{"id":14474,"date":"2018-03-09T14:12:06","date_gmt":"2018-03-09T11:12:06","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=14474"},"modified":"2018-03-09T14:18:16","modified_gmt":"2018-03-09T11:18:16","slug":"cadourile-si-umilinta","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/cadourile-si-umilinta\/","title":{"rendered":"Cadourile \u015fi umilin\u0163a"},"content":{"rendered":"

Fiecare dintre noi a f\u0103cut, minimum o dat\u0103 \u00een via\u0163\u0103, un cadou care a fost \u00eent\u00e2mpinat cu ochi str\u0103ini \u015fi goi \u015fi cu o reac\u0163ie v\u0103dit antipatic\u0103. \u015ei dac\u0103 8 martie e ziua femeii, e de men\u0163ionat c\u0103, \u00eentr-o oarecare m\u0103sur\u0103, e \u015fi ziua dezam\u0103girilor \u015fi traumelor, pentru c\u0103 mul\u0163i oameni au de \u00eenfruntat stresul at\u00e2t de umilitor al respingerii.<\/p>\n

I-am invitat pe cititori s\u0103 contribuie la acest articol cu pove\u015fti despre cadourile pe care au \u00eencercat s\u0103 le ofere, \u015fi care au fost tratate cu dispre\u0163 \u015fi nep\u0103sare. Au r\u0103spuns mult mai pu\u0163ini dec\u00e2t de obicei, ca dovad\u0103 c\u0103 e un exerci\u0163iu relativ greu s\u0103 te scobe\u015fti prin trauma “bag\u0103-\u0163i t\u00e2mpenia asta \u00een fund \u015fi du-te”, dar vom prezenta pove\u015ftile celor care au f\u0103cut-o:<\/p>\n

“Am oferit un cadou de 8 martie, care a fost primit cu cel mai mare dispre\u021b \u0219i dezgust din ce am putut s\u0103 v\u0103d p\u00e2n\u0103 \u00een acea zi, uneia din
\ndoamnele educatoare de la gr\u0103dini\u021b\u0103. Era o po\u0219et\u0103 din piele indian\u0103, hand made, deci cu mici inegalit\u0103\u021bi pe ici, colo, dar foarte frumoas\u0103 \u0219i oferit\u0103 cu tot dragul.
\nReac\u021bia doamnei, t\u00e2n\u0103r\u0103 de altfel? Am fost sunat\u0103 de colega d\u00e2nsei s\u0103 m\u0103 prezint la gr\u0103dini\u021b\u0103, c\u0103 doamna nu putea ie\u0219i din stare de \u0219oc. Ajuns\u0103 \u00een fa\u021ba ei, mi-a aruncat\u00a0po\u0219eta \u00een bra\u021be, privind pe geam \u0219i scuip\u00e2nd printre din\u021bi c\u0103 ea nu poart\u0103 po\u0219ete de la SH, c\u0103 ea e o doamn\u0103 \u0219i\u00a0 c\u0103 vrea s\u0103-\u0219i dea demisia \u0219i s\u0103 se mute la alt\u0103 gr\u0103dini\u021b\u0103.<\/p>\n

M-a \u0219ocat, \u0219i atunci n-am putut s\u0103 mai rabd \u0219i i-am spus scurt c\u0103 nu are gusturi \u0219i c\u0103 poate pleca lini\u0219tit\u0103 unde dore\u0219te! Concluzia? Teatru
\nieftin, nu a plecat nic\u0103ieri, iar eu nu mai fac \u00een via\u021ba mea cadouri persoanelor care nu merit\u0103.”<\/p>\n

Mioara.<\/strong><\/p>\n

***<\/p>\n

“S-a \u00eent\u00e2mplat \u00een clasa a 5-a, c\u00e2nd am str\u00e2ns to\u0163i colegii bani s\u0103 le lu\u0103m ni\u015fte aten\u0163ii doamnelor profesoare. Am preluat eu responsabilitatea de a merge \u015fi a cump\u0103ra c\u00e2teva cadouri dr\u0103gu\u0163e (mare gre\u015feal\u0103!).
\nAm luat-o de m\u00e2n\u0103 pe mama \u015fi am mers prin magazine, p\u00e2n\u0103 c\u00e2nd am v\u0103zut ni\u015fte bibelouri foarte dr\u0103gu\u0163e, chiar la mod\u0103 \u00een perioada aceea
\n(nu erau ni\u015fte bibelouri tradi\u0163ionale, care s\u0103 \u00eentruchipeze ceva zeitate sau ceva degenul). Ne-am \u00eencadrat \u00een buget, le-am cump\u0103rat \u015fi acas\u0103 le-am \u00eempachetat frumos.
\nA doua zi, ora de rom\u00e2n\u0103. Doamna profesoar\u0103 a fost foarte \u00eenc\u00e2ntat\u0103 c\u00e2nd a v\u0103zut pache\u0163elul. La fel eram \u015fi eu, p\u00e2n\u0103 s\u0103 aud c\u0103 zice “Sper s\u0103 nu fie vreun bibelou”.
\n\u00cen momentul \u0103la, a disp\u0103rut tot entuziasmul meu. La fel \u015fi al doamnei, c\u00e2nd a v\u0103zut cadoul. Foarte dezam\u0103git\u0103, sc\u00e2rbit\u0103 chiar, a zis s\u0103 nu mai cump\u0103r\u0103m bibelouri profesorilor, pentru c\u0103 nu e un cadou potrivit \u015fi c\u0103 trebuia s\u0103 fie ceva original.
\nPot s\u0103 \u00eenteleg \u015fi dezam\u0103girea doamnei profesoare, \u015fi faptul c\u0103 ele primesc bibelouri mai mereu, dar totu\u015fi, nu pot s\u0103 nu m\u0103 g\u00e2ndesc la mama care, cu toate problemele ei, a venit cu mine prin magazine \u015fi m-a ajutat s\u0103 aleg ceva dr\u0103gu\u0163. Dup\u0103 experien\u0163a asta, nu am mai f\u0103cut niciun cadou nim\u0103nui, m-am limitat doar la m\u0103r\u0163i\u015foare de 1 martie.” <\/p>\n

Carmen. <\/strong><\/p>\n

***<\/p>\n

“Mama a \u00eenceput s\u0103 \u00eenc\u0103run\u0163easc\u0103 foarte repede, \u00eenc\u0103 de c\u00e2nd eram \u00een gimnaziu. \u015ei nu-mi pl\u0103cea faptul c\u0103 are p\u0103rul alb, mi se p\u0103rea c\u0103 o ur\u00e2\u0163e\u015fte \u015fi o face s\u0103 arate b\u0103tr\u00e2n\u0103, iar eu \u00eemi doream ca mama s\u0103 r\u0103m\u00e2n\u0103 frumoas\u0103, a\u015fa cum \u00eemi pl\u0103cea mie.
\nAm pus banii pentru pache\u0163el deoparte \u015fi, de 8 martie, am rugat o coleg\u0103 de clas\u0103 s\u0103 m\u0103 ajute s\u0103-i cump\u0103r vopsea de p\u0103r mamei. Colegei mele \u00eei pl\u0103cea p\u0103rul ro\u015fcat, \u015fi am ales \u00eempreun\u0103, la un magazin de cosmetice, o vopsea de p\u0103r burgund, o culoare ca a vinului ro\u015fu.
\nC\u00e2nd i-am oferit cadoul, cu mare m\u00e2ndrie, pentru c\u0103 fusese o vopsea mai scump\u0103, mai ales pentru banii mei de atunci, am crezut c\u0103 mama o s\u0103 se bucure. Dar ea a \u00eenceput s\u0103 \u0163ipe la mine c\u0103 \u00eei aduc prostii din astea, c\u0103 ea nu e o curv\u0103 \u015fi culorile astea sunt pentru pi\u0163ipoance. A aruncat vopseaua \u00een fundul unui dulap \u015fi a r\u0103mas c\u0103runt\u0103.
\nA fost oribil.” <\/p>\n

Dan.<\/strong><\/p>\n

***<\/p>\n

“Am f\u0103cut cadou un pachet de c\u0103r\u0163i unei ignorante. Cadoul cuprindea c\u00e2teva c\u0103r\u0163i pentru ea (str\u0103in\u0103 stabilit\u0103 \u00een Rom\u00e2nia) \u0219i c\u00e2teva pentru copil, care \u00eenva\u021b\u0103 la o \u0219coal\u0103 cu predare \u00een limba rom\u00e2n\u0103 \u0219i avea dificult\u0103\u021bi \u00een acomodare.
\nM-am g\u00e2ndit c\u0103 o s\u0103 le prind\u0103 bine, \u015fi nici nu aveam alt\u0103 idee de cadou, deoarece e o persoan\u0103 \u00eenst\u0103rit\u0103. De\u0219i simbolic, cadoul era folositor.
\nReac\u021bia: “Oh,no! More books?” Po\u021bi s\u0103 ai prea multe c\u0103r\u021bi?<\/p>\n

Maya<\/strong><\/p>\n

Povestea asta, postat\u0103 \u00een comentariu, a venit \u015fi cu reac\u0163ie de la un idiot care s-a g\u00e2ndit c\u0103 e cazul s\u0103 fac\u0103 dreptate el pe peretele meu. <\/p>\n

\"\"<\/p>\n

Idiotul, care nu contribuia cu nimic la tem\u0103, s-a g\u00e2ndit c\u0103 e cazul s\u0103 stabileasc\u0103 el relevan\u0163a sau absen\u0163a acesteia, \u015fi a mai fost \u015fi \u00eengrozitor de \u0163\u0103ran \u00een atitudine. Ceea ce, dac\u0103 lu\u0103m m\u0103rturisirea fetei drept un cadou pentru mine, e o dovad\u0103 de reac\u0163ie de c\u0103cat la un dar oferit altuia. Iar asta bate \u00een m\u00e2rl\u0103nie reac\u0163iile de c\u0103cat la un cadou oferit \u0163ie. De aceea \u00eel \u015fi includem \u00een acest articol. <\/p>\n

***<\/p>\n

“\u00cen clasele primare, am dus flori \u00eenv\u0103\u021b\u0103toarei. \u00cenv\u0103\u021b\u0103toarea be like: \u201eOh, pe astea o s\u0103 le dau doamnei…\/profei de…\/femeii de serviciu, eu le p\u0103strez doar pe cele de plastic, hihi!\u201d<\/p>\n

C\u0103t\u0103lina<\/strong><\/p>\n

***<\/p>\n

“Din aceea\u0219i serie, am dus \u00eenv\u0103\u021b\u0103toarei, prin clasa a doua cred, dou\u0103 buchete de ghiocei, vineri (o fi fost 8 atunci sau \u00een weekend, dracu’ mai \u0219tie) \u0219i i-am spus adev\u0103rul: doar de at\u00e2t am avut bani. Replica: nu are nimic, po\u021bi s\u0103 \u00eemi aduci luni mai mult\/altceva (nu mai \u021bin minte perfect formularea dar asta era ideea).
\nBitch, say whaaat?!
\nPe vremurile c\u00e2nd p\u0103rin\u021bii c\u0103rau bibelouri, bijuterii \u0219i alte kkturi scumpe \u0219i prohibitive, ca s\u0103 ias\u0103 odorul premiant. Nu am ie\u0219it niciodat\u0103 de premiul 1. \ud83d\ude00 ” <\/p>\n

Ella<\/strong><\/p>\n

***<\/p>\n

“O fost\u0103 coleg\u0103 de-ale mele de clas\u0103 a venit la profesoara de englez\u0103 cu un m\u0103r\u021bisor cu fulgi. Replica acesteia: “Fulgi?! Da\u2019 ce, io-s g\u0103in\u0103?!
\nClasa a doua. Respectiva profesoar\u0103 se credea Veronica Micle. Nu mai \u015ftiu cum a gestionat colega situa\u0163ia.” <\/p>\n

Silvia<\/strong><\/p>\n

***<\/p>\n

“\u00cen primul an de c\u0103s\u0103torie, i-am cump\u0103rat so\u0163iei de 8 martie un fier de c\u0103lcat. Se v\u0103ieta de ceva vreme c\u0103 are nevoie de unul nou. S-a uitat la mine \u015fi mi-a zis: “OK, asta e pentru cas\u0103. \u015ei cadoul?” “Nu, \u0103sta e cadoul”, am zis eu, care eram cam bou. “De ce, tu n-ai c\u0103m\u0103\u015fi de c\u0103lcat?” “Ba da.” “Bun, de Cr\u0103ciun o s\u0103-\u0163i cump\u0103r un ciocan \u015fi cuie. Nu e ca \u015fi cum me\u015ftere\u015fti tu cine \u015ftie c\u00e2t prin cas\u0103, dar ca s\u0103 \u00een\u0163elegi c\u0103 obiectele domestice nu sunt cadouri.”
\nLesson learned: c\u00e2nd vin zilele astea de s\u0103rb\u0103toare, \u00eei dau bani, s\u0103-\u015fi cumpere ce dore\u015fte”. <\/p>\n

Victor<\/strong><\/p>\n

***<\/p>\n

Sigur, ultima poveste nu e din registrul celorlalte, pentru c\u0103 realmente, nu po\u0163i pretinde c\u0103 faci cadou un fier de c\u0103lcat de care o s\u0103 beneficiezi \u015fi tu din plin \u00een urm\u0103torii ani, \u015fi nici nu e festiv s\u0103 d\u0103ruie\u015fti obiecte gospod\u0103re\u015fti.
\nDar restul pove\u015ftilor m-au l\u0103sat cu un gust amar.
\nC\u00e2nd un om ne face un cadou, ne d\u0103ruie\u015fte o f\u0103r\u00e2m\u0103 din sine. Poate nu neap\u0103rat pe gustul nostru. Dar putem s\u0103 facem un mic efort s\u0103 nu urin\u0103m cu jet pe gesturile de curtoazie ale semenilor no\u015ftri? <\/p>\n

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