{"id":13067,"date":"2017-08-11T13:24:16","date_gmt":"2017-08-11T10:24:16","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=13067"},"modified":"2017-08-11T13:24:16","modified_gmt":"2017-08-11T10:24:16","slug":"tabara-de-masculinitate-lorena-lupu-episodul-i","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/tabara-de-masculinitate-lorena-lupu-episodul-i\/","title":{"rendered":"Tab\u0103ra de Masculinitate “Lorena Lupu”, episodul I"},"content":{"rendered":"

Acum ceva vreme am scris un text despre cum ni\u015fte pule\u0163i jenan\u0163i au preten\u0163ia s\u0103-i \u00eenve\u0163e pe naivi cum s\u0103 fie “b\u0103rba\u0163i adev\u0103ra\u0163i” (adic\u0103 giboni obraznici \u015fi h\u0103r\u0163uitori, care nu \u00een\u0163eleg c\u0103 nu le datorezi nimic, drept care te freac\u0103 la icre p\u00e2n\u0103-i \u00eenjuri \u015fi le dai block). Link<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Politica asta de “b\u0103rb\u0103\u0163ie adev\u0103rat\u0103” are dezavantajele ei, \u00een sensul c\u0103, dac\u0103 enervezi prea multe femei care nu-\u0163i datoreaz\u0103 nimic \u015fi care n-au timp \u015fi chef de genul \u0103sta de bullshit, la un moment dat nimere\u015fti pe una care \u0163i-ar fi putut fi avocat, sau contabil, sau directorul firmei la care mergi tu s\u0103-\u0163i depui CV-ul \u015fi vei lua muia de rigoare. \u015ei c\u0103, dac\u0103 nu ai pornirea aia dictat\u0103 de decen\u0163\u0103 \u015fi bun\u0103 cre\u015ftere, s\u0103 nu abuzezi de timpul \u015fi r\u0103bdarea str\u0103inilor, de parc\u0103 ar fi prietenii t\u0103i din fa\u0163a blocului, m\u0103car g\u00e2nde\u015fte-te la consecin\u0163e pe termen lung.<\/p>\n

\u015ei m-am oferit \u00een glum\u0103 s\u0103 fac Tab\u0103ra de Masculinitate “Lorena Lupu”, unde s\u0103-i \u00eenv\u0103\u0163 pe b\u0103rba\u0163i s\u0103 fie ni\u015fte fiin\u0163e pe care femeile s\u0103 fie \u00eenc\u00e2ntate \u015fi onorate s\u0103 le aib\u0103 \u00een jur, nu ni\u015fte muscoi b\u00e2z\u00e2itori penibili, pe care trebuie s\u0103-i amu\u0163e\u015fti cu pliciul, c\u0103 te deranjeaz\u0103 zgomotul de fond monoton.<\/p>\n

Evident, tab\u0103ra de masculinitate n-o voi face, dar facem un serial. Cu mesaje private ridicole. S\u0103 vede\u0163i cum s\u0103 nu v\u0103 purta\u0163i.<\/p>\n

Azi, exhibit 1.<\/p>\n

Pizda masculin\u0103 melodramatic\u0103\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

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Individul \u0103sta era \u00een lista mea de mult timp, dar nu interac\u0163ionasem niciodat\u0103. Cred c\u0103 juca Farmville pe vremuri, \u015fi aveam \u015fi eu o gr\u0103din\u0103 mic\u0103, dar nu-mi recoltam niciodat\u0103 gr\u00e2nele. Oricum, puteai primi greble, sape \u015fi muie cu din\u0163i de la mine, sau a\u015fa ceva.<\/p>\n

Eu sunt blogger, autor \u015fi actor, deci evenimentac. Dau accept relativ u\u015for, \u00een m\u0103sura locurilor libere, dar conversa\u0163ia lung\u0103 \u015fi plicticoas\u0103 pe privat nu e \u00een superofert\u0103. De aceea, \u00eentreb ce pot face pentru tine, s\u0103 v\u0103d dac\u0103 discu\u0163ia are vreun subiect constructiv, iar dac\u0103 n-are, \u00ee\u0163i explic c\u0103 nu servim tranca-fleanca \u00een acest local \u015fi mult\u0103 s\u0103n\u0103tate.<\/p>\n

Ini\u0163ial, individul mi-a zis c\u0103 “face curat”, ceea ce pentru mine e absolut \u00een regul\u0103. Nu e cititor \u00een limba rom\u00e2n\u0103, nu am ce s\u0103-i ofer, poate \u0163ine locul cuiva realmente interesat de con\u0163inutul meu.<\/p>\n

Dup\u0103 ce i-am zis frumos s\u0103 mearg\u0103 cu Domnul \u015fi cele bune, a \u00eenceput tot el cu melodrama: c\u0103 vai, tu d\u0103deai statusuri despre pace, fericire \u015fi prietenie.<\/p>\n

Dac\u0103 vre\u0163i s\u0103 fi\u0163i percepu\u0163i ca b\u0103rba\u0163i, nu ca zdren\u0163e, nu face\u0163i asta. A\u0163i anun\u0163at c\u0103 vre\u0163i s\u0103 v\u0103 c\u0103ra\u0163i, vi s-a zis ok, atunci da\u0163i unfriend \u00een lini\u015fte \u015fi l\u0103sa\u0163i-l pe cel\u0103lalt \u00een pace.<\/p>\n

Nimic nu strig\u0103 “low status male”, aka pulifrici, ca lipsa de respect pentru timpul altuia. Un high status male \u015ftie c\u0103 timpul \u00eenseamn\u0103 bani, \u015ftie c\u0103 nimeni nu-i datoreaz\u0103 absolut nimic, \u015fi nu se apuc\u0103 s\u0103 abuzeze de timpul unui necunoscut cu “vai, dar ai dat statusuri despre iubire \u015fi marasm”.<\/p>\n

\u015ei dac\u0103 am dat statusuri despre iubire \u015fi marasm, ce? M-a angajat Facebook s\u0103 ofer consiliere psihologic\u0103 moca oricui n-are ocupa\u0163ie?<\/p>\n

Deci, lec\u0163ia de masculinitate nr. 1 este: Nu fi\u0163i pizda asta patetic\u0103 \u015fi penibil\u0103.<\/p>\n

I-am dat block din secunda \u00een care a \u00eenceput s\u0103 se vaiete \u015fi s\u0103 pretind\u0103. Apoi mi-am amintit r\u00e2z\u00e2nd cum misoginii spun c\u0103 b\u0103rba\u0163ii sunt cei ra\u0163ionali \u015fi femeile dramatizeaz\u0103. \u0102sta nu dramatiza ceva ce promisesem s\u0103 fac \u015fi n-am f\u0103cut, cum se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 \u00een cupluri. \u0102sta dramatiza ceva ce nu m\u0103 obligasem niciodat\u0103 s\u0103 fac. Adic\u0103, nivelul ultim de dram\u0103 f\u0103r\u0103 rost \u015fi de miz\u0103 zero.<\/p>\n

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