{"id":14242,"date":"2018-02-04T12:33:49","date_gmt":"2018-02-04T09:33:49","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=14242"},"modified":"2021-01-25T20:04:50","modified_gmt":"2021-01-25T17:04:50","slug":"care-e-beneficiul-in-fi-parasit","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/care-e-beneficiul-in-fi-parasit\/","title":{"rendered":"Care e beneficiul \u00een a fi p\u0103r\u0103sit?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Am auzit \u00eentrebarea asta, \u00eentr-o conversa\u0163ie care nu m\u0103 includea. Evident c\u0103 nu m-am b\u0103gat peste oamenii \u0103ia, s\u0103 le zic \u201cExcelent\u0103 \u00eentrebare!\u201d, dar am p\u0103strat-o \u015fi am decis s-o tratez aici, acum.<\/p>\n

Divor\u0163ul e cotat drept al doilea factor major de stres, dup\u0103 v\u0103duvie, a\u015fadar, ideea de beneficiu pare stranie, ba chiar u\u015for ridicol\u0103. Iar c\u00e2nd o rela\u0163ie e foarte veche \u015fi porne\u015fte de la o mare iubire, nu trebuie s\u0103 existe o h\u00e2rtie care s\u0103 spun\u0103 c\u0103 robul lui Dumnezeu Ion e legat contractual de roaba lui Dumnezeu Maria, iar destr\u0103marea izbe\u015fte exact ca un divor\u0163. A\u015fadar, exist\u0103 beneficii \u00een faptul c\u0103 \u201cjum\u0103tatea\u201d ta se smulge din \u00eentreg?<\/p>\n

A. Se rezolv\u0103 problema laptelui.\u00a0<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

De obicei, oamenii pleac\u0103 din dou\u0103 motive: c\u00e2nd nu mai pot sau c\u00e2nd g\u0103sesc pe altcineva.<\/p>\n

Cazul \u201cc\u00e2nd nu mai pot\u201d e faza aia terminal\u0103 a unei rela\u0163ii c\u00e2nd toate micile defecte ale unui om se adun\u0103, alung\u0103 orice form\u0103 de afec\u0163iune din sufletul t\u0103u iar tu \u00eencepi s\u0103-l vezi ca pe un monstru dezgust\u0103tor pentru nimica toat\u0103. O problem\u0103 minor\u0103 de genul \u201cIar n-ai cump\u0103rat lapte, boule!\u201d devine un pretext la fel de valid de r\u0103zboi ca asasinarea lui Franz Ferdinand la Sarajevo. \u015ei oamenii reac\u0163ioneaz\u0103 la chestia asta \u00een dou\u0103 moduri \u2013 care, desigur, se \u00eempart \u00een mii de submoduri: unii se apuc\u0103 s\u0103 cumpere lapte \u00een ne\u015ftire, \u015fi tu consta\u0163i c\u0103 nu trebuia din \u0103sta, ci din cel\u0103lalt, \u015fi la final, c\u0103 iar n-au \u015fapc\u0103, iar al\u0163ii se \u00eencr\u00e2nceneaz\u0103 \u015fi nu mai cump\u0103r\u0103 lapte nici de-al dracu\u2019.<\/p>\n

Oricare ar fi traseul, de la un punct \u00eencolo, te saturi s\u0103 fii \u015ficanat la nesf\u00e2r\u015fit pe tema laptelui sau s\u0103 faci crize zilnice c\u0103 laptele nu corespunde. \u015ei ie\u015fi din acest cerc vicios \u015fi reciproc nimicitor.<\/p>\n

B. Se rezolv\u0103 problema orelor suplimentare.\u00a0<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

Dup\u0103 ni\u015fte ani de rela\u0163ie, chimia sexual\u0103 dispare. \u015ei exist\u0103 dou\u0103 consecin\u0163e posibile: dac\u0103 cei doi erau firi compatibile, r\u0103m\u00e2n buni prieteni \u015fi siguran\u0163a pe care \u015fi-o ofer\u0103 reciproc e lipiciul care continu\u0103 s\u0103-i \u0163in\u0103 \u00eempreun\u0103, iar dac\u0103 nu, se ajunge la problema laptelui, tratat\u0103 mai sus.<\/p>\n

Chiar \u015fi \u00een primul caz, unii \u00a0simt c\u0103 siguran\u0163a e insuficient\u0103, c\u0103 e o compensa\u0163ie minor\u0103 comparativ cu intensa pl\u0103cere a unui sex oral pe o strad\u0103 l\u0103turalnic\u0103, \u015fi, c\u00e2nd un om \u2013 care nu e cretin \u015fi nici ur\u00e2t cu crengi \u2013 emite semnale de \u201cSunt lihnit sexual\u201d, apar de obicei nenum\u0103ra\u0163i reprezentan\u0163i ai sexului opus mai mult dec\u00e2t dornici s\u0103 rezolve problema. \u015ei a\u015fa se ajunge la problema orelor suplimentare.<\/p>\n

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\u00a0Acum, fie c\u0103 tu faci ore suplimentare, fie c\u0103 descoperi c\u0103 \u201cyour significant other\u201d le f\u0103cea, trebuie s\u0103 stai \u015fi s\u0103-\u0163i pui problema: chiar \u0163ii neap\u0103rat la o rela\u0163ie care e \u00een oarecare m\u0103sur\u0103 o minciun\u0103? Unii oameni, motiva\u0163i de alte avantaje ale rela\u0163iei, \u00eemi vor spune c\u0103 da. Adev\u0103rul \u00eens\u0103 e c\u0103 fiecare compromis pe care-l accept\u0103m ne scade respectul de noi \u00een\u015fine. \u015ei c\u0103 dac\u0103 cel\u0103lalt face ore suplimentare, dar asta nu-l \u00eendep\u0103rteaz\u0103 emo\u0163ional de tine, va \u015fti s\u0103 le fac\u0103 at\u00e2t de discret, c\u0103 vei fi ultimul care va afla. Dac\u0103 nu-l intereseaz\u0103 dac\u0103 te intereseaz\u0103, e semn c\u0103 nu mai e mare lucru de pierdut.<\/p>\n

C. Se rezolv\u0103 problema WC-ului ocupat\u00a0<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

Presupun\u00e2nd c\u0103 nu e\u015fti un caz patetic de at\u00e2rnache disperat, care se teme at\u00e2t de mult de singur\u0103tate, \u00eenc\u00e2t prefer\u0103 s\u0103 stea cramponat de oricine \u015fi de orice, ca ursul koala, preferi o rela\u0163ie s\u0103n\u0103toas\u0103, \u00een care persoana ta s\u0103 conteze. Faptul c\u0103 un om alege s\u0103-\u0163i spun\u0103 c\u0103 nu-\u0163i mai poate d\u0103rui \u00eentreaga lui aten\u0163ie e versiunea fericit\u0103. \u201cCum s\u0103 fie fericit\u0103, c\u00e2nd a plecat iar eu pl\u00e2ng pe un morman de batiste?\u201d Crede-m\u0103 c\u0103 era mai trist s\u0103 fi r\u0103mas \u015fi s\u0103 \u0163in\u0103 WC-ul ocupat aiurea. Orice stare de libertate e o stare de poten\u0163ialitate. M\u00e2ine, poate ap\u0103rea o nou\u0103 iubire.<\/p>\n

D. Se rezolv\u0103 problema epilatului\u00a0<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

Orice rutin\u0103 te face s\u0103 cazi, mai mult sau mai pu\u0163in, \u00een p\u0103catul neglijen\u0163ei. E un fapt. Cazul femeilor care se \u00eengra\u015f\u0103 dup\u0103 ce se m\u0103rit\u0103 \u015fi al b\u0103rba\u0163ilor care fac burt\u0103 \u015fi dau porunci ca \u015fi cum \u015fi-ar fi luat slug\u0103, nu nevast\u0103, v\u0103 e binecunoscut. Iar c\u00e2nd e\u015fti aruncat brusc \u00eenapoi pe pia\u0163a oamenilor single, \u00eemprejur\u0103rile te oblig\u0103 s\u0103 redevii competitiv. E dureros la \u00eenceput, dar cei mai mul\u0163i divor\u0163a\u0163i pe care-i \u015ftiu au \u00eenceput s\u0103 arate mult mai bine \u015fi s\u0103 se comporte mult mai interesant dup\u0103 ce au fost p\u0103r\u0103si\u0163i. Nu e un lucru neap\u0103rat r\u0103u s\u0103-\u0163i dinamiteze cineva autosuficien\u0163a, de\u015fi doare. C\u00e2teodat\u0103, e fermec\u0103tor s\u0103 umbli pe cai mai mititei.<\/p>\n

E. Last but not least: Se rezolv\u0103 problema la\u015fit\u0103\u0163ii ontologice\u00a0<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

Suntem c\u00e2te unii care ur\u00e2m s\u0103-i p\u0103r\u0103sim pe al\u0163ii, pentru c\u0103 ne e sil\u0103 profund\u0103 de g\u00e2ndul c\u0103 fericirea noastr\u0103 e punctul de pornire al nefericirii altcuiva. \u015ei atunci, \u00eei facem strategic s\u0103 ne p\u0103r\u0103seasc\u0103 ei. C\u00e2nd p\u0103r\u0103se\u015fti, e\u015fti jivina aia egoist\u0103 care a c\u0103lcat cu brutalitate peste o iubire ca-n filme. C\u00e2nd e\u015fti p\u0103r\u0103sit, e\u015fti victima inocent\u0103 cu ochi alba\u015ftri. Chiar dac\u0103 \u00eei ai natural c\u0103prui, devin alba\u015ftri pe perioada aia. Lumea se \u00eentrece \u00een a te comp\u0103timi \u015fi te r\u0103sfa\u0163\u0103 \u00eendelung, s\u0103-\u015fi arate p\u0103rerea de r\u0103u. C\u00e2\u015ftigul e dublu: pe de o parte, a disp\u0103rut elementul minciun\u0103 din via\u0163a ta \u015fi, pe de alta, ai aten\u0163ie c\u00e2t\u0103 n-ai avut de la nunt\u0103. Nemaivorbind c\u0103, p\u0103r\u0103sit fiind, de obicei negociezi partajul cum vrei tu.<\/p>\n

Dac\u0103 stai bine s\u0103 te g\u00e2nde\u015fti, e\u015fti omul care iese cel mai bine din toat\u0103 afacerea asta.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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