{"id":14616,"date":"2018-03-28T10:14:57","date_gmt":"2018-03-28T07:14:57","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=14616"},"modified":"2018-03-28T10:35:51","modified_gmt":"2018-03-28T07:35:51","slug":"catastiful-de-termeni-abuzati-cu-nerusinare-viata-si-familie","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/catastiful-de-termeni-abuzati-cu-nerusinare-viata-si-familie\/","title":{"rendered":"Catastiful de termeni abuza\u0163i cu neru\u015finare: “via\u0163\u0103” \u015fi “familie”"},"content":{"rendered":"

\u015ei iar se reiau discu\u0163iile alea profund irelevante, total pe l\u00e2ng\u0103 subiect \u015fi demne doar de praf \u00een ochii popula\u0163iei: “via\u0163a” \u015fi “familia”. Sectan\u0163ii retrograzi care finan\u0163eaz\u0103 Coali\u0163ia pentru Familie au reu\u015fit s\u0103 impun\u0103 rahatul \u0103la de referendum \u00een mai, \u015fi vestea tragic\u0103 e c\u0103 e pe banii no\u015ftri. Pe banii no\u015ftri deja pu\u0163ini, care ar putea fi investi\u0163i \u00een nenum\u0103rate lucruri mai utile societ\u0103\u0163ii.<\/p>\n

\u015ei \u00eencearc\u0103 din r\u0103sputeri s\u0103 ob\u0163in\u0103 limitarea avorturilor, similar cu Polonia, probabil. M\u0103 a\u015ftept \u00een cur\u00e2nd la proiecte de lege \u015fi \u00een acest sens, caz \u00een care \u00eemi pun cort \u00een Pia\u0163a Victoriei \u015fi protestez p\u00e2n\u0103 murim, sau eu, sau proiectul de lege.<\/p>\n

\u015ei nu o fac pentru mine. Eu \u00een zece, maximum cinsprezece ani am terminat cu orice problem\u0103 legat\u0103 de o poten\u0163ial\u0103 sarcin\u0103, \u015fi m\u0103 ap\u0103r cu toate metodele de contracep\u0163ie posibile. O fac pentru c\u0103 dreptul unei femei de a decide asupra propriului corp \u015fi asupra propriei vie\u0163i mi se pare fundamental \u00eentr-o societate liber\u0103. Iar \u00een ziua \u00een care se va interzice avortul, ar trebui ca toate femeile s\u0103 refuze, colectiv, s\u0103 mai fac\u0103 sex. Pur \u015fi simplu. C\u00e2nd orice partid\u0103 de sex vine cu pericolul de a-\u0163i r\u0103sturna toate planurile de via\u0163\u0103 – da, iat\u0103 termenul “via\u0163\u0103” corect folosit \u00een situa\u0163ia dat\u0103 – mai bine \u00ee\u0163i iei o juc\u0103rie cu c\u00e2te viteze vrei \u015fi te lipse\u015fti definitiv de sex.<\/p>\n

Retrograzilor le place foarte tare s\u0103 mascheze aceste subiecte \u00een termeni pompo\u015fi: “via\u0163\u0103” \u015fi “familie”.<\/p>\n

Realitatea ironic\u0103 este c\u0103, at\u00e2t \u00een ceea ce prive\u015fte via\u0163a, c\u00e2t \u015fi \u00een ceea ce prive\u015fte familia, rom\u00e2nii sunt lacunari \u015fi ar fi nevoie de discu\u0163ii solide. Dar nu \u00een sensul \u00een care vor retrograzii.<\/p>\n

Sunt at\u00e2\u0163ia oameni \u00een jurul nostru care pur \u015fi simplu nu \u015ftiu s\u0103 tr\u0103iasc\u0103. Nu \u015ftiu s\u0103 creeze sau s\u0103 identifice oportunit\u0103\u0163i, nu \u015ftiu s\u0103 le valorifice, nu se bucur\u0103 nici m\u0103car c\u00e2nd au motive \u015fi sunt absen\u0163i din propriile lor vie\u0163i. Sunt at\u00e2\u0163ia oameni care tr\u0103iesc mic, care fac lucruri \u00een virtutea iner\u0163iei, care nu au idealuri, care nu con\u015ftientizeaz\u0103 c\u0103 asta e poate singura .\u015fans\u0103 la c\u0103utarea fericirii care ne-a fost acordat\u0103 \u015fi, \u00een loc s\u0103 o risipim cu interac\u0163iuni t\u00e2mpite, ar trebui s\u0103 investim \u00een noi \u00een\u015fine \u015fi s\u0103 ne transpunem visele \u00een realitate. E singurul mod \u00een care merit\u0103 s\u0103 tr\u0103ie\u015fti.<\/p>\n

Sunt at\u00e2\u0163ia oameni care nu \u015ftiu lucruri, dar nici nu sunt interesa\u0163i s\u0103 le afle, \u015fi se mai \u015fi baricadeaz\u0103 \u00een propria ignoran\u0163\u0103 ca \u00eentr-un turn imaginar, plasat \u00eentotdeauna deasupra capetelor altora. De parc\u0103 prostia ar fi noua virtute.<\/p>\n

Sunt at\u00e2\u0163ia oameni care rateaz\u0103, \u015fi care nu \u00eencearc\u0103 a doua oar\u0103, \u015fi tr\u0103iesc cu regret toat\u0103 via\u0163a.<\/p>\n

To\u0163i ace\u015fti oameni ar merita un curs de introducere 101 \u00een ideea de via\u0163\u0103, pentru c\u0103 se \u00eenc\u0103p\u0103\u0163\u00e2neaz\u0103 s\u0103 tr\u0103iasc\u0103 \u00eentr-o bucl\u0103 a nefericirii, dintr-o combina\u0163ie de la\u015fitate \u015fi presiune social\u0103.<\/p>\n

Dac\u0103 pensionarul ciufut care se \u00eembr\u00e2nce\u015fte \u00een autobuz din lips\u0103 de activitate, ur\u0103 pe pielea mai t\u00e2n\u0103r\u0103 a celor din jur \u015fi nemul\u0163umire din cauza pensiei mici ar pune pe net un anun\u0163: “Ofer servicii de cat sitting, pre\u0163uri accesibile, experien\u0163\u0103” \u015fi-ar rezolva dintr-un \u015fut trei probleme: pe cea financiar\u0103, lipsa interac\u0163iunii sociale, care \u00eel \u015fi face s\u0103 se \u00eenghesuie \u00een autobuz in the first place, \u015fi anxietatea – pentru c\u0103 pisicile sunt calmantul natural oferit de zei din iubire de omenire.<\/p>\n

Dar, pentru asta, omul ar trebui s\u0103-\u015fi updateze viziunea fa\u0163\u0103 de via\u0163\u0103, \u00een primul r\u00e2nd. S-o abordeze dintr-un unghi al dorin\u0163ei de a cre\u015fte ca persoan\u0103 \u015fi al unei mentalit\u0103\u0163i de “ce am eu de oferit necesar altora \u015fi cum fac s\u0103 fiu pl\u0103tit pentru asta.”<\/p>\n

Pentru c\u0103 via\u0163a, dragi retrograzi, nu e numai semestrul I de sarcin\u0103. Singura form\u0103 de via\u0163\u0103 de care mima\u0163i c\u0103 v\u0103 pas\u0103. Via\u0163a e TOAT\u0102 via\u0163a.<\/p>\n

Via\u0163\u0103 are \u015fi femeia care, datorit\u0103 unei sarcini neplanificate, \u00ee\u015fi poate vedea distruse ni\u015fte ambi\u0163ii \u015fi ni\u015fte planuri. Via\u0163\u0103 are \u015fi tipul care poate nu dorea fix \u00een secunda aia s\u0103 se trezeasc\u0103 cotizant la pensie alimentar\u0103. Via\u0163\u0103 are \u015fi familia femeii, care poate nu are chef exact atunci s\u0103 bage baby sitting gratuit, s\u0103 poat\u0103 merge mama la munc\u0103.<\/p>\n

\u015ei a\u015fa mai departe.<\/p>\n

C\u0103 nimeni, niciodat\u0103, nu a vrut s\u0103 avorteze \u00eentr-un moment al vie\u0163ii \u00een care o ducea bine \u015fi cu banii, \u015fi era preg\u0103tit\u0103 moral s\u0103 \u00eenfrunte nop\u0163i \u00eentregi de urlat interminabil. Dimpotriv\u0103. De cum dau de siguran\u0163\u0103 \u015fi confort, multe femei VOR copii. Lupt\u0103 s\u0103-i aib\u0103.<\/p>\n

Unicul mod gre\u015fit de a stimula natalitatea e coerci\u0163ia. S-a v\u0103zut deja cu decre\u0163eii.<\/p>\n

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\u015ei unde duce natalitatea asta for\u0163at\u0103? Exact la o criz\u0103 a no\u0163iunii de familie.<\/p>\n

St\u0103team de vorb\u0103 zilele trecute cu o prieten\u0103 care mi-a fost coleg\u0103 \u00een \u015fcoal\u0103. \u015ei ne minunam am\u00e2ndou\u0103 cum, \u00een familiile noastre comuniste, pur \u015fi simplu NU exista iubire. Nu existau discu\u0163ii sincere \u015fi deschise \u00eentre genera\u0163ii. Copilul era obligat s\u0103 tac\u0103, s\u0103 fac\u0103 ce i se comand\u0103 \u015fi s\u0103 fie recunosc\u0103tor c\u0103 prime\u015fte de m\u00e2ncare. \u015ei dac\u0103 nu era de acord cu ceva ce i se impunea, era neascult\u0103tor \u015fi-\u015fi primea dou\u0103 peste bot, s\u0103 se dezve\u0163e de g\u00e2ndit cu propriul cap.<\/p>\n

Pentru c\u0103 nu eram dori\u0163i, eram poveri. Aveam statut de poveri, \u015fi dac\u0103 mai sunte\u0163i mul\u0163i ca mine, sigur v-a\u0163i pus intern \u00eentrebarea: “De ce rahat m-a\u0163i mai f\u0103cur?”<\/p>\n

R\u0103spuns: “Pentru c\u0103 pe vremea lui Ceau\u015fescu nu erau disponibile avorturile.”<\/p>\n

\u015ei no\u0163iunea de familie a evoluat \u00een oarecare m\u0103sur\u0103 \u00een ora\u015fele mari, de atunci. V\u0103d oameni care sunt \u00eempreun\u0103 pentru c\u0103 se iubesc sincer \u015fi v\u0103d p\u0103rin\u0163i care-\u015fi trateaz\u0103 copiii ca pe parteneri de dialog, nu ca pe propriet\u0103\u0163i obligate s\u0103 func\u0163ioneze impecabil \u00een parametrii trasa\u0163i de ei.<\/p>\n

Dar mai e nevoie de mult efort, pentru ca familia rom\u00e2neasc\u0103 s\u0103 devin\u0103 un loc \u00een care oamenii se adun\u0103 s\u0103-\u015fi ofere iubire, sus\u0163inere, lini\u015fte \u015fi \u00eencurajare unii altora.<\/p>\n

\u015ei asta e dezbaterea despre familie la care mi-a\u015f dori s\u0103 asist. Pentru c\u0103 abia \u00eentr-o astfel de familie mi-a\u015f dori, poate, s\u0103 am \u015fi eu copii.<\/p>\n

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