S\u0103pt\u0103m\u00e2na trecut\u0103 \u00eenc\u0103 eram pe drumuri c\u00e2nd am v\u0103zut fugitiv articolul absolut oripilant din Ziarul Financiar \u015fi n-am avut timp fizic s\u0103 m\u0103 iau de el cum se cuvine.<\/p>\n
Ideea de baz\u0103 a textului era simpl\u0103: c\u0103 au ap\u0103rut c\u0103l\u0103toriile low-cost \u015fi multe alte lucruri frumoase, \u015fi din cauza asta, natalitatea e mic\u0103. C\u0103 femeile sunt de vin\u0103 c\u0103 vor s\u0103 se simt\u0103 oameni, s\u0103 tr\u0103iasc\u0103, s\u0103 viziteze lumea, s\u0103 experimenteze via\u0163a, \u00een loc s\u0103 treac\u0103 instant la f\u0103tat, ca ni\u015fte animale de pr\u0103sil\u0103 ce se afl\u0103. \u015ei \u00een loc s\u0103 aleag\u0103 \u00eenc\u0103 de pe b\u0103ncile \u015fcolii s\u0103 duc\u0103 ni\u015fte vie\u0163i goale de orice satisfac\u0163ie personal\u0103, de orice scop individual, de orice vis al lor, nesim\u0163itele dracu’ \u00ee\u015fi permit s\u0103-\u015fi doreasc\u0103 s\u0103 tr\u0103iasc\u0103 acest scurt periplu p\u0103m\u00e2ntean numit via\u0163\u0103 bucur\u00e2ndu-se de tot ce se poate descoperi.
\nDesigur, individul n-o s\u0103 scrie niciodat\u0103 un articol \u00een care s\u0103 \u00eentrebe: “Dat cu aspiratorul sau o pozi\u0163ie de CEO \u00eentr-o companie de top”, referindu-se la b\u0103rba\u0163i, pentru c\u0103 simpla compara\u0163ie de termeni e ilar\u0103 \u015fi stupid\u0103. Evident c\u0103 orice individ cu minimum un neuron func\u0163ional o s\u0103 aleag\u0103 lucrul care-l avantajeaz\u0103 cu adev\u0103rat, a\u015fa cum e firesc s\u0103 fie, \u015fi datul cu aspiratorul poate s\u0103-l fac\u0103 \u015fi tanti Lenu\u0163a, pe care o chemi o dat\u0103 pe s\u0103pt\u0103m\u00e2n\u0103. Nici m\u0103car nu se pun pe acela\u015fi plan: datul cu aspiratorul sau cariera de CEO. Dec\u00e2t s\u0103 renun\u0163i la o carier\u0103 de succes, preferi s\u0103 dispar\u0103 aspiratorul ca unealt\u0103 \u015fi s\u0103 ui\u0163i c\u0103 exist\u0103. Normal.
\n\u015ei atunci, de ce se presupune c\u0103 femeile, doar pentru c\u0103-s femei, ar trebui s\u0103 fie mai fraiere?<\/p>\n
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Serios, v\u0103 dau eu un mod de a proteja natalitatea. Singurul func\u0163ional.
\nNatalitatea se poate proteja \u00eencet\u00e2nd s\u0103 mai agasezi femeile cu construc\u021bia acestei opozi\u0163ii fioroase \u00eentre lucrurile necesare pentru \u00eemplinirea unui om (cariera \u015fi hobby-urile, ca de exemplu c\u0103l\u0103toriile) \u015fi disponibilitatea de a te \u00eempui. C\u00e2nd pui problema la modul “disponibilitatea de a f\u0103ta e opus\u0103 tuturor lucrurilor frumoase din via\u0163\u0103”, te asiguri TAMAN de faptul c\u0103 maternitatea va fi mai indezirabil\u0103 ca niciodat\u0103.
\nNatalitatea se poate proteja \u00eencet\u00e2nd s\u0103 h\u0103r\u0163uie\u015fti mintal femeile legat de “rolul lor biologic”. Democra\u0163ia \u015fi libertatea implic\u0103 un lucru: c\u0103 nu le po\u0163i spune altora cum s\u0103 tr\u0103iasc\u0103. Nu e treaba ta ce face femeia X. Nu e treaba ta \u00een ce mod simte ea s\u0103-\u015fi \u00eemplineasc\u0103 via\u0163a. Iar un om care \u015fi-a tocit coatele pe banca \u015fcolii de mic va avea exact zero r\u0103bdare s\u0103-i poeste\u015fti tu care crezi c\u0103 \u00eei e “rolul biologic”.
\nEu, una, am refuzat s\u0103 \u00eenv\u0103\u0163 s\u0103 g\u0103tesc p\u00e2n\u0103 dup\u0103 30 de ani, dintr-un singur motiv: o sumedenie de cretini au \u00eencercat s\u0103 m\u0103 trimit\u0103 la crati\u0163\u0103.
\nDac\u0103 sumedenia asta de cretini \u015fi-ar fi \u0163inut r\u00e2tul, pur \u015fi simplu, \u015fi \u015fi-ar fi v\u0103zut de simulacrele lor jalnice de vie\u0163i, probabil c\u0103 la ora asta g\u0103team de rupeam buc\u0103t\u0103ria. G\u0103titul \u00een sine e un hobby pl\u0103cut, s\u0103n\u0103tos, care te ajut\u0103 s\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i introduci \u00een corp nutrien\u0163ii adecva\u0163i, prepara\u0163i \u00eentr-un mod care s\u0103-i combine corect. Acest adev\u0103r are exact zero leg\u0103tur\u0103 cu detaliul anatomic care \u00eemi d\u0103 prima cifr\u0103 din buletin, de vreme ce nutri\u0163ia corect\u0103 e recomandat\u0103 ambelor sexe.
\nAm refuzat s\u0103 fac copii \u00een tot acest timp pentru c\u0103 nu m\u0103 intereseaz\u0103 “rolul biologic” desenat de aceia\u015fi idio\u0163i. E un rol care nu include dec\u00e2t un munte de obliga\u0163ii \u015fi absolut zero drepturi. “S\u0103 fii o remorc\u0103 cuminte, s\u0103 fii mereu pe locul 100 \u00een propria ta via\u0163\u0103, s\u0103 nu iei decizii \u00een leg\u0103tur\u0103 cu tine, s\u0103 slug\u0103re\u015fti un prost nerecunosc\u0103tor, s\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i distrugi corpul d\u00e2nd na\u015ftere, apoi s\u0103-i auzi pe to\u0163i idio\u0163ii coment\u00e2nd c\u0103 te-ai \u00eengr\u0103\u015fat \u015fi c\u0103 nu mai ar\u0103\u0163i ca \u00eenainte”. OK, \u015fi drepturile care sunt? “Cum care sunt? Nimic!”
\nMersi, dar nu, mersi. \u0162ine-\u0163i “rolul biologic” pentru tine \u015fi m\u0103-ta.<\/p>\n
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\u00cen general, dup\u0103 ce ajunge la un nivel de stabilitate profesional-emo\u0163ional\u0103 (\u015fi nu \u00een ultimul r\u00e2nd financiar\u0103), omul, de orice sex ar fi el, se lini\u015fte\u015fte \u015fi-\u015fi alege singur momentul \u00een care s\u0103 lase urma\u015fi. \u015ei ce diferen\u0163\u0103 e \u00eentre p\u0103rintele fericit, care a tr\u0103it \u015fi nu caut\u0103 s\u0103-\u015fi r\u0103zbune prin tine ratarea, \u015fi p\u0103rintele plin de ranchiun\u0103, care datorit\u0103 existen\u0163ei tale n-a f\u0103cut nici aia, nici ailalt\u0103, \u015fi \u0163ine s\u0103 \u0163i-o reaminteasc\u0103 de c\u00e2te ori se ceart\u0103 cu tine!
\nNu mai c\u0103uta\u0163i s\u0103 \u00eenvinui\u0163i femeile c\u0103 sunt oameni \u015fi vor \u00een primul r\u00e2nd s\u0103 tr\u0103iasc\u0103. Nu mai c\u0103uta\u0163i s\u0103 le impune\u0163i s\u0103 plodeasc\u0103 cu sila \u015fi s\u0103-\u015fi lepede visele. Nu ve\u0163i ob\u0163ine dec\u00e2t rebeliune \u015fi refuz.
\nFetele, vizita\u0163i c\u00e2te ora\u015fe vre\u0163i voi. Munci\u0163i. Cump\u0103ra\u0163i-v\u0103 case, ma\u015fini, deveni\u0163i con\u015ftiente de lucrurile pe care le pute\u0163i face. Tr\u0103i\u0163i din plin. \u015ei asta v\u0103 va ajuta s\u0103 transmite\u0163i copiilor nu frustrarea \u015fi eterna ciufu\u0163enie de care au beneficiat copiii genera\u0163iilor trecute, ci putere de lupt\u0103 pentru propriul lor viitor.<\/p>\n
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Iar c\u00e2nd vine momentul \u00een care ve\u0163i alege din proprie ini\u0163iativ\u0103 Pamper\u015fii din \u00eentrebarea care d\u0103 titlul, ve\u0163i \u015fti. Nu l\u0103sa\u0163i pe nimeni s\u0103 v\u0103 gr\u0103beasc\u0103 din acest punct de vedere.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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