{"id":15131,"date":"2018-06-16T10:48:19","date_gmt":"2018-06-16T07:48:19","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=15131"},"modified":"2018-06-16T10:59:30","modified_gmt":"2018-06-16T07:59:30","slug":"incercati-niste-detasare","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/incercati-niste-detasare\/","title":{"rendered":"\u00cencerca\u0163i ni\u015fte deta\u015fare"},"content":{"rendered":"

S\u0103 zicem c\u0103 te-a sup\u0103rat un om. Te-a dezam\u0103git. \u0162i-a f\u0103cut o m\u0103g\u0103rie ordinar\u0103. \u0162i-a dat o \u0163eap\u0103, ceva care s\u0103 nu cad\u0103 neap\u0103rat sub inciden\u0163a legii, c\u0103 dac\u0103 eventual c\u0103dea, \u00eel t\u00e2rai prin tribunale p\u00e2n\u0103 \u00eei cereai un rinichi desp\u0103gubire pentru stresul la care te-a supus.<\/p>\n

Mul\u0163i oameni r\u0103spund la asta cu furie – ceea ce e firesc, un val brusc de antipatie – de asemenea firesc – \u015fi o fixa\u0163ie obsesiv\u0103 pe omul cu pricina. \u00cencep s\u0103-i analizeze toate ac\u0163iunile, \u015fi s\u0103 caute motive de batjocur\u0103 \u00een ele, cam cum fac adolescentele \u00eendr\u0103gostite, dar pe hate mode.<\/p>\n

Adolescenta \u00eendr\u0103gostit\u0103:<\/p>\n

“B\u0103i, \u015fi l-am v\u0103zut pe Titi, mi-a aruncat o privire fugar\u0103 din st\u00e2nga, apoi mi-a zis “Bun\u0103, Monica”. Ce zici, faptul c\u0103 mi-a zis numele \u00eenseamn\u0103 c\u0103 m\u0103 place? C\u0103 nimic nu-l oprea s\u0103 zic\u0103 “bun\u0103” \u015fi at\u00e2t.”<\/p>\n

Omul dezam\u0103git:<\/p>\n

“B\u0103i, \u015fi m-am uitat din nou pe Facebook la Titi, mam\u0103\u0103\u0103, c\u00e2te emoticoane pune omul \u0103sta, pe vremea mea omenirea \u00eenc\u0103 se exprima \u00een cuvinte.”<\/p>\n

\u015ei ambii o \u0163in a\u015fa toat\u0103 ziua, \u00een fiecare zi.<\/p>\n

M\u0103car adolescenta \u00eendr\u0103gostit\u0103 o face dintr-o emo\u0163ie pozitiv\u0103. Care o \u00eenfrumuse\u0163eaz\u0103, care \u00eei d\u0103 lumin\u0103 interioar\u0103 (\u015ftiu, loc de bancuri) \u015fi care, overall, o face un om mai simpatic.<\/p>\n

Omul dezam\u0103git \u00ee\u015fi \u00eencarc\u0103 zilele \u015fi, \u00een caz grav, nop\u0163ile, de ura \u015fi furia pe care le resimte fa\u0163\u0103 de obiectul dezam\u0103girii lui. Cu o emo\u0163ie negativ\u0103, care devine definitorie pentru el \u015fi \u00eei face pe al\u0163ii s\u0103 nu mai vrea s\u0103-l asculte. Toat\u0103 antipatia fa\u0163\u0103 de persoana intens urm\u0103rit\u0103 \u015fi ur\u00e2t\u0103 \u00eencepe s\u0103-l populeze, s\u0103 devin\u0103 parte component\u0103 din el, s\u0103 i se vad\u0103 \u00een ochi, \u00een inflexiunile vocii, \u00een gesturi. Subit, te treze\u015fti c\u0103, sub impulsul dezam\u0103girii, te-ai transformat \u00eentr-o persoan\u0103 care garantat nu-\u0163i doreai s\u0103 fii.<\/p>\n

Eu \u00eentreb un singur lucru: e firesc s\u0103 vorbe\u015fti despre Titi mai mult dec\u00e2t despre oameni pe care-i iube\u015fti \u015fi care te sus\u0163in?<\/p>\n

OK, dou\u0103 lucruri: E firesc s\u0103-\u0163i la\u015fi mintea populat\u0103 mai mult de Titi, dec\u00e2t de lucruri bune din via\u0163a ta, care \u00ee\u0163i dau echilibru \u015fi bucurie?<\/p>\n

E firesc s\u0103 \u00eencetezi s\u0103 fii Vasile, \u015fi s\u0103 devii, pur \u015fi simplu, “omul care-l ur\u0103\u015fte pe Titi”?<\/p>\n

C\u00e2nd la\u015fi ura fa\u0163\u0103 de cineva s\u0103-\u0163i domine discursul \u00een a\u015fa hal, \u00eenc\u00e2t afl\u0103m mai pu\u0163ine lucruri despre tine \u015fi mai multe despre Titi, asta se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103. Devii, f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103-\u0163i propui, vioara secund\u0103, \u00een timp ce Titi, prin \u00eens\u0103\u015fi aten\u0163ia infinit\u0103 pe care i-o acorzi, r\u0103m\u00e2ne piua-nt\u00e2i.<\/p>\n

Relu\u0103m: Titi te-a dezam\u0103git. \u0162i-a f*tut direc\u0163ia. Ai crezut \u00een el \u015fi \u0163i-a dat \u0163eap\u0103.<\/p>\n

Dac\u0103 se poate remedia legal, sure, recupereaz\u0103-\u0163i neajunsurile.<\/p>\n

Dar dac\u0103 nu, ALEGE S\u0102 \u0162I SE RUP\u0102 P**A DE TITI.<\/p>\n

\u015etiu, e greu. E contraintuitiv. “Cum s\u0103 nu-mi mai pese, dac\u0103 mi-a f\u0103cut asta, asta \u015fi asta.”<\/p>\n

Exact cum am zis.<\/p>\n

Asum\u0103-\u0163i o parte din vin\u0103: c\u0103 nu te-ai prins mai devreme ce c***t de om e Titi, \u015fi c\u0103, m\u0103car \u00een parte, e\u015fti responsabil de cele \u00eent\u00e2mplate. \u015ei cu aceast\u0103 furie \u00eendreptat\u0103 \u00eempotriva ta, impune-\u0163i s\u0103 te deta\u015fezi ferm \u015fi definitiv of all things Titi, s\u0103 refuzi s\u0103-\u0163i pese, \u015fi concentreaz\u0103-te pe ce ai bun, frumos \u015fi interesant \u00een via\u0163\u0103.<\/p>\n

Nu o face doar de fa\u0163ad\u0103, s-o impresionezi pe Lorena Lupu.<\/p>\n

F\u0103-o onest, din tot sufletul.<\/p>\n

Prin faptul c\u0103 alegi s\u0103 nu mai investe\u015fti timp \u015fi aten\u0163ie \u00een nimic ce este Titi, practic \u00ee\u0163i impui controlul asupra a ce va urma. Redevii st\u0103p\u00e2n peste tine \u00eensu\u0163i, \u00een loc s\u0103 la\u015fi emo\u0163iile fa\u0163\u0103 de Titi s\u0103 m\u00e2ne boii.<\/p>\n

Pentru c\u0103 poate Titi \u0163i-a m\u00e2ncat o s\u0103pt\u0103m\u00e2n\u0103, o lun\u0103, un an din via\u0163\u0103. Aleg\u00e2nd s\u0103-i dai importan\u0163\u0103 \u00een continuare, \u00eei permi\u0163i practic s\u0103-\u0163i \u00eenfulece \u015fi restul timpului.<\/p>\n

\u00a0***<\/div>\n

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