{"id":15548,"date":"2018-09-10T11:34:56","date_gmt":"2018-09-10T08:34:56","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=15548"},"modified":"2018-09-10T11:51:56","modified_gmt":"2018-09-10T08:51:56","slug":"cinci-lucruri-la-care-mi-a-fost-utila-scoala","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/cinci-lucruri-la-care-mi-a-fost-utila-scoala\/","title":{"rendered":"Cinci lucruri la care mi-a fost util\u0103 \u015fcoala"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>S\u0103 \u00eencepem ca \u00eentr-o compunere retardat\u0103, cam cum eram obliga\u0163i s\u0103 scriem \u00een clasele I &#8211; IV.<\/p>\n<p>Sun\u0103 clopo\u0163elul, clinchet de cristal care anun\u0163\u0103 \u00eenceputul noului an \u015fcolar. <strong>(Umplutur\u0103 de rahat, s\u0103 par\u0103 compunerea mai lung\u0103.)<\/strong> Intru foarte fericit\u0103 \u00een curtea \u015fcolii, m\u0103 bucur s\u0103-i rev\u0103d pe colegii mei, care au crescut mai mari \u015fi mai frumo\u015fi. <strong>(Vr\u0103jeal\u0103, tot ca ni\u015fte plebi p\u00e2rli\u0163i arat\u0103, dar dac\u0103 scriu asta, \u00eemi periclitez nota mare.)\u00a0<\/strong> Abia a\u015ftept s\u0103 ne povestim tot ce am f\u0103cut \u00een vacan\u0163\u0103 fiecare din noi.\u00a0<strong>(Bullshit, \u00een realitate, \u0103ia cu gura mare monopolizeaz\u0103 conversa\u0163ia, iar pe timizi nu-i \u00eentreab\u0103 nimeni niciodat\u0103 nimic.)\u00a0<\/strong>Tovar\u0103\u015fa \u00eenv\u0103\u0163\u0103toare ne z\u00e2mbe\u015fte cald, ca o a doua mam\u0103.\u00a0<strong>(Rahat, de fapt r\u00e2nje\u015fte conven\u0163ional \u00een timp ce se g\u00e2nde\u015fte ce s\u0103 g\u0103teasc\u0103 atunci c\u00e2nd ajunge acas\u0103.)\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Dup\u0103 cum se vede, mi-am pierdut complet dexteritatea la compuneri, ideea e \u00eens\u0103 c\u0103 \u00eencepe \u015fcoala, \u015fi to\u0163i copiii patriei se \u00eentreab\u0103 ce rost are s\u0103 se duc\u0103 \u015fi s\u0103 \u00eendese \u00een memorie informa\u0163ie pe care o po\u0163i afla printr-un simplu search pe google \u015fi care oricum nu-\u0163i va folosi practic niciodat\u0103.<\/p>\n<p>Nu, copii, nu-i a\u015fa. \u015ecoala este extrem de folositoare. E temelia form\u0103rii tale ca om. E instrumentul care, folosit corect, te va ajuta s\u0103 faci o gr\u0103mad\u0103 de lucruri foarte utile pe parcursul vie\u0163ii. \u015ei anume.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>1) S\u0103 te eschivezi cu succes\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Nu \u015ftiu cum era\u0163i voi \u00een calitate de copii, dar eu eram cu inima \u00een palm\u0103. M\u0103 apucam s\u0103 povestesc tot ce am f\u0103cut, unde \u015fi cu cine. Se nume\u015fte naivitate \u015fi e unul dintre defectele specifice v\u00e2rstei.<\/p>\n<p>Apoi, informa\u0163ia era folosit\u0103 \u00eempotriva ta de b\u00e2rfitorii clasei, care o \u00eenfloreau, \u00eei ad\u0103ugau vol\u0103na\u015fe, \u015fi transformau \u0163\u00e2n\u0163arul \u00een arm\u0103sar, \u015fi de bully-ii clasei, care c\u0103utau s\u0103 te intimideze \u015fi s\u0103 te umileasc\u0103 pe baza a ce \u015ftiau despre tine.<\/p>\n<p>Azi a\u015fa, m\u00e2ine a\u015fa, la un moment dat \u00eenve\u0163i c\u0103 e cazul s\u0103-i pui pe oameni la locul lor, s\u0103 nu-i frece grija de lucrurile de care nu e cazul s\u0103-i frece. \u015ei \u00eenve\u0163i s\u0103 nu r\u0103spunzi la interogatoriul altora dec\u00e2t \u00een m\u0103sura \u00een care \u0103la are o baz\u0103 real\u0103 s\u0103-\u0163i pun\u0103 respectivele \u00eentreb\u0103ri. \u00cen cazul meu, dac\u0103 un agent de casting vrea s\u0103 \u015ftie ce am mai f\u0103cut. Dac\u0103 un poten\u0163ial client de publicitate vrea s\u0103 vad\u0103 un repertoriu de advertoriale. Etc.<\/p>\n<p>\u00cen rest, te deschizi oamenilor doar \u00een m\u0103sura \u00een care te convingi c\u0103 ai cu cine. Iar cine caut\u0103 s\u0103 gr\u0103beasc\u0103 procesul, de obicei o face cu inten\u0163ii nasoale.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>2) S\u0103 bagi oameni \u00een vagin matern\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Lumea tinde s\u0103 condamne azi bullyingul \u00een sala de clas\u0103, de\u015fi e o lec\u0163ie de via\u0163\u0103 extrem de util\u0103. S\u0103 zicem, colegul t\u0103u Gigel te trage de codi\u0163e, \u0163ip\u0103 idio\u0163enii dup\u0103 tine, \u00ee\u0163i deseneaz\u0103 penisuri pe caiete \u015fi a\u015fa mai departe. Cretinii spun c\u0103 e din cauz\u0103 c\u0103 te place, dar \u0163ie nu-\u0163i plac oamenii care te plac \u00een aceast\u0103 manier\u0103, \u015fi vrei pur \u015fi simplu s\u0103 \u00eenceteze cu rahaturile \u015fi s\u0103 te lase s\u0103-\u0163i vezi de \u015fcoal\u0103.<\/p>\n<p>\u00cent\u00e2i \u00eencerci cu frumosul. Te miorl\u0103i. Pl\u00e2ngi, c\u0103 asta e cic\u0103 arma feminin\u0103. Pare s\u0103-l \u00eent\u0103r\u00e2te \u015fi mai tare c\u0103, dup\u0103 cum \u00eenve\u0163i tu pe parcurs, indivizii predispu\u015fi la abuz se hr\u0103nesc din lacrimile \u0163intelor.<\/p>\n<p>E o lec\u0163ie extrem de util\u0103 \u015fi e important s-o pricepi devreme. C\u0103 dac\u0103 cre\u015fti ocrotit\u0103, po\u0163i ajunge nevasta desfigurat\u0103 \u00een b\u0103taie a unuia, mai \u00eencolo, \u015fi tu o s\u0103 crezi proste\u015fte c\u0103 bocetele rezolv\u0103 lucruri. Sau, ca b\u0103rbat, subalternul pre\u015f al unui Dragnea.<\/p>\n<p>Dup\u0103 ce vezi c\u0103 nici tentativele de \u00eemprietenire, nici evitarea subiectului, nici lacrimile nu \u0163in, treci la unicul mecanism care chiar func\u0163ioneaz\u0103, \u015fi anume **zda de mam\u0103. \u015ei parada de mor\u0163i \u015fi r\u0103ni\u0163i.\u00a0 Chit c\u0103 un bully va c\u0103uta s\u0103 se lupte feroce cu tine, e unicul mod de a-l \u00eengenunchea. Cu propriile lui arme. \u015ei apoi o s\u0103 caute s\u0103 negocieze o pace cu tine gen &#8220;Da, c\u0103cat, \u015fi eu te tr\u0103geam de p\u0103r, dar \u015fi tu erai cu nasul pe sus.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Dup\u0103 ce vei avea prima victorie peste un bully, nu vei tolera atitudinea \u0163op\u00e2rlan cu b\u0103\u015fini niciodat\u0103. \u015ei asta va duce la rela\u0163ii foarte s\u0103n\u0103toase cu oamenii care chiar conteaz\u0103, \u015fi anume, \u0103ia care nu-s \u0163op\u00e2rlani cu b\u0103\u015fini.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>3) S\u0103 pari c\u0103 \u015ftii despre ce vorbe\u015fti\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Ascultatul \u00een fa\u0163a clasei e un moment pe care majoritatea copiilor \u00eel ur\u0103sc cu spume. Unii se poticnesc chiar dac\u0103 au parcurs lec\u0163ia acas\u0103.<\/p>\n<p>Ajut\u0103, \u00eens\u0103, dac\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i propui ca ascultatul \u00een fa\u0163a clasei s\u0103 fie momentul t\u0103u de str\u0103lucire. Dac\u0103 tot e un chin, m\u0103car s\u0103 fie unul glorios.<\/p>\n<p>\u015ei \u00eenve\u0163i s\u0103 vorbe\u015fti \u00een fa\u0163a unui auditoriu. S\u0103 dezvol\u0163i \u015fi s\u0103 sus\u0163ii un punct de vedere.<\/p>\n<p>O mare parte din popularitatea mea de mai t\u00e2rziu vine din faptul c\u0103, de copil, am exersat acest lucru de care mi-era ini\u0163ial fric\u0103: ascultatul \u00een fa\u0163a clasei.<\/p>\n<p>Chiar dac\u0103 nu \u015ftiam lec\u0163ia, aveam vocabularul suficient de vast \u015fi aberam cu suficient\u0103 convingere, \u00eenc\u00e2t la final, profesorii erau \u00eenc\u00e2nta\u0163i. \u015ei, c\u00e2t timp le pl\u0103cuse ce au auzit, conta dac\u0103 nu era chiar materia predat\u0103 de ei?<\/p>\n<p>De atunci, senza\u0163ia c\u0103 \u015ftiu despre ce vorbesc m-a ajutat enorm \u00een via\u0163\u0103. Tu te afli acum pe acest blog, din milioane de alte bloguri rom\u00e2ne\u015fti, taman pentru c\u0103 scorpia asta pare c\u0103 \u015ftie despre ce vorbe\u015fte.<\/p>\n<p>Wink &#8211; wink.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>4) S\u0103 treci u\u015for de la una la alta\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>O boceal\u0103 frecvent\u0103 a \u015fcolarilor \u015fi a p\u0103rin\u0163ilor lor este: De ceeeheeee \u00eenv\u0103\u0163\u0103m at\u00e2tea subiecte care nu ne intereseaz\u0103 nici c\u00e2t negru sub unghie \u015fi nu facem \u015fcoal\u0103 specializat\u0103?<\/p>\n<p>R\u0103spuns: pentru c\u0103, pe m\u0103sur\u0103 ce anii trec, creierul t\u0103u o s\u0103-\u015fi piard\u0103 din flexibilitate \u015fi nu va putea trece de la o problem\u0103 la alta dec\u00e2t cu eforturi de recentrare.<\/p>\n<p>\u015ei dau exemplul meu: s\u0103 zicem c\u0103 azi am de scris un text pe blogul meu despre \u015fcoal\u0103, un text pe blogul unui client despre cu totul altceva, apoi s\u0103 repet ceva, \u015fi \u00een m\u0103sura timpului, s\u0103 lucrez la noua mea carte.<\/p>\n<p>Pare easy peasy la 20, dar la 35, deja nu e. Termini o tem\u0103 \u015fi \u00eenc\u0103 te macin\u0103. \u0162i-e foarte greu s\u0103 te refocusezi.<\/p>\n<p>Ei bine, antrenamentul de tip 50 de minute Chimie, pauz\u0103, 50 de minute Englez\u0103, pauz\u0103, 50 de minute chiuleal\u0103 la birt, pauz\u0103 pentru asta e bun. S\u0103 sari u\u015for de la o tem\u0103 la o alta, din cu totul alt domeniu.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>5) S\u0103 identifici bullshitul de cum \u00eel auzi\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Nu \u015ftiu al\u0163ii cum sunt, dar mie religia mi-o preda un pop\u0103 care se uita lung \u015fi lasciv la dudui. Spre norocul nostru colectiv, uitatul nu era urmat de vreo form\u0103 de ac\u0163iune, dar \u00eenve\u0163i relativ rapid c\u0103 alea sfinte combinate cu genul \u0103sta de priviri h\u0103mesite sunt cam zero barat.<\/p>\n<p>Apoi, pe de o parte, \u0163i se vorbe\u015fte despre Dumnezeu cel milostiv \u015fi iertarea p\u0103catelor, pe de alta despre cum ardem to\u0163i \u00een iad pentru diverse rahaturi irelevante.<\/p>\n<p>\u015ei asta e doar religia.<\/p>\n<p>Dar te prinzi relativ rapid care profesori \u00ee\u015fi iubesc real materia, care dicteaz\u0103 din carte, care fac pe interesan\u0163ii inutil, care vorbesc mai mult despre ce speciali sunt ei dec\u00e2t despre subiect, care au real voca\u0163ie de dasc\u0103l \u015fi care au doar nevoie de un salariu. Simplul fapt c\u0103 taci \u015fi te ui\u0163i la unu&#8217; 50 de minute e o lec\u0163ie inestimabil\u0103.<\/p>\n<p>E genul de informa\u0163ie care te va ajuta ulterior s\u0103 cuno\u015fti \u015fi s\u0103 evaluezi oameni.<\/p>\n<p>Baft\u0103 la \u015fcoal\u0103, copiii mei.<\/p>\n<p>***<\/p>\n<p>\u00ce\u0163i plac textele Trollywood? Po\u0163i sus\u0163ine \u015fi tu proiectul.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/paypal.me\/Trollywood\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-medium wp-image-14577\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea-300x300.jpg?resize=300%2C300\" alt=\"\" width=\"300\" height=\"300\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=300%2C300&amp;ssl=1 300w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=150%2C150&amp;ssl=1 150w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=768%2C768&amp;ssl=1 768w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=160%2C160&amp;ssl=1 160w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=320%2C320&amp;ssl=1 320w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=184%2C184&amp;ssl=1 184w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=600%2C600&amp;ssl=1 600w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=100%2C100&amp;ssl=1 100w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?w=931&amp;ssl=1 931w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>***<br \/>\nVrei s\u0103 m\u0103 urm\u0103re\u015fti \u00een social media? \u00cemi po\u0163i da like pe <a href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/lorenaalmighty\/\"><strong>Facebook<\/strong><\/a>, follow pe <strong><a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/lorenalupu\">Twitter<\/a><\/strong> \u015fi <strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/lorena.lup\/\">Instagram<\/a><\/strong>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>S\u0103 \u00eencepem ca \u00eentr-o compunere retardat\u0103, cam cum eram obliga\u0163i s\u0103 scriem \u00een clasele I &#8211; IV. 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