\u015etiu c\u0103 nu prea ai iubire \u00een inima ta pentru tipii straight, dar am \u015fi eu o problem\u0103 \u015fi vreau o perspectiv\u0103 feminin\u0103 asupra ei.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n Am cunoscut o tip\u0103 dr\u0103gu\u0163\u0103, \u00eemi place foarte mult, am invitat-o \u00een ora\u015f, a acceptat.\u00a0M-am bucurat, am crezut c\u0103 poate fi ceva \u00eentre noi. Dar, toat\u0103 seara, fata asta a stat cu ochii numai \u00een ecranul mobilului, \u015fi-a num\u0103rat likeurile \u015fi comentariile de pe Facebook \u015fi Instagram, \u015fi-a dat replici \u015fi mesaje cu nu \u015ftiu c\u00e2\u0163i \u015fi eu m-am sim\u0163it tare \u00een plus la mas\u0103.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n \u00cei povesteam ceva, \u015fi dup\u0103 trei fraze observam c\u0103 nu m\u0103 ascult\u0103, c\u0103 se uit\u0103 la ceva prostie pe telefon. \u00cei puneam o \u00eentrebare \u015fi-mi r\u0103spundea aiurea-n tramvai, \u00een timp ce d\u0103dea inimioar\u0103 la toate prostiile.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n Chestia asta m\u0103 scoate din min\u0163i.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n E prea patriarhal s\u0103 cer unei femei s\u0103 vorbeasc\u0103 cu mine dac\u0103 iese cu mine \u00een ora\u015f?<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n Nu m\u0103 sup\u0103r dac\u0103 ignori mailul \u0103sta, hei, sunt b\u0103rbat \u015fi sunt straight.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n X.”<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n *<\/p>\n Drag\u0103 X.,<\/p>\n Am \u00een\u0163eles din prima c\u0103 e\u015fti b\u0103rbat \u015fi e\u015fti straight, nu e cazul s\u0103 te repe\u0163i c\u0103 nu-s sc\u0103pat\u0103 \u00een cap la na\u015ftere. Exist\u0103 acest mit profund obositor c\u0103, mam\u0103, doar pentru c\u0103 gay-ii \u015fi femeile au acum drepturi, le iau direct din buzunarul b\u0103rbatului straight, de parc\u0103 suma drepturilor ar fi finit\u0103 \u015fi orice drept al meu taie dintr-un drept al t\u0103u sau ceva.<\/p>\n Nu e cazul.<\/p>\n N-am nici o problem\u0103 cu b\u0103rba\u0163ii straight, c\u00e2t\u0103 vreme nu caut\u0103 s\u0103 m\u0103 aga\u0163e \u015fi nu \u00eemi vorbesc pe tonul \u0103la absolut dezgust\u0103tor de mascul \u00een c\u0103lduri. Tonul \u0103la ar trebui s\u0103 existe doar \u00een caz de reciprocitate a c\u0103ldurilor, nu \u00een versiunea: “\u00ce\u0163i \u00eendes c\u0103ldurile mele pe g\u00e2t cu sila \u015fi dac\u0103 nu-\u0163i convine, te \u00eenjur p\u00e2n\u0103 te intimidez \u015fi \u00eemi accep\u0163i c\u0103ldurile c\u0103 n-ai \u00eencotro.”<\/p>\n Niciodat\u0103 n-o s\u0103 m\u0103 vezi pe un wall de b\u0103rbat straight care nu mi-a gre\u015fit cu nimic, c\u0103ut\u00e2nd s\u0103-l enervez aiurea. Deci, dac\u0103 e s-o lu\u0103m strict logistic, unii b\u0103rba\u0163i straight au ceva cu mine, nu eu cu ei. Eu sunt mai degrab\u0103 pe “Hai s\u0103 fim to\u0163i prieteni!”.<\/p>\n Dup\u0103 ce \u0163i-am l\u0103murit acest puseu de paranoia, s\u0103 trecem la problem\u0103.<\/p>\n Da, ai perfect\u0103 dreptate, e de mega ultra super extra excrement s\u0103 ie\u015fi cu cineva \u00een ora\u015f \u015fi \u0103la sau aia s\u0103 stea doar pe telefon. Ai perfect\u0103 dreptate s\u0103 te sim\u0163i nemul\u0163umit, \u015fi dac\u0103 e patriarhal, \u00ee\u0163i spun eu c\u0103 este \u015fi matriarhal, pentru c\u0103 \u015fi pe mine m\u0103 enerveaz\u0103 s\u0103 fiu cu cineva la beri sau la o ciorb\u0103, \u015fi persoana s\u0103 fie de fapt \u00een date cu mobilul.<\/p>\n De obicei, primesc complimente de la chelneri c\u0103 suntem (eu cu prietenii mei) singura mas\u0103 unde chiar se discut\u0103, nu se butoneaz\u0103. \u015ei asta dintr-un motiv simplu.<\/p>\n Eu \u00eemi pre\u0163uiesc timpul.<\/p>\n Prin urmare, nu ies \u00een ora\u015f dec\u00e2t cu oameni cu care am treab\u0103, sau cu oameni care chiar \u00eemi plac \u015fi cu care vreau s\u0103 vorbesc.<\/p>\n Iar date-ul \u0103la, profesional, personal, amical, de care o fi, e TIMP DE CALITATE PETRECUT \u00ceMPREUN\u0102, nu doi useri de internet e\u015fua\u0163i la aceea\u015fi mas\u0103.<\/p>\n Din p\u0103cate, multe femei – \u015fi mul\u0163i b\u0103rba\u0163i – nu g\u00e2ndesc a\u015fa. Ies cu oricine, strict pentru a m\u00e2nca pe banii altuia. \u015ei dac\u0103 nu-\u0163i place foarte tare persoana, e firesc s\u0103 te refugiezi \u00een butonat pe net. Ceea ce mi se pare profund incorect fa\u0163\u0103 de omul cu care e\u015fti \u00een ora\u015f.<\/p>\n Ar fi mai cinstit ca to\u0163i s\u0103 refuz\u0103m \u00eent\u00e2lnirile \u015fi persoanele care nu ne spun nimic, \u015fi s\u0103 nu inducem \u00een ei\/ele speran\u0163e de\u015farte. \u015ei m\u0103car \u0103sta e un lucru de care nu m-am f\u0103cut vinovat\u0103 vreodat\u0103. Nu am promis ceea ce nu inten\u0163ionam s\u0103 ofer, \u015fi nu am l\u0103sat s\u0103 se \u00een\u0163eleag\u0103 ceva ce nu era acolo.<\/p>\n Dar nu to\u0163i oamenii sunt cinsti\u0163i.<\/p>\n \u015ei acum, s\u0103 trecem la modul \u00een care po\u0163i gestiona situa\u0163ia.<\/p>\n Nu te enerva din prima. Poate fata pur \u015fi simplu nu are educa\u0163ia interac\u0163iunii. A crescut la laptop, juc\u00e2nd FIFA, \u00een timp ce p\u0103rin\u0163ii munceau s\u0103-i asigure copil\u0103ria de vis pe care ei n-au avut-o \u00een comunism. \u015ei dac\u0103 nu are aceast\u0103 educa\u0163ie, realmente nu \u00een\u0163elege de ce te ui\u0163i la ea ciudat \u00een loc s\u0103 deschizi \u015fi tu mobilul \u015fi s\u0103 \u00eempar\u0163i inimioare pe Instagram.<\/p>\n Pasul I e s\u0103-i spui, c\u00e2t mai civilizat \u015fi neagresiv, c\u0103 tu \u0163i-ai dorit o \u00eent\u00e2lnire \u00een ora\u015f s\u0103 sta\u0163i de vorb\u0103, \u015fi, dac\u0103 discu\u0163iile de pe net nu sunt interviuri de job sau ceva la fel de important, ai aprecia mult s\u0103 ai parte de comunicare.<\/p>\n Subliniez: civilizat \u015fi neagresiv. S\u0103 nu-i la\u015fi impresia c\u0103 e\u015fti un cretin cert\u0103re\u0163, ci s-o faci s\u0103 \u00een\u0163eleag\u0103 problema. Multora nu v\u0103 iese.<\/p>\n Dac\u0103 fata e bine inten\u0163ionat\u0103 \u015fi te \u015fi place un pic, o s\u0103 \u00een\u0163eleag\u0103.<\/p>\n Dac\u0103 te ia la mi\u015fto \u015fi se bag\u0103 mai ad\u00e2nc \u00een apps, \u00ee\u0163i ceri scuze c\u0103 o re\u0163ii din distrac\u0163ie, apoi \u00eei spui c\u0103 din punctul t\u0103u de vedere, date-ul a luat sf\u00e2r\u015fit. Sunte\u0163i vizibil incompatibili \u015fi n-are sens. Cam a\u015fa am plecat eu c\u00e2nd un Gigel avea 578987654 de telefoane de dat, toate EXACT \u00een timpul unei cafele cu mine. \u00cen mintea lui neted\u0103, tocmai m\u0103 impresiona cu c\u00e2t e el de solicitat. \u00cen mintea mea crea\u0163\u0103 era ceva de genul “Ce parad\u0103 penal\u0103 de ego.”<\/p>\n Pleac\u0103, frate. Sau e o \u00eent\u00e2lnire cu cineva care te place, \u015fi vrea s\u0103 sta\u0163i pe bune de vorb\u0103, sau asum\u0103-\u0163i c\u0103 fata aia e cu tine pur circumstan\u0163ial \u015fi NU \u00eei pas\u0103 nici m\u0103car cine e\u015fti.<\/p>\n Sper c\u0103 \u0163i-am fost util\u0103,<\/p>\n Lorena.<\/p>\n ***<\/p>\n \u00ce\u0163i plac textele Trollywood? Po\u0163i sus\u0163ine \u015fi tu proiectul.<\/p>\n *** Intro: Periodic, oferim iubire cititorului nostru. 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