Periodic, vine c\u00e2te un ar\u0163\u0103gos. \u015ei \u00eencepe s\u0103 administreze copite virtuale. Moment \u00een care eu \u00eei r\u0103spund a\u015fa cum cred c\u0103 ar trebui s\u0103 r\u0103spund\u0103 toat\u0103 lumea la bullying: cu aceea\u015fi moned\u0103, c\u0103 poate ar\u0163\u0103gosul nu e con\u015ftient c\u00e2t e de nepl\u0103cut ca interac\u0163iune.<\/p>\n
\u015ei atunci ar\u0163\u0103gosul se \u00eenfoaie tot \u015fi mi-o emite pe aia, sinistr\u0103, care-mi scoate bube din zorii internetului: “Tu de fapt vrei doar laude”.<\/p>\n
Pas\u0103mite, ar\u0163\u0103gosul se trage din cartiere de periferie, unde existau dou\u0103 tonalit\u0103\u0163i: curling\u0103iala, fa\u0163\u0103 de clanul mafiot dominant, de fa\u0163\u0103 cu care nu\u00a0 c\u00e2r\u00e2i, c\u0103 te treze\u015fti cu ficatul exportat pe pia\u0163a de organe, \u015fi ar\u0163\u0103go\u015feala, fa\u0163\u0103 de \u0103ia pe care vrei s\u0103-i convingi c\u0103-s mai slabi dec\u00e2t tine.<\/p>\n
Tonul comunic\u0103rii normale, neutre, e ceva complet de neconceput. Pentru c\u0103 tonul normal, necompetitiv, calm, relaxat, presupune un nivel de civiliza\u0163ie la care ar\u0163\u0103gosul \u00eenc\u0103 n-a ajuns.<\/p>\n
Eu nu sunt \u00een competi\u0163ie cu absolut nimeni, nici online, nici offline. \u015etiu cine sunt, \u015ftiu ce pot, sunt relaxat\u0103 cu cine sunt \u015fi ce pot, \u015fi n-am nimic de demonstrat nim\u0103nui. \u015ei tocmai din acest motiv, am fitilul extrem de scurt c\u00e2nd vine c\u00e2te unul (rar una, mai degrab\u0103 unul) \u015fi caut\u0103 s\u0103 m\u0103 bage \u00een competi\u0163ii \u00een care nu m-am \u00eenscris. Nu m\u0103 intereseaz\u0103 s\u0103 \u00eencordezi musculatura la mine \u015fi nu m\u0103 intereseaz\u0103 s\u0103 iau la cuno\u015ftin\u0163\u0103 c\u0103 e\u015fti bengos. Fii bengos pe tarlaua proprie \u015fi ar\u0163\u0103go\u015fe\u015fte-te la oameni care-\u0163i datoreaz\u0103 lucruri.<\/p>\n
Am avut un caz extrem de insistent de hater care nu se mai d\u0103dea cu ura de pe textele mele. Zici c\u0103 era siteul lui, c\u0103 eram angajata lui, c\u0103-mi pl\u0103tea un salariu uria\u015f s\u0103-i livrez calitate, iar eu nu m\u0103 executam. I-am dat block \u015fi ban de pe 46952567890 de ipuri reale, false, rotative, p\u00e2n\u0103 c\u00e2nd a \u00een\u0163eles ideea \u015fi s-a c\u0103rat. S-a c\u0103rat dou\u0103 s\u0103pt\u0103m\u00e2ni, apoi a revenit cu un comentariu apreciativ, c\u0103ruia i-am r\u0103spuns cu “mul\u0163umesc”, ca orice om educat.<\/p>\n
Pffff, \u015fi unde nu sare: “A, dac\u0103 \u0103sta e pozitiv, \u00eel la\u015fi!!!”.<\/p>\n
Huh? Prea pu\u0163in m\u0103 intereseaz\u0103 reac\u0163ii pozitive nebazate pe calitatea contentului \u015fi pe tema articolului. Prea pu\u0163in m\u0103 intereseaz\u0103 s\u0103-\u0163i demonstrezi tu \u0163ie idei fixe preconcepute cu care nu am nimic de a face \u015fi prea pu\u0163in m\u0103 intereseaz\u0103 cum performez eu pe baza numitului set de idei fixe.<\/p>\n
Iar legat de reac\u0163iile pozitive \u015fi cele negative, treaba e \u00een felul urm\u0103tor:<\/p>\n
Eu nu am o datorie fa\u0163\u0103 de internautul oarecare s\u0103 livrez conform a\u015ftept\u0103rilor lui. Nu am de ce s\u0103 m\u0103 lupt s\u0103 cuceresc bun\u0103voin\u0163a nim\u0103nui. Prea pu\u0163in m\u0103 intereseaz\u0103 s\u0103 \u00eembl\u00e2nzesc orgolii, s\u0103 \u00eembunez ar\u0163\u0103go\u015fi \u015fi s\u0103 conving pe cineva s\u0103-mi acorde \u015fanse,<\/p>\n
Unicul meu argument sunt lucrurile pe care le scriu. Unora le plac. Le plac pur \u015fi simplu, f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 pretind\u0103 aten\u0163ie suplimentar\u0103 din partea mea. \u015ei e firesc ca reac\u0163ia mea s\u0103 fie “mul\u0163umesc”. Pe \u0103\u015ftia \u00eei \u0163intesc explicit. Pe ei \u00eei vreau.<\/p>\n
Altora le displac. E ok, din punctul meu de vedere. Dar nu m\u0103 intereseaz\u0103 s\u0103 investesc din timpul \u015fi energia mea s\u0103 \u00eendur strop\u015feala acestora. Nu m\u0103 intereseaz\u0103 acuza\u0163iile lor, dramele lor, insatisfac\u0163iile lor \u015fi ura lor. Nu sunt mama lor, nu sunt psihologul lor moca, nu sunt lectur\u0103 obligatorie la bac \u015fi nu iau procent din abonamentul lor de net, s\u0103 aib\u0103 vreo justificare obiectiv\u0103 s\u0103 \u0163ipe la mine c\u0103 nu sunt cum ar vrea ei s\u0103 fiu.<\/p>\n
Prin urmare, varianta s\u0103n\u0103toas\u0103, dac\u0103 tu nu m\u0103 placi \u015fi pe mine nu m\u0103 intereseaz\u0103 s\u0103-\u0163i plac, e s\u0103 te duci s\u0103 te cer\u0163i cu oameni care vor s\u0103-\u0163i fie simpatici.<\/p>\n
S\u0103 zicem c\u0103 eu a\u015f fi un club.<\/p>\n
Scopul unui club? S\u0103 creeze bun\u0103 dispozi\u0163ie \u00een grupul de oameni care aleg s\u0103-l frecventeze.<\/p>\n
E obligatoriu s\u0103 te duci la club? Nu.<\/p>\n
Cum ar fi s\u0103 \u0163ipe b\u0103t\u0103u\u015fii, \u00een timp ce sunt da\u0163i afar\u0103 de paz\u0103, c\u0103 de ce clubul vrea doar feedback pozitiv, nu \u015fi scaune-n cap?<\/p>\n
Pentru c\u0103 \u0103sta e scopul clubului: s\u0103 se simt\u0103 bine lumea. Cine nu vrea sau nu poate s\u0103 se simt\u0103 bine, nu are nici o obliga\u0163ie \u00een acest sens. Dar nici nu-i po\u0163i obliga pe cei din club s\u0103-\u0163i suporte atitudinea. Fii acru \u015fi du\u015fm\u0103nos la tine acas\u0103, sau \u00een Cercul Op\u0103ri\u0163ilor \u00een Celibat Involuntar, sau oriunde vrei tu.<\/p>\n
\u015ei ce fac heit\u0103rii, atunci c\u00e2nd nu te heit\u0103resc pe tine? m-a \u00eentrebat o prieten\u0103.<\/p>\n
La un moment dat, am intrat pe peretele unei vedete. 53 de “te iubim”, “love”, “haha” \u015fi a\u015fa mai departe. \u015ei al 54-lea, desigur, heit\u0103rul meu, cu acela\u015fi ton plin de ur\u0103 \u015fi ranchiun\u0103, relat\u00e2ndu-le tuturor c\u0103-s degeaba \u015fi oribili.<\/p>\n
Ce-ar fi s\u0103 ne ui\u0163i pe to\u0163i cei degeaba \u015fi oribili din punctul t\u0103u de vedere \u015fi s\u0103 cau\u0163i onest un col\u0163i\u015for de pe internet care s\u0103 fie conform cu visele tale despre via\u0163\u0103 \u015fi lume, un loc unde po\u0163i livra \u015fi tu dragoste \u015fi implicare?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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