{"id":14707,"date":"2018-04-10T09:33:22","date_gmt":"2018-04-10T06:33:22","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=14707"},"modified":"2018-04-10T09:37:55","modified_gmt":"2018-04-10T06:37:55","slug":"posta-redactiei-de-ce-scrii-despre-tine-la-genul-masculin","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/posta-redactiei-de-ce-scrii-despre-tine-la-genul-masculin\/","title":{"rendered":"Po\u015fta redac\u0163iei: de ce scrii despre tine la genul masculin"},"content":{"rendered":"

Salut, Lorena,\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

Te citesc de ceva ani, \u00eenc\u0103 din studen\u0163ie, \u015fi ai scris multe lucruri care chiar m-au ajutat, mersi mult.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

B\u0103i, dar un lucru nu \u00een\u0163eleg \u015fi dac\u0103 vrei o s\u0103 r\u0103spunzi, dac\u0103 nu, nu. De ce, de fiecare dat\u0103 c\u00e2nd scrii despre tine, folose\u015fti genul masculin? \u00ce\u0163i dau citate dac\u0103 vrei, dar cred c\u0103 \u015ftii despre ce vorbesc.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

Dac\u0103 am atins un subiect nepotrivit, te rog s\u0103 nu m\u0103 \u00eenjuri, c\u0103 mie \u00eemi place s\u0103 te citesc.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

X.<\/strong><\/p>\n

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Drag\u0103 cititor,<\/p>\n

Eu nu scriu neap\u0103rat despre mine ca apar\u0163in\u0103tor al sexului masculin. Scriu ca apar\u0163in\u0103tor al sexului neutru, pentru c\u0103 m\u0103 enerveaz\u0103 nespus prejudec\u0103\u0163ile pe care caut\u0103 s\u0103 mi le impun\u0103 societatea: dac\u0103 sunt femeie, trebuie s\u0103 fac asta, asta \u015fi asta. \u015ei trebuie s\u0103 m\u0103 comport supus cu sexul opus, indiferent c\u00e2t de idiot ar fi reprezentantul lui care tocmai m\u0103 freac\u0103 la icre. \u015ei trebuie s\u0103 m\u0103 comport invidios \u015fi penibil cu femeile, dac\u0103 au \u0163\u00e2\u0163e mai mari dec\u00e2t mine. \u015ei c\u0103 trebuie s\u0103 m\u0103 \u00eempuiez, \u015fi alte idio\u0163enii similare.<\/p>\n

M\u0103rturisesc c\u0103 nu m\u0103 recunosc \u00een nimic din ceea ce povestesc oamenii \u0103\u015ftia, de aceea, termenul “ea” nu mi se potrive\u015fte \u00een nici un fel.<\/p>\n

Cred c\u0103 scriitura mea are o calitate comparabil\u0103 cu a oric\u0103rui b\u0103rbat din genera\u0163ia mea, poate chiar superioar\u0103, cred c\u0103 \u00eemi sus\u0163in punctele de vedere cu o argumenta\u0163ie ferm\u0103 \u015fi clar\u0103, \u015fi mai cred c\u0103 \u015ftiu exact ce vreau \u015fi bag de fiecare dat\u0103 efort onest \u015fi generos pentru asta.<\/p>\n

De aceea m\u0103 seac\u0103 teribil ca lucruri pe care le fac s\u0103 fie “taken for granted”, c\u0103 a\u015fa sunt femeile. Nu le fac pentru c\u0103 a\u015fa sunt femeile, le fac pentru c\u0103 m\u0103 implic \u015fi a\u015ftept apreciere pentru ele.<\/p>\n

Un individ a dat la un moment dat unfriend tuturor femeilor din list\u0103 c\u0103-l gelozea nevast\u0103-sa. Apoi a \u00eencercat s\u0103 m\u0103 readauge. “Mar\u015f, m\u0103”. “Dar uite ce s-a \u00eent\u00e2mplat.” “Era vorba de femei, adic\u0103 de persoane cu care ai putea avea o aventur\u0103. Eu nu sunt femeie din acest punct de vedere. Nu m\u0103 interesezi \u015fi nu m-ai interesat niciodat\u0103. Eu sunt scriitor, iar profesia asta, c\u00e2nd e practicat\u0103 cum trebuie, e unisex. Drept care, mar\u015f c\u0103lduros \u00een pula mea”.<\/p>\n

Dup\u0103 aia, un prost a \u00eenceput un zvon c\u0103 eu a\u015f fi un tip care se \u00eembrac\u0103 \u00een haine de femeie. Ceea ce e ridicol. \u00cen Rom\u00e2nia, femeia a fost \u00eentotdeauna membrul cel mai de jos al familiei, dup\u0103 coroana casei, b\u0103rbatul, \u015fi dup\u0103 viitorul na\u0163iei, copiii. Un b\u0103rbat care se \u00eembrac\u0103 \u00een femeie \u00een Rom\u00e2nia ar trebui s\u0103 fie t\u00e2mpit. Se expune la at\u00e2ta h\u0103r\u0163uial\u0103 inept\u0103, mesaje private idioate \u015fi l\u0103b\u0103real\u0103 de prost gust, \u00eenc\u00e2t varianta plauzibil\u0103 e mai degrab\u0103 invers.<\/p>\n

Multe femei au fost b\u0103rba\u0163i pe internet, \u00een perioada de tinere\u0163e a internetului rom\u00e2nesc. Pentru c\u0103, pe atunci, foamea era mare, \u015fi dac\u0103 te prezentai lumii ca femeie, te \u00eenjurau alternativ cu rev\u0103rsare de libidino\u015fenii gre\u0163oase \u015fi proiec\u0163ii sexuale de cea mai joas\u0103 spe\u0163\u0103, p\u00e2n\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i vomitai min\u0163ile.<\/p>\n

Eu \u00eens\u0103mi am ars-o b\u0103iat \u00een online \u00een perioada de dinainte de blog, c\u00e2nd forumurile erau la putere (2000 – 2005) \u015fi nu m-a b\u0103nuit nimeni niciodat\u0103 de posesiune de vagin. Partea bun\u0103 \u00een asta era c\u0103 impresionam cu argumentele \u015fi c\u0103 nu \u00eencerca nimeni s\u0103 fac\u0103 pe coco\u015felul stupid cu mine. B\u0103rba\u0163ii sunt foarte fair, gentili \u015fi fraterni cu al\u0163i b\u0103rba\u0163i, mai ales dac\u0103 ace\u015fti al\u0163i b\u0103rba\u0163i nu bubuie de pro\u015fti.<\/p>\n

Cele mai bune aga\u0163amente a\u015fa le aveam. Neav\u00e2nd de impresionat o femeie, oamenii discutau normal. Dintre ei, m\u0103 b\u0103gam \u00een seam\u0103 cu \u0103la care era cel mai uman \u015fi simpatic \u00een argumenta\u0163ie, \u00eei explicam \u00een mesaj privat c\u0103 sunt fat\u0103 \u015fi \u00eel invitam la o bere. A\u015fa am cunoscut mul\u0163i b\u0103ie\u0163i teribil de faini \u00een perioada aia.<\/p>\n

O vreme, v\u0103z\u00e2nd c\u00e2t de bine func\u0163ionez cu o identitate masculin\u0103, m-am \u00eentrebat dac\u0103 nu cumva sunt transgender. Dac\u0103 nu cumva \u00een acest corp de femeie se ascunde o identitate de b\u0103rbat, de vreme ce \u00eemi place s\u0103 m\u0103 refer la mine cu “el”.<\/p>\n

Dar am discutat mult cu alte femei. Sunt foarte multe care nu se recunosc \u00een modelul tradi\u0163ional supus, “da, iubi”, “stau cum m\u0103 pui, iubi.” Sunt multe care au ambi\u0163ie, vise mari, n-au r\u0103bdare cu gher\u0163oi care pretind aten\u0163ie strict pe baz\u0103 de de\u0163inere de penis \u015fi nu se v\u0103d la crati\u0163\u0103. Deci, nu sunt singura care nu se potrive\u015fte cu stereotipul.<\/p>\n

Sunt multe ca mine, care, totu\u015fi, se consider\u0103 femei 100%.<\/p>\n

\u015ei realitatea e c\u0103 \u00eemi place corpul meu, exact cum e el alc\u0103tuit. Nu mi-a\u015f dori cu tot dinadinsul s\u0103 de\u0163in un penis. Ar fi amuzant, desigur, dar nu indispensabil.<\/p>\n

\u015ei probabil c\u0103 \u015fi altor femei le place s\u0103 fie femei. Singura noastr\u0103 problem\u0103 rezid\u0103 \u00een setul diferit de a\u015ftept\u0103ri care vine ata\u015fat la acest corp: a\u015ftept\u0103ri care n-au nici o leg\u0103tur\u0103 cu individualitatea, ci doar cu un set de idei preconcepute stupide.<\/p>\n

Pentru c\u0103 \u00een secunda \u00een care m\u0103 crezi b\u0103rbat pe un forum, nu e\u015fti nici m\u00e2rlan, nici fake, nici libidinos. E\u015fti ra\u0163ional \u015fi prietenos. \u015ei ne putem \u00een\u0163elege.<\/p>\n

Prin urmare, problema nu e la mine. Problema e la modul \u00een care trateaz\u0103 societatea femeile. Mod de care m\u0103 deta\u015fez, \u015fi o fac scriind despre mine cu “el”.<\/p>\n

*<\/p>\n

\u015ei pe de alt\u0103 parte, exist\u0103 acest termen nou care-mi place extrem de tare. “Genderfluid”.<\/p>\n

Defini\u0163ia lui sun\u0103 a\u015fa, conform wikipedia.<\/p>\n

Genderfluid is a gender identity which refers to a gender that varies over time. A gender fluid person may at any time identify as male, female, neutrois, or any other non-binary identity, or some combination of identities. Their gender can also vary at random or vary in response to different circumstances. Gender fluid people may also identify as multigender, non-binary and\/or transgender. Genderfluid people may feel more comfortable using gender neutral pronouns and have a androgynous gender expression.<\/p>\n

\u015ei mai simplu, pe urban dictionary:<\/p>\n

Gender Fluid is a gender identity best described as a dynamic mix of boy and girl. A person who is Gender Fluid may always feel like a mix of the two traditional genders, but may feel more boy some days, and more girl other days.
\nBeing Gender Fluid has nothing to do with which set of genitalia one has, nor their sexual orientation.<\/p>\n

R\u0103spuns final.<\/p>\n

Da, cred c\u0103 genderfluid e termenul care mi se potrive\u015fte. Sunt par\u0163ial b\u0103iat \u015fi par\u0163ial fat\u0103. De aceea voi scrie \u00eentotdeauna despre mine la genul neutru.<\/p>\n

*<\/p>\n

Ai o \u00eentrebare care te fr\u0103m\u00e2nt\u0103? Trimite-mi-o, \u015fi dac\u0103 nu e mai stupid\u0103 dec\u00e2t un citat al lui Tony Popt\u0103ma\u015f, \u00ee\u0163i r\u0103spund.<\/p>\n

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