Noaptea trecut\u0103, am intrat pur \u015fi simplu \u00een vorb\u0103 cu o t\u00e2n\u0103r\u0103 americanc\u0103 pe care o aveam, habar n-am de ce \u015fi cum, \u00een lista de Facebook. De ce m\u0103 adaug\u0103 oameni care nu-mi citesc \u015fi nu-mi \u00een\u0163eleg textele? Mahomezii \u015fi Arushii o fac datorit\u0103 fotografiilor. Dar fetele? <\/p>\n
\u00cen fine, totul a pornit de la un status al ei exasperat la ea pe perete, c\u0103 de c\u00e2nd Trump a ajuns pre\u015fedinte, ta-su parc\u0103 a \u00eennebunit, \u015fi are numai discursuri de tip “b\u0103rbatul e coroana familiei” \u015fi o \u0163ine \u00een interogatorii de procuror stalinist, cum a citit el pe forumurile de alt right c\u0103 trebuie tratate femeile, iar ea nu mai suport\u0103. <\/p>\n
Dac\u0103 cineva \u015ftie s\u0103 deslu\u015feasc\u0103 disperarea de printre r\u00e2nduri, acel cineva sunt chiar eu, a\u015fa c\u0103 i-am adresat c\u00e2teva cuvinte de \u00eencurajare, \u015fi i-am recomandat s\u0103 \u00eencerce s\u0103 se mute de acas\u0103, pentru c\u0103 pe p\u0103rin\u0163ii abuzivi n-ai cum s\u0103-i schimbi cu argumente \u015fi negocieri, ci strict cu c\u00e2\u0163iva ani \u00een care retezi din r\u0103d\u0103cin\u0103 orice comunicare \u015fi c\u00e2nd o reiei, ai mare grij\u0103 s-o reiei \u00een termenii t\u0103i \u015fi numai ai t\u0103i. <\/p>\n
Fata mi-a scris privat, \u015fi a \u00eenceput s\u0103-mi relateze povestea ei de via\u0163\u0103. Lucru pe care-l face mult\u0103 lume, fie c\u0103 m\u0103 \u015ftie bine, fie c\u0103 nu, \u015fi adeseori sunt cople\u015fit\u0103 de calitatea aceasta a mea de a extrage confesiuni f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 fac nimic pentru ele. Dar na, pe unele le \u00een\u0163eleg pentru c\u0103 vin dintr-un punct al disper\u0103rii at\u00e2t de negru, \u00eenc\u00e2t poate c\u0103 simpla mea ascultare \u00eel \u0163ine pe om departe de cu\u0163itul de buc\u0103t\u0103rie. <\/p>\n
Pe baza fotografiilor, tipa e cute. Plinu\u0163\u0103, ca majoritatea americanilor, dar cute. Faptul c\u0103 nu mascheaz\u0103 c\u0103 e plinu\u0163\u0103 \u00eemi certific\u0103 autenticitatea pozelor.
\nSt\u0103 \u00eentr-un ora\u015f mic din sudul tradi\u0163ionalist conservator, \u015fi a terminat liceul de c\u00e2\u0163iva ani. N-a putut \u00eencerca la o facultate, pentru c\u0103 maic\u0103-sa sufer\u0103 de o boal\u0103 care o \u0163ine la pat \u015fi, din adolescen\u0163\u0103, sarcina de a o \u00eengriji a c\u0103zut \u00een poala ei.
\n\u00cencearc\u0103 s\u0103-\u015fi caute de lucru, m\u0103car un part-time. Ultimul job a fost tura de noapte la un call center. Dar ar fi avut nevoie de somn \u00een prima jum\u0103tate a zilei, iar maic\u0103-sa parc\u0103 inten\u0163ionat tr\u00e2ntea, \u0163ipa \u015fi o trezea din 20 \u00een 20 de minute, s-o pedepseasc\u0103 pentru orele pe care le-a petrecut departe de cas\u0103. A cedat fizic \u015fi psihic \u015fi a trebuit s\u0103 demisioneze. \u015ei-\u015fi caut\u0103 din nou de lucru, dar sarcinile de infirmier\u0103 nepl\u0103tit\u0103 primeaz\u0103, \u015fi orice ar face, trebuie s\u0103 lase pe loc din m\u00e2n\u0103 \u015fi s\u0103 sar\u0103, de cum deschide maic\u0103-sa gura. Nici taic\u0103-su, nici ea nu au vreo secund\u0103 con\u015ftiin\u0163a faptului c\u0103 i-au retezat visele de viitor \u015fi c\u0103 au \u00eenh\u0103mat-o la o munc\u0103 pentru care, dac\u0103 ar fi fost s\u0103 pl\u0103teasc\u0103 ajutor de specialitate, i-ar fi ars grav la buzunar. Ambii o trateaz\u0103 ca \u015fi cum ea ar fi sluga supus\u0103 \u015fi umil\u0103 pe care o pot trimite \u00eencolo \u015fi \u00eencoace dup\u0103 pofta inimii, \u015fi \u00een plus, discursul “noi te \u0163inem”. <\/p>\n
I-am recomandat urm\u0103toarele: dac\u0103 tot are experien\u0163\u0103 \u00een \u015fters babe la cur, s\u0103 plece pur \u015fi simplu \u00een alt stat \u015fi s\u0103 \u015ftearg\u0103 la cur contra cost. Orice copil h\u0103r\u0163uit descoper\u0103 cu o uria\u015f\u0103 surpriz\u0103 c\u0103 str\u0103inii te trateaz\u0103 \u00een general mult mai bine dec\u00e2t propria ta familie, iar joburile de \u00eengrijitor sunt excelent remunerate. Asta o va ajuta s\u0103-\u015fi c\u00e2\u015ftige o oarecare independen\u0163\u0103 financiar\u0103, \u015fi, odat\u0103 ce ai lucrul \u0103sta, discursurile misogine \u015fi patriarhale au magia de a \u0163i se p\u0103rea vorb\u0103-n v\u00e2nt. <\/p>\n
“\u00cen casa unor str\u0103ini, vei fi pl\u0103tit\u0103 s\u0103 faci munca pe care o faci acas\u0103, cu mica diferen\u0163\u0103 c\u0103 \u0103ia \u00ee\u0163i vor fi recunosc\u0103tori \u015fi \u00ee\u0163i vor respecta boundaries.” <\/p>\n
“Mi-e pu\u0163in greu s\u0103 o p\u0103r\u0103sesc pe mama, e ca \u015fi cum mi-a\u015f \u00eenc\u0103lca o obliga\u0163ie”, a zis ea. <\/p>\n
“Maic\u0103-tii de ce nu i-a fost ‘pu\u0163in greu’ s\u0103 te lase s\u0103 dormi dup\u0103 jobul de noapte? E vorba de a-i dori copilului t\u0103u s\u0103 reu\u015feasc\u0103 \u00een via\u0163\u0103, s\u0103-\u015fi creeze o \u015fans\u0103, s\u0103 fac\u0103 \u015fi altceva dec\u00e2t s\u0103 te slug\u0103reasc\u0103 pe tine.”<\/p>\n
“Nu le pas\u0103 de a\u015fa ceva”, a zis fata. “M\u0103 tot \u0163in cu discursuri trumpiste legate de locul femeii.” <\/p>\n
“P\u0103i, tocmai pentru c\u0103 nu le pas\u0103, trebuie tu s\u0103 g\u0103se\u015fti \u00een tine puterea s\u0103 rupi acest cerc vicios. Acum, la 20 \u015fi ceva, ai puterea s-o faci. \u00centinde-\u0163i aripile \u015fi zbori.” <\/p>\n
“Dar dac\u0103 \u015fi \u0103ia la care m\u0103 angajez vor fi m\u0103gari?” <\/p>\n
“Nu e exclus, pentru c\u0103 pe lume sunt foarte, foarte, foarte mul\u0163i m\u0103gari. Partea bun\u0103 e c\u0103, interac\u0163ion\u00e2nd cu m\u0103gari, vei \u00eenv\u0103\u0163a s\u0103-i pui la punct \u015fi s\u0103 nu te mai la\u015fi strivit\u0103. Ia-o ca pe o provocare, nu ca pe un bagaj.” <\/p>\n
C\u00e2nd ne-am luat bun r\u0103mas, era deja gen ora 5 diminea\u0163a \u00een Rom\u00e2nia, iar fata tocmai intra pe siteuri de joburi s\u0103-\u015fi caute de lucru. <\/p>\n
Realitatea e c\u0103 drepturile femeilor nu sunt \u00een siguran\u0163\u0103 nic\u0103ieri pe aceast\u0103 planet\u0103, iar Handmaid’s Tale nu e at\u00e2t de fictiv\u0103, pe c\u00e2t ne-ar pl\u0103cea s\u0103 credem.
\nDar realitatea e, pe de alt\u0103 parte, c\u0103 avem \u00een fiecare secund\u0103 op\u0163iunea s\u0103 lupt\u0103m, s\u0103 spunem “nu”, iar dac\u0103 “nu”-ul nu e luat \u00een serios, s\u0103 p\u0103r\u0103sim incinta p\u00e2n\u0103 c\u00e2nd o s\u0103 fie. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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