O problem\u0103 a omului t\u00e2n\u0103r, sau \u00a0adult, prins \u00een v\u00e2ltoarea vie\u0163ii urbane, este c\u0103 nu-\u015fi sun\u0103 mama s\u0103pt\u0103m\u00e2ni \u00een \u015fir. C\u0103 are treab\u0103. Are timp s\u0103 m\u0103 frece la icre pe mine pe Facebook cu pis\u0103logeal\u0103 agasant\u0103, dar n-are timp s\u0103-\u015fi sune mama. Are timp s\u0103 trimit\u0103 mesaje siropoase la 30 de femei de la care sper\u0103 sex f\u0103r\u0103 obliga\u0163ii, dar n-are timp s\u0103-\u015fi sune mama. Are timp de conversa\u0163ii lungi despre vopsea de p\u0103r cu prietenele, dar n-are timp s\u0103-\u015fi sune mama.<\/p>\n
Dac\u0103 sunte\u0163i 30plus, ca mine, mamele voastre au crescut \u00een comunism, ca a mea. Au fost educate s\u0103 aib\u0103 vise mici, s\u0103 pun\u0103 r\u0103ul \u00eenainte, \u015fi s\u0103 nu lupte pentru nimic, pentru c\u0103 e treab\u0103 de b\u0103rbat s\u0103 vrei s\u0103 fii cineva. De aceea, au c\u0103utat s\u0103 v\u0103 educe \u015fi pe voi s\u0103 fi\u0163i cumin\u0163i \u015fi c\u00e2t mai \u015fterse, s\u0103 nu ie\u015fi\u0163i \u00een eviden\u0163\u0103, c\u0103 eviden\u0163a e pentru curve \u015fi nebune.<\/p>\n
E posibil s\u0103 v\u0103 fi \u0163inut \u00een interdic\u0163ii \u015fi b\u0103taie, c\u0103 a\u015fa era parentingul epocii. Copilul nu era o poten\u0163ial\u0103 fiin\u0163\u0103 uman\u0103, ci un c\u0103c\u0103\u0163el f\u0103r\u0103 valoare, care s\u0103 fac\u0103 bine s\u0103-mi execute ordinele, c\u0103 dac\u0103 nu, vede el pe dracu’.<\/p>\n
Dar nu doar parentingul func\u0163iona a\u015fa, ci \u00eentreaga societate. Erai dresat s\u0103 fii maleabil \u015fi ductil, \u0163i se extirpa prin mi\u015ftouri orice urm\u0103 de originalitate \u015fi \u0163i se inducea supunerea.<\/p>\n
Practic, noi am avut \u015fansa uria\u015f\u0103 ca, de mici, s\u0103 ne pomenim \u00eentr-o lume a altor reguli. Mamele noastre nu au avut privilegiul \u0103sta.<\/p>\n
Ele erau instruite s\u0103 \u00eendure orice abuz de avea chef sula care le de\u0163inea \u015fi le slug\u0103rea. Era normal ca dup\u0103 opt ore de munc\u0103 prestat\u0103 de ambii, tat\u0103l s\u0103 vin\u0103 acas\u0103 \u015fi s\u0103 zac\u0103 pe canapea, \u00een timp ce mama \u00eenc\u0103lzea m\u00e2ncarea, d\u0103dea cu aspiratorul, sp\u0103la faian\u0163a \u015fi a\u015fa mai departe.<\/p>\n
Mamele noastre au avut vie\u0163i ur\u00e2te \u015fi lipsite de oportunit\u0103\u0163i. Chiar dac\u0103 acestea ap\u0103reau, au fost educate s\u0103 nu profite de ele, c\u0103 o femeie cuminte se mul\u0163ume\u015fte cu pu\u0163in \u015fi are vise mici.<\/p>\n
Mamele noastre \u015fi-au irosit vie\u0163ile, pentru c\u0103 li s-a extirpat stima de sine.<\/p>\n
Tocmai de aceea, c\u00e2nd ave\u0163i timp, suna\u0163i-v\u0103 mamele \u015fi vorbi\u0163i cu ele. De\u015fi nu au \u015ftiut s\u0103 v\u0103 ofere ce v-ar fi trebuit, ci strict ce pretindea societatea comunist\u0103 de la voi, voi sunte\u0163i singurul lucru care le aduce bucurie. Voi ave\u0163i puterea s\u0103 le face\u0163i fericite pentru zece minute.<\/p>\n
Iar dac\u0103 ai puterea de a ferici o persoan\u0103, folose\u015fte-te de ea. E singura superputere disponibil\u0103 muritorului de r\u00e2nd, ca mine \u015fi ca tine.<\/p>\n
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