{"id":14720,"date":"2018-04-11T09:46:38","date_gmt":"2018-04-11T06:46:38","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=14720"},"modified":"2018-04-11T09:48:36","modified_gmt":"2018-04-11T06:48:36","slug":"prietenia-adolescentina","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/prietenia-adolescentina\/","title":{"rendered":"Prietenia adolescentin\u0103"},"content":{"rendered":"

Majoritatea grupurilor de Facebook \u00een care sunt membru sunt de o prostie incomensurabil\u0103 \u015fi de-o inutilitate absolut\u0103, o form\u0103 oarecare de lab\u0103-n cerc sau reclame mascate la lucruri care nu intereseaz\u0103 pe nimeni. Drept care, majoritatea grupurilor de Facebook \u00een care sunt eu membru sunt date pe “mute”, exact ca mesajele private cu aceia dintre voi care ave\u0163i un istoric de pis\u0103logeal\u0103 random, mai ales la ore idioate din noapte.<\/p>\n

Dar e un grup de Facebook pe care \u00eel urm\u0103resc cu mare interes, mai mult pe mute\u015fte, pentru c\u0103 nu m\u0103 intereseaz\u0103 s\u0103 fiu miezul din dodoa\u015fc\u0103 \u015fi linguroi \u00een toate ciorbele, fie c\u0103 m\u0103 privesc, fie c\u0103 nu. E un grup de adolescen\u0163i care \u00ee\u015fi confeseaz\u0103 problemele.<\/p>\n

Uimire mare, sunt exact problemele prin care am trecut \u015fi noi c\u00e2nd eram adolescen\u0163i. Ca dovad\u0103 c\u0103 tehnologia evolueaz\u0103, \u00eens\u0103 etapele maturiz\u0103rii omului r\u0103m\u00e2n acelea\u015fi.<\/p>\n

O problem\u0103 pe care am avut-o \u015fi eu la v\u00e2rsta aia, \u015fi pe care am descoperit-o descris\u0103 cu pasiunea f\u0103r\u0103 cenzur\u0103 specific\u0103 v\u00e2rstei este:<\/p>\n

“De ce nu pot g\u0103si prieteni adev\u0103ra\u0163i? De ce nimeni nu \u0163ine cu adev\u0103rat la mine? De ce to\u0163i par s\u0103-mi fie prieteni p\u00e2n\u0103 la un punct, apoi m\u0103 abandoneaz\u0103, \u00eemi tr\u0103deaz\u0103 secretele \u015fi m\u0103 b\u00e2rfesc pe la spate?”<\/p>\n

R\u0103spunsul este scurt \u015fi sec: pentru c\u0103 \u00eencerci prea tare.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

Nimic nu func\u0163ioneaz\u0103 ca repelent al afec\u0163iunii umane ca omul care \u00eencearc\u0103 prea tare. \u015etiu, e bizar, e nedrept; dar via\u0163a \u00een general e un fenomen c\u00e2t se poate de nedrept.<\/p>\n

Orice interac\u0163iune cu al\u0163i oameni e un joc de noroc. \u015ei de aceea e bine s\u0103 nu te arunci like there’s no tomorrow pentru c\u0103, except\u00e2nd cazurile cu adev\u0103rat tragice, tomorrow e tot acolo \u015fi o s\u0103 vin\u0103 s\u0103 te mu\u015fte de cur.<\/p>\n

Versiunea s\u0103n\u0103toas\u0103 a rela\u0163iilor \u00eentre oameni este urm\u0103toarea: fiecare dintre personaje are o via\u0163\u0103 proprie, vise de fug\u0103rit, treburi, priorit\u0103\u0163i, iar c\u00e2nd ambele personaje \u00ee\u015fi fac timp, se distreaz\u0103 minunat \u00eempreun\u0103, dar dac\u0103 unul nu are timp, nu e nici o panic\u0103.<\/p>\n

“Cum adic\u0103 nici o panic\u0103?” o s\u0103 m\u0103 \u00eentrebi tu cu nedumerire. “Abia a\u015fteptam s\u0103 fiu cu Dumitru, Dumitru e centrul universului meu, \u00eel ador pe Dumitru, Dumitru e soarele constela\u0163iei mele, \u015fi c\u00e2nd colo, Dumitru nu vine!”<\/p>\n

Exact. Nimic nu-i semnalizeaz\u0103 lui Dumitru c\u0103 e cazul s\u0103 fug\u0103 m\u00e2nc\u00e2nd p\u0103m\u00e2ntul \u015fi \u00eenc\u0103 trei planete random, ca aceast\u0103 form\u0103 de disperare.<\/p>\n

\u015ei hai s\u0103 recunoa\u015ftem: c\u00e2nd experimentezi aceste forme de tr\u0103ire, nici nu e vorba foarte tare despre Dumitru ca individ, c\u00e2t despre tine \u00een rela\u0163ie cu Dumitru. Lipsa ta de stim\u0103 de sine \u00eel propulseaz\u0103 pe Dumitru pe acest piedestal imaginar, drept care, via\u0163a f\u0103r\u0103 Dumitru e pustiu.<\/p>\n

\u015ei oamenii simt c\u00e2nd sunt folosi\u0163i pe post de c\u00e2rje \u00een complexele noastre. \u015ei te asigur, e una dintre cele mai enervante senza\u0163ii din univers.<\/p>\n

Solu\u0163ia nu e s\u0103-i fug\u0103re\u015fti cu plasa de fluturi pe Dumitru, Ion, Vasile, Geta \u015fi Saveta, care de la un punct \u00eencolo o s\u0103 ajung\u0103 s\u0103 te urasc\u0103 cu sete, ci s\u0103 lucrezi la propriul t\u0103u respect de sine. \u015ei s\u0103 stai singur(\u0103), \u00een timp ce \u00ee\u0163i identifici priorit\u0103\u0163ile, descoperi dac\u0103 ai un talent, \u015fi dac\u0103 da, care, \u015fi faci \u00een a\u015fa fel, \u00eenc\u00e2t s\u0103 excelezi \u00een domeniul ales.<\/p>\n

Nu mai at\u00e2rni de oameni pentru confirmare social\u0103, ci strict pentru fun & joy, sau work.<\/p>\n

Nu-\u0163i mai mu\u0163i povara propriilor nesiguran\u0163e pe cei din jur.<\/p>\n

\u015ei, din acel punct \u00eencolo, o s\u0103 consta\u0163i cu uimire c\u0103, dimpotriv\u0103, Dumitru, Ion, Vasile, Geta \u015fi Saveta fug dup\u0103 tine. Numai c\u0103, ghinion. acum n-ai tu timp \u015fi chef.<\/p>\n

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Iar c\u00e2nd cuno\u015fti un om nou, \u015fi pare simpatic, nu te mai oferi 100% pe tav\u0103. Exist\u0103 \u015fanse destul de mari ca doar s\u0103 par\u0103, \u015fi \u00een realitate, s\u0103 fie o cotarl\u0103 cu dou\u0103 sau mai multe fe\u0163e. Creeaz\u0103-\u0163i “interfa\u0163a politicoas\u0103”: glume, r\u00e2s, discu\u0163ii generale, “muie Dragnea” – \u015fi abia dup\u0103 ce te convingi \u00een c\u00e2teva situa\u0163ii concrete c\u0103 te po\u0163i baza cu adev\u0103rat pe om, adu mai mult din tine \u00een interac\u0163iune.<\/p>\n

A\u015fa, te protejezi de \u0163epe.<\/p>\n

Te pup\u0103\u00a0 mama, \u015fi nu dispera, adolescen\u0163a e ciorna vie\u0163ii. Ai loc de oric\u00e2te rateuri emo\u0163ionale, pete grosolane de cerneal\u0103 \u015fi ejacul\u0103ri precoce, \u015fi chiar e recomandat s\u0103 faci toate gre\u015felile, s\u0103 te vaccinezi \u00eempotriva lor la v\u00e2rsta adult\u0103.<\/p>\n

Foto: pixabay.com<\/p>\n

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