{"id":13399,"date":"2017-09-27T09:54:12","date_gmt":"2017-09-27T06:54:12","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=13399"},"modified":"2017-09-27T09:54:12","modified_gmt":"2017-09-27T06:54:12","slug":"goana-dupa-tinerete","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/goana-dupa-tinerete\/","title":{"rendered":"Goana dup\u0103 tinere\u0163e"},"content":{"rendered":"

Ieri, Facebookul s-a \u00eemp\u0103r\u0163it \u00een dou\u0103 mari tabere. Cei care o atacau cu furie pe p\u0103pu\u015fa videochatist\u0103 de la inspectorat – c\u0103 e vulgar\u0103, c\u0103 e tencuit\u0103, c\u0103 e botoxat\u0103 \u00een exces. \u015ei cei care o ap\u0103rau. C\u0103 n-o cunoa\u015ftem pe doamna, c\u0103 ar trebui s\u0103-i acord\u0103m prezum\u0163ia nevinov\u0103\u0163iei \u015fi c\u0103, poate, sub teancurile de fard, se ascunde o inim\u0103 sensibil\u0103.
\nApoi au ap\u0103rut pozele cu eroina zilei. A\u015fa cum arat\u0103 ea \u00een realitate. La onorabila v\u00e2rst\u0103 de 41 de ani. S\u0103 mai privim o dat\u0103. <\/p>\n

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Vedem o femeie matur\u0103, ce-i drept, cam plinu\u0163\u0103, cu vreo dou\u0103 opera\u0163ii estetice evidente, dar dr\u0103gu\u0163\u0103. \u00centrebarea care se ridic\u0103 este: ce anume o \u00eempinge pe aceast\u0103 femeie matur\u0103, frumoas\u0103 la modul copt, matur, specific v\u00e2rstei, s\u0103 posteze imagini modificate \u00een a\u015fa fel \u00eenc\u00e2t s\u0103 par\u0103 o zv\u00e2rlug\u0103 sexy la v\u00e2rsta debutului pe Chaturbate?
\nPe cine sper\u0103 s\u0103 p\u0103c\u0103leasc\u0103 \u015fi cu ce scop?
\nDe ce aceast\u0103 spaim\u0103 paralizant\u0103 de adev\u0103rata ei v\u00e2rst\u0103 \u015fi de ce aceast\u0103 nevoie de a cultiva public o imagine care, \u00een mod vizibil, n-o mai reprezint\u0103 de minimum 15 ani?
\n“Cum de ce?” o aud parc\u0103 pe cititoarea mea. “Tu nu \u015ftii c\u0103, pe vremea lui Ceau\u015fescu, dac\u0103 treceai de 40 de ani, erai oficial pe moarte? Iar dup\u0103 Revolu\u0163ie, dac\u0103 treceai de 40 de ani, nu te mai angaja nici dracu’?”
\nE un mit pe care mare parte din societatea rom\u00e2neasc\u0103 \u00eel perpetueaz\u0103. Faptul c\u0103 femeia e valoroas\u0103 doar c\u00e2t timp e t\u00e2n\u0103r\u0103 \u015fi dezirabil\u0103 sexual.
\nUna dintre cele mai retardate \u00eentreb\u0103ri pe care le-am primit vreodat\u0103 \u00eentr-un interviu au fost: “Toate femeile ar trebui s\u0103 moar\u0103 la 25 de ani – \u0163i se pare o jignire sau un compliment?” Aveam 27. \u00cen mintea idiotului care \u00eentreba, ar fi trebuit s\u0103 fiu moart\u0103 de doi ani. I-am \u015fi atras aten\u0163ia: “\u015etii c\u0103 eu am 27?” “Aoleeeu, scuze, credeam c\u0103 ai 23. Nu mi-am dat seama, \u0103vai!”
\nChiar dac\u0103 societatea nu condamn\u0103 la moarte femeile la 25 de ani, tinde s\u0103 pedepseasc\u0103 aspru, s\u0103 saboteze \u015fi s\u0103 boicoteze b\u0103tr\u00e2ne\u0163ea. De parc\u0103 ar fi o crim\u0103 de neiertat. De la pu\u0163opalmi\u015fti care te iau cu vr\u0103jeal\u0103 toxic\u0103 de tip “Profit\u0103 de mine acum, c\u00e2t ar\u0103\u0163i bine, c\u0103 \u00een cinci ani o s\u0103 fii b\u0103tr\u00e2n\u0103 \u015fi nu mai pupi ocazia” (prilej s\u0103 le r\u0103spund c\u0103 eu nu cotrob\u0103i prin gunoaie la nicio v\u00e2rst\u0103) \u015fi p\u00e2n\u0103 la angajatori care resping CV-uri perfect valide, doar pentru c\u0103 persoana a trecut de v\u00e2rsta la care li se pare lor multifunc\u0163ional\u0103. \u015ei, cum constata o alt\u0103 prieten\u0103, care lucreaz\u0103 \u00een Resurse Umane: “Mai ales femeile au obiceiul \u0103sta, s\u0103-\u015fi modifice CV-ul. S\u0103 scad\u0103 5 – 10 ani. Ce uit\u0103 \u00een schimb s\u0103 modifice e data \u015fcolilor. \u015ei descoperi cu amuzament cum candidata a dat bacul la opt ani\u015fori, \u00een timp ce se juca cu lop\u0103\u0163ica-n \u0163\u0103r\u00e2n\u0103.” <\/p>\n

Timpul trece pentru toat\u0103 lumea \u015fi anii se adun\u0103. E ridicol s\u0103 pretinzi c\u0103 ai 25 de ani, c\u00e2nd tu ai 50. Iar percep\u0163ia eronat\u0103 legat\u0103 de v\u00e2rsta femeii \u015fi lucrurile de care ea este \u00een stare se poate elimina nu prin mun\u0163i de photoshop \u015fi minciuni, ci prin asumarea cinstit\u0103 a ceea ce suntem \u015fi a calit\u0103\u0163ilor cu care o femeie este \u00eenzestrat\u0103, la cei 40 de ani ai ei. <\/p>\n

De aceea, v\u0103 invit pe voi, cititoarele trecute de 40 de ani, s\u0103-mi spune\u0163i pove\u015fti de oameni maturi, care se accept\u0103 ca atare \u015fi care-s m\u00e2ndri de v\u00e2rsta lor \u015fi de tot ce au f\u0103cut. Nu e vina ta c\u0103 nu mai ai 20 de ani, \u015fi nu ai nici un motiv s\u0103 pretinzi c\u0103 ai \u00een\u0163epenit \u00een tinere\u0163ea f\u0103r\u0103 b\u0103tr\u00e2ne\u0163e \u015fi via\u0163a f\u0103r\u0103 de moarte.
\n\u00cembr\u0103\u0163i\u015feaz\u0103-\u0163i v\u00e2rsta. Ea \u0163i-a dat \u00een\u0163elepciune, echilibru \u015fi experien\u0163\u0103. Lucruri despre care vrem s\u0103 afl\u0103m \u015fi noi.
\nV\u0103 mul\u0163umesc. \ud83d\ude42 <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Ieri, Facebookul s-a \u00eemp\u0103r\u0163it \u00een dou\u0103 mari tabere. Cei care o atacau cu furie pe p\u0103pu\u015fa videochatist\u0103 de la inspectorat – c\u0103 e vulgar\u0103,...<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":13400,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_feature_clip_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2},"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-13399","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-spicy"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/09\/violeta_varga.jpg?fit=840%2C455&ssl=1","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/13399","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=13399"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/13399\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":13402,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/13399\/revisions\/13402"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/13400"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=13399"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=13399"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=13399"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}