\u00cenainte s\u0103 sar\u0103 trei-patru hateri, \u0163in s\u0103 precizez: prin familie tradi\u0163ional\u0103 nu \u00een\u0163eleg uniunea dintre un b\u0103rbat \u015fi o femeie. Dimpotriv\u0103, dac\u0103 e\u015fti cititor al acestui blog, \u015ftii c\u0103 eu am promovat mereu ideea de “tr\u0103ie\u015fte-\u0163i via\u0163a a\u015fa cum \u00ee\u0163i place”, \u015fi o rela\u0163ie fericit\u0103 e un lucru folositor la casa omului.<\/p>\n
Prin familia tradi\u0163ional\u0103 \u00een\u0163eleg acel model de cuplu unde b\u0103rbatul de\u0163ine toat\u0103 puterea de decizie \u015fi e ca un mic \u015fef de trib, femeia e o remorc\u0103 servil\u0103, iar copiii sunt la bunul plac al p\u0103rin\u0163ilor.<\/p>\n
Familia tradi\u0163ional\u0103 e modelul \u0103la care se \u00eent\u00e2lnea peste tot c\u00e2nd eram eu copil \u015fi, de obicei, la o c\u0103s\u0103torie \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103tor fericit\u0103, \u015fi fericit\u0103 taman pentru c\u0103 omul nu abuza de presupusa putere \u015fi \u00ee\u015fi trata cu ging\u0103\u015fie nevasta, erau nou\u0103 absolut sinistre, unde ei le insultau, le b\u0103teau, le umileau, sau cel pu\u0163in, le l\u0103sau s\u0103 fac\u0103 singure toat\u0103 treaba din cas\u0103, \u00een timp ce ele sufereau bocind pe la prietene, \u015fi c\u00e2te o bab\u0103 le sf\u0103tuia ceva de genul: “Suport\u0103, drag\u0103, c\u0103 asta e menirea ta de nevast\u0103.”<\/p>\n
Inclusiv la articolul cu so\u0163ia b\u0103tut\u0103, de acum c\u00e2teva luni, au venit c\u00e2\u0163iva cu comentarii de genul: “Dac\u0103 ar fi fost o nevast\u0103 bun\u0103, ar fi \u00eenghi\u0163it \u00een t\u0103cere \u015fi ar fi \u0163inut de cas\u0103.”<\/p>\n
Exact mentalitatea asta, lipsa complet\u0103 de respect pentru integritatea, demnitatea \u015fi, p\u00e2n\u0103 la urm\u0103, drepturile elementare umane ale unuia dintre membrii familiei face ca familia tradi\u0163ional\u0103 s\u0103 fie o idee foarte, foarte proast\u0103.<\/p>\n
Orice situa\u0163ie care, prin context, d\u0103 unui om putere asupra altuia, f\u0103r\u0103 p\u00e2rghia responsabilit\u0103\u0163ii, este pepinier\u0103 de abuzuri, \u00een m\u0103sura \u00een care cel aflat \u00een pozi\u0163ie de for\u0163\u0103 e predispus spre ele.<\/p>\n
Acum c\u00e2teva zile remarcam cum, de c\u00e2te ori scriu ceva mai edgy, se \u00eenfiin\u0163eaz\u0103 pe loc un ciumete, sau doi, sau trei, care \u00eencep s\u0103 m\u0103 frece la icre c\u0103, dac\u0103 a\u015f avea un iubit, sigur n-a\u015f face asta. \u00cen primii ani de internet, mai \u015fi aveam impresia c\u0103 \u0103ia vor s\u0103-mi propun\u0103 ceva. C\u00e2nd colo, ce \u00eencercau ei s\u0103-mi spun\u0103 c\u0103 libertatea mea interioar\u0103 e un lucru r\u0103u, \u015fi c\u0103 ar trebui s\u0103 \u00eemi asum naibii condi\u0163ia de remorc\u0103. Evident, lol. Un om liber poate fi h\u0103r\u0163uit, agresat, b\u0103tut, amenin\u0163at cu moartea, \u015fi a\u015fa mai departe. Dar un om liber nu poate fi injectat cu mentalitate de sclav. Po\u0163i s\u0103 \u00eenfiin\u0163ezi o \u00eenchisoare special\u0103 pentru g\u00e2nditori cu capul lor, \u015fi s\u0103-l condamni pe via\u0163\u0103. Chiar \u015fi \u00eentr-o celul\u0103 de deten\u0163ie, o minte liber\u0103 va continua s\u0103 fie ea \u00eens\u0103\u015fi.<\/p>\n
\u015ei pentru copii, familia tradi\u0163ional\u0103 e un dezastru, \u015fi o pot dovedi f\u0103c\u00e2nd un nou sondaj \u00een care-i pun pe cititorii de 30 \u015fi 40 de ani s\u0103-\u015fi povesteasc\u0103 b\u0103t\u0103ile \u00eendurate \u00een copil\u0103rie. C\u00e2nd nu conta ca un copil s\u0103 fie fericit, ci ASCULT\u0102TOR. Submisiv. S\u0103 fac\u0103 ce i se spune, f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 se \u00eentrebe de ce. “Pentru c\u0103 a\u015fa zic eu.”<\/p>\n
Genul acesta de educa\u0163ie, desigur, e destinat s\u0103 formeze sclavi \u015fi idio\u0163i utili, nu oameni.<\/p>\n
Dar modelul de familie tradi\u0163ional\u0103 e d\u0103un\u0103tor \u015fi pentru b\u0103rba\u0163i, chiar dac\u0103 \u00eentr-un mod mai subtil \u015fi par\u015fiv.<\/p>\n
Ideea c\u0103 “au o familie grea”, c\u0103 at\u00e2t so\u0163ia, c\u00e2t \u015fi copiii, sunt 100% dependen\u0163i de ei, \u015fi c\u0103 sunt singurii aduc\u0103tori de venit, a f\u0103cut posibil\u0103 subordonarea economic\u0103 a omului simplu de c\u0103tre aristocra\u0163i, apoi de burghezia bogat\u0103, \u015fi a\u015fa mai departe. Faptul c\u0103 nu vedeai \u00een so\u0163ie un poten\u0163ial partener pe care s\u0103 te po\u0163i sprijini, ci \u00eenc\u0103 o povar\u0103 de dus \u00een spinare, te f\u0103cea extrem de dependent de monopolul de slujbe al satului respectiv (boierul locului) sau al ora\u015fului respectiv (fabrici, mine etc.)<\/p>\n
De aceea, \u00een orice societate tradi\u0163ional\u0103, \u015fi mai ales una religioas\u0103, care descurajeaz\u0103 contracep\u0163ia \u015fi planningul familial, s\u0103-l fac\u0103 pe s\u0103rac \u015fi mai \u00eempov\u0103rat, cu un num\u0103r de copii c\u0103rora nu le poate garanta niciun viitor, e o societate definit\u0103 de mari dezechilibre sociale. Pe de o parte, bogatul care, \u00een mod miraculos, nu are mai mult de doi – trei copii, pe de alta, am\u0103r\u00e2tul care trebuie s\u0103 \u00eendure abuz infinit la munc\u0103, doar pentru c\u0103 acas\u0103 are o familie de \u00eentre\u0163inut, \u015fi asta \u00eel pune \u00eentr-o pozi\u0163ie \u00een care nu poate negocia. Apoi, vine acas\u0103 \u015fi-\u015fi descarc\u0103 frustr\u0103rile pe cei care-l \u00eempov\u0103reaz\u0103.<\/p>\n
Ca s\u0103 nu spun c\u0103 modelul de familie tradi\u0163ional\u0103 \u00ee\u015fi dovede\u015fte ineficien\u0163a exact \u00een secunda \u00een care “st\u0103p\u00e2nul” p\u0103\u0163e\u015fte ceva. Se \u00eemboln\u0103ve\u015fte grav \u015fi devine incapabil de munc\u0103, sau moare. V\u0103duva \u015fi copiii erau efectiv la mila societ\u0103\u0163ii, pentru c\u0103 nivelul de dependen\u0163\u0103 cu care fuseser\u0103 inocula\u0163i le d\u0103dea op\u0163iuni extrem de limitate.<\/p>\n
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