Profit de posta redac\u021biei ca s\u0103-\u021bi cer un sfat sau mai multe, asta bine-\u00een\u021beles dac\u0103 ai timp, chef \u0219i consideri c\u0103 se merit\u0103.
\nSunt o gagic\u0103 de 25 ani, fiic\u0103 a familiei prea tradi\u021bionale, prea ca la \u021bar\u0103 (\u0219tii tu, muierea la crati\u021b\u0103,\u00a0 cu copiii \u0219i lighioanele cur\u021bii, f\u0103r\u0103 prea multe a\u0219tept\u0103ri de la via\u021b\u0103 \u0219i b\u0103rbatu\u2019 sultan, cu drept de ce vrea basca lui) \u0219i evident am fost crescut\u0103 f\u0103r\u0103 sa \u00eenv\u0103\u021b de la maic\u0103-mea cum se comport\u0103 \u0219i ce a\u0219tept\u0103ri are o femeie, respectiv de la taic\u0103-miu cum ar trebui sa se comporte un b\u0103rbat (bine, nu-i judec, sunt oameni OK \u00een fond \u0219i \u0219i-au f\u0103cut meseria de p\u0103rin\u021bi cum au \u0219tiut ei mai bine).
\nOoook, \u0219i acum \u00eentrebarea care m\u0103 fr\u0103m\u00e2nta de 10 ani: cum, doamne iart\u0103-m\u0103, se cucere\u0219te un b\u0103rbat? Unora le vine automat chiar dac\u0103 se trag dintr-o familie asem\u0103n\u0103toare cu a mea. S\u0103-\u021bi explic: citeam pe un site c\u0103, dac\u0103 vrei s\u0103 atragi \u0219i s\u0103 p\u0103strezi un b\u0103rbat trebuie s\u0103 nu-l cic\u0103le\u0219ti (ceea ce mi se pare OK, hai s\u0103 fim oameni decen\u021bi), s\u0103 fii mega z\u00e2n\u0103, mereu scoas\u0103 din cutie, elegant\u0103, \u00eengrijit\u0103, parfumat\u0103, epilat\u0103 etc etc., apoi prima pe plan profesional \u0219i amant\u0103 cu A mare \u00een dormitor.
\nBun. Doar c\u0103 vorbeam cu un tovar\u0103\u0219 din copil\u0103rie \u0219i zicea: b\u0103i, mie nu-mi plac femeile astea care-s top pe toate planurile, pentru c\u0103 am senza\u021bia c\u0103 nu sunt statornice \u00een rela\u021bie. Deci, dac\u0103 e\u0219ti prea zei\u021b\u0103 haladit\u0103, sperii lumea. Dac\u0103 o dai din prima, faci amor spumos \u0219i \u00ee\u021bi dai fr\u00e2u liber fanteziilor,\u00a0 \u201ce\u0219ti curv\u0103 \u0219i cine \u0219tie c\u00e2\u021bi ai \u00eensirat \u0219i evident nu se merit\u0103\u201d, dac\u0103 esti timida \u0219i nu te freci din prima, a doua, e\u0219ti proast\u0103, sau cu nasu\u2019 pe sus, sau am\u00e2ndou\u0103. Dac\u0103 \u00eel iei acas\u0103 \u0219i-i faci o ciorb\u0103 d-aia s\u0103 mearg\u0103 la suflet, \u00eencepe sa cear\u0103 haleal\u0103 ca la m\u0103-sa-n b\u0103t\u0103tur\u0103, iar dac\u0103 nu prestezi \u201cai devenit lene\u0219\u0103, \u00eenainte f\u0103ceai aia \u0219i ailalt\u0103\u201d; dac\u0103 nu faci nimic, iar\u0103\u0219i nu-i bine. \u00cen fine, e mereu cate ceva.\u00a0
\nIa zi-mi, te rog, cum fac s\u0103-mi g\u0103sesc \u0219i eu unu cu care s\u0103 am un raport decent, omenesc, civilizat, s\u0103 fie pe sentiment, dar totu\u0219i s\u0103 nu fie at\u00e2rnache, cu phoothaiuri galactice de la apus la r\u0103s\u0103rit \u0219i invers, s\u0103 respecte egalitatea \u00eentre parteneri dar totu\u0219i s\u0103 nu fie zg\u00e2rcan \u0219i s\u0103 vin\u0103 c\u00e2teodat\u0103 cu un buchet de flori, o ciocolat\u0103, un dres, soul mates, bff, ride or die, \u00een\u021belegi tu.\u00a0
\nMersi.\u201d <\/strong><\/p>\n
Bun\u0103, X, <\/p>\n
\u00centotdeauna, oamenii se mir\u0103 cum femeile bune nimeresc ni\u0219te jeguri de oameni, \u0219i cum scorpiile se m\u0103rit\u0103 cu tipi fabulo\u0219i. Scrisoarea ta, \u0219i modul \u00een care acorzi aten\u021bie tuturor fi\u021belor, arfelor \u0219i capriciilor enumerate de b\u0103rba\u021bi, con\u021bin exact r\u0103spunsul la aceast\u0103 dilem\u0103. <\/p>\n
Cu c\u00e2t \u00eel bagi mai mult \u00een seam\u0103 \u015fi-i sufli mai mult \u00een coarne, \u015fi faci orice \u015fi oricum ca s\u0103 mearg\u0103 rela\u0163ia, cu at\u00e2t \u0103la se va sim\u0163i mai st\u0103p\u00e2n pe situa\u0163ie \u015fi-\u0163i va face mofturi \u015fi figuri mai nesim\u0163ite \u015fi mai exagerate. Cazul maic\u0103-mii cu taic\u0103-miu. Ea nu \u015ftia cu ce s\u0103-l dea peste cap. El vedea c\u0103 orice moft \u00eei e \u00eendeplinit, \u015fi plusa cu tupeu. La final, tot el a p\u0103r\u0103sit-o. Taman pentru o tip\u0103 bitchy, care-l trimitea dup\u0103 \u0163ig\u0103ri c\u00e2nd voia p\u0103s\u0103rica ei. <\/p>\n
Prin urmare, poate c\u0103 ar trebui s\u0103 te concentrezi un pic mai pu\u0163in asupra g\u0103sirii unui partener, \u015fi un pic mai mult asupra form\u0103rii propriei tale personalit\u0103\u0163i. Ca s\u0103 ai \u015fi tu a\u015ftept\u0103ri. OK, el vrea amant\u0103, buc\u0103t\u0103reas\u0103, menajer\u0103, dar tu? Tu ce vrei? Tot ce citesc eu \u00een scrisoarea ta e cum vrei s\u0103 corespunzi c\u00e2t mai mult \u015fi c\u00e2t mai bine a\u0219tept\u0103rilor unui cet\u0103\u0163ean. <\/p>\n
\u015ei poate aici e secretul. Te str\u0103duie\u015fti prea tare. <\/p>\n
Un b\u0103rbat nu e un job \u015fi nu vine cu fi\u015fa postului. Un b\u0103rbat e un om, \u015fi acestui om \u00eei po\u0163i c\u00e2\u015ftiga afec\u021biunea \u015fi ata\u0219amentul, \u00een m\u0103sura \u00een care te prezin\u0163i \u015fi tu ca un om, cu calit\u0103\u0163i \u015fi defecte. Nu ca robotul perfect de buc\u0103t\u0103rie, acum cu patru noi func\u0163iuni. <\/p>\n
De unde \u015fi p\u00e2n\u0103 unde s\u0103-i permi\u0163i s\u0103-\u0163i fac\u0103 observa\u0163ii legate de faptul c\u0103 numai tu ar trebui s\u0103 g\u0103te\u015fti sau numai tu s\u0103 faci curat \u00een cas\u0103? \u00censeamn\u0103 c\u0103 ai permis ca rela\u0163ia s\u0103 evolueze total gre\u015fit de la bun \u00eenceput. Pune problema de la primele dates: Vreau un tip care g\u0103te\u015fte \u015fi care face curat. <\/p>\n
\u00cendr\u0103zne\u015fte s\u0103 vrei \u015fi tu lucruri. <\/p>\n
\u015ei \u00eenc\u0103 un lucru: nu mai asculta b\u0103rba\u0163i teoretiz\u00e2nd despre ce le place, generic, la femei \u015fi ce nu. Dac\u0103-i ascul\u0163i f\u0103c\u00e2nd teorie, b\u0103rba\u0163ilor le place o sclav\u0103 \u00een bikini, care le face o friptur\u0103, o fela\u0163ie, \u015fi apoi se bag\u0103 \u00eenapoi \u00een cutia din care a fost livrat\u0103 din Taiwan.
\n\u00cen realitate, c\u00e2nd se \u00eendr\u0103gostesc, iar femeia nu pare s\u0103 pun\u0103 botul la orice preten\u0163ie ridicol\u0103, focusul b\u0103rba\u0163ilor se schimb\u0103 \u00een “ce pot face eu, s\u0103 fie fericit\u0103 Marioara”. <\/p>\n
Prin urmare, b\u0103rba\u0163ii se cuceresc precum urmeaz\u0103. <\/p>\n
A) Nu mai accepta dates cu tipi care-s yeah, whatever. \u0102ia o s\u0103 vin\u0103 cu list\u0103 de a\u015ftept\u0103ri \u015fi preten\u0163ii, iar tu nu e\u015fti anyone’s slave. <\/p>\n
B) Accept\u0103 dates cu tipi care par cu adev\u0103rat interesa\u0163i de persoana \u015fi visele tale. \u015ei care vor s\u0103 te cunoasc\u0103 ca om. Spune-le c\u0103 date-ul nu e neap\u0103rat garan\u0163ia unui interes romantic, ci c\u0103 vrei \u015fi tu s\u0103 descoperi cum sunt ei pe plan uman.
\n\u015ei crede-m\u0103, e important. Sexul e mi\u015fto, dar numai \u00een m\u0103sura \u00een care ai compatibilitate uman\u0103 real\u0103 \u015fi reciprocitate asumat\u0103 a sentimentelor cu tipul, \u015fi vre\u021bi am\u00e2ndoi s\u0103 lucra\u0163i la rela\u0163ia aia. <\/p>\n
C) Filtreaz\u0103-i \u015fi d\u0103-le eject celor care vor vizibil doar s\u0103 dea o buc\u0103. Nu exist\u0103 nici o \u00eemplinire uman\u0103 \u00een chestia asta. \u015ei anuntul.ro e plin de cucoane care ofer\u0103 exact asta: o or\u0103 din timpul lor, f\u0103r\u0103 obliga\u0163ii, contra cost. <\/p>\n
D) Vezi c\u00e2t de receptiv e tipul la nevoile tale. \u015ei, \u00een timp ce povesti\u0163i adorabil, enumer\u0103-le suav. Vrei s\u0103 \u015ftie s\u0103 g\u0103teasc\u0103. Vrei s\u0103 \u015ftie s\u0103 fac\u0103 curat. Vrei s\u0103 ie\u015fi\u0163i o dat\u0103 pe s\u0103pt\u0103m\u00e2n\u0103 \u00een ora\u015f. Ai \u00eencredere c\u0103 el va \u015fti s\u0103 extrag\u0103 din tine ce vrea, b\u0103rba\u0163ii sunt exper\u0163i \u00een asta. Treaba ta e s\u0103 prezin\u0163i ce dore\u015fti tu. <\/p>\n
E) Dac\u0103 te ia cu “g\u0103titul \u015fi etc. sunt treaba femeii”, te scuzi c\u0103 a intervenit ceva \u015fi pleci acas\u0103. NU vrei rela\u0163ia unde tu performezi ca menajer\u0103 moca \u015fi st\u0103p\u00e2nul care nu-\u0163i pl\u0103te\u015fte salariu \u00ee\u0163i face mofturi c\u0103 nu e destul\u0103 sare-n ciorb\u0103.
\nG\u0103titul \u015fi etc. erau treaba femeii c\u00e2nd femeia st\u0103tea acas\u0103 \u015fi f\u0103cea NUMAI asta, \u00een timp ce b\u0103rbatul \u00eentre\u0163inea familia. C\u00e2nd tu ai propriul t\u0103u job \u015fi propriul salariu, nu ai timp de ascultat bullshiturile astea. <\/p>\n
F) ARAT\u0102 APRECIERE.
\nAici gre\u0219esc multe femei. OK, g\u0103sesc un tip interesat s\u0103 accepte o rela\u0163ie echilibrat\u0103, unde pun am\u00e2ndoi m\u00e2na pe crati\u0163\u0103 \u015fi pe aspirator. Dar, pentru c\u0103 el nu e la nivelul lor, \u00eel umilesc \u015fi-l ceart\u0103. P\u00e2n\u0103 c\u00e2nd acela renun\u0163\u0103 s\u0103 mai \u00eencerce.
\nS\u0103 zicem c\u0103 tipul te cheam\u0103 la el acas\u0103 \u015fi-\u0163i face paste cu sos de ro\u015fii. A fiert pastele prea mult \u015fi-s fle\u015fc\u0103ite, iar sosul de ro\u015fii e insuficient condimentat.
\nOK. Dar omul \u015fi-a dat interesul. Chiar dac\u0103 nu e perfect, e un prim pas. Apreciaz\u0103-l. Spune-i c\u0103 \u0163i se pare foarte tare. Bucur\u0103-te.
\nNimeni nu vrea s\u0103 g\u0103teasc\u0103 prost, dar a\u0219a iese prima oar\u0103. E un \u00eenceput, \u015fi o dovad\u0103 c\u0103 vrea s\u0103-\u0163i fie pe plac. \u00cencurajeaz\u0103-l, complimenteaz\u0103-l, d\u0103-i eventuale tips and tricks “s\u0103 ias\u0103 pastele \u015eI mai bine”, iar el o s\u0103 fie fericit c\u0103 a f\u0103cut un lucru bun. <\/p>\n
G) Nu programa sexul.
\n\u00cen sensul c\u0103 da, ok, nu-l face p\u00e2n\u0103 nu sim\u0163i c\u0103 e o conexiune real\u0103, profund\u0103 \u00eentre voi, dar nici nu-l pune \u00een ipostaza aia ingrat\u0103 din pove\u015fti \u00een care el trebuie s\u0103 \u00eemplineasc\u0103 \u015fapte \u00eencerc\u0103ri s\u0103 c\u00e2\u015ftige acces la fanta roz. Genul \u0103la de sex – trofeu e cel mai nesatisf\u0103c\u0103tor sex posibil.
\nC\u00e2nd un om chiar e al\u0103turi de tine, vrea s\u0103 petrece\u021bi timp \u00eempreun\u0103, v\u0103 sim\u0163i\u0163i bine unul \u00een prezen\u0163a celuilalt, – \u015fi-i ies \u015fi pastele decent – , phoote-l tu.
\nMul\u0163i b\u0103rba\u0163i \u00ee\u0219i doresc \u00een secret s\u0103 fie apuca\u0163i de pool\u0103, chiar dac\u0103 nu \u0163i-o vor spune niciodat\u0103 \u00een sesiuni de discu\u0163ii filozofice: Ce ne dorim de la femei.
\nIdeea e s\u0103-l apuci de pool\u0103 dup\u0103 ce te convingi c\u0103 te place mult \u015fi vede \u00een tine un partener demn de respect, nu \u00eenainte. <\/p>\n
“Dar, Lorena, nu cunosc pe niciunul care s\u0103 fie a\u0219a.” <\/p>\n
\u00cenva\u0163\u0103 s\u0103 fii confortabil\u0103 cu tine \u00eens\u0103\u0163i singur\u0103, p\u00e2n\u0103 apare unul care s\u0103 vrea s\u0103 fie a\u0219a cu tine. \u0102ia care nu vor s\u0103-\u015fi caute menajere moca \u00een alt\u0103 parte. <\/p>\n
Sper c\u0103 \u0163i-am fost util\u0103,
\nLorena. <\/p>\n
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