{"id":15110,"date":"2018-06-12T08:48:28","date_gmt":"2018-06-12T05:48:28","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=15110"},"modified":"2018-06-12T08:56:01","modified_gmt":"2018-06-12T05:56:01","slug":"dar-nici-nu-trebuie-sa-concuram-draga-andressa","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/dar-nici-nu-trebuie-sa-concuram-draga-andressa\/","title":{"rendered":"Dar nici nu trebuie s\u0103 concur\u0103m, drag\u0103 Andressa"},"content":{"rendered":"

Pe Andressa mi-a p\u00e2r\u00e2t-o la un moment dat o domni\u0163\u0103. “Aoleu, uite ce atac absurd la adresa femeilor f\u0103r\u0103 copii, uite cum a dat direct la jugular\u0103, incredibil, dar \u00eens\u0103 totu\u015fi adev\u0103rat”.<\/p>\n

Am dat click pe link, a\u015ftept\u00e2nd un nou atac la adresa noastr\u0103, care “nu \u015ftim ce pierdem”, “irosim roadele feminit\u0103\u0163ii”, “nu vom fi niciodat\u0103 \u00eemplinite” \u015fi alte bullshituri sinistre cu care societatea caut\u0103 s\u0103 le pedepseasc\u0103 pe femeile ne\u00eens\u0103m\u00e2n\u0163ate \u015fi s\u0103 le \u015fantajeze verbal \u00eentru multiplicare \u015fi f\u0103tare, \u015fi toate sarcinile m\u0103runte \u015fi epuizante care \u00eenso\u0163esc aceast\u0103 nobil\u0103 \u00eendeletnicire.<\/p>\n

Textul e aici \u015fi spune:\u00a0 “Noi \u015fi ele, femeile f\u0103r\u0103 copii. Nu putem concura”<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n

Cum spuneam, m\u0103 a\u015fteptam la genul de atrocit\u0103\u0163i enumerate de mine mai sus. \u015ei c\u00e2nd colo, am dat de un text cutremur\u0103tor despre singur\u0103tatea \u015fi surmenajul unei femei puse \u00een ipostaza de unic p\u0103rinte.<\/p>\n

Despre eforturile care \u00een mod normal ar trebui \u00eemp\u0103r\u0163ite egal \u00eentre cei doi adul\u0163i care au conceput \u00eempreun\u0103 acel copil.<\/p>\n

Sincer, nu m\u0103 simt nici insultat\u0103, nici r\u0103nit\u0103, nici jignit\u0103, nici altceva de textul Andressei \u015fi unicul lucru pe care pot s\u0103-l spun este: ARE DREPTATE.<\/p>\n

Toate lucrurile pe care le enumer\u0103 ea sunt lucrurile pe care le-am sim\u0163it eu, intuitiv, c\u00e2nd am decis c\u0103 nu voi face copii.<\/p>\n

Pentru c\u0103 nu ai nici o certitudine c\u0103, din momentul \u00een care cre\u015fte burta \u015fi piere apetitul sexual, amorul tat\u0103lui nu emigreaz\u0103 spre alte orizonturi.<\/p>\n

\u015ei, odat\u0103 n\u0103scut, copilul \u0103la nu poate fi returnat via Fan Courier \u00een secunda \u00een care tat\u0103l decide c\u0103 are treburi mai interesante cu via\u0163a lui. R\u0103m\u00e2ne o responsabilitate, o serie de obliga\u0163ii, un job de 24 de ore \u015fi o misiune pe tot restul vie\u0163ii.<\/p>\n

Realitatea e c\u0103 sunt mul\u0163i oameni c\u0103rora via\u0163a le d\u0103 \u0163eap\u0103, dar nimeni nu ia o \u0163eap\u0103 mai cumplit\u0103 dec\u00e2t femeile pe care c\u00e2te un individ le p\u0103r\u0103se\u015fte, cu unul-doi-trei copii \u00een bra\u0163e, \u015fi, cum se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103, \u00een exact secunda aia individul uit\u0103 \u015fi de copii, \u015fi dac\u0103 femeia nu are pornirea aia r\u0103zboinic\u0103 de a-l plimba prin tribunal, el nu va contribui nici cu meschina pensie alimentar\u0103 pe care o prevede legisla\u0163ia rom\u00e2neasc\u0103.<\/p>\n

Dar c\u00e2nd copilul e deja mare \u015fi c\u00e2t de c\u00e2t st\u0103p\u00e2n pe destinul lui, hopa, apare \u015fi tat\u0103l r\u0103t\u0103citor, cu aproximativ textele cu care a vr\u0103jit-o \u015fi pe maic\u0103-sa. Pentru c\u0103, na, \u00eentre timp a \u00eemb\u0103tr\u00e2nit \u015fi brusc a decis c\u0103 ar fi cazul s\u0103 bossuiasc\u0103 \u015fi el pe cineva care s\u0103 aib\u0103 grij\u0103 de el. \u015ei, periodic, \u0163ine figura.<\/p>\n

Nu, nu m\u0103 pot sup\u0103ra pe Andressa, pe am\u0103r\u0103ciunea ei \u015fi pe nemul\u0163umirea ei, pentru c\u0103 sunt c\u00e2t se poate de \u00eendrept\u0103\u0163ite.<\/p>\n

E greu s\u0103 fii mam\u0103 singur\u0103. S\u0103 munce\u015fti singur\u0103 pentru nevoile a dou\u0103 persoane, s\u0103 ai un job de opt ore – pe care nu-l po\u0163i pierde, c\u0103 nu po\u0163i pune copilul pe “hold” p\u00e2n\u0103 g\u0103se\u015fti altul, deci e\u015fti \u00eentr-o pozi\u0163ie mult mai vulnerabil\u0103 dec\u00e2t una c\u0103reia i se f\u00e2lf\u00e2ie – apoi un alt job de 16 ore, \u00een care veghezi la nevoile altuia.<\/p>\n

Zero pauze.<\/p>\n

Dar \u0163in s\u0103 fac o precizare: Andressa, \u00ee\u0163i direc\u0163ionezi gre\u015fit sup\u0103rarea.<\/p>\n

Nu femeile f\u0103r\u0103 copii au f\u0103cut amor cu tine, \u0163i-au plasat responsabilitatea pe umeri, apoi s-au dat disp\u0103rute. Nu noi am omis s\u0103 ne con\u015ftientiz\u0103m \u00eendatoririle de p\u0103rinte, s\u0103 te c\u0103ut\u0103m, s\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i lu\u0103m copilul trei zile pe s\u0103pt\u0103m\u00e2n\u0103, sau \u00een weekend, s\u0103 cotiz\u0103m pentru hrana \u015fi \u00eengrijirea lui. Dac\u0103 omul cu care ai f\u0103cut acel copil avea grij\u0103 de aceste lucruri, nu ajungeai la nemul\u0163umirea \u015fi oboseala care s\u0103 duc\u0103 la acest text.<\/p>\n

Dimpotriv\u0103, femeile f\u0103r\u0103 copii au preferat s\u0103 nu investeasc\u0103 \u00eencredere, pentru c\u0103 \u015ftiau c\u00e2t de prost e deal-ul la care se poate ajunge. \u015ei cum, \u00een realitate, dac\u0103 un tip nu are calit\u0103\u0163i \u015fi con\u015ftiin\u0163\u0103 de tat\u0103, ele nu au cum s\u0103-l conving\u0103 sau s\u0103-l constr\u00e2ng\u0103 s\u0103-\u015fi asume asta.<\/p>\n

\u015ei, da, visele personale, \u0163elurile \u015fi ambi\u0163iile sunt importante. E \u00eengrozitor sentimentul renun\u0163\u0103rii. Senza\u0163ia c\u0103 via\u0163a ta proprie nu-\u0163i mai apar\u0163ine.<\/p>\n

Cum spuneam, drag\u0103 Andressa, nu femeile f\u0103r\u0103 copii sunt du\u015fmanii t\u0103i. Ele \u00ee\u015fi iau perpetuu pis\u0103logeal\u0103 despre intrat \u00een r\u00e2ndul lumii, de la diverse cucoane pe care nu le-a \u00eentrebat nimeni nimic, le ceart\u0103 popii c-o s\u0103 arz\u0103 \u00een iad \u015fi caut\u0103 to\u0163i gol\u0103na\u015fii s\u0103 le combine cu cele mai jalnice replici.<\/p>\n

A\u015f prefera ca acel eseu s\u0103 fie rescris, iar \u0163inta lui s\u0103 fie ta\u0163ii care-\u015fi abandoneaz\u0103 familiile.<\/p>\n

Pentru c\u0103 multe dintre noi, femeile f\u0103r\u0103 copii, suntem fiicele unor ta\u0163i care n-au considerat c\u0103 implicarea lor patern\u0103 dep\u0103\u015fe\u015fte cei c\u00e2\u0163iva stropi sc\u0103pa\u0163i \u00een distinsa p\u0103s\u0103ric\u0103 a mamelor noastre, \u015fi prin urmare, multe am asistat la ni\u015fte eforturi la care nici o femeie singur\u0103 – sau nici un b\u0103rbat singur, for that matter – nu ar trebui supu\u015fi.<\/p>\n

Copiii sunt munc\u0103. \u015ei au doi p\u0103rin\u0163i care ar trebui s\u0103 contribuie echitabil la aceast\u0103 munc\u0103.<\/p>\n

Atunci nu ar mai exista surmenajul, disperarea, lipsa timpului de re\u00eenc\u0103rcat baterii, lipsa timpului de coafor \u015fi de manichiurist\u0103, lipsa timpului de reload al feminit\u0103\u0163ii.<\/p>\n

Pentru c\u0103 feminitatea nu e un dat natural. Trimite o femeie \u00een jungl\u0103 \u015fi se va \u00eentoarce o chestie unisex acoperit\u0103 de p\u0103r, cicatrici, arsuri de soare \u015fi din\u0163i de animale v\u00e2nate. Feminitatea m\u0103t\u0103soas\u0103, delicat\u0103, neted\u0103, lipsit\u0103 de p\u0103r \u00een locuri nedorite \u015fi riduri, mereu moale \u015fi pur\u0103 ca apa de izvor, e o iluzie care presupune vizite regulate la diver\u015fi speciali\u015fti \u00een ale aspectului exterior. \u015ei ni\u015fte timp personal de regenerare a chefului s\u0103 fii femeie.<\/p>\n

P\u00e2n\u0103 una alta, d\u0103-mi voie s\u0103 te asigur c\u0103 \u00eentre noi nu e nici un fel de concuren\u0163\u0103. \u00cen\u0163eleg prin ce treci. Mi-ar pl\u0103cea s\u0103 te pot ajuta, dar nu prea am cum, concret.<\/p>\n

Dar \u00een c\u00e2\u0163iva ani, copilul t\u0103u va cre\u015fte \u015fi, dac\u0103 vei \u015fti s\u0103 \u0163i-l apropii – nimic mai simplu, dac\u0103 sunte\u0163i doar voi doi – vei avea un prieten care mie \u00eemi va lipsi. Pentru c\u0103 fiecare alegere din via\u0163a noastr\u0103 are consecin\u0163e pozitive \u015fi consecin\u0163e negative. Eu mi le asum pe ale mele. Asum\u0103-\u0163i \u015fi tu ace\u015fti c\u00e2\u0163iva ani de efort la cap\u0103tul c\u0103rora se va afla cea mai mare bucurie – un om \u00een toat\u0103 firea, unic \u015fi minunat, rezultat al eforturilor tale, al nop\u0163ilor tale nedormite de acum.<\/p>\n

Foto: Pixabay.com<\/p>\n

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