Azi diminea\u0163\u0103, st\u0103team de vorb\u0103 cu mama la telefon. \u015ei, pe la final, promi\u0163\u00e2ndu-i c\u0103 \u00eei rezolv o mic\u0103 problem\u0103 cu cineva nesim\u0163it, i-am zis \u00een glum\u0103: “OK, dau eu aceast\u0103 muie \u00een numele t\u0103u, dar trebuie s\u0103 cre\u015fti mare \u015fi s\u0103 \u00eencepi s\u0103-\u0163i dai propriile mui.” <\/p>\n
Glum\u0103, glum\u0103, dar \u00een ultima perioad\u0103 primesc exagerat de multe mesaje private de la oameni care se vaiet\u0103. De ce a zis X, de ce a zis Y, de ce fac X \u015fi Y, de cum se poart\u0103 X \u015fi Y \u015fi de ce comenteaz\u0103 X \u015fi Y pe net. <\/p>\n
Da, \u015ftiu, \u0163in un blog care dedic\u0103 mult spa\u0163iu \u015fi timp fiin\u0163elor abuzate, dar trebuie s\u0103 ne \u00een\u0163elegem: eu pot doar s\u0103-\u0163i spun s\u0103 renun\u0163i la zah\u0103r \u015fi pr\u0103jeli, nu \u0163i le pot extirpa cu toporul din diet\u0103. Munca trebuie s-o faci tu. Schimbarea de atitudine care s\u0103 nu mai dea ap\u0103 la moar\u0103 altora s\u0103 se \u015ftearg\u0103 la anus cu tine trebuie s-o faci tu. <\/p>\n
Nu rezolv\u0103m nimic \u00een fa\u0163a nesim\u0163irii dac\u0103 st\u0103m s\u0103 o \u00eenghi\u0163im ca oile, apoi d\u0103m mesaj privat Lorenei s\u0103 ne pl\u00e2ngem, \u00een timp ce noi \u00een\u015fine NU FACEM NIMIC.
\nDac\u0103 ai o problem\u0103 c\u0103 altul \u00ee\u0163i \u00eencalc\u0103 “boundaries” sau te insult\u0103, AC\u0162IONEAZ\u0102, \u00een pula mea. Ia-i mor\u0163ii \u00een pul\u0103 direct. Nu mi te pl\u00e2nge mie. Spune “nu!” \u015fi ai \u00een tine coaiele s\u0103 impui acel “nu”. Stabile\u015fte reguli clare \u00een limita c\u0103rora accep\u0163i s\u0103 fii solicitat(\u0103) de al\u0163ii, \u015fi nu l\u0103sa \u0163\u0103r\u0103nia \u015fi tehnicile de manipulare s\u0103 \u0163i le calce \u00een picioare. Spune clar ce vrei \u00een schimbul a ce \u0163i se pretinde \u015fi \u0163ine cu tine \u00eens\u0103\u0163i. <\/p>\n
Nu te mai chinui s\u0103 pari o doamn\u0103 cu oameni care nu te trateaz\u0103 ca pe una. Nu exist\u0103 “a ignora”. Dac\u0103, dup\u0103 ce cineva \u0163i-a f\u0103cut o idio\u0163enie \u015fi nu i-ai r\u0103spuns, \u00eemi dai mie mesaj privat \u015fi mi te pl\u00e2ngi, \u00eenseamn\u0103 c\u0103 ignore-ul t\u0103u a fost fals. <\/p>\n
Unii suntem flegmatici \u015fi avem o \u00eenclina\u0163ie natural\u0103 s\u0103 nu ne pese, al\u0163ii suntem colerici (zodii de foc, deh) \u015fi ne irit\u0103 lucruri. Respect\u0103-\u0163i temperamentul, iar dac\u0103 el \u00ee\u0163i cere s\u0103 fu\u0163i mama idiotului, fute-i mama idiotului. Dac\u0103 REAL \u0163i se f\u00e2lf\u00e2ie, atunci f\u00e2lf\u00e2ie-te cu talent. Dar c\u00e2nd nu \u0163i se f\u00e2lf\u00e2ie real, lipsa ta de reac\u0163ie constituie comportament de oi\u0163\u0103 pasiv\u0103. \u015ei gunoiul uman va reveni. Va reveni pentru c\u0103 a constatat c\u0103 \u0163ine figura. Faptul c\u0103 mi te vaie\u0163i mie nu schimb\u0103 asta, at\u00e2ta timp c\u00e2t nu AC\u0162IONEZI CONCRET. <\/p>\n
E via\u0163a ta. Nu am cum s-o tr\u0103iesc eu pentru tine. Nu am cum s\u0103 fac eu abdomene s\u0103 sl\u0103be\u015fti tu, nu am cum s\u0103 m\u0103 fut eu s\u0103 ai tu orgasm, \u015fi nu am cum s\u0103 stau eu la plaj\u0103 s\u0103 te bronzezi tu.
\nPot doar s\u0103 te \u00eenv\u0103\u0163 s\u0103 pescuie\u015fti. S\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i ofer pove\u015fti ale unor oameni care au gre\u015fit \u00een pescuit, sau ale unora care pescuiesc cu succes. Dar omul care ia undi\u0163a \u00een m\u00e2n\u0103 \u015fi r\u00e2me \u00een rucsac trebuie s\u0103 fii tu. <\/p>\n
Foto: Bogdan Panait. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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