{"id":14304,"date":"2018-02-13T12:06:42","date_gmt":"2018-02-13T09:06:42","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=14304"},"modified":"2018-02-13T12:06:42","modified_gmt":"2018-02-13T09:06:42","slug":"despre-plictisitii-profesionisti","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/despre-plictisitii-profesionisti\/","title":{"rendered":"Despre plictisi\u0163ii profesioni\u015fti"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>To\u0163i \u00eel sau o cunoa\u015ftem. De cele mai multe ori, are p\u00e2n\u0103-n 25 de ani, n-a dus lips\u0103 real\u0103 de nimic niciodat\u0103, dar, cum maturizarea e un lux \u00een zilele noastre, \u00eel sau o \u00eent\u00e2lnim \u015fi la 40 de ani. Vorbe\u015fte cu ceea ce americanii numesc &#8220;vocal fry&#8221; &#8211; lent, alintat, parc\u0103 ar sparge baloane imaginare \u00een g\u00e2t &#8211; \u015fi \u0163i se vaiet\u0103 c\u0103 se plictise\u015fte de moarte. &#8220;Aoleeeeu, c\u00e2t de tare m\u0103 plictisesc. Habar n-am ce s\u0103 fac. \u00cemi ur\u0103\u0103\u0103\u0103sc via\u0163a.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Eu tind s\u0103 fiu o fire empatic\u0103. Atunci c\u00e2nd problema e real\u0103. C\u00e2nd problema e un mix de lips\u0103 de imagina\u0163ie, lene \u015fi prostie, tind s\u0103 dau ochii peste cap, cam a\u015fa.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" class=\"giphy-embed\" src=\"https:\/\/giphy.com\/embed\/qmfpjpAT2fJRK\" width=\"480\" height=\"366\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p>\u015ei stau s\u0103-mi amintesc dac\u0103 m-am plictisit vreodat\u0103 \u00een via\u0163\u0103, \u015fi dac\u0103 da, cum a fost.<\/p>\n<p>\u015ei r\u0103spunsul este: da, m-am plictisit pe la cozi la impozite, adic\u0103 \u00eentr-un climat neprietenos, neinteresant, din care nu puteam sc\u0103pa repede \u015fi unde ap\u0103rea \u015fi ideea de obliga\u0163ie. M-am plictisit \u00een perioada de prob\u0103 a anumitor joburi, \u00een locuri \u00een care climatul de munc\u0103 era ostil \u015fi restul lumii tindea s\u0103 te frece mult la icre cu inutilit\u0103\u0163i. M-am plictisit \u00een compania anumitor oameni, de care m\u0103 legau raporturi de munc\u0103 &#8211; prin urmare, nu puteam pur \u015fi simplu s\u0103 m\u0103 ridic de la mas\u0103 \u015fi s\u0103 inventez o minciun\u0103 credibil\u0103, gen: &#8220;Tocmai mi-a venit ciclul. Simt o d\u00e2r\u0103 de s\u00e2nge pe picior. Fug. Vorbim!&#8221;.<\/p>\n<p>Dar de fiecare dat\u0103 c\u00e2nd m-am plictisit, mi-am asumat c\u0103 o parte din vin\u0103 e a mea. \u015ei c\u0103, de fiecare dat\u0103, calitatea interac\u0163iunii cu al\u0163ii este, \u00een m\u0103sur\u0103 de 50%, responsabilitatea mea.<\/p>\n<p>C\u0103 atmosfera pe la joburi &#8211; except\u00e2nd corpora\u0163iile cu reguli fixe &#8211; poate fi modificat\u0103, \u00een secunda \u00een care refuzi s\u0103 iei parte la b\u00e2rfe, \u00ee\u0163i impui boundaries \u015fi cau\u0163i s\u0103 identifici \u00een oamenii \u0103ia s\u0103m\u00e2n\u0163a de autenticitate \u015fi de pasiune la care s\u0103 te po\u0163i raporta. C\u0103 nivelul oric\u0103rei interac\u0163iuni este dat \u015eI de modul \u00een care alegi s\u0103 contribui la respectiva interac\u0163iune.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;P\u0103i, da, Lorena, zici tu asta, \u015fi totu\u015fi, c\u00e2nd te \u00eenjur\u0103 un cocalar pe net, nu cau\u0163i s\u0103-l \u00eembunezi, ci \u00eei iei mor\u0163ii la pul\u0103 mai abitir dec\u00e2t o f\u0103cuse el.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Evident. Nu m\u0103 intereseaz\u0103 s\u0103 \u00eembunez idio\u0163i pe net. Nu m\u0103 intereseaz\u0103 s\u0103 creez o interac\u0163iune armonioas\u0103 cu ei. Idiotul care vine agresiv spre oameni pe care nu-i cunoa\u015fte \u015fi caut\u0103 s\u0103-i izbeasc\u0103 prin insulte mi se pare cea mai de jos form\u0103 de via\u0163\u0103 \u015fi tot ce m\u0103 intereseaz\u0103 e s\u0103-i transmit asta.<\/p>\n<p>Ca s\u0103 \u00eencep s\u0103 investesc \u00een calitatea interac\u0163iunii, trebuie s\u0103 am un motiv real s\u0103-mi pese de persoana respectiv\u0103.<\/p>\n<p>OK.<\/p>\n<p>Revenind la ideea de la care pornisem: plictiseala de care te vaie\u0163i e \u00een mare m\u0103sur\u0103 efectul direct al inputului t\u0103u lipsit de orice valoare. V\u0103d femei v\u0103ic\u0103rindu-se c\u0103 au avut parteneri de date plictico\u015fi, \u00een condi\u0163ia \u00een care ele doar au stat \u015fi au t\u0103cut superior. V\u0103d b\u0103rba\u0163i declar\u00e2nd c\u0103 au avut partenere de date plicticoase, \u00een condi\u0163ia \u00een care ei au turuit ca radioul, \u015fi de c\u00e2te ori a \u00eencercat \u015fi femeia s\u0103 strecoare o opinie, au \u00eentrerupt-o \u015fi au vorbit peste ea.<\/p>\n<p>Asum\u0103-\u0163i responsabilitatea pentru 50% din calitatea interac\u0163iunii, \u015fi, subit, o s\u0103 \u00een\u0163elegi c\u0103 plictiseala e \u015fi vina ta.<\/p>\n<p>*<\/p>\n<p>OK. \u015ei acum s\u0103 trecem la categoria pe care n-o \u00een\u0163eleg nici s\u0103 m\u0103 ba\u0163i cu un neon ud. Plictisi\u0163ii acas\u0103 sau \u00een contexte sociale facultative.<\/p>\n<p>Acas\u0103, unde \u00ee\u0163i stabile\u015fti singur ordinea activit\u0103\u0163ilor, unde ai mereu lucruri de f\u0103cut, unde decorezi cum vrei tu \u015fi chemi pe cine vrei tu, plictiseala mi se pare o imposibilitate. Pe bune. Nu m-a\u015f putea plictisi acas\u0103 nici s\u0103-mi propun. Mereu am o ma\u015fin\u0103 de rufe de sp\u0103lat, cioburi de adunat dup\u0103 Pulic\u0103 Splendoaremaxim\u0103, un film de v\u0103zut, o carte de citit, sau un text de scris. Mereu am o nou\u0103 pasiune de descoperit, ceva nou de \u00eenv\u0103\u0163at, de absorbit &#8211; iar la partea cu absorbitul, make it red wine, please.<\/p>\n<p>Iar dac\u0103 un context social mi se pare plicticos, \u015fi nu am o obliga\u0163ie contractual\u0103 s\u0103 fiu acolo, solu\u0163ia este foarte simpl\u0103: &#8220;\u00cemi cer scuze, tocmai mi-a venit ciclul \u015fi am crampe teribile.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Plictiseala e vina ta. Plictiseala e \u00een primul r\u00e2nd incapacitatea ta de a g\u0103si bucurie \u00een lucruri \u015fi \u00een oameni.<\/p>\n<p>Ai o singur\u0103 via\u0163\u0103. Mai confortabil\u0103 dec\u00e2t oric\u00e2nd \u00een istorie. OK, poate nu-\u0163i permi\u0163i ultimul iPhone, dar str\u0103mo\u015fii t\u0103i se speteau muncind c\u00e2mpul, f\u0103ceau foamea un an dac\u0103 ap\u0103rea ceva ce le compromitea recolta, mureau de la o pneumonie \u015fi, dac\u0103 erau femei, li se d\u0103dea foc pentru suspiciunea de vr\u0103jitorie, nemaivorbind despre r\u0103zboaiele care \u00eei s\u0103r\u0103ceau \u015fi-i traumatizau.<\/p>\n<p>S\u0103 te plictise\u015fti \u00een 2018 mi se pare pur \u015fi simplu imposibil.<\/p>\n<p>Foto: Getty<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>To\u0163i \u00eel sau o cunoa\u015ftem. De cele mai multe ori, are p\u00e2n\u0103-n 25 de ani, n-a dus lips\u0103 real\u0103 de nimic niciodat\u0103, dar, cum&#46;&#46;&#46;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":14306,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2},"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-14304","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-spicy"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/02\/pg44-boredom-getty.jpg?fit=620%2C454&ssl=1","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/14304","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=14304"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/14304\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":14307,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/14304\/revisions\/14307"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/14306"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=14304"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=14304"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=14304"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}