{"id":13725,"date":"2017-12-05T11:10:40","date_gmt":"2017-12-05T08:10:40","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=13725"},"modified":"2020-05-28T19:58:22","modified_gmt":"2020-05-28T16:58:22","slug":"trebuie-sa-vorbesti-cu-mine","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/trebuie-sa-vorbesti-cu-mine\/","title":{"rendered":"Trebuie s\u0103 vorbe\u015fti cu mine!!!"},"content":{"rendered":"

Remarc o problem\u0103 grav\u0103 de atitudine, \u00een ultima vreme. OK, nu e la toat\u0103 lumea, dar cei care o au devin ca rinocerii lui Eugen Ionescu. Personajele astea fac o criz\u0103 de isterie la “seen” (Cum. \u00ce\u0163i. Permi\u0163i. S\u0103. Nu. R\u0103spunzi?), fac o criz\u0103 de isterie la “\u00cemi cer scuze, n-am timp \u015fi interes de tr\u0103nc\u0103neal\u0103 f\u0103r\u0103 rost”, fac criz\u0103 de isterie dac\u0103 ignori pur \u015fi simplu.<\/p>\n

Pe scurt, nicicum nu po\u0163i c\u00e2\u015ftiga. Iar dac\u0103 faci prostia s\u0103 intri \u00een conversa\u0163ie O DAT\u0102, te vei pomeni c\u0103 ai job fulltime nepl\u0103tit s\u0103 le oferi asisten\u0163\u0103 psihologic\u0103 la orice or\u0103 din zi \u015fi din noapte.<\/p>\n

Totul porne\u015fte dintr-o problem\u0103 de maturizare. C\u00e2nd e\u015fti acas\u0103, mama, mam’ mare \u015fi tanti Mi\u0163a se fac luntre \u015fi punte ca toate nevoile tale s\u0103 fie acoperite, ca bebelu\u015ful s\u0103 fie hr\u0103nit, b\u0103tut peste curule\u0163 s\u0103 r\u00e2g\u00e2ie, schimbat \u00een scutece curate \u015fi a\u015fa mai departe.<\/p>\n

Problema cu restul omenirii este c\u0103 nu-\u0163i datoreaz\u0103 lucruri.<\/p>\n

Mama, mam’ mare \u015fi tanti Mi\u0163a f\u0103ceau toate astea pentru tine fiindc\u0103 a) erau familia ta b) te iubeau.<\/p>\n

C\u00e2nd a \u015fi b nu se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103, preten\u0163iile imperative \u015fi punctate de istericale la timpul altuia sunt o abera\u0163ie.<\/p>\n

Da, dac\u0103 eram gagic\u0103-ta – dar dac\u0103 \u00eemi exprimam EU interesul s\u0103 fiu gagic\u0103-ta, nu dac\u0103 luai tu decizia de unul singur c\u0103 sunt gagic\u0103-ta, f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 m\u0103 consul\u0163i –\u00a0 \u00eemi asumam s\u0103 te str\u00e2ng la \u0163\u00e2\u0163\u0103 \u00een momente grele din via\u0163a ta. Dar eu nu sunt gagic\u0103-ta. Tu po\u0163i avea de la str\u0103ini pe net preten\u0163iile pe care le formulezi la gagic\u0103-ta.<\/p>\n

Dac\u0103 eram politicianul votat de tine, cu platform\u0103 mincinoas\u0103 care a populat toate gardurile, \u015fi-i sifonez direct impozitele, da, \u00eemi asumam s\u0103 iau muie, pl\u0103tit\u0103 fiind direct din buzunarul t\u0103u, Dar eu nu sunt politicianul votat de tine. Nu-s \u00eentr-o func\u0163ie public\u0103 de r\u0103spundere. Nu am s\u0103-\u0163i dau nici o form\u0103 de socoteal\u0103.<\/p>\n

Dac\u0103 eram angajatul t\u0103u, \u015fi aveam o form\u0103 de contract care s\u0103-mi stipuleze mie o list\u0103 clar\u0103 de obliga\u0163ii \u015fi un num\u0103r de ore pe care s\u0103 le petrec \u00een incint\u0103, iar eu nu livram conform fi\u015fei postului, da, aveai dreptul s\u0103 te zbor\u015fe\u015fti la mine. Dar eu nu sunt angajatul t\u0103u. Nu-\u0163i datorez nici m\u0103car cinci secunde dac\u0103 nu aleg s\u0103 \u0163i le ofer.<\/p>\n

A\u015fadar, aceast\u0103 preten\u0163ie absurd\u0103 \u015fi nesim\u0163it\u0103 la timpul altuia ar trebui s\u0103 \u00eenceteze. \u015ei ca s\u0103 \u00eenceteze, ar trebui s\u0103 \u00een\u0163elegem to\u0163i s\u0103 nu mai fim idio\u0163i.<\/p>\n

\u015ei dau un exemplu concret.<\/p>\n

Ieri am f\u0103cut interviul cu doamna Simona Tivadar<\/a>, un interviu complet, interesant, cu multe teme “fierbin\u0163i”, un interviu de care sunt m\u00e2ndr\u0103. \u00cen comentarii, s-a oplo\u015fit urm\u0103toarea specie de via\u0163\u0103:<\/p>\n

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Aici, orice om rezonabil \u015fi de bun sim\u0163 ar fi trebuit s\u0103 \u00eenceteze \u015fi S-O LASE BALT\u0102. OK, am \u00eencercat, mi s-a ar\u0103tat c\u0103 b\u0103team c\u00e2mpii pe l\u00e2ng\u0103, zic cel mult “da, bine, n-am citit pasajul \u0103sta, \u0163ineam extrem de tare s\u0103 am dreptate” \u015fi m\u0103 retrag.<\/p>\n

\u00cen schimb comentatorul acesta a continuat.<\/p>\n

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M\u0103 rog, \u015fi a mai dat ni\u015fte linkuri, dar i le-a \u015fters B\u0103canu, c\u0103 la ea era discu\u0163ia.<\/p>\n

Ce observ\u0103m aici, stima\u0163i spectatori?<\/p>\n

“Caut un partener de discu\u0163ii”.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Irelevant dac\u0103 partenerul de discu\u0163ii are timp, vrea s\u0103 aloce timp – chiar dac\u0103 \u00eel are, mai trebuie s\u0103 aib\u0103 \u015fi chef s\u0103-l investeasc\u0103 \u00een tine – are interes sau pl\u0103cere s\u0103 piard\u0103 acest timp cu tine. Irelevant dac\u0103 partenerul de discu\u0163ii – medic \u00een acest caz – are poate \u00een fa\u0163\u0103 un om bolnav, cu o problem\u0103 real\u0103, un om care-i remunereaz\u0103 serviciile \u015fi pe care chiar \u00eel poate ajuta. Esen\u0163ial e c\u0103 “eu caut”, \u015fi tu ai obliga\u0163ia stipulat\u0103 de… \u0103\u0103\u0103, absolut nimeni \u015fi nimic s\u0103 te execu\u0163i.<\/p>\n

Tonul preten\u0163iilor.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

Pentru ca cineva care nu e gagic\u0103-ta, nu e politicianul \u00een func\u0163ie \u015fi nu e angajatul t\u0103u s\u0103 vrea s\u0103 discute cu tine – la modul autentic, nu s\u0103 fac\u0103 amor cu mama ta – un prim pas ar fi gra\u0163ia \u015fi amabilitatea propunerii de a discuta. Dac\u0103 dai ca pl\u0103vanul de gard, tot ce ob\u0163ii e “hai, sictir”.<\/p>\n

Raportarea fa\u0163\u0103 de absen\u0163a r\u0103spunsului\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

Dup\u0103 cum vedem \u00een imagine, Simona nu era pe net, sau avea pacient, sau bea o cafea cu prietenele, sau orice altceva – pur \u015fi simplu, nu era dispus\u0103 s\u0103 livreze conform preten\u0163iilor postacului. L-a oprit asta pe el s\u0103 debiteze \u00een continuare, cu zero aten\u0163ie la faptul c\u0103, de vreme ce nu prime\u015fte r\u0103spuns, ceva nu e \u00een regul\u0103?<\/p>\n

No fucking way.<\/p>\n

BLABLABLABLABLABLABLABLABLABLA.<\/p>\n

Dialogul surzilor.<\/p>\n

*<\/p>\n

Motivul pentru care scriu acest text nu e aceast\u0103 persoan\u0103. E ejectabil\u0103, blocabil\u0103 \u015fi la revedere.<\/p>\n

Motivul pentru care scriu acest text e pentru c\u0103 sunt tot mai mul\u0163i. Tot mai mul\u0163i care cred cu toat\u0103 convingerea c\u0103 pot abuza de timpul altuia dup\u0103 cum li se scoal\u0103.<\/p>\n

Hai s\u0103 facem \u00eempreun\u0103 un test de nesim\u0163ire: E\u00a0 persoana pe care tocmai m\u0103 preg\u0103tesc s-o frec la icre gagic\u0103-mea \/ politicianul \u00een func\u0163ie \/ angajatul meu?<\/p>\n

Nu.<\/p>\n

OK, deci nu-mi datoreaz\u0103 timpul lui \/ ei.<\/p>\n

Nu-l pretind ca \u015fi cum mi s-ar cuveni \u015fi nu abuzez de r\u0103bdarea lui \/ ei p\u00e2n\u0103 m\u0103 bag\u0103 \u00een deceda\u0163i materni. \u00cemi asum c\u0103 nimeni nu-mi datoreaz\u0103 nimic. \u015ei, subit, devin o persoan\u0103 mai pu\u0163in enervant\u0103.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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