{"id":15088,"date":"2018-06-08T10:23:44","date_gmt":"2018-06-08T07:23:44","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=15088"},"modified":"2018-06-08T10:23:44","modified_gmt":"2018-06-08T07:23:44","slug":"de-ce-se-supara-femeile-daca-le-intrebi-de-numarul-fostilor-parteneri","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/de-ce-se-supara-femeile-daca-le-intrebi-de-numarul-fostilor-parteneri\/","title":{"rendered":"De ce se sup\u0103r\u0103 femeile dac\u0103 le \u00eentrebi de num\u0103rul fo\u015ftilor parteneri"},"content":{"rendered":"

Ieri, Mihai Vasilescu a deschis cutia Pandorei cu un post intitulat Cu c\u00e2\u0163i te-ai culcat \u00eenainte de mine<\/a>. <\/strong><\/p>\n

Au ap\u0103rut o serie de reac\u0163ii decente, de la oameni care punctau c\u0103 femeia aia nu prea avea cum s\u0103-\u0163i datoreze ceva \u00eenainte s\u0103 te cunoasc\u0103, prin urmare, num\u0103rul de parteneri e fix irelevant, de stupizi care perorau cum num\u0103rul mare de parteneri “devalorizeaz\u0103” femeia (\u00een ochii cui \u015fi de ce?), c\u00e2te un cretin care decreta c\u0103 el ar lua numai virgine (dar nu precizeaz\u0103 ce are s\u0103 le ofere, pas\u0103mite, specialitatea lui e doar ‘luatul’) \u015fi femei care tind s\u0103-l fac\u0103 nesim\u0163it, porc \u015fi m\u0103gar pe cel care \u00eentreab\u0103.<\/p>\n

Dar hai s\u0103 atenu\u0103m nevoia de a reac\u0163iona emo\u0163ional \u015fi s\u0103 g\u0103sim explica\u0163ia logic\u0103 pentru ofensa femeii legat\u0103 de aceast\u0103 \u00eentrebare.<\/p>\n

Principalul motiv de ofens\u0103 feminin\u0103 vine din urm\u0103toarea dovad\u0103 de ipocrizie masculin\u0103:<\/p>\n

-Pe de o parte, cei mai mul\u0163i b\u0103rba\u0163i sunt \u00eentr-o perpetu\u0103 v\u00e2n\u0103toare de sex. Complimenteaz\u0103 sper\u00e2nd sex la schimb, te freac\u0103 interminabil la melodie \u00een speran\u0163a c\u0103 asta duce cumva la sex, te insult\u0103 online sper\u00e2nd c\u0103 poate ai masochismul specific al femeilor f\u0103r\u0103 stim\u0103 de sine etc. etc.<\/p>\n

Dac\u0103 a\u015f \u00eent\u00e2lni pe\u015fti\u015forul de aur, nu i-a\u015f cere via\u0163\u0103 lung\u0103, bani, \u015fi alt\u0103 sticl\u0103 de vodc\u0103, ci strict s\u0103-mi \u00eenapoieze num\u0103rul de ore de pis\u0103logeal\u0103 pe care mi le-au consumat diver\u015fi b\u0103rba\u0163i pe c\u00e2nd eram prea politicoas\u0103 s\u0103 le retez avansurile cu foarfeca. Am devenit mult mai t\u0103ioas\u0103 dup\u0103 ce m-am prins de aceast\u0103 ipocrizie. \u015ei anume:<\/p>\n

-De\u015fi pretind, ordon\u0103, milogesc, \u0163ig\u0103nesc sex, b\u0103rba\u0163ii TE CONDAMN\u0102 TOT PE TINE DAC\u0102 CEDEZI PRESIUNII.<\/p>\n

“E\u015fti curv\u0103.”<\/p>\n

“Bine, dar nu tu ziceai c\u0103 faci \u015fi dregi, \u015fi c\u0103 mori \u00eenecat \u00een b\u0103ltoac\u0103 etc?”<\/p>\n

“Eu am dreptul s\u0103 zic \u015fi s\u0103 fac orice, e treaba ta s\u0103 rezi\u015fti, c\u0103 altfel e\u015fti curv\u0103.”<\/p>\n

P\u0103i s\u0103 nu-i f**i \u00een gur\u0103 pe fiecare \u00een parte \u015fi pe to\u0163i laolalt\u0103?<\/p>\n

OK, o s\u0103 zic\u0103 fetele mele, atunci nu mai ced\u0103m nim\u0103nui, ne vedem de treaba noastr\u0103, ne cump\u0103r\u0103m un vibrator, c\u0103 \u0103la nu pune \u00eentreb\u0103ri t\u00e2mpite, \u015fi s-a rezolvat. We’re good.<\/p>\n

Right?<\/p>\n

Wrong.<\/p>\n

C\u0103 dac\u0103 nu cedezi nim\u0103nui, e\u015fti tot curv\u0103, dar de data asta curv\u0103 frigid\u0103 \u015fi \u00eenfumurat\u0103, nu ajunge nimeni la nasul ei, feminist\u0103 entitled \u015fi a\u015fa mai departe.<\/p>\n

Pe scurt, e ca la jocul de p\u0103c\u0103nele: NU AI CUM s\u0103 c\u00e2\u015ftigi. \u0162i se pretinde sex imperativ zi \u015fi noapte, de c\u0103tre un num\u0103r interminabil de arm\u0103sari \u00een c\u0103lduri, care au dreptul s\u0103 insiste oric\u00e2t \u015fi oricum, dac\u0103 cedezi, e\u015fti de vin\u0103 c\u0103 e\u015fti curv\u0103, dac\u0103 nu cedezi, e\u015fti de vin\u0103 c\u0103 e\u015fti feminist\u0103 frigid\u0103 \u015fi angry.<\/p>\n

E extrem de plictisitor \u015fi de f\u0103r\u0103 miz\u0103, p\u00e2n\u0103 la urm\u0103. Pentru c\u0103 e\u015fti un om de sine st\u0103t\u0103tor, iar rostul t\u0103u pe lume e s\u0103-\u0163i vezi de obiectivele tale \u015fi s\u0103-\u0163i fug\u0103re\u015fti propria fericire, nu s\u0103 masezi egourile fragile ale lui Ionel, Gigel \u015fi Titel.<\/p>\n

Deci, dac\u0103 te \u00eentreab\u0103 un oarecare cu c\u00e2\u0163i te-ai culcat, singurul r\u0103spuns normal \u015fi firesc este “Nu-\u0163i datorez contabilitatea intr\u0103rilor \u015fi ie\u015firilor, prin urmare, nu l\u0103sa grija s\u0103 te necinsteasc\u0103 anal.”<\/p>\n

Da, Lorena, dar de ce se enerveaz\u0103 femeile c\u00e2nd le \u00eentreab\u0103 poten\u0163ialul iubit chestia asta?<\/p>\n

Pentru c\u0103 femeile v\u0103d iubirea ca pe o alian\u0163\u0103, iar b\u0103rba\u0163ii o v\u0103d \u00een termeni de posesiune \u015fi control.<\/p>\n

Femeile care iubesc tind s\u0103 ierte orice: “\u015etii, iubito, am f\u0103cut-o cu jum\u0103tate de B\u00e2rlad”. “E ok, dragostea mea”. “\u015ei cu ur\u015fi bruni carpatini.” “Sper c\u0103 ai folosit prezervativ”.<\/p>\n

\u015ei asta pentru c\u0103, pentru o femeie, iubirea e \u00een\u0163elegere \u015fi iertare. Ai f\u0103cut \u00eenchisoare? Sigur au gre\u015fit ceva \u00een dosar. Ai violat-o pe maic\u0103-ta? Sigur purta fust\u0103 scurt\u0103. Ai m\u00e2ncat c\u0103cat cu polonicul? Sigur nu erau linguri prin zon\u0103.<\/p>\n

Femeia \u00eendr\u0103gostit\u0103 iube\u015fte complice \u015fi g\u0103se\u015fte circumstan\u0163e atenuante.<\/p>\n

B\u0103rbatul \u00eens\u0103 – mai ales \u0103la educat c\u0103 e ras\u0103 superioar\u0103 \u015fi cadoul lui Dumnezeu pentru omenire – tinde s\u0103 iubeasc\u0103 evalu\u00e2nd. \u00ce\u015fi ia nevast\u0103 ca \u015fi cum \u015fi-ar lua apartament. Pfff, nu-mi trebuie apartament cu treizeci de b\u0103i, ce s\u0103 fac eu cu el.”<\/p>\n

Iar c\u00e2nd femeii i se pune \u00eentrebarea “Cu c\u00e2\u0163i te-ai culcat”, eventual pe un ton de procuror stalinist, \u00een\u0163elege \u00een exact secunda aia c\u0103 acea stare cald\u0103 de \u00een\u0163elegere \u015fi complicitate pe care o ofer\u0103 ea nu e cu reciprocitate.<\/p>\n

C\u0103 \u0103sta e un alt prost care o va judeca pe etalonul “dac\u0103 ai f\u0103cut-o cu mul\u0163i, e\u015fti curv\u0103, iar dac\u0103 ai f\u0103cut-o cu pu\u0163ini, e\u015fti nepopular\u0103 \u015fi neatractiv\u0103”.<\/p>\n

Din \u00eentrebarea asta aparent inocent\u0103 transpare jocul de p\u0103c\u0103nele, la care nu ai cum s\u0103 c\u00e2\u015ftigi.<\/p>\n

\u015ei \u00een definitiv, de ce \u0163i-ar p\u0103sa cu c\u00e2\u0163i s-a culcat?<\/p>\n

\u00cen basme, prin\u0163esa st\u0103 \u00eenchis\u0103 \u00een turn \u015fi-l a\u015fteapt\u0103 pe f\u0103t frumos cu palo\u015ful gros. Dar asta e via\u0163a real\u0103, \u015fi dac\u0103 fata ar fi stat \u00een turn, poate nu ap\u0103rea ocazia s-o \u00eent\u00e2lne\u015fti.<\/p>\n

Exist\u0103 virgine care au zero disponibilitate spre loialitate \u015fi angajament, \u015fi prostituate care s-ar arunca \u00een foc pentru omul lor. Num\u0103rul de parteneri sexuali are exact zero leg\u0103tur\u0103 cu capacitatea de a te investi \u00eentr-o rela\u0163ie. \u015ei asta pentru c\u0103 num\u0103rul de parteneri e dat mai degrab\u0103 de circumstan\u0163e exterioare, pe c\u00e2nd capacitatea de a te investi e din fabric\u0103. O ai sau n-o ai.<\/p>\n

Dar, cel pu\u0163in \u00een cazul unora, mai ales cei abuzivi, intuiesc c\u0103 exist\u0103 un motiv mult mai dark pentru care \u00eentreab\u0103 de num\u0103rul de parteneri. O femeie care a cunoscut mai mul\u0163i b\u0103rba\u0163i \u015ftie c\u0103 nu ai nici un motiv s\u0103 te la\u015fi insultat\u0103, umilit\u0103 \u015fi bruftuluit\u0103, prin urmare, se ridic\u0103 \u015fi pleac\u0103. Una cu mai pu\u0163in\u0103 experien\u0163\u0103 e o victim\u0103 ceva mai sigur\u0103, \u015fi o po\u0163i convinge c\u0103 “a\u015fa e normal s\u0103 se poarte un b\u0103rbat” \u015fi c\u0103 “asta merit\u0103 femeile ca tine”.<\/p>\n

Femeile f\u0103r\u0103 experien\u0163\u0103 sunt naive, prin urmare manipulabile \u015fi vulnerabile la abuz.<\/p>\n

“De ce a stat Rodica zece ani cu boul \u0103la care o b\u0103tea \u015fi o insulta?”<\/p>\n

“N-a avut termen de compara\u0163ie”.<\/p>\n

De aceea, \u00eentrebarea “Cu c\u00e2\u0163i te-ai culcat \u00eenainte de mine” \u00eei sun\u0103 suspect oric\u0103rei femei. E echivalentul lui “Crezi c\u0103 m-am \u00eengr\u0103\u015fat, iubitule?”. Indiferent de r\u0103spuns, urmeaz\u0103 scandal.<\/p>\n

\u015ei \u00een definitiv, r\u0103spunsul e irelevant. F\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 se fi culcat cu acei b\u0103rba\u0163i, n-ar fi devenit femeia de care e\u015fti \u00eendr\u0103gostit acum.<\/p>\n

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