{"id":16084,"date":"2018-11-22T07:34:11","date_gmt":"2018-11-22T04:34:11","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=16084"},"modified":"2018-11-22T07:34:11","modified_gmt":"2018-11-22T04:34:11","slug":"prejudecati-despre-barbati","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/prejudecati-despre-barbati\/","title":{"rendered":"Prejudec\u0103\u0163i despre b\u0103rba\u0163i"},"content":{"rendered":"

De mic copil, mi s-a spus c\u0103 trebuie s\u0103 \u00eenv\u0103\u0163 aptitudini domestice, c\u0103 altfel “nu m\u0103 ia nimeni”. \u015ei tot de mic copil, m-am revoltat \u00eempotriva no\u0163iunii de “a fi luat\u0103” – de parc\u0103 eram un sac de cartofi sau ceva de genul. Prin urmare, am dat jet oricui \u00eencerca s\u0103-mi spun\u0103 cum trebuie s\u0103 fie sau ce trebuie s\u0103 fac\u0103 o femeie. Pentru c\u0103 nu m-am sim\u0163it niciodat\u0103 femeie. Nu \u00een sensul \u0103la.<\/p>\n

Acum, c\u0103 exist\u0103 o gr\u0103mad\u0103 de concepte intermediare \u00eentre cele dou\u0103 sexe, non-binary, genderfluid, gender-nonconforming, mi-e foarte simplu s\u0103 bifez peste tot c\u0103su\u0163a cu non-binary, genderfluid, gender-nonconforming. \u015ei am sc\u0103pat de tot setul de reguli idioate aferente genderului. Yay, victorie.<\/p>\n

Ce nu mi-am dat seama, copil fiind, este c\u0103, \u00een timp ce educa\u0163ia tradi\u0163ional\u0103 c\u0103uta s\u0103 extirpe orice urm\u0103 de ini\u0163iativ\u0103, de individualitate \u015fi de libertate din femei, ea avea un efect la fel de nociv asupra b\u0103ie\u0163eilor, dar \u00een sens opus. \u015ei ei primeau propriul lor set de reguli, la fel de idiot \u015fi f\u0103r\u0103 sens ca al nostru. \u015ei care \u00eei nefericea la fel de mult precum ne nefericea pe noi ideea de “femeie la crati\u0163\u0103”.<\/p>\n

Citeam ieri pe peretele unui blogger – culmea, un blogger – b\u0103rbat – c\u0103 tipii care \u00ee\u015fi vopsesc p\u0103rul sunt penibili. Asta m-a lovit cam la fel de profund, cum m-ar fi lovit dac\u0103 eram eu b\u0103rbatul c\u0103ruia i se spune s\u0103 nu se vopseasc\u0103.<\/p>\n

Cred c\u0103 orice om, b\u0103rbat sau femeie, are o nevoie interioar\u0103 de a se sim\u0163i frumos. De a se uita \u00een oglind\u0103 \u015fi de a spune: Azi m\u0103 plac.<\/p>\n

\u00cen secunda \u00een care tu te sim\u0163i frumos, \u00eei tratezi frumos \u015fi pe oamenii din jurul t\u0103u. Pentru c\u0103 te placi \u015fi asta te umple de iubire de semeni \u015fi de dorin\u0163\u0103 de a inocula pozitivitate \u00een al\u0163ii.<\/p>\n

S\u0103 dau un exemplu.<\/p>\n

Eu am p\u0103rul ini\u0163ial \u015faten sp\u0103l\u0103cit. Complet necarismatic. \u00cel vopsesc negru, \u015fi a\u015fa \u00eemi pune \u00een valoare culoarea ochilor. Acum, dac\u0103 eram b\u0103rbat, ar fi trebuit s\u0103 b\u00e2ntui cu \u015fatenul meu sp\u0103l\u0103cit, c\u0103 altfel m-ar fi etichetat unii penibil?<\/p>\n

Cunosc b\u0103rba\u0163i deosebit de frumo\u015fi, dar care au \u00eenc\u0103run\u0163it. \u015ei asta le adaug\u0103 optic zece ani. Cu nuan\u0163a corect\u0103 de p\u0103r, ar putea p\u0103rea mult mai tineri. Dar societatea asta retardat\u0103 trateaz\u0103 dorin\u0163a b\u0103rbatului de a fi frumos \u015fi dezirabil ca pe o abomina\u0163ie.<\/p>\n

De ce?<\/p>\n

De ce silim, prin arma oprobriului social, b\u0103rba\u0163ii s\u0103 se mul\u0163umeasc\u0103 cu deteriorarea fizic\u0103, \u00een loc s\u0103 se lupte cu ea? Apoi tot noi le d\u0103m papucii, c\u0103 nu mai sunt cum erau c\u00e2nd i-am cunoscut?<\/p>\n

Cochet\u0103ria nu e o tr\u0103s\u0103tur\u0103 feminin\u0103, ci una general uman\u0103. Nevoia de a fi dorit, de a fi pl\u0103cut, de a fi apreciat, idem.<\/p>\n

Citisem pe nu \u015ftiu care blog de idioate un rant foarte indignat la adresa b\u0103rba\u0163ilor care au grij\u0103 de ei. Ceva de genul: Nu v\u0103 mai pensa\u0163i, nu v\u0103 mai epila\u0163i, nu vrem s\u0103 ne sim\u0163im \u00een competi\u0163ie cu voi!”.<\/p>\n

P\u0103i cine te pune, f\u0103, s\u0103 te sim\u0163i \u00een competi\u0163ie? Dac\u0103 Gigel se penseaz\u0103, se epileaz\u0103, se vopse\u015fte verde \u00een cap \u015fi-\u015fi aplic\u0103 o dung\u0103 s\u0103n\u0103toas\u0103 de eyeliner, n-o face s\u0103 te concureze pe tine, ci s\u0103 se bucure pe sine. A\u015fa cum tu, dac\u0103 faci \u015fcoal\u0103, devii medic respectat, \u015fi c\u00e2\u015ftigi bani cu o meserie tradi\u0163ional masculin\u0103, n-o faci s\u0103-l concurezi pe Gigel, ci fiindc\u0103 asta \u00ee\u0163i dore\u015fti tu pentru tine.<\/p>\n

De ce trebuie s\u0103 neg\u0103m b\u0103rba\u0163ilor dreptul la frumuse\u0163e \u015fi-i facem s\u0103 se simt\u0103 vinova\u0163i pentru asta?<\/p>\n

E ca \u015fi cum ne-ar nega nou\u0103 cineva dreptul la sport, pentru c\u0103, nu-i a\u015fa, musculatura e specific masculin\u0103.<\/p>\n

Eu m\u0103 bucur dac\u0103 stau la coad\u0103 la cosmetic\u0103 cu doi – trei b\u0103rba\u0163i. M\u0103 bucur dac\u0103 intru la pedichiur\u0103, iar \u0103la care iese e un tip. M\u0103 bucur c\u00e2nd v\u0103d pe strad\u0103 un tip conturat cu negru pe la ochi. M\u0103 bucur c\u0103 sunt b\u0103rba\u0163i care dau jos blana de urs de pe ei. M\u0103 bucur dac\u0103 v\u0103d spr\u00e2ncene perfect pensate, sau un ten corect hidratat.<\/p>\n

Nu e ca \u015fi cum frumuse\u0163ea pe p\u0103m\u00e2nt e \u00een sum\u0103 fix\u0103, \u015fi dac\u0103 \u0103la are grij\u0103 de el, \u00eemi ia mie echivalentul de frumuse\u0163e cu care se alege el \u00een plus.<\/p>\n

L\u0103sa\u0163i b\u0103rba\u0163ii s\u0103 se vopseasc\u0103, s\u0103 mearg\u0103 la tratament facial, s\u0103-\u015fi fac\u0103 implant de p\u0103r sau injec\u0163ii cu botox, \u015fi nu-i mai spurca\u0163i aiurea. \u015ei ei au dreptul s\u0103 se plac\u0103.<\/p>\n

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