Timi\u015foara e ora\u015ful \u00een care vreau s\u0103 m\u0103 mut la b\u0103tr\u00e2ne\u0163e. E combina\u0163ia perfect\u0103 \u00eentre animat \u015fi cosmopolit, pe de o parte, \u015fi lentoare relaxat\u0103, pe de alta. \u015ei are \u015fi b\u0103rba\u0163i extrem de frumo\u015fi, \u00eenal\u0163i, brune\u0163i \u015fi cu pielea alb\u0103, dar probabil c\u0103 la b\u0103tr\u00e2ne\u0163e, aspectul \u0103sta n-o s\u0103 m\u0103 intereseze. Nici m\u0103car dac\u0103 o s\u0103-mi cump\u0103ra\u0163i c\u0103r\u0163ile \u00een cantit\u0103\u0163i industriale \u015fi m\u0103 face\u0163i miliardar\u0103. \u00cemi voi investi banii \u00een ad\u0103posturi pentru femei abuzate. <\/p>\n
Apropo de femei abuzate: ieri aproape c\u0103 m-a lin\u015fat muieretul militant pentru c\u0103 am \u00eendr\u0103znit un status \u00een care spuneam urm\u0103toarele: “\u00cenc\u0103 n-am \u00eent\u00e2lnit un b\u0103rbat care s\u0103 trag\u0103 de mine \u015fi pe care s\u0103 nu-l pot repezi cu un mar\u015f \u00een mor\u0163ii m\u0103-tii.”
\nAdic\u0103 ce vrei s\u0103 spui, c\u0103 noi merit\u0103m violate \u015fi c\u0103 b\u0103rba\u0163ii au dreptate s\u0103 ne violeze???? Adic\u0103 noi suntem mai proaste????? Adic\u0103 ne desconsideri pentru c\u0103 ne-am dus la Gogu acas\u0103 f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103-l cunoa\u015ftem, ne-am dat chilo\u0163ii jos \u015fi exact c\u00e2nd a b\u0103gat capul \u00een\u0103untru, ne-am g\u00e2ndit c\u0103 nu vrem, \u015fi el nu s-a prins sau ceva de genul? Adic\u0103 etc. etc. etc.? <\/p>\n
Nu, coaie. Nici o femeie nu merit\u0103 h\u0103r\u0163uit\u0103, violat\u0103, agasat\u0103. Nu e normal s\u0103 \u0163i se cear\u0103 favoruri sexuale pentru un loc de munc\u0103, nu e normal s\u0103 fii bruscat\u0103 de vecini c\u00e2nd ie\u015fi din bloc, nu e normal s\u0103 te streseze un bou pe Facebook dup\u0103 ce i-ai explicat rom\u00e2ne\u015fte c\u0103 dac\u0103 te interesa sexul random cu necunoscu\u0163i, \u00ee\u0163i deschideai bordel \u00een centru. <\/p>\n
Dar singurul lucru pe care nu-l v\u0103d \u00een aceast\u0103 vale a v\u0103ic\u0103relii care a fost Facebook ieri e identificarea de solu\u0163ii. Ce am putea face \u00een caz c\u0103 ne deranjeaz\u0103 cineva.
\n“Dar s\u0103 nu ne deranjeze!”
\nCe frumos ar fi s\u0103 nu ne deranjeze. N-a\u015f avea o list\u0103 de block mai lung\u0103 dec\u00e2t cea de prieteni. <\/p>\n
Numai c\u0103, din p\u0103cate, lumea aia ideal\u0103 \u00een care e\u015fti tratat\u0103 ca un om care nu datoreaz\u0103 nimic nim\u0103nui nu e Rom\u00e2nia zilelor noastre. \u015ei o l\u0103b\u0103r\u0163are a v\u0103ic\u0103relii interminabile mi se pare de o ineficien\u0163\u0103 cras\u0103. Mai mult, mi se pare c\u0103 accentueaz\u0103 sentimentul neputin\u0163ei \u015fi al incapacit\u0103\u0163ii de a ie\u015fi din rahat. <\/p>\n
Pe de alt\u0103 parte, mor\u0163ii de mam\u0103 sunt un remediu ieftin \u015fi la \u00eendem\u00e2n\u0103. Au un poten\u0163ial de culcare a av\u00e2ntului de coco\u015fei viteji \u015fi bengo\u015fi de nu-\u0163i vine s\u0103 crezi. “Da, Lorena, dar n-o s\u0103 mai fiu o duamn\u0103.” De ce s\u0103 fii o duamn\u0103 cu unu’ care nu e duomn cu tine? Nu mai risipi m\u0103rg\u0103ritare \u00een troaca porcilor \u015fi rezerv\u0103-\u0163i amabilitatea celor care o merit\u0103. <\/p>\n
Aveam 12 ani c\u00e2nd a \u00eencercat unu’ din vecini, \u00een fa\u0163a blocului, s\u0103 m\u0103 trag\u0103 de s\u00e2ni. Nu \u015ftiu de unde, din panic\u0103 \u015fi fric\u0103, am prins putere. \u015ei i-am tras un \u015fut \u00een coaie de mi-a dat drumul pe loc. Apoi i-am \u015fuierat, pe o voce pe care nu \u015ftiam c\u0103 o am: “C\u00e2rp\u0103 murdar\u0103, dac\u0103 mai pui o m\u00e2n\u0103 pe mine, vin la tine acas\u0103 \u015fi te sufoc cu o pern\u0103 \u00een somn.”
\n\u00cen urma acestei interac\u0163iuni, nu m-am sim\u0163it slab\u0103. M-am sim\u0163it puternic\u0103. Am sim\u0163it prima oar\u0103, la 12 ani, c\u0103 pot strivi fizic coaiele oric\u0103rui c\u0103cat cu ochi care va \u00eendr\u0103zni vreodat\u0103 s\u0103 pun\u0103 m\u00e2na pe mine f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103-i indic eu clar c\u0103 e cazul. A fost un sentiment de beatitudine. <\/p>\n
\u015ei cred c\u0103 dac\u0103 nu ne-am concentra at\u00e2t de tare s\u0103 p\u0103rem “duamne” \u015fi “finu\u0163e”, ci s\u0103 le futem to\u0163i Dumnezeii, mare parte dintre ei s-ar l\u0103sa de h\u0103r\u0163uit. <\/p>\n
C\u0103 n-am povestit niciodat\u0103 acest episod nim\u0103nui? \u015eti\u0163i c\u00e2ntecul \u0103la cu “Bitch, I’m Madonna”? Bitch, I’m Lorena. Actri\u0163\u0103, scriitoare, om cu lucruri mari \u015fi frumoase de f\u0103cut. Nu victima tentativei de viol a lui Gogu C\u0103cat, un irelevant distrus ratat care are exact zero importan\u0163\u0103 \u00een via\u0163a mea. <\/p>\n
De aceea expediez \u015fi \u00eentreb\u0103rile cu “Ce crezi despre haterii t\u0103i?” Onest, sincer, mi se f\u00e2lf\u00e2ie apoteotic de ei. Nu-mi pas\u0103. Nu le aloc timp de g\u00e2ndire. \u00cei consider cantitate neglijabil\u0103. Terci \u00een form\u0103 accidental uman\u0103. V\u0103 pas\u0103 ce crede despre voi ambalajul de la chips, dup\u0103 ce-l arunca\u0163i la gunoi? Cam at\u00e2t \u00eemi pas\u0103 mie de \u0103\u015ftia. <\/p>\n
Sigur, trebuie f\u0103cut lobby pentru legi antiviol \u015fi pedepse antiviol. Dar ob\u0163ii toate astea v\u0103ic\u0103rindu-te pe Facebook? Nu. Le ob\u0163ii cu pl\u00e2ngeri la poli\u0163ie. Multe pl\u00e2ngeri la poli\u0163ie. Cu probe, cu IML, cu tot tac\u00e2mul. Ca Gogu s\u0103 pl\u0103teasc\u0103 CONCRET pentru faptele lui. <\/p>\n
Altminteri, cred c\u0103 nu exist\u0103 femeie \u00een \u0163ara noastr\u0103 care s\u0103 nu fi fost acostat\u0103, insultat\u0103, jignit\u0103, h\u0103r\u0163uit\u0103. A\u015fa e \u0163ara, a\u015fa-s mentalit\u0103\u0163ile. P\u00e2n\u0103 se schimb\u0103, trebuie s\u0103 fie alegerea ta s\u0103 nu fii victima \u00eemprejur\u0103rilor, ci omul care ia decizii puternice \u015fi con\u015ftiente, \u015fi \u00ee\u015fi cunoa\u015fte valoarea. <\/p>\n
\u00cen seara asta, vom fi la English Pub din Lugoj, la 19.30, cu Henrieta Szabo \u015fi Lavinia C\u0103lina. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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