{"id":14735,"date":"2018-04-15T11:17:19","date_gmt":"2018-04-15T08:17:19","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=14735"},"modified":"2018-04-15T11:17:19","modified_gmt":"2018-04-15T08:17:19","slug":"vorbim-si-noi-despre-legea-prima-bataie","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/vorbim-si-noi-despre-legea-prima-bataie\/","title":{"rendered":"Vorbim \u015fi noi despre legea Prima B\u0103taie?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Odat\u0103 cu sus\u0163inerea grupurilor care insist\u0103 pe ideea de familie tradi\u0163ional\u0103, cu tot calvarul aferent, \u015fi \u00eenmul\u0163irea siteurilor de “neomasculinitate” (adic\u0103 fal\u0103 \u015fi glorie strict pe baz\u0103 de de\u0163inere de penis, dublat\u0103 cu denigrarea \u015fi umilirea femeilor strict pe baz\u0103 de de\u0163inere de vagin), autorit\u0103\u0163ile din fostul bloc sovietic au \u00eenceput, discret, s\u0103 strecoare legi care s\u0103 bagatelizeze violen\u0163a domestic\u0103.<\/p>\n

\u00cent\u00e2i a fost Rusia, care a dezincriminat “violen\u0163a domestic\u0103 u\u015foar\u0103” pe 17 februarie 2017. Concret, dac\u0103 agresiunea nu duce la v\u0103t\u0103mare fizic\u0103, delictul nu mai este penal, ci civil, adic\u0103 \u00een loc s\u0103 fac\u0103 doi ani de \u00eenchisoare, individul pl\u0103te\u015fte o amend\u0103 \u015fi at\u00e2t. Motivul: “\u00eentr-o familie, trebuie s\u0103-i la\u015fi pe so\u0163i s\u0103-\u015fi rezolve singuri problemele”.<\/p>\n

Iar c\u00e2nd unul dintre so\u0163i e un rahat violent \u015fi cotropitor, c\u0103ruia NU \u00eei pas\u0103 nici c\u00e2t negru sub unghie de punctul de vedere al fiin\u0163ei de al\u0103turi, rezolvatul problemelor singuri se va traduce prin “o bat p\u00e2n\u0103 tace, apoi o mai bat un pic, preventiv.”<\/p>\n

Acum, \u015fi Rom\u00e2nia se al\u0103tur\u0103 acestei tendin\u0163e, cu o lege<\/a><\/strong> pe care Senatul a trecut-o tacit, o lege la care oamenii se refer\u0103 ironic ca Prima B\u0103taie. Concret, \u00een primul caz de abuz \u00eenregistrat \u00eentr-un cuplu, dac\u0103 victima \u00ee\u015fi retrage pl\u00e2ngerea, ancheta este abandonat\u0103 \u015fi individul e liber de orice r\u0103spundere.<\/p>\n

Iar retragerea pl\u00e2ngerii poate fi ob\u0163inut\u0103, desigur, prin toate c\u0103ile specifice unui individ violent: amenin\u0163are, asalt, \u015fantaj, presiunea familiei extinse.<\/p>\n

“Da, Lorena, \u015fi care e problema? O retrage o dat\u0103 \u015fi scap\u0103, o retrage a doua oar\u0103 \u015fi ajunge la \u00eenchisoare.”<\/p>\n

Problema cu dinamica abuzului e c\u0103 nu e at\u00e2t de simplu. Pe l\u00e2ng\u0103 lovituri fizice, genul de partener care face obiectul acestei legi aplic\u0103, constant precum pic\u0103tura chinezeasc\u0103, discursul minimalizant. Concret, macin\u0103 respectul de sine al victimei \u015fi o convinge s\u0103 tratamentul aplicat de el este cel meritat de ea, pentru diverse vini absurde, “gre\u015feli” pe care cei mai mul\u0163i dintre noi le-am trece cu vederea r\u00e2z\u00e2nd, ba chiar vini n\u0103scocite, dac\u0103 cele reale nu sunt suficiente.<\/p>\n

Practic, victima este supus\u0103 unei presiuni constante, nimicitoare, pentru a fi “domesticit\u0103” \u00een rolul de pre\u015f \u015fi de sac de box.<\/p>\n

\u015ei acea a doua pl\u00e2ngere penal\u0103 s-ar putea s\u0103 nu mai existe.<\/p>\n

*<\/p>\n

Convie\u0163uirea a doi oameni diferi\u0163i, cu nevoi diferite, e un proces complicat. Sigur, e ideal \u015fi chiar recomandat s\u0103-i la\u015fi s\u0103-\u015fi rezolve singuri problemele, c\u00e2nd ambele p\u0103r\u0163i au un cuv\u00e2nt de spus, c\u00e2nd respectul e reciproc, \u015fi c\u00e2nd comunicarea e echilibrat\u0103.<\/p>\n

Din p\u0103cate, \u00een familia tradi\u0163ional\u0103, nu e, nu a fost \u015fi nu va fi vorba despre comunicare echilibrat\u0103. Despre drepturi egale. Despre recunoa\u015fterea nevoilor ambilor parteneri. Despre reciprocitate.<\/p>\n

\u00cen familia tradi\u0163ional\u0103, este vorba strict despre control \u015fi opresiune. Despre t\u0103tic, care d\u0103 directive, \u015fi supu\u015fi, care le execut\u0103. Despre anihilarea personalit\u0103\u0163ii unuia dintre parteneri \u00een folosul domina\u0163iei celuilalt.<\/p>\n

Familia tradi\u0163ional\u0103 est-european\u0103 e o aplica\u0163ie la scar\u0103 mic\u0103 a despotismului politic est-european. \u015ei acum, pas cu pas, scot capul la lumin\u0103 \u015fi legile care s\u0103 readuc\u0103 aceast\u0103 stare de fapt.<\/p>\n

Mi-e mil\u0103 de aceia dintre domniile-voastre care au feti\u0163e. Vor avea un viitor complicat.<\/p>\n

***<\/p>\n

\u00ce\u0163i plac textele Trollywood? Po\u0163i sus\u0163ine \u015fi tu proiectul.<\/p>\n

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