare","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/caut-baiat-sa-fie-neaparat-discriminare\/","title":{"rendered":"“Caut b\u0103iat” – s\u0103 fie neap\u0103rat discriminare?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Am scris ieri despre cum s-a crizat cineva \u015fi mi-a f\u0103cut o panaram\u0103 interminabil\u0103 sub share-ul unui proiect TV unde se c\u0103uta b\u0103iat. Am explicat particularit\u0103\u0163ile acestui caz aici<\/a>. <\/p>\n

Azi mi-ar pl\u0103cea s\u0103 extindem pu\u0163in discu\u0163ia, s-o golim de con\u0163inutul personal \u015fi s\u0103 medit\u0103m un pic dac\u0103 \u00eentr-adev\u0103r e r\u0103u s\u0103 preferi s\u0103 lucrezi cu b\u0103ie\u0163i sau cu fete. <\/p>\n

Ne e u\u015for s\u0103 \u0163ip\u0103m discriminare, \u015fi dac\u0103 e s\u0103 caut, pot face un serial \u00eentreg cu “azi am fost discriminat\u0103 \u00een…, de c\u0103tre…”. \u00centr-o \u0163ar\u0103 ca Rom\u00e2nia, nici nu e greu s\u0103 fii discriminat profesionist. Dac\u0103 ies din cas\u0103 \u00eentr-o rochie mai excentric\u0103, deja m\u0103 claxoneaz\u0103 dou\u0103 ma\u015fini din trei \u015fi url\u0103 muncitorii dup\u0103 mine: “P\u0103pu\u015fa, ce bulane ai, m\u00e2nca-\u0163i-a\u015f pizda.” <\/p>\n

Trec\u00e2nd peste sentimentul natural de nedreptate pe care \u00eel sim\u0163im fiecare atunci c\u00e2nd un anun\u0163 de job, chirie sau orice alt\u0103 natur\u0103 indic\u0103 un anumit sex, hai s\u0103 fim foarte sinceri: to\u0163i prefer\u0103m s\u0103 lucr\u0103m cu un anumit sex. Unii dintre noi o \u015fi recunosc la be\u0163ie: se simt mai bine \u00een compania b\u0103ie\u0163ilor, cu umorul lor mai brutal, cu preferin\u0163a lor s\u0103 caute solu\u0163ii \u015fi cu stilul lor direct. Al\u0163ii prefer\u0103 s\u0103 lucreze cu fete, care-s mai atente, mai sensibile \u015fi mai altruiste.
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\n\u00cenc\u0103 nu c\u00e2\u015ftig at\u00e2\u0163ia bani, \u00eenc\u00e2t s\u0103-mi permit asistent fulltime, dar c\u00e2nd va veni acest moment, recunosc c\u0103 voi prefera o fat\u0103. Cu o fat\u0103 m\u0103 simt mai relaxat\u0103 \u015fi mai \u00een elementul meu. \u00cen plus, dac\u0103-i dai un task unei fete \u015fi-i spui ce vrei, femeile au o aten\u0163ie la detalii \u015fi caut\u0103 s\u0103 respecte exact ce spui, pe c\u00e2nd b\u0103rba\u0163ilor trebuie s\u0103 le repe\u0163i de opt ori ceva, \u015fi tot ca ei fac, chiar dac\u0103 sunt angaja\u0163ii t\u0103i pl\u0103ti\u0163i. \u015ei \u00een timp ce m\u0103 pot \u00eemp\u0103ca ok cu asta \u00eentr-o colaborare de la egal la egal, chit c\u0103 m\u0103 irit\u0103 pe alocuri, pe un subaltern care nu face exact ce spun l-a\u015f zbura \u00een aceea\u015fi zi. <\/p>\n

S\u0103 zicem c\u0103 un birou de avoca\u0163i caut\u0103 coleg. Cei din echip\u0103 sunt tipi, genul misogin mi\u015ftocar care face glume cu femei proaste \u015fi curve. Teoretic, da, conform legii discrimin\u0103rii, sexul noului coleg n-ar trebui s\u0103 conteze. Dar legile nu acoper\u0103 \u015fi realitatea de pe teren. C\u00e2t disconfort ar putea sim\u0163i o t\u00e2n\u0103r\u0103 \u00eenconjurat\u0103 numai de masculi \u015fi de glume de vestiar? <\/p>\n

S\u0103 zicem c\u0103 un birou de contabilitate caut\u0103 coleg. Echipa e format\u0103 din fete cochete, care-\u015fi \u015ftiu una alteia detaliile despre ciclu, colicile copiilor \u015fi c\u0103cu\u0163a lor zilnic\u0103, seriale \u015fi re\u0163ete. C\u00e2t disconfort ar putea sim\u0163i un b\u0103rbat expus la asemenea discu\u0163ii? <\/p>\n

\u00cen studen\u0163ie, m\u0103 enervau la culme anun\u0163urile de la gazde cu “Caut chiria\u015f b\u0103iat”. P\u00e2n\u0103 \u00eentr-o zi c\u00e2nd am sunat propriu-zis. Un anun\u0163 era cu o b\u0103bu\u0163\u0103 care st\u0103tea la cas\u0103 \u015fi l\u0103sa chiria mic\u0103 pentru ajutorul cu munca din curte \u015fi t\u0103iatul lemnelor. Alta era o propriet\u0103reas\u0103 care avea apartament cu patru camere, trei erau deja \u00eenchiriate unor b\u0103ie\u0163i \u015fi, firesc, era indicat ca \u015fi al patrulea s\u0103 fie tot b\u0103iat, pentru c\u0103 nu vrei s\u0103 \u015ftergi urina unor str\u0103ini de pe colacul budei. Altul era un pensionar de 68 de ani care prefera un b\u0103iat pentru c\u0103 nu se sim\u0163ea bine s\u0103 g\u0103zduiasc\u0103 o fat\u0103 “cu via\u0163a ei sexual\u0103 cu tot”. <\/p>\n

Teoretic, toate acestea sunt cazuri flagrante de discriminare. Dar hai s\u0103 facem un pas mai departe \u015fi s\u0103 \u00een\u0163elegem: noi, oamenii, avem to\u0163i, natural, preferin\u0163e, emo\u0163ii \u015fi \u00eenclina\u0163ii. \u015ei p\u00e2n\u0103 c\u00e2nd ne bag\u0103 Coali\u0163ia pentru Familie pe g\u00e2t \u015fi Poli\u0163ia Sentimentelor, e mai simplu s\u0103 \u00een\u0163elegi c\u0103, uneori, anumite joburi, situa\u0163ii de via\u0163\u0103 \u015fi trenuri nu sunt pentru tine. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Am scris ieri despre cum s-a crizat cineva \u015fi mi-a f\u0103cut o panaram\u0103 interminabil\u0103 sub share-ul unui proiect TV unde se c\u0103uta b\u0103iat. Am...<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":11870,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_feature_clip_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2},"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-12823","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-spicy"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/12\/dantela.jpg?fit=236%2C314&ssl=1","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/12823","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=12823"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/12823\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":12824,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/12823\/revisions\/12824"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=12823"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=12823"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=12823"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}