Prima mea reac\u0163ie la scandalul #metoo a fost “O, Doamne, chiar trebuie s\u0103 ne victimiz\u0103m \u00een grup \u015fi s\u0103 transform\u0103m social media \u00een acest t\u0103r\u00e2m sinistru al antihazului zile \u00een \u015fir?”<\/p>\n
Realitatea e c\u0103 eu am fost genul de om care a c\u0103utat \u00eentotdeauna s\u0103-\u015fi rezolve problemele singur. Neav\u00e2nd un tat\u0103 pe care s\u0103-l pun s\u0103-i amenin\u0163e \u015fi s\u0103-i pun\u0103 la punct pe golani, am f\u0103cut-o eu. Am reu\u015fit s\u0103 dau jos de pe mine pe oricine, cu diverse metode: persuasiune, mor\u0163i\u00a0 de mam\u0103, amenin\u0163\u0103ri cu proces \u015fi a\u015fa mai departe.<\/p>\n
De aceea, \u00eentr-o prim\u0103 faz\u0103, #metoo mi s-a p\u0103rut o jeluial\u0103 lung\u0103, nasoal\u0103, f\u0103r\u0103 un scop bine determinat, \u015fi c\u00e2nd am exprimat aceast\u0103 opinie, mi-au dat unfriend cam 500 de femei. \u00cen mintea lor, a nu vedea sensul unui lucru era totuna cu a porni tu \u00eens\u0103\u0163i la violat de virgine, cu bale la bot \u015fi un penis g\u0103sit de pe jos.<\/p>\n
Dar v\u0103d, \u00een multe locuri, pe mul\u0163i pere\u0163i de b\u0103rba\u0163i \u015fi \u00een diverse contexte, discu\u0163ii purtate de b\u0103rba\u0163i cu femei, sau chiar de b\u0103rba\u0163i \u00eentre ei. \u00cen care ace\u015ftia \u00ee\u015fi analizeaz\u0103 comportamentul \u015fi caut\u0103 s\u0103 elimine aspectele care ar putea fi nepl\u0103cute sau jenante.<\/p>\n
“E vorba de cei \u015fapte ani de acas\u0103”, o s\u0103 sar\u0103 comentatorul care a avut noroc de p\u0103rin\u0163i civiliza\u0163i \u015fi care \u015ftia s\u0103 se poarte \u015fi \u00eenainte de #metoo.<\/p>\n
OK. Dar p\u0103rin\u0163ii nu \u0163i-i alegi. \u015ei realitatea sumbr\u0103 e c\u0103 multora li s-a insuflat o mentalitate de japc\u0103 legat\u0103 de femei. Ai decis c\u0103 o vrei, o iei \u015fi e irelevant ce crede ea. Eternul “nu te-am jignit”. Incapacitatea de a procesa no\u0163iunea c\u0103 tu po\u0163i avea doar inten\u0163ia de a jigni sau a nu jigni, \u00een schimb, receptorul decide dac\u0103 a fost sau nu jignit, \u015fi c\u0103 dac\u0103 un om nu vrea s\u0103 fie tratat \u00eentr-un anumit mod, are tot dreptul s\u0103 \u0163i-o spun\u0103.<\/p>\n
Bun.<\/p>\n
Ce a f\u0103cut bun valul \u0103sta de #metoo este c\u0103 a \u00eendemnat la introspec\u0163ie \u015fi autoanaliz\u0103 chiar \u015fi oameni care nu aveau aceast\u0103 \u00eenclina\u0163ie. C\u00e2nd auzi “scuz\u0103-m\u0103 c\u0103 te-am \u00eentrerupt” de la unul care p\u00e2n\u0103 nu demult vorbea peste tine de zici c\u0103 erai televizor, \u00ee\u0163i dai seama c\u0103 ceva a fost foarte ok.<\/p>\n
Pentru c\u0103, probabil, except\u00e2nd cazurile sadice \u015fi cu adev\u0103rat patologice, b\u0103rba\u0163ii obi\u015fnui\u0163i nu vor r\u0103ul femeilor. Unii aveau chiar impresia c\u0103 femeilor le place coco\u015feala asta stresant\u0103, de aceea o \u015fi practicau. \u015ei dac\u0103 \u0163ie nu-\u0163i pl\u0103cea \u015fi le retezai av\u00e2ntul, probabil c\u0103 era ceva \u00een neregul\u0103 cu tine.<\/p>\n
#Metoo a transmis no\u0163iunea c\u0103 o majoritate cov\u00e2r\u015fitoare a femeilor nu gust\u0103 abordarea b\u0103g\u0103cioas\u0103, libidino\u015feniile, nesim\u0163irea grosolan\u0103, tot ceea ce mentalitatea noastr\u0103 tradi\u0163ional\u0103 le insufl\u0103 b\u0103ie\u0163ilor c\u0103 ar \u00eensemna s\u0103 fii b\u0103rbat. Iar o bun\u0103 parte au \u00een\u0163eles.<\/p>\n
O bun\u0103 parte \u00ee\u015fi reexamineaz\u0103 comportamentul \u015fi caut\u0103 s\u0103 renun\u0163e la ceea ce \u00eei face detestabili. Lucru\u00a0 care nu s-a \u00eent\u00e2mplat niciodat\u0103 p\u00e2n\u0103 acum.<\/p>\n
“Da, Lorena, dar #metoo a dus \u015fi la concedierile unor oameni de vaz\u0103, respectiv la acuza\u0163ii nedrepte, \u015fi a\u015fa mai departe.”<\/p>\n
Istoric, \u00een momente de revolu\u0163ie sau r\u0103scoal\u0103, oamenii se fac vinova\u0163i \u015fi de exager\u0103ri, respectiv excese de zel. Acum, \u00eempu\u015fcarea cuplului Ceau\u015fescu ni se pare o atrocitate. Dar \u00een febra acelor momente, dup\u0103 ore zilnice \u00een \u015fir de stat la coad\u0103 la lapte, de f\u0103cut baie o dat\u0103 pe s\u0103pt\u0103m\u00e2n\u0103 \u015fi de bezn\u0103 prin case, la lumina l\u0103mpii de petrol, frustrarea anticeau\u015fist\u0103 ardea la ni\u015fte cote at\u00e2t de \u00eenalte, \u00eenc\u00e2t poporul ar fi fost \u00een stare s\u0103-l rup\u0103 pe Ceau\u015fescu \u00een buc\u0103\u0163i pe strad\u0103.<\/p>\n
Poate c\u0103 nu to\u0163i nobilii care au fost ghilotina\u0163i la Revolu\u0163ia Francez\u0103 \u015fi-au asuprit \u0163\u0103ranii \u015fi le-au administrat bice zilnice pentru entertainment, dar furia are acest defect: tinde s\u0103 ac\u0163ioneze ca o generalizare.<\/p>\n
Una peste alta, efectele pozitive ale #metoo se resimt cu fiecare tentativ\u0103 de ag\u0103\u0163at care se termin\u0103 civilizat, cu “ok, nici o problem\u0103”, nu cu un lung \u015fir de insulte, tentative ulterioare de sabotaj \u015fi eventual \u0103la venind s\u0103-\u0163i dea foc la cas\u0103, pentru c\u0103 \u0163i-ai permis s\u0103 spui “nu”.<\/p>\n
Participantele #metoo au avut dreptate, eu am gre\u015fit.<\/p>\n
Se mai \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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