Se ia un conflict \u00eentre femei. Orice fel de conflict. C\u0103 A \u00eei datoreaz\u0103 bani lui B. C\u0103 A i-a f\u0103cut o m\u0103g\u0103rie, punctual\u0103 \u015fi concret\u0103, lui B. C\u0103 A a tratat-o obraznic pe B. C\u0103 A \u00eei cere lui B lucruri pe care B\u00a0 nu i le datoreaz\u0103. C\u0103 A o umile\u015fte public pe B.<\/p>\n
Pe scurt, orice conflict, cu o fapt\u0103 bine definit\u0103, care se poate stabili relativ clar, dac\u0103 ai bun\u0103voin\u0163a s\u0103 te informezi.<\/p>\n
C\u00e2nd acest conflict e \u00eentre b\u0103rba\u0163i, lumea face exact acest lucru. Stabile\u015fte de la ce s-au luat, cine a gre\u015fit, cine a \u00eenc\u0103lcat regulile fa\u0163\u0103 de cel\u0103lalt \u015fi ce anume se poate face pentru remedierea situa\u0163iei.<\/p>\n
Dar dac\u0103 respectivul conflict e \u00eentre femei, prima \u015fi cea mai oribil\u0103 reac\u0163ie e minimalizarea \u00eentregii situa\u0163ii. “A, certuri \u00eentre femei”. O nimica toat\u0103, cum ar veni. Femeile nu sunt oameni, nu ai cum s\u0103 gre\u015fe\u015fti fa\u0163\u0103 de ele, \u015fi dac\u0103 ai gre\u015fit, e ca \u015fi cum ai fi gre\u015fit fa\u0163\u0103 de un dulap. Schimbi dulapul, oricum e ofert\u0103 la Ikea s\u0103pt\u0103m\u00e2na asta.<\/p>\n
“Certuri \u00eentre femei” \u00eenseamn\u0103 c\u0103 nu ne batem capul s\u0103 \u00een\u0163elegem care e problema. E insignifiant. E minor. O femeie umilit\u0103, jignit\u0103, tras\u0103 pe sfoar\u0103 e o proast\u0103 care-\u015fi merit\u0103 soarta.<\/p>\n
Iar masculii se apuc\u0103, \u00eentotdeauna, s\u0103 caute explica\u0163ii \u00een look, \u00eenf\u0103\u0163i\u015fare \u015fi v\u00e2rst\u0103. “De fapt, nu-\u0163i convine c\u0103 aia e mai t\u00e2n\u0103r\u0103 \/ mai frumoas\u0103 \/ are \u0163\u00e2\u0163e mai mari.”<\/p>\n
S\u0103 transpunem argumentul \u0103sta ridicol \u00eentr-un conflict unde eroii sunt doi tipi. Gigel \u015fi Dorel. Gigel cere \u00eemprumut de la Dorel o mie de euro, pe care promite s\u0103-i dea pe 15 ale lunii. Vin 15 ale lunii, \u015fi Gigel sun\u0103, dar nu cu banii, ci cu o scuz\u0103 c\u0103 a murit soacr\u0103-sa. Vin 30 ale lunii, Gigel nu d\u0103 niciun semn, Dorel \u00eel sun\u0103 s\u0103 \u00eentrebe de bani, Gigel \u00eei spune c\u0103 nu e \u00een ora\u015f \u015fi nu poate vorbi, dar d\u0103 semn pe 15 ale lunii viitoare. Pe 15 ale lunii viitoare, Gigel are telefonul \u00eenchis. Dorel spumeg\u0103.<\/p>\n
Cum ar pica o reac\u0163ie de genul: “Tu de fapt \u00eel invidiezi pe Gigel c\u0103 are pectoralii mai c\u0103rno\u015fi?”<\/p>\n
“Ce pula mea leg\u0103tur\u0103 au pectoralii cu FAPTA \u00een sine a vitei nenorocite?” o s\u0103 zbiere Dorel la tine.<\/p>\n
“Aha, aha, de fapt nu recuno\u015fti c\u0103 e\u015fti ofticat c\u0103 Gigel e mai t\u00e2n\u0103r \u015fi are fesele mai tari.”<\/p>\n
“\u00cenc\u0103 o dat\u0103: jegul a \u00eemprumutat de la mine o mie de euro, m-a plimbat cu vorba o lun\u0103 \u015fi jum\u0103tate \u015fi acum nu r\u0103spunde la telefon.”<\/p>\n
“Pfft. Sunt doar certuri \u00eentre b\u0103rba\u0163i.”<\/p>\n
\u015ei dac\u0103 Dorel se enerveaz\u0103 \u00eengrozitor c\u0103 dai cu flit problemei reale \u015fi-l iei cu de-astea:<\/p>\n
“A\u015fa sunte\u0163i voi, b\u0103rba\u0163ii, mai isterici, mai ira\u0163ionali. Trece.”<\/p>\n
*<\/p>\n
Pariez c\u0103 l-ai str\u00e2nge de g\u00e2t cu m\u00e2na goal\u0103 pe cel care te-ar trata a\u015fa. \u015ei num\u0103rul de omucideri ar cre\u015fte exponen\u0163ial.<\/p>\n
Ei bine, eu cred c\u0103 a\u015f putea porni un al doilea #metoo cu femei care c\u0103utau s\u0103 explice o problem\u0103 concret\u0103 pe care o au cu alte femei \u015fi reac\u0163ii ca acelea pe care le-am descris mai sus.<\/p>\n
Da, c\u00e2nd Gina \u00eei sufl\u0103 tipul Rodic\u0103i, e vorba c\u0103 una e mai frumoas\u0103 \u015fi cealalt\u0103 are ceva de dovedit. C\u00e2nd la o petrecere, Rodica \u00eei vars\u0103 o vadr\u0103 de alcool \u00een poal\u0103 accidental Ginei care i-a suflat tipul, e vorba de r\u0103zbunare. A\u015fa cum \u015fi \u00eentre Gigel \u015fi Dorel poate ap\u0103rea concuren\u0163a fa\u0163\u0103 de o tip\u0103 pe care o vor am\u00e2ndoi.<\/p>\n
Dar s\u0103 reduci tot spectrul de conflicte \u00eentre dou\u0103 persoane la look \u015fi v\u00e2rst\u0103 e minimalizant, lipsit de respect \u015fi te descalific\u0103 \u00een primul r\u00e2nd pe tine ca om.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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