{"id":15323,"date":"2018-07-23T10:15:06","date_gmt":"2018-07-23T07:15:06","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=15323"},"modified":"2018-07-23T10:25:04","modified_gmt":"2018-07-23T07:25:04","slug":"dragul-meu-fratior","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/dragul-meu-fratior\/","title":{"rendered":"Dragul meu fr\u0103\u0163ior"},"content":{"rendered":"

Tu \u015fi cu mine n-am prea fost apropia\u0163i \u00een prima jum\u0103tate a vie\u0163ilor noastre. Asta pentru c\u0103, pe de o parte, ne r\u0103zboiam mereu pentru suprema\u0163ie \u00een cas\u0103, a\u015fa cum fac mereu copiii. \u015ei \u00een al doilea r\u00e2nd, pentru c\u0103 \u00een familia noastr\u0103 se perpetua un model complet destructiv de interac\u0163iune, axat \u00een primordial pe tot ce NU f\u0103cea fiecare, \u015fi, desigur, lungi drame, repro\u015furi \u015fi litanii legate de tot ce NU f\u0103cea fiecare. Prin urmare, fiecare st\u0103team \u00eembufna\u0163i \u00een col\u0163ul nostru, convin\u015fi c\u0103 ne suntem unii altora cei mai groaznici \u015fi sini\u015ftri oameni din univers, \u015fi asta strict pentru c\u0103, \u00een acel moment al vie\u0163ii noastre, nimeni nu ne \u00eenv\u0103\u0163ase s\u0103 cooper\u0103m \u015fi s\u0103 ne sus\u0163inem. <\/p>\n

Parc\u0103 eram \u00eentr-un perpetuu concurs: care dintre noi izbute\u015fte s\u0103 fie mai infect \u015fi mai de kko cu cel\u0103lalt. <\/p>\n

Acum, recunosc aceea\u015fi atitudine \u00een comentariile multor am\u0103r\u00e2\u0163i de pe net, \u015fi-mi dau seama c\u0103 problema lor e exact ca a noastr\u0103 din copil\u0103rie. \u015ei anume, c\u0103 nu \u015ftiu c\u0103 se poate \u015fi cu frumosul. Au crescut \u00een familii \u00een care urlatul unul la cel\u0103lalt era unic mod de comunicare, \u015fi acum url\u0103 la tine pe internet. <\/p>\n

\u00centr-un fel, am \u015fi acum o vinov\u0103\u0163ie pentru c\u0103, pu\u0163oi mic \u015fi neg\u00e2nditor fiind, copiam modelul mar\u0163afoiesc de comportament \u015fi \u00eel d\u0103deam mai departe. \u015ei anume, pe tine. Tu veneai la mine s\u0103 ne juc\u0103m, \u015fi eu te b\u0103team, pentru c\u0103 asta vedeam c\u0103 fac oamenii mari cu copiii, \u015fi voiam s\u0103 fiu omul mare din interac\u0163iune. <\/p>\n

\u00ce\u0163i vorbeam acru \u015fi \u0163\u00e2fnos, pentru c\u0103 a\u015fa vedeam c\u0103 fac oamenii mari cu copiii, \u015fi voiam s\u0103 fiu omul mare din interac\u0163iune. <\/p>\n

Apoi, peste c\u00e2\u0163iva ani, ai crescut \u015fi ai \u00eenceput s\u0103 m\u0103 ba\u0163i tu pe mine, s\u0103-mi iei juc\u0103riile, dulciurile \u015fi b\u0103nu\u0163ii pu\u015fi deoparte. Lucru care m\u0103 oftica nespus, pentru c\u0103 b\u0103nu\u0163ii erau un fenomen extrem de sporadic \u00eentr-o familie monoparental\u0103. Dar aia mi-a fost lec\u0163ie de via\u0163\u0103: nu face omului ceea ce nu \u0163i-ar pl\u0103cea s\u0103-\u0163i fac\u0103 \u015fi el \u0163ie, pentru c\u0103 via\u0163a e ironic\u0103 \u015fi o s\u0103 \u00eentoarc\u0103 lucrurile \u00een a\u015fa fel, \u00eenc\u00e2t o s\u0103 usture. <\/p>\n

\u00cen plus, copil\u0103ria mea era ur\u00e2t\u0103 ca dracu’. Iar asta \u015fi datorit\u0103 propriilor mele frici. Fugeam de babe b\u00e2rfitoare \u015fi de m\u0103c\u0103iala lor toxic\u0103, fugeam de ga\u015fca de b\u0103t\u0103u\u015fi de la noi din bloc, fugeam de fetele mai mari, care m\u0103 \u00eentrebau cu impertinen\u0163\u0103 de ce n-am tat\u0103, \u015fi eu m\u0103 sim\u0163eam groaznic, de parc\u0103 ar fi fost vina mea . pe scurt, fugeam de toat\u0103 lumea. Mai ales de \u0163ipete \u015fi urlete. <\/p>\n

Tu, pe exact acelea\u015fi coordonate, \u0163i-ai f\u0103urit o copil\u0103rie de vis. Ai dezarmat pe toat\u0103 lumea cu z\u00e2mbetul t\u0103u larg, de Leu, babele b\u00e2rfitoare te adorau, ga\u015fca de b\u0103t\u0103u\u015fi te adora – ok, \u00ee\u0163i mai luai \u015fi tu periodic b\u0103taie, dar \u00een calitate de camarad, nu de outsider – pixdele obraznice te adorau, at\u00e2t de mult \u00eenc\u00e2t uitau s\u0103 \u00eentrebe unde e taic\u0103-tu. Aveai cheia de aur spre inimile altora, \u015fi pe mine nu m\u0103 f\u0103ceai nicicum p\u0103rta\u015f\u0103 la acest secret. Iar eu te invidiam cu spume. \u015ei, invidioas\u0103 fiind, te \u0163ineam numai \u00een sarcasme, r\u0103ut\u0103\u0163i \u015fi ironii de doi bani. <\/p>\n

Practic, am \u00eenv\u0103\u0163at pe tine tot ce NU se face \u00een rela\u0163ii cu oameni la care chiar \u0163ii. Dac\u0103 azi nu h\u0103l\u0103duiesc \u015fi eu pe internet ca gunoaiele alea umane jegoase pline de ur\u0103 gratuit\u0103 \u015fi venin e pentru c\u0103, prin tine, am descoperit \u015fi am \u00een\u0163eles c\u00e2t de meschin e acest tip de comportament. <\/p>\n

Am \u00eenceput s\u0103 ne \u00eemprietenim t\u00e2rziu. C\u00e2nd am v\u0103zut la alte persoane cam cum ar trebui s\u0103 func\u0163ioneze cu adev\u0103rat o familie. C\u0103 nu e obligatoriu ca oamenii s\u0103 se concentreze pe ce NU face cel\u0103lalt, \u015fi s\u0103 se calce reciproc interminabil \u00een picioare, ci pot comunica normal, pot spune ce nu le place \u00eentr-un mod decent \u015fi limpede, se pot sus\u0163ine la nevoie \u015fi pot fi afectuo\u015fi unii cu ceilal\u0163i. <\/p>\n

\u015ei acum, ne \u00een\u0163elegem bine. Fiecare dintre noi \u00eel respect\u0103 pe cel\u0103lalt exact cum este, \u015fi nu-i pretinde nimic din ce nu se poate. Tu nu te a\u015ftep\u0163i ca eu s\u0103 te primesc cu ciorb\u0103 cald\u0103 c\u00e2nd treci prin Bucure\u015fti, pentru c\u0103 \u015ftii c\u0103 nu sunt genul, eu nu m\u0103 a\u015ftept ca tu s\u0103 m\u0103 cau\u0163i lung \u00een coarne c\u00e2nd trec prin Sf\u00e2ntu Gheorghe, pentru c\u0103 \u015ftiu c\u0103 nu e\u015fti genul. Tu \u015ftii c\u0103 dac\u0103 pici pe nea\u015fteptate, eu o s\u0103 fiu mai mult ca sigur la dracu-n praznic, cu vreun eveniment sau un advertorial pentru blog, eu \u015ftiu c\u0103 dac\u0103 pic pe nea\u015fteptate, tu o s\u0103 fii la dracu-n praznic, la un concurs de pescuit. <\/p>\n

\u015ei e fair, echilibrat \u015fi armonios. <\/p>\n

Dincolo de toate acestea, cred c\u0103 avem o \u00een\u0163elegere reciproc\u0103, profund\u0103, care dep\u0103\u015fe\u015fte comunicarea, \u015fi ne \u015ftim reciproc motiva\u0163iile \u015fi g\u00e2ndurile chiar c\u00e2nd nu ni le spunem.<\/p>\n

La mul\u0163i ani, frate lup. S\u0103 m\u0103 a\u015ftep\u0163i cu mult alcool weekendul urm\u0103tor. <\/p>\n

PS: Pun aceast\u0103 fotografie cu doi pisoi generici, pentru c\u0103, de intimi \u015fi apropia\u0163i ce am fost, nu avem o poz\u0103 \u00eempreun\u0103. Lol. <\/p>\n

Foto: Dreamstime. <\/p>\n

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