{"id":15384,"date":"2018-08-09T10:35:36","date_gmt":"2018-08-09T07:35:36","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=15384"},"modified":"2018-08-09T10:35:36","modified_gmt":"2018-08-09T07:35:36","slug":"posta-redactiei-ce-facem-cu-fanii-care-nu-ne-mai-iubesc","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/posta-redactiei-ce-facem-cu-fanii-care-nu-ne-mai-iubesc\/","title":{"rendered":"Po\u015fta redac\u0163iei: Ce facem cu fanii care nu ne mai iubesc"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><em>Salut, Lorena,\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>Sunt &#8230;, te citesc din 2010. Pe atunci aveai foarte multe comentarii, acum am v\u0103zut c\u0103 sunt mult mai pu\u0163ine, \u015fi poate c\u0103 o parte din fanii t\u0103i au plecat, dar eu \u00eenc\u0103 te plac \u015fi te urm\u0103resc.\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>\u015ei despre fani am \u015fi eu o problem\u0103. Am un canal de YouTube foarte popular, unele clipuri chiar au f\u0103cut 100.000 de views sau peste, am \u00eenceput s\u0103 c\u00e2\u015ftig bani, e foarte tare. A\u015fa am cunoscut-o \u015fi pe I.\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>I. era mereu prima la comentat, avea mereu ceva frumos de spus, era foarte entuziast\u0103. Iar dac\u0103 treceau dou\u0103-trei zile f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 postez, tot I. era prima care m\u0103 \u00eentreba dac\u0103 sunt ok \u015fi c\u00e2nd vine urm\u0103torul video.\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>M-am \u015fi \u00eemprietenit personal cu I., vorbeam \u00een fiecare zi p\u00e2n\u0103 noaptea t\u00e2rziu, i-am povestit via\u0163a mea, ea pe a ei, \u015fi mi s-a p\u0103rut c\u0103 am g\u0103sit \u00een I. prietena \u015fi fana perfect\u0103.\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>Problema e c\u0103, de la o vreme, I. nu mai comenteaz\u0103 dec\u00e2t foarte rar, nu mai ini\u0163iaz\u0103 discu\u0163ii, iar dac\u0103 le ini\u0163iez eu, r\u0103spunde \u00een doi peri, \u015fi c\u00e2nd o \u00eentreb ce s-a \u00eent\u00e2mplat, \u00eemi spune mereu c\u0103 are treab\u0103. Am \u00eencercat o discu\u0163ie sincer\u0103, s\u0103-mi spun\u0103 de ce nu mai e fana mea, dar ea zice c\u0103 e fana mea \u00een continuare. \u00cens\u0103 asta nu se reflect\u0103 \u00een comportamentul ei.\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>Po\u0163i s\u0103-mi spui dac\u0103 \u0163i s-a \u00eent\u00e2mplat, \u015fi ce ai face tu \u00een situa\u0163ia asta?\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>Cu admira\u0163ie,\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>A.\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n<p>***<\/p>\n<p>Drag\u0103 A,<\/p>\n<p>Ce s-a \u00eent\u00e2mplat \u00een cazul t\u0103u se nume\u015fte, tehnic, &#8220;demitizare&#8221;.<\/p>\n<p>O tehnic\u0103 foarte bun\u0103 a showbizului de alt\u0103dat\u0103 era s\u0103-i \u0163in\u0103 pe actori, c\u00e2nt\u0103re\u0163i, whatever, relativ inaccesibili popula\u0163iei. Asta le conferea o aur\u0103 suprauman\u0103, \u00eei vedeai doar \u00een momentele lor de str\u0103lucire, machia\u0163i, coafa\u0163i, lumina\u0163i impecabil, \u015fi aveai impresia c\u0103 a\u015fa sunt ei \u015fi la trei noaptea, dup\u0103 o petrecere monstru.<\/p>\n<p>Acum, cu at\u00e2ta social media, orice entertainer e la un mesaj privat distan\u0163\u0103 de tine, \u015fi ai acces direct, s\u0103 zic a\u015fa, \u00een co\u015ful de gunoi al omului. \u015ei la propriu, \u015fi la figurat.<\/p>\n<p>C\u00e2nd cineva se apropie de mare admira\u0163ie de tine, trebuie s\u0103 iei \u00een exact zece secunde decizia: \u00eel vrei pe omul respectiv de fan, sau \u00eel vrei de prieten personal?<\/p>\n<p>Pentru c\u0103 nu se poate, din p\u0103cate, \u015fi-\u015fi. \u015ei explic.<\/p>\n<p>Orice fan o s\u0103-\u0163i spun\u0103 c\u0103, da, vrea s\u0103 fie prietenul t\u0103u personal, sau boyfriend \/ girlfriend. \u015ei, dat fiind c\u0103 ei se\u00a0 bazeaz\u0103, c\u00e2nd afirm\u0103 acest lucru, strict pe momentele tale strong, editate cu grij\u0103, probabil c\u0103 oamenii sunt sinceri.<\/p>\n<p>Numai c\u0103 realitatea de dincolo de ecran este c\u0103 fiecare moment de str\u0103lucire vine cu trei-patru momente de low, \u00een care nu suntem at\u00e2t de sclipitori \u015fi de fabulo\u015fi cum am vrea s\u0103 fim, iar aceast\u0103 constatare \u00eei face pe oameni, mai ales \u0103ia cu a\u015ftept\u0103ri nerealiste, s\u0103 zic\u0103: \u0102\u0103\u0103\u0103\u0103, p\u0103i a\u015fa, era mai bun vecinul meu Vasile din bloc, c\u0103 \u0103la m\u0103car \u00eemi repar\u0103 \u015fi robinetul la baie.<\/p>\n<p>Probabil, ce s-a \u00eent\u00e2mplat \u00een cazul t\u0103u a fost c\u0103 I. a fost dezam\u0103git\u0103 profund de banalitatea cotidianului t\u0103u, care e identic\u0103 cu banalitatea cotidianului ei, \u015fi s-a dus s\u0103 admire pe altcineva.<\/p>\n<p>Nu trebuie s\u0103 te impacientezi. Via\u0163a fiec\u0103ruia dintre noi e o gar\u0103. Oamenii vin \u015fi pleac\u0103. Dac\u0103 nu \u00ee\u0163i pui cine \u015ftie ce speran\u0163e \u00een ei, \u015fi g\u00e2nde\u015fti realist: &#8220;\u0102sta e un om care a v\u0103zut content cu care se identific\u0103, \u015fi i-a pl\u0103cut. Poate e \u00een extaz acum, dar nu ai cum s\u0103 ai febr\u0103 toat\u0103 via\u0163a&#8221;, nu te va surprinde faptul c\u0103, la un moment dat, vor fi atra\u015fi de contentul altuia. E firesc. Apar \u00een permanen\u0163\u0103 filme noi, arti\u015fti noi, vloguri noi, bloguri noi.<\/p>\n<p>Concentreaz\u0103-te s\u0103 livrezi content de calitate \u015fi vor ap\u0103rea noi \u015fi noi I, \u015fi A, \u015fi B, \u015fi toate literele alfabetului, care s\u0103-\u0163i spun\u0103 c\u0103 e\u015fti frumos, de\u015ftept \u015fi cu p*** mare. Dar asum\u0103-\u0163i c\u0103, din secunda \u00een care cobori scutul fa\u0163\u0103 de un fan, \u00eel vei pierde pentru totdeauna de fan.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Da, Lorena, dar \u0163ie nu \u0163i s-a \u00eent\u00e2mplat \u015fi invers? Fani care de fapt voiau ceva personal \u015fi i-ai pierdut c\u0103 nu le-ai oferit asta?&#8221;, prev\u0103d eu urm\u0103torul t\u0103u mail.<\/p>\n<p>Ba da, desigur. Numai c\u0103 de fiecare dat\u0103 se pune \u00eentrebarea: ce apreciaz\u0103 omul mai mult: contentul sau posibilitatea de a sexa persoana.<\/p>\n<p>Dac\u0103 omul apreciaz\u0103 \u00een primul r\u00e2nd contentul, va r\u0103m\u00e2ne fanul t\u0103u \u015fi f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 te sexeze. Dac\u0103 omul v\u00e2neaz\u0103 doar posibilitatea de, \u0103la nu e un fan autentic din start \u015fi, onest, nu pierzi nimic. Se va tira oricum singur \u00een secunda \u00een care apare cineva mai atr\u0103g\u0103tor la orizont.<\/p>\n<p>\u015ei la final, care e conduita pe care o adop\u0163i fa\u0163\u0103 de I. \u015fi al\u0163ii care &#8220;se r\u0103cesc&#8221; fa\u0163\u0103 de tine?<\/p>\n<p>Neutr\u0103.<\/p>\n<p>Cum ziceam, principala ta preocupare nu trebuie s\u0103 fie dac\u0103 te iubesc Ion, Gheorghe \u015fi Vasile, ci dac\u0103 ceea ce livrezi e \u00eentr-adev\u0103r bun dup\u0103 propriile tale standarde \u015fi propria ta viziune. Ajunge cineva la concluzia c\u0103 nu-l mai satisfaci? Nici o problem\u0103. Drum bun, cale b\u0103tut\u0103 \u015fi un r\u00e2nd de beri la toat\u0103 masa. Tu nu e\u015fti \u00een pozi\u0163ia de a cer\u015fi iubirea oamenilor: tu o cucere\u015fti prin content. Sau nu, ceea ce e ok, pentru c\u0103 nimeni nu e obligat s\u0103 te iubeasc\u0103.<\/p>\n<p>Sper c\u0103 am fost de folos.<\/p>\n<p>Lorena.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>\u00cen caz c\u0103 ai \u015fi tu o dram\u0103 privat\u0103 \u015fi vrei la po\u015fta redac\u0163iei, scrie-mi la birou@lorenalupu.com.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<div>***<\/div>\n<p>\u00ce\u0163i plac textele Trollywood? Po\u0163i sus\u0163ine \u015fi tu proiectul.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/paypal.me\/Trollywood\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-medium wp-image-14577\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea-300x300.jpg?resize=300%2C300\" alt=\"\" width=\"300\" height=\"300\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=300%2C300&amp;ssl=1 300w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=150%2C150&amp;ssl=1 150w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=768%2C768&amp;ssl=1 768w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=160%2C160&amp;ssl=1 160w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=320%2C320&amp;ssl=1 320w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=184%2C184&amp;ssl=1 184w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=600%2C600&amp;ssl=1 600w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=100%2C100&amp;ssl=1 100w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?w=931&amp;ssl=1 931w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>***<br \/>\nVrei s\u0103 m\u0103 urm\u0103re\u015fti \u00een social media? \u00cemi po\u0163i da like pe <a href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/lorenaalmighty\/\"><strong>Facebook<\/strong><\/a>, follow pe <strong><a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/lorenalupu\">Twitter<\/a><\/strong> \u015fi <strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/lorena.lup\/\">Instagram<\/a><\/strong>.<\/p>\n<p>***<\/p>\n<p>Urm\u0103torul spectacol al trupei mele de pamflet ZZ Bottom are loc AZI, la Paque Bistro (Bd. Pache Protopopescu, Nr. 60). Ora 20.00.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Salut, Lorena,\u00a0 Sunt &#8230;, te citesc din 2010. Pe atunci aveai foarte multe comentarii, acum am v\u0103zut c\u0103 sunt mult mai pu\u0163ine, \u015fi poate&#46;&#46;&#46;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":13715,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2},"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-15384","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-spicy"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/12\/mesaj.jpg?fit=1280%2C944&ssl=1","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/15384","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=15384"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/15384\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":15385,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/15384\/revisions\/15385"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/13715"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=15384"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=15384"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=15384"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}