{"id":15290,"date":"2018-07-13T20:16:05","date_gmt":"2018-07-13T17:16:05","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=15290"},"modified":"2018-07-13T20:16:05","modified_gmt":"2018-07-13T17:16:05","slug":"posta-redactiei-m-am-mutat-pentru-prietenul-meu-care-nu-ma-iubeste","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/posta-redactiei-m-am-mutat-pentru-prietenul-meu-care-nu-ma-iubeste\/","title":{"rendered":"Po\u015fta redac\u0163iei: m-am mutat pentru prietenul meu care nu m\u0103 iube\u015fte"},"content":{"rendered":"

Bun\u0103, Lorena,
\nAm nevoie de un sfat \u015fi nu am la cine apela. Te rog s\u0103 m\u0103 aju\u0163i. Uite, am avut un iubit 2 ani de zile. Era o rela\u0163ie la distan\u0163\u0103. \u015ei c\u00e2nd m-am decis \u015fi eu s\u0103 m\u0103 mut, mi-a zis c\u0103 nu m\u0103 mai iube\u015fte. \u015ei aveam nevoie de un job, \u015fi cu toate astea m-am mutat la prietena mea \u00een ora\u015ful \u0103la. \u015ei sunt de o lun\u0103 aici, \u015fi nu \u00eemi g\u0103sesc de munc\u0103, \u015fi prietena mea s-a decis s\u0103 plece la tat\u0103l ei \u00een str\u0103in\u0103tate \u015fi uite am ajuns la o bifurca\u0163ie: s\u0103 r\u0103m\u00e2n aici s\u0103 \u00eemi caut de munc\u0103 sau s\u0103 m\u0103 \u00eentorc acas\u0103? Mi-e fric\u0103 s\u0103 nu o iau razna de la singur\u0103tate dac\u0103 r\u0103m\u00e2n aici.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Bun\u0103, drag\u0103 Nuconteaz\u0103. <\/p>\n

Versiunea scurt\u0103: taie-o m\u00e2nc\u00e2nd p\u0103m\u00e2ntul \u015fi nu te uita \u00een urm\u0103. <\/p>\n

Versiunea lung\u0103: nu \u00een\u0163eleg dou\u0103 categorii de oameni: cei care \u00eemprumut\u0103 bani \u015fi cei care fac deciziile radicale de via\u0163\u0103 din dragoste. <\/p>\n

C\u00e2nd \u00eemprumu\u0163i bani unui prieten, \u015fi \u00eei \u015fi a\u015ftep\u0163i \u00eenapoi, exist\u0103, \u00een maximum 1% din cazuri, \u015fansa \u00een care numitul prieten \u0163i-i va \u015fi returna. \u015ei \u00een 99,99% din cazuri n-o va face, va uita, tu vei trage de el sau ea pentru banii t\u0103i, \u0103la sau aia o s\u0103 devin\u0103 \u0163\u0103ran(c\u0103), \u015fi se duc pe apa s\u00e2mbetei \u015fi prietenia, \u015fi banii.<\/p>\n

C\u00e2nd faci o decizie radical\u0103 de via\u0163\u0103 din dragoste (pleci \u00een alt ora\u015f, alt\u0103 \u0163ar\u0103, demisionezi, te converte\u015fti la credin\u0163a musulman\u0103, etc.) din dragoste, te pa\u015fte, exact ca \u00een cazul \u00eemprumutului de bani, \u015fansa ca la un moment dat \u0103la sau aia s\u0103 se plictiseasc\u0103 de p\u0103s\u0103rica ta \u015fi s\u0103 zic\u0103: “P\u0103i, plm, de ce te-ai luat dup\u0103 mine, n-ai liber arbitru?” <\/p>\n

Prin urmare, recomand folosirea exhaustiv\u0103 a liberului arbitru, mai ales \u00een dragoste, c\u0103 iac\u0103t\u0103 ce idio\u0163enii sinistre facem. <\/p>\n

Exact ca \u0103la care \u00eemprumut\u0103 sume mari de bani la prieteni \u015fi nu \u015ftie dac\u0103-i va vedea vreodat\u0103 \u00eenapoi, tu arunci o felie uria\u015f\u0103 din via\u0163a ta pe un num\u0103r oarecare de la rulet\u0103, \u015fi de obicei asta tensioneaz\u0103 mult prea mult rela\u0163ia. <\/p>\n

Orice rela\u0163ie \u00eenc\u0103rcat\u0103 de “c\u00e2t-am-sacrificat-pentru-tine” e pe termen lung imposibil\u0103 \u015fi pentru \u0103la care a sacrificat – numit \u00een cele ce urmeaz\u0103 “fraierul” – \u015fi pentru \u0103la care \u00eencaseaz\u0103 sacrificiul – zis \u015fi “plm-acum-o-s\u0103-a\u015ftep\u0163i-temenele-p\u00e2n\u0103-la-moarte-sau-ce?”. Pentru c\u0103, mereu, \u0103la care va primi sacrificiul va avea o viziune mult diminuat\u0103 asupra valorii lui, comparativ cu \u0103la care \u00eel va face. Asta e natura uman\u0103. <\/p>\n

Apoi, hai s\u0103-\u0163i spun\u0103 mama ceva despre b\u0103rba\u0163i. <\/p>\n

B\u0103rba\u0163ii nu dispre\u0163uiesc nimic mai profund dec\u00e2t pixda care se pune singur\u0103 pe tav\u0103 \u015fi e gata s\u0103 renun\u0163e la orice, oricum, oric\u00e2nd pentru ei. Tu o faci din iubire. Dar \u00een ochii lor, o faci din prostie \u015fi, tot \u00een ochii lor, femeile proaste merit\u0103 tratate ca atare. Un b\u0103rbat nu recurge la gesturi disperate dec\u00e2t din lips\u0103 de op\u0163iuni \u015fi te suspecteaz\u0103 \u015fi pe tine de aceea\u015fi predispozi\u0163ie. <\/p>\n

Ca dovad\u0103: cum te-ai oferit s\u0103 te mu\u0163i dup\u0103 el, \u0103la a ajuns instant la concluzia c\u0103 nu te iube\u015fte foarte tare. <\/p>\n

Trebuia s\u0103 iei not\u0103 \u015fi s\u0103 r\u0103spunzi cu “OK, OK, b\u0103i, a fost o glum\u0103 nes\u0103rat\u0103, chiar nu mi-a\u015f schimba via\u0163a f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 \u015ftiu pe ce m\u0103 pot baza”, urmat de “\u015etii, de fapt nici eu nu te iubesc foarte tare, dar nu \u015ftiam cum s\u0103 \u0163i-o spun” \u015fi desp\u0103r\u0163irea inerent\u0103 acestui moment de neconcordan\u0163\u0103 emo\u0163ional\u0103. <\/p>\n

Dar exist\u0103 o form\u0103 absolut stupid\u0103 de disperare feminin\u0103, pe care mintea mea n-o poate penetra, iar aceasta este CRAMPONAREA DE PENISUL CARE NU TE DORE\u015eTE. <\/p>\n

O rela\u0163ie e suficient efort \u015fi compromis chiar cu un tip care ar da orice pentru tine, la orice or\u0103. De ce rahat s\u0103 faci tot acest efort \u015fi compromis pentru cineva c\u0103ruia NU \u00eei pas\u0103? <\/p>\n

Prin urmare, f\u0103-\u0163i frumos b\u0103g\u0103jelul \u015fi \u00eentinde-o urgent din ora\u015ful \u0103la de care nu te leag\u0103 nimic. G\u0103se\u015fte-\u0163i un job \u015fi un hobby. Ceva pe care s\u0103-l faci cu pasiune \u015fi s\u0103 te \u0163in\u0103 ocupat\u0103 o vreme. A\u015f zice c\u0103 stima ta de sine are nevoie uria\u015f\u0103 de aceste dou\u0103 lucruri. <\/p>\n

Ai o \u00eentrebare chinuitoare? Cere un sfat superficial \u015fi plin de r\u0103ut\u0103\u0163i de muiere pe birou@lorenalupu.com. Identitatea \u00ee\u0163i va fi protejat\u0103.<\/strong><\/p>\n

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